BGOL'S Gems on Dealing with Women and Relationships Thread

Borrowed:

"If a female starts off by telling you what you're not gonna do (hit it, game her, etc.) CHARGE HER TO THE GAME. She has to repeatedly tell herself stuff like that so that she believes it. A real woman displays it in her demeanor and actions, not her words. A real woman commands respect. Insecure women gotta keep talking about it. No need to waste your time dealing with a woman going thru an identity crisis."
 
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"He who loves least controls the relationship. If you want to control the relationship, don't fall in love with her so quickly! Don't toss the ball in their court, control the ball at all times. And you've got to be relentless -- you can't afford to be lazy"


"I see all these dumb guys arguing with their women. I don't argue with them. She can do whatever she wants and so can I. You see, if you argue with them then you're a pussy. It's my way or the highway. When you argue, you are telling her that you need her to act in a certain way or see something from your point of view in order for you to be happy. If you love someone set them free."


"I don't fight over pussy with other men. If you need her that bad, you can have her. And the fact that you are so desperate for her means that she will eventually get rid of you anyway. If you catch your girlfriend in bed with another guy, why should you be pissed at him? She probably lied to him anyway. But our male egos, which are nothing more than a distorted illusion that we carry around in our heads, makes us angry and makes us want to beat up the guy. If you ever catch your girlfriend or wife in bed with another guy, do yourself a favor and keep your cool. Have the confidence to say, "I hope you two will be happy together" and just walk away. Go to the next girl. While you guys are busy beating each other up, I'll be fucking them."

"Men who are not needy establish strict boundaries because they value their own time and happiness more than receiving the attention from a woman."

"The percentage of women who are Receptive to you will increase proportionally to the quality of your lifestyle, your social status and your looks."

"anybody who’s actually struggling, lemme give you the game from someone who went from 0 to 100 with it. JUST STOP CARING. dont care about the results or how a joke went wrong or how bad you choked. when i told myself ” i gotta bag 5 numbers 2nite no matter what or how bad she looks”, progress was automatic. built the confidence up from the scrub chicks to approaching packs of bad bixxhs in a group and then picking who i wanted. its all a sales pitch like dude said above and when u can pitch it to anyone without hesitation, youre good. if they reject, just get the fck outta there. no need for these creative lines. “oh ok. well nice meeting you.” and then ghost. keep it pimpin"

“Tell the beautiful girls they’re smart and tell the smart girls that they’re beautiful.
 
"1) Maintain self control and stop chasing these women. GET SOME BUSINESS about yourself.

That means you need to make women a 3rd or 4th priority in your life. The real key is learning how to shine on women properly and make them come to YOU. Cats over here jumping through flaming hoops and still don't get respect from his 'girl', but his girl goes to a Drake concert and she's ready to rush backstage and is willing to do anything you feel me? As a man you should handle your business anyways, but the more together you have your life together, the more women you will naturally attract. When you got business and you just have activities in your life that you enjoy that doesn't involve women, you will naturally be busy, so you don't have to play them lame phone games to appear you are busy. Then you fit her into YOUR schedule, not the other way around.

2) Don't be soft with a woman and don't tell her your secrets. ALWAYS maintain your respect.

Some of ya'll think you're 'building' with your woman sharing all kinds of information with her, but she'll use that against you when she breaks bad on you. Keeping your mouth shut about as much as your personal business will keep you in a much better position as well as having the side benefit of making you seem more 'mysterious.'

A soft dude will get tore up. Don't be out here crying over these women and do not be that sucker that they show in all theseromantic movies, looking into her eyes all glistening, putting your finger on her lip talking about, "Baby me and you together... forever." If she comes in your atmosphere with some nonsense, STEP UP as a man and make sure you check it. Don't try to be no ol' friendly dude just tolerating her nonsense. If she asks can she go to this party with her male coworker and she's supposed to be in a relationship with you, tell her butt if she brings up something like that again, there won't be no me and you... and that you're halfway thinking about letting her go now.

3) NEVER let a woman hold her vagina over your head.

Stop worrying about whether if you do this or that that she's going to give it to another man. A woman will or won't give it to a man almost regardless of what you do. A lot of these cats out here being the 'perfectboyfriend,' paying for her classes, being there when she needs, etc., get cheated on. That's why you got to prepare yourselfmentally. If your woman decides to mess with another dude, don't blame yourself as long as you kept it respectable, moral and truthful. Just let her go and keep it pushing. If you try to do what appeals to her, you will end up more confused than her. A woman will ALWAYS blame you and have someexcuse when she's ready to mess with the next dude. It might be 'you're too clingy. You're paying me too much attention." or it could be, "You weren't paying me enough attention." As you can see, women got multiple ways to blame you for her actions. You, on the other hand, should not try to reason with a woman. Kick a disloyal one to the curb and keep it pushing. Also realize, you NEVER own a woman's vagina, so don't think you know what she's doing with itwhen you're not around.

What you need to worry about doing is staying down to your rules and principles. If she busts bad or tells you she's going to mess with this or that cat, tell her to get lost. There is NO reason to stress over what a woman is doing with her body. You are wasting precious thought and your own ability to enjoy life.

4) As a man, relationships are to be rewarded, not sought.
As a man, you should reward a great female with a relationship once you have assessed her characteristics are worthy of long-term potential. This should be a rigorous analysis of her personal character and how she interacts with you. As a man, NEVER be the one that just seeks out relationships. You will appear thirsty and you will accept less than what you're worth...

5) Be a man of value

Do not accept less than what you're worth. Do not accept a female into your life if she isn't a net positive. If she's bringing a whole bunch of drama or nonsense into your life, tell her to step it up and get her situation right or keep it pushing. She ha to bring value to the table to mess with you.

6) Stop caring what a woman thinks

Obviously, this is one of the most important one. Stop wondering if she likes your clothes or how you talk or a host of other nonsense. Do YOU and never think about how she will react to it. Think more about how close you are staying to your principles. If she wants to mess with you, she will find a way to be in your vicinity. If she doesn't let her go. These females really ain't that important that you need to rearrange your whole personality and just focus on making yourself into a man that caters to what a woman likes.

7) Get in where you fit in

You won't ever have EVERY woman liking you, just like you can have a chef that makes the best steak in the world, but you got people out there that won't touch it because they are vegetarian. So focus on the women that like you for being you and stop trying to switch things up and get at that woman that you have to go out of character to obtain, because sooner or later she WILL see your tips and tactics and you've just wasted a whole bunch of time. Go for the women that you can be natural around and she's infatuated with your natural state."
 
If your woman sounds more like your favorite rapper than a self respecting woman, then chances are your life is going to be shit...
In terms of looks, its best to see where she is going not where she is at because a woman body can change so much with in five years once in a relationship five years go by so fast... So that thick one burger away chick can easily turn into that fat chick you hate, especially if your on the no pull out team..
Also the Coolidge effect is real as fuck especially if your a pussy lover.. No advice on that one other than do what works for you...
 
"If you invite a chick over at night

Remove any "chairs" from the bedroom and only keep one pillow on the bed

90% success rate...they never peep the scene, to her it'll seem like "one thing led to another and it just happened"
 
Never acknowledge a woman's looks when approaching her. Wait until your first date and she comes out in something sexy. Say "you look nice", that's it.

Make as little reference to a woman's appearance as possible until she gives you the panties.
I used to go by this. It depends on the chick I guess, but it's kinda ignoring the fact that chicks love attention.
 
Now, the most important thing about a man is your mindset. As Jesus says, a man is what he thinks. The questions you ask yourself in your mind and the statements that you accept mentally will determine your outlook on life and will vastly affect your life's outcome. Now check this... A lot of men's first thought in life is, "What can I do to get more women? What can I do to impress this certain woman? Where do I need to take this woman to eat? How do I talk to her?" Those are the WRONG questions to ask. Stop worrying about 'what the woman wants.' That's just an utterly nonsensical question to ask in the first place. For one, there are billions of women on this earth and none of them are exactly the same, so none of them like the same things. There are women that have a whole variety of tastes and preferences. Second, you as a man are supposed to be a leader. Your concern shouldn't be what do women want. It should be what do YOU want? But let's answer that question. Do you know what heterosexual women really want? They want a MAN.

The real questions you, as a man, need to ask are, "What am I trying to get out of life? How do I solidify my financial and general living status? What restaurants do I like to go to? What movies do I like? What are my favorite social venues? What are my principles? What are my morals? What kind of woman do I want in my life? What kind of woman will I not accept?"

If you go to the mall and pick up a shirt and the first thing out your mind is,"Will the hunnies like this?" you are doing it all wrong. You pick up a shirt and decide whether or not it looks fly to YOU. If YOU dig it, cop it and put it on. That is LEADING. You are the one in the front making decisions. Leadership simply comes down to making a choice. Will you be the one in the front to make decisions about your life or will you let someone else?

Develop your own personal style. Decide what restaurants YOU like. Your concern should not be whether or not some woman likes it or not. Find YOU. When you really start finding you and settling in, you will start developing CONFIDENCE. Why? Because you will then know exactly what you want and what you like and you will be able to pursue it much more effectively. Confidence is an emotional feeling based upon certainty of success. What can you really be more confident about than yourself since that's the one person you can really know? You will also have to make the choice to mentally value yourself. A lot of guys say, "Well if I take this girl to this place, she might not like it." That is placing HER preferences above yours. Wrong move. As a man, you can't read a woman's mind and women themselves usually don't know what they want, so how can you be confident if your whole mentality revolves around attempting to predict what a woman wants? That's the blind leading the blind. You simply have to CHOOSE to put your own worth way ahead of some woman's preferences.

Now, the more you've figured yourself out, you simply will find a lot of the problems you had with women will evaporate, because you now know what kind of woman to retain and what kind of woman to keep far away from you. You won't have to ask what to say or where to take her. You will take her where you want to go, or on occasion, you ask for her suggestion. If she doesn't like or appreciate it, cut her off and keep it pushing. Why in the world would you accept someone who is unappreciative and doesn't have anything in common with you? The question you ask yourself in your mind while interacting with her wouldn't be, "Is what I'm doing impressing her?" You would simply choose a venue you felt like going to, and if she really liked you, she would follow you.

THAT'S the key. Putting yourself out naturally is the key and choosing to deal with the women you naturally like you for you and who embody your list of qualifications is the key. Learning to cut off unappreciate, drama-filled women and deciding not to change your approach or who you really are is of utmost importance. If some particular woman doesn't like your routine, find one that does. Don't simpathize with her and try to read her mind and figure where to take her. A woman either likes you or she doesn't. If you want longevity out of a woman you simply have to be yourself and find one that likes you for who you are... because the longer you deal with a woman, the more she will find out about the REAL you. The better quality of a man you become, naturally, the better quality of women you will attract... Thus the key question becomes, "In what aspects can I improve myself as a man?", and not "What can I do to impress this particular woman?"
 
I used to go by this. It depends on the chick I guess, but it's kinda ignoring the fact that chicks love attention.

Nawl. That shit works. It'll fuck with her vanity (she'll question herself "what's wrong with me???") and eventually she'll need a way to validate herself which could be in da form of "physical" activities thus, playing into you're hand w/o you havin' to do no work. Don't worry if that bitch is gonna seek that validation or attention from others. There's no way to combat that. But as she's doing so, she'll have you in mind, da one she really wants that from.
 
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