Can men and women truly be "just friends"?
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that you know of, i'm sure at least one of them has thoughts and feelings of getting with you sexually but never showed it...its a man's nature to conquer, to think anything else is highly unlikely
Anything and everything is possible, as long as the parties involved are not sexually attracted to each other.. the moment you start eying due to hormones elevated or You are just a horny DOG......HELL FREAKING NO..
It depends on the people involved. If both sides have self control it is easy for men and women to be friends even if they are attracted to each other.
I have to say yes it's very possible. I have had one friend in particular whose been my friend for so many years, he gives me advice and vice versa, when I am home visiting, he's the first one I go hang out with, and No HE'S NOT GAY AT ALL.... He's never tried to come on to me, and I've never tried to come on to him, he is a very handsome guy though, but it's nothing more than a great friendship...
I'm just saying. I saw your pics and......
LOL..naw he's not gay...he compliments me, and not in no homo way like 'girl you look good in that dress'...you'd have to know him to understand...
I mean when we were younger, we used to fight people together, prank call people.
He is sort of like my voice of reason when I am about to do something stupid, and vice versa...My Big Brother you could call it.
Naw, not like intimately. Like the typical greeting kiss on the cheek, or on the forehead (because I'm shorter), but nothing like giving me the tongue
...Besides he likes white girls....
Naw, not like intimately. Like the typical greeting kiss on the cheek, or on the forehead (because I'm shorter), but nothing like giving me the tongue
Besides he likes white girls....
OH! that explains it. He's got issues.....No disrespect.
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Feeling ya on this Dawg... A lot of my female friends have shared with me the sexual attraction or tension that is there and if things were different or like the past we would be getting busy. I live a pretty good life and if I had it my way (We all know I don’t) I would have sex with every lady I could… Friend or not… With or without the Mrs.
Yeah I always thought that was crazy too. I think Angela Bassett wrote a book about how she was trying to do her husband the same way (Courtney Vance) until she woke up and realized what a big asshole she was being, homie-boxing the best man she could marry and fucking with dudes that played her like a sucka.
This is why I have little sympathy sometimes when I hear women complain about not being able to find a good man.
At least Ms. Bassett woke up before she missed out on her happy ending.
IMO when a woman says she wants to be friends she either aint feeling u or is investigating other options first. U been put on the layaway plan.
When a woman starts confiding all her dirty little secrets to you pack your bags because the highway to the pussy has been shut down.
Women hate to lose a good friend that they can talk to without being judged and who will genuinely listen and try to help them. The only good thing about being a confidante is when u realise after listening why u would not want to be in a relationship with the gal.
Case in point started talking to a chick who seemed interested until she found out i was younger than her. Became a friend
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Man I know this one! LOL
One part of me gets annoyed at the hypocrisy. The other says a dude is better off not messing with a chick like that anyway. What I've learned is its either saying
"Im not feeling you like that long term, and I dont wanna fuck you just to fuck because I like you as a friend and fucking with ruin it..."
or
"I really like you and trust me, you're better off not fucking with a crazy bitch like me."
One chick I knew that was hot and freaky as hell, we messed around once but kept it friends. And when she started telling me her dirt, I was like "holy shit I'm glad Im not one of these dudes trying to wife you. You FOUL."
This is true. I have close female friends I inherited from my boy that they dated, and out of respect for the homie I never crossed the line long after they broke up. I mean, you get cool with your boy's girl, you sposed to be like "beat it bitch" if they don't work out?
No. here's why:
1. People become our friends because there is a mutual affinity for some particular attribute of that person. So if you have two eyes, ears and arms(not hideous) it's just a bonus.
2. Other than physical pleasure, sex servers as an emotional bond. he/she will want to share that (stronger) bond if they admire you enough.
3. Trust. Friends rely on each other for support in various areas. a consistent friend builds a high level of trust. Its easier to fuck someone you trust than someone you don't.
5. There is a strong innate attraction between men and women. This is a fact. When that person gets horny(which happens to everybody) the first person they're gonna think of is the person they trust the most.(see #3)
So in short a male/female friendship combines two people that already "like" each others personalities. There doesn't even need to be a physical attraction. I've had alot of female friends get so caught up thinking i'm a "good guy" they end up trusting and wanting to fuck me. Not date, just fuck. She has a rough spot, i'm emotionally available, she's gonna think about trying it. It goes both ways too, I've had female friends i've known from way back and when I get horny I've thought of hittin' em up no bullshit!
When I explained that to my girl and it pissed her off but i think it's the truth!
1. People become our friends because there is a mutual affinity for some particular attribute of that person. So if you have two eyes, ears and arms(not hideous) it's just a bonus.
2. Other than physical pleasure, sex servers as an emotional bond. he/she will want to share that (stronger) bond if they admire you enough.
3. Trust. Friends rely on each other for support in various areas. a consistent friend builds a high level of trust. Its easier to fuck someone you trust than someone you don't.
5. There is a strong innate attraction between men and women. This is a fact. When that person gets horny(which happens to everybody) the first person they're gonna think of is the person they trust the most.(see #3)
So in short a male/female friendship combines two people that already "like" each others personalities. There doesn't even need to be a physical attraction. I've had alot of female friends get so caught up thinking i'm a "good guy" they end up trusting and wanting to fuck me. Not date, just fuck. She has a rough spot, i'm emotionally available, she's gonna think about trying it. It goes both ways too, I've had female friends i've known from way back and when I get horny I've thought of hittin' em up no bullshit!
When I explained that to my girl and it pissed her off but i think it's the truth!
This is true. I have close female friends I inherited from my boy that they dated, and out of respect for the homie I never crossed the line long after they broke up. I mean, you get cool with your boy's girl, you sposed to be like "beat it bitch" if they don't work out?
Man... If I am friends with just my Dawg then yeah. But if I am friends with the two of them and they break up my friendship was not based on the couple but the person. I did not change and it is the same with my friendship. It gets stickey at times but everyone knows that I am that way.
No. here's why:
1. People become our friends because there is a mutual affinity for some particular attribute of that person. So if you have two eyes, ears and arms(not hideous) it's just a bonus.
2. Other than physical pleasure, sex servers as an emotional bond. he/she will want to share that (stronger) bond if they admire you enough.
3. Trust. Friends rely on each other for support in various areas. a consistent friend builds a high level of trust. Its easier to fuck someone you trust than someone you don't.
5. There is a strong innate attraction between men and women. This is a fact. When that person gets horny(which happens to everybody) the first person they're gonna think of is the person they trust the most.(see #3)
So in short a male/female friendship combines two people that already "like" each others personalities. There doesn't even need to be a physical attraction. I've had alot of female friends get so caught up thinking i'm a "good guy" they end up trusting and wanting to fuck me. Not date, just fuck. She has a rough spot, i'm emotionally available, she's gonna think about trying it. It goes both ways too, I've had female friends i've known from way back and when I get horny I've thought of hittin' em up no bullshit!
When I explained that to my girl and it pissed her off but i think it's the truth!
Dunno, I think fucking your homegirl can undermine trust, not reinforce it. Because a lot of emotional / psychological issues come out during sex, so once you open that door, you open up the power dynamics that come with it.
Homegirl: "Hey lets hang out!"
You: "Ehhh Im tired, I'll pass."
Normally, no big deal. If you're fuckin, that immediately changes the temperature of that interaction. It could, at least.
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