Can men and women truly be "just friends"?

Can men and women truly be "just friends"?

  • Yes, absolutely.

    Votes: 29 49.2%
  • No, you've got to be kidding me!

    Votes: 30 50.8%

  • Total voters
    59

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And I mean without the desire on either's part to want to sleep with the other?

I know it's possible on my end but I've never been quite sure if that feeling was mutual.
 
And I mean without the desire on either's part to want to sleep with the other?

I know it's possible on my end but I've never been quite sure if that feeling was mutual.

HeLL NO

But to be honest it could be possible with two honest respecting people.
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I dont think it can happen. Even if one never tells the other, the feelings are there whether they are acted upon or not.
 
although I do think it's possible, my boyfriend and I don't do it just because we want to spare the other person the hassle of trying to figure out if it's platonic or not.
 
Women can always say yes. I will continue to disagree.

I have had more than one instance of a "friend" winding up in my bed.

As long as the friendship doesn't suffer, then I say go for it. Adults doing adult things, IMO.
 
yes and no. yes cuz there are guys u know u ain even gonna give a chance too and they would stay in the frenz zone. They would have ta already know dat dem shouldn't even waste their time tryin to get at u. Let dem kno where dem stand

no, cuz might be a dude u are a bit interested in. It may be friendly and one point but it can flourish into some really deep feelings.

ITs up to u and the other person
 
Acquaintances....yes. Friends....no. The only exception is when after 2 people have already dated/married they find out they are better off in a platonic friendship
 
Acquaintances....yes. Friends....no. The only exception is when after 2 people have already dated/married they find out they are better off in a platonic friendship


So you're saying the curiosity factor will always lead to sex?
 
A guy will be attracted physically/sexually to the better portion of his female friends (or acquaintances). If she has other attributes that attracts you PLUS you find her to be physically attractive then yes, the potential for curiosity to lead to sex is always there. Of course she has to find you sexually attractive as well.. or at least enough to get intimate with you for it to come to fruition though.
 
only if they are not attracted to each other. i have slept with almost every female friend i have ever had. i only have 2 female friends that i have not been with , but i have been intimate (kissing) with both of them so it is only a matter of time. so unless there is no attraction at all , i say no , they cant just be friends.
 
So you're saying the curiosity factor will always lead to sex?

Most of the time it doesn't lead to anything. It takes 2 to tango, but if one of the 2 isn't interested in something more nothing comes about it, and the friendship fades. Whether you know the other person is physically attracted to you or if they keep it to themselves there will always be those feelings of attraction that will always interfere with a friendship.

I've had quite a few experiences from this, and I have the perfect one to tell, but it will get CP'd (Colin Powell'd), and i'm not good at compacting my words.
 
If the guy doesn't find the female physically attractive in any way, then yes. But on the real I say no.
 
And I mean without the desire on either's part to want to sleep with the other?

I know it's possible on my end but I've never been quite sure if that feeling was mutual.

My best friend (besides my woman) is a woman. We have always been friends. We both were attracted to each other, but we never took it past kickin it.

I know I had opportunities, but I had a few "friends" on the side, and I didn't want to involve this special woman in my whoring, debauchery filled ways at the time.

I'm glad I didn't.

She is always there for me if I need anything.
 
It is definitely possible, but on the man side of things there is careful planning and willpower involved. The easiest way to pick female friends is to find those who have that one tragic flaw that constantly reminds you of why they're still single. One of my friends is an overly religious virgin (verified by her girl friends), and the other is a man eater. They are both good looking women...the man eater is particularly stunning, but the things that come out of her mouth are raw. In other words she doesn't need to physically harm you, she'll make you feel emotionally guilty and intellectually dim; an elitist is a good word for her. The religious one is saving it for marriage, but is jaded as far as men go; an interesting paradox. She gets a lot of attention because she has a large booty and vitually no waist; the kind of girl who has to get her jeans tailored.

Initially I was attracted to them, but after you hear them talk awhile, that attraction eventually fades and you turn off the charm. But the interesting thing is I have better conversations with them than with most women. I've never slept with either of them and I never will.
 
Anything's possible, and I don't wanna speak for anyone else. BUT, in my 40 some years, I've only had a few female friends. I've had TONS of acquaintences, but if there was any attraction on either of our part, we usually ended up in bed. The ones I didn't want as a GF, but wanted me, I threw in the friend zone. If they looked decent, I hit. The ones I wanted, but they didn't want me...and they tried to put me in the friend zone...I bounced. If you're feelin a woman, NOTHING is worse than being...just a friend...IMO.
 
It is definitely possible, but on the man side of things there is careful planning and willpower involved. The easiest way to pick female friends is to find those who have that one tragic flaw that constantly reminds you of why they're still single. One of my friends is an overly religious virgin (verified by her girl friends), and the other is a man eater. They are both good looking women...the man eater is particularly stunning, but the things that come out of her mouth are raw. In other words she doesn't need to physically harm you, she'll make you feel emotionally guilty and intellectually dim; an elitist is a good word for her. The religious one is saving it for marriage, but is jaded as far as men go; an interesting paradox. She gets a lot of attention because she has a large booty and vitually no waist; the kind of girl who has to get her jeans tailored.

Initially I was attracted to them, but after you hear them talk awhile, that attraction eventually fades and you turn off the charm. But the interesting thing is I have better conversations with them than with most women. I've never slept with either of them and I never will.

This is the answer I most agree with. As a man, I make a conscientious decision that I can get more real perspective, honesty, emotional support and longevity out of female friends I'm not trying to fuck. As soon as the sexual / romantic dynamic comes in, it changes the temperature and approach for both sides. If I value the long-term play-sis potential over the curiosity / quick nut, I just don't let myself be in that position.

Plus when I am gracious and generous and a gentleman to a female Im not trying to fuck, they really respect me for it. I'm not doing it to get anything out of them but returned friendship. That's a good feeling to me.

In short, the same reasons you don't usually shit where you eat, you don't fuck what you befriend platonically. A question of priorities and foresight IMO.
 
My answer was yes until I read the word “want”... Shit... I am a freak! I want sex, fucking, love making or whatever all of the time and women will always play a role! So the way you phrase this question I will have to answer no. I love women… I love what we do and can do to, with and for each other… What is there not to love…
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The poll is surprisingly close. I take it most women voted yes and most men voted no...is there anyway to make it public?
 
I don't believe that it could be possible (at least with me). I had to break it off with a chick that tried to place me in the friend folder. She wouldn't accept it and literally kept trying to force me to be her platonic friend. I wanted more and I wasn't going to sit idly by while she was dating other cats. She thought that we were too good as friends and she didn't want to mess it up. She was distraught when she realized that I was so friendly because I wanted to fuck...
 
She thought that we were too good as friends and she didn't want to mess it up.

This is what I never understood about this topic. If two people are the best of friends, wouldn't you try to further that relationship?

It seems as though women live in a constant state of denial when it comes to this.
 
This is what I never understood about this topic. If two people are the best of friends, wouldn't you try to further that relationship?

It seems as though women live in a constant state of denial when it comes to this.


That's how I felt. I have always stated that I wanted to be best friends with the woman I married. Ladies, help me figure this out...
 
Let's be real: I hooked up with my special female friend I've known for years....

When she was sucking my dick the first time, I could not believe my homegurl was slobbin the knob. I had an out of body experience like I was watching a movie, watching from above....

that shit was disturbing to me the first few times despite how good it felt...
 
IMO when a woman says she wants to be friends she either aint feeling u or is investigating other options first. U been put on the layaway plan.

When a woman starts confiding all her dirty little secrets to you pack your bags because the highway to the pussy has been shut down.:rolleyes:

Women hate to lose a good friend that they can talk to without being judged and who will genuinely listen and try to help them. The only good thing about being a confidante is when u realise after listening why u would not want to be in a relationship with the gal.

Case in point started talking to a chick who seemed interested until she found out i was younger than her. Became a friend :hmm: and found out standard waiting time for sex with her is 3 months while her fuck buddy tears a hole in her stomach, until she feels u respect her enough for making u wait.:smh::hmm:

I can not sleep with a woman i do not have feelings for but i am honest enough to not develop a relationship with a woman whose behavior, appearance or mannerisms turn me off. I do not mind occasional calls and hanging out but i cut my time short with a woman i do not want or see a future with.
 
IMO when a woman says she wants to be friends she either aint feeling u or is investigating other options first. U been put on the layaway plan.

When a woman starts confiding all her dirty little secrets to you pack your bags because the highway to the pussy has been shut down.:rolleyes:

Not always true. I know I have been interested in some of my male friends, but if I didn't think the feeling was mutual then I would still talk about all the same stuff. It's not that I wouldn't be open to a romantic relationship, it's that I don't know if he is interested
 
There will always be exceptions to the rule because you can never place so many individuals into any one category.

But i can only speak from experience.:dunno:
 
I voted yes...but

Some of you ppl seems like you have no control around the opposite sex.:smh:
 
My best male friend (brother) and I have been tight since we were 15 (we are both in our mid 30s now). We met because I was going with his best friend. We never crossed those boundaries because...well because we were truly just friends. I have no idea if he ever wanted me like that, but I do know I never wanted him like that. He's my son's godfather and hell, we were even roommates for 3 years. I've always had a close circle of male friends that have always been strictly platonic and we've all been tight since high school.
 
And I mean without the desire on either's part to want to sleep with the other?

I know it's possible on my end but I've never been quite sure if that feeling was mutual.

Only if YOU didn’t want anything from him. Could you just be friends with that football guy you are always talking about or that porn guy that you said you wouldn’t be his type? And good response HoneyBerry, you sounded sincere.
 
Men and women can be friends if they are mindful enough to not cross those boundaries emotionally and physically because I have had women try to make me a surrogate boyfriend over the years.
 
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