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Aww DAMN! Jesse Williams & Wife Divorcing After 5 Years UPDATE: Leaving Grey's Anatomy after 12 seasons!

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Jesse Williams Is Battling His Ex Wife For Joint Physical Custody Of Their Children
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Tension between the exes is mounting.


Jesse Williams and Wife Are Divorcing
On this segment of ESSENCE Live we discuss the shocking news of Jesse Williams and Aryn Drake-Lee's divorce.


Jesse Williams may be getting divorced, but he isn't letting go of quality time with his kids.



The Grey's Anatomy star is fighting for joint physical custody of his children with soon to be ex-wife Aryn Drake-Lee, according to E! News.


The actor filed for divorce in April and since then they have been involved in an ongoing custody battle over physical custody of their two children, Sadie and Maceo.

Court documents from Williams state that Drake-Lee has been limiting his time with their 3-year-old daughter and 2-year-old son.


"Aryn restricts my time with the children and decides when, and for how long I may have them," documents claim. "She has rejected, without any reason, each and every request I have made to have the children sleepover at my residence. On the few days that I have the children, Aryn has insisted that my time with the children be limited during the week to approximately two and half hours per day, despite my requests for more time, including overnights with the children."


The 35-year-old and Drake-Lee, with whom he co-founded the Ebroji app, wed in 2012 after five years of dating.


Williams has asked that the court grant a joint physical custody parenting plan.



While neither Williams or Drake-Lee have spoken out about their divorce or rumors of infidelity, a statement from Drake-Lee's lawyer says she's disheartened that her ex would draw attention to the dissolving of their marriage for the sake of their children.


"Protecting the privacy and well-being of their children is of paramount importance to Aryn Drake-Lee Williams. It is unfortunate that Mr. Williams has chosen to draw public attention to this difficult time and transition for their family. Aryn is solely interested in the best interests of their children, supporting a healthy relationship with both parents, and protecting the children's privacy. Therefore, she will not comment any further on Mr. Williams' unilateral and unfortunate public allegations."
 
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http://www.essence.com/celebrity/black-celeb-couples/jesse-williams-joint-physical-custody

Jesse Williams Is Battling His Ex Wife For Joint Physical Custody Of Their Children
GettyImages-137307292.jpg


Tension between the exes is mounting.


Jesse Williams and Wife Are Divorcing
On this segment of ESSENCE Live we discuss the shocking news of Jesse Williams and Aryn Drake-Lee's divorce.


Jesse Williams may be getting divorced, but he isn't letting go of quality time with his kids.



The Grey's Anatomy star is fighting for joint physical custody of his children with soon to be ex-wife Aryn Drake-Lee, according to E! News.


The actor filed for divorce in April and since then they have been involved in an ongoing custody battle over physical custody of their two children, Sadie and Maceo.

Court documents from Williams state that Drake-Lee has been limiting his time with their 3-year-old daughter and 2-year-old son.


"Aryn restricts my time with the children and decides when, and for how long I may have them," documents claim. "She has rejected, without any reason, each and every request I have made to have the children sleepover at my residence. On the few days that I have the children, Aryn has insisted that my time with the children be limited during the week to approximately two and half hours per day, despite my requests for more time, including overnights with the children."


The 35-year-old and Drake-Lee, with whom he co-founded the Ebroji app, wed in 2012 after five years of dating.


Williams has asked that the court grant a joint physical custody parenting plan.



While neither Williams or Drake-Lee have spoken out about their divorce or rumors of infidelity, a statement from Drake-Lee's lawyer says she's disheartened that her ex would draw attention to the dissolving of their marriage for the sake of their children.


"Protecting the privacy and well-being of their children is of paramount importance to Aryn Drake-Lee Williams. It is unfortunate that Mr. Williams has chosen to draw public attention to this difficult time and transition for their family. Aryn is solely interested in the best interests of their children, supporting a healthy relationship with both parents, and protecting the children's privacy. Therefore, she will not comment any further on Mr. Williams' unilateral and unfortunate public allegations."
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why women always do that fuck shit...

kids aint got shit to do with it...

if dude a good dad let that man c his dam kids for as long as he wants...smh


might b a money rub when she ask for child support ....


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a man is supposed to have equal rights to his kids.

if dude is stepping out with a bunch of white women, hmmm he is going to fuck up a whole lot of good will. his dick, fuck who you want, but man this outspoken Pro Black man, dating/marrying non Black women is some kind of ill situation.
 
durham said:
a man is supposed to have equal rights to his kids.

if dude is stepping out with a bunch of white women, hmmm he is going to fuck up a whole lot of good will. his dick, fuck who you want, but man this outspoken Pro Black man, dating/marrying non Black women is some kind of ill situation.
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damn...you aint tell ONE lie
 
durham said:
a man is supposed to have equal rights to his kids.

if dude is stepping out with a bunch of white women, hmmm he is going to fuck up a whole lot of good will. his dick, fuck who you want, but man this outspoken Pro Black man, dating/marrying non Black women is some kind of ill situation.
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That's still ain't got shit to do with custody of his kids. If she just being a salty bitch and in her feelings fuck this broad. What's her reason for limiting access if the man has the time to spend? Anything about who he's fucking now or why the broke up has absolutely nothing to do with him getting job by custody unless she has actually proof of abuse or something in detriment to the kids.
 
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Jesse Williams, Minka Kelly Have Been Dating for Months






Finally going public! Jesse Williams and Minka Kelly are dating, Us Weekly can exclusively reveal.

Us first broke the news in May that the Grey's Anatomy actor, 35, and Kelly, 37, were an item. "It's been a few months," an insider told Us in the May 15 issue. "They're legit."

Love Story Beginnings: How Celeb Couples First Met
Williams and the Friday Night Lights alum shot a video game in Paris together that same month, but have kept their relationship relatively quiet. That is, until they stepped out to catch a movie in West Hollywood on Monday, July 10.

During the date night, Williams wore a black hoodie in baseball cap. Kelly, also wearing a hat, kept cozy in a jacket and a gray top.

Hollywood's Ugliest Divorces
As previously reported, Williams is currently going through a public custody battle with his estranged wife, Aryn Drake-Lee. The exes, who are parents of daughter, Sadie, 3, and son Maceo, 21 months, filed for divorce in April after nearly five years of marriage.

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Without mentioning Drake-Lee's name, Williams addressed his divorce and cheating rumors in Jay-Z's "Footnotes" video for his track "4:44," which was released on Monday. “I was in a relationship 13 years, 13 real years, not five years, not seven years, 13 years,” he says in the video, "and all of a sudden motherf--kers are writing think-pieces that I somehow threw a 13-year relationship — like the most painful experience I’ve had in my life, like with a person I’ve loved with all of my heart — that I threw a person and my family in the trash because a girl I work with is cute."

Before Williams, Kelly dated Derek Jeter, Wilmer Valderrama andJosh Radnor. Us exclusively confirmed in March that she and the How I Met Your Mother actor called it quits after a brief romance.

http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity...nka-kelly-have-been-dating-for-months-w491799
 
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Jesse Williams Addresses Divorce, Cheating Rumors on Jay-Z’s ‘4:44’ Footnotes Video

Jesse Williams seemingly addressed his divorce and cheating rumors while appearing in Jay-Z’s “Footnotes” video for his track “4:44,” which dropped on Tidal on Monday, July 10.

Celebrity Splits of 2017
The Grey’s Anatomy star, 35, joined the 47-year-old rap mogul and several other stars to discuss relationships. Without mentioning his ex by name, Williams spoke out about his longterm relationship with Aryn Drake-Lee.

“I was in a relationship 13 years, 13 real years, not five years, not seven years, 13 years,” he says in the video,"and all of a sudden motherf--kers are writing think-pieces that I somehow threw a 13-year relationship — like the most painful experience I’ve had in my life, like with a person I’ve loved with all of my heart — that I threw a person and my family in the trash because a girl I work with is cute.”

Hollywood's Ugliest Divorces
Williams filed for divorce in April after four and a half years of marriage. Since then, the actor has been going through a public custody battlewith Drake-Lee for the former couple’s daughter, Sadie, 3, and son Maceo, who was born in October 2015. In June, Williams and his attorneys claimed in court documents that the real estate agent was declining his requests to spend more time with the children.

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"Aryn restricts my time with the children and decides when, and for how long I may have them,” Williams claimed in the documents obtained by Us Weekly. "She has rejected, without any reason, each and every request I have made to have the children sleepover at my residence. On the few days that I have the children, Aryn has insisted that my time with the children be limited during the week to approximately two-and-a-half hours per day, despite my requests for more time, including overnights with the children.”

Drake-Lee’s lawyer Jill Hersh responded in a statement to Us. "Protecting the privacy and well-being of their children is of paramount importance to Aryn Drake-Lee Williams," Hersh told Us. "It is unfortunate that Mr. Williams has chosen to draw public attention to this difficult time and transition for their family."
 
Jesse Williams, Jay-Z, Umar Johnson and the Allure of White Women

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“There’s dishes in the back, he gotta roll up his sleeves
But while y’all washin’—watch him
He gon’ make it to a Benz out of that Datsun
He got that ambition, baby, look in his eyes
This week he moppin’ floors, next week he’s on fries
So stick by his side
I know there’s dudes ballin’, and yeah, that’s nice
And they gonna keep callin’ and tryin’, but you stay right, girl
And when you get on, he’ll leave yo’ ass for a white girl”
—Kanye West, “Gold Digger”

There is always truth in humor. The reason Kanye West’s line is so memorable is that we’ve all seen it happen. The idea that white women have always been a graduation present or lifetime achievement award for black men has become an accepted trope among black people. We quietly talk about it among ourselves, in barbershops and at cookouts.



The thought that rich, successful and famous black men eventually trade in black women for white women is such an acknowledged fact that we don’t even bother pointing out that the guy who wrote and rapped it left our ass for a white girl.

At no time has that idea been more in focus than this week. The entire Umar Johnson controversy started over comments he made on The Breakfast Club about interracial dating. Johnson basically condemned black men who choose to date white women. While his comments were cringeworthy to most progressive, logical-thinking people, his explanation was almost like hearing someone describe a bout of explosive diarrhea—you don’t want to listen, but you can’t publicly deny that you’ve felt the same way.








That’s also how many of us caught feelings listening to Jay-Z on 4:44 explain his regret over his affair with the infamous “Becky with the good hair.” I always believed that Jigga suffered more from the widespread notion that it was a nonblack woman with whom he cheated. I mean, if you can cheat on Beyoncé, with a white woman, is any black woman safe?


Hov also released a video, “Footnotes for 4:44,”with a number of men explaining their relationship woes. Jesse Williams, the last of the light-skinned heartthrobs, appeared in the video and addressed his divorce and the pain he went through.



The feeling was echoed later in the week when news broke that Williams was dating Minka Kelly (see, I didn’t call her “a white woman,” even though many of you know I suffer from a yet-to-be-named syndrome that renders me unable to tell white women apart). The intelligent part of your brain that makes kale smoothies and reads think pieces said, “I don’t care who celebrities date. That’s their business.” But the reptilian part of your brain that likes Real Housewives and occasionally will buy chicken from a gas station said, “Damn! Not Jesse ‘Woke Bae’ Williams!”


I don’t know who Kelly is, but I assumed she was white (I didn’t even Google her picture) because:

  1. Her name; I’ve never met a black Minka. (I know a “Meka” and a “Mika,” whom I am careful not to get confused because—for some reason—if you refer to someone named Tomika as “Tameka,” you might as well just go full out and call them the b-word, because they are very sensitive about their shit.)
  2. Jesse Williams is rich and successful. And as much as we want to deny the truth in it, when he gets on ...
This is not an indictment of Williams or of white women. Williams is free to choose whomever he wants to love, and he should. And it’s not as if there’s a ceremony that graduates black men to the white-woman dating pool and gives them a secret white-girl discount to use on Tinder. It’s just a reflection of the society we live in.


There was a beautiful piece of writing a few days ago that examined the new movie The Big Sick. In the movie, a Pakistani man chronicles his love affair with his white girlfriend. Aditi Natasha Kini wrote a beautiful piece about watching men always choose the white woman. However, I don’t know if a black woman could write this without being castigated.



And that’s where the unlikely trio of Umar Johnson, Jesse Williams and white women all meet. Politeness and rules of inclusiveness won’t let us say it out loud. Our kale minds don’t want to accept it, but our gas-station-chicken-eating brains know that there is a universally intrinsic value to white women, and it is not just an American thing. It is beat into the head of every single human being on earth from the moment we are born, and black men—like all others—have bought into it. White women are the global standard of beauty. Everything about them, from the way they wear their hair to the color of their lips, is imitated and monetized by every civilization on the planet.


The brainwashing is so pervasive that it has managed to bypass our instinct and nature. Most societies want to perpetuate their culture by having the men marry within it. Ask a Korean mom, a Jewish family or an Indian father, and they will most likely tell you that they hope their children marry someone of their faith, ethnicity or nationality. There are even studies that show men marry women who remind them of their mothers.

But white women are the exception.

As a man, I know it. I feel it. I see it. But there is nothing on earth more attractive to me than a black woman. It might be racist of me to say that everything else pales in comparison, but I am often called a racist, so—everything else pales in comparison.


I know it’s uncouth to express these thoughts out loud, but I—and I bet many black women—wonder how someone can switch so easily. From afar it looks like kicking your mother to the curb. To the black people “left behind,” it feels like the person who switched sides chose to stiff-arm their culture and their people. My experience as a human on this planet is colored by the lens of living as a black man. I can’t fathom choosing to spend my life with someone who will never be able to understand that.

But then again, I’m not “on,” yet.

If we’re being honest, we’ll agree that black women are the ones on whose shoulders Williams’ platform of #BlackGirlMagic speeches and BET awards was built. They didn’t make him famous, but the core support that made Williams a star was from black women who thought he was cute, outspoken and smart—as if Steph Curry joined the Black Panthers.


Williams’ new girlfriend in no way means that he has lessened his commitment to the causes and issues he championed. And yes, Williams can and should date whomever he wants. As a rule, everyone on the planet should love whomever they choose to love. We should not let cultural norms fence in our relationships. But we aren’t required to suppress our disappointment.

I imagine that it feels a little bit shitty to navigate the trials of life with someone and have to stand there and watch that person leave—regardless of whom he or she leaves with. But living in a country that seemingly wakes up every day with the express purpose of making sure you know that, simply because of the color of your skin, you will always be in second place—and then having to watch the men who were supposed to protect and accompany you walk away, hand in hand, with facsimiles of your oppressor—must be pretty tough.

We don’t have to hide those feelings, even if they seem illogical. Emotions are not meant to have logic. We can say it out loud, and we don’t have to give a damn what people think about the sentiment, because it is natural.


Plus, anyone who cares is probably gonna leave your ass for a white girl.

http://www.theroot.com/jesse-jay-z-umar-and-the-allure-of-white-women-1796924566
 
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Jesse Williams, Jay-Z, Umar Johnson and the Allure of White Women

Michael Harriot
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“There’s dishes in the back, he gotta roll up his sleeves
But while y’all washin’—watch him
He gon’ make it to a Benz out of that Datsun
He got that ambition, baby, look in his eyes
This week he moppin’ floors, next week he’s on fries
So stick by his side
I know there’s dudes ballin’, and yeah, that’s nice
And they gonna keep callin’ and tryin’, but you stay right, girl
And when you get on, he’ll leave yo’ ass for a white girl”
—Kanye West, “Gold Digger”

There is always truth in humor. The reason Kanye West’s line is so memorable is that we’ve all seen it happen. The idea that white women have always been a graduation present or lifetime achievement award for black men has become an accepted trope among black people. We quietly talk about it among ourselves, in barbershops and at cookouts.



The thought that rich, successful and famous black men eventually trade in black women for white women is such an acknowledged fact that we don’t even bother pointing out that the guy who wrote and rapped it left our ass for a white girl.

At no time has that idea been more in focus than this week. The entire Umar Johnson controversy started over comments he made on The Breakfast Club about interracial dating. Johnson basically condemned black men who choose to date white women. While his comments were cringeworthy to most progressive, logical-thinking people, his explanation was almost like hearing someone describe a bout of explosive diarrhea—you don’t want to listen, but you can’t publicly deny that you’ve felt the same way.








That’s also how many of us caught feelings listening to Jay-Z on 4:44 explain his regret over his affair with the infamous “Becky with the good hair.” I always believed that Jigga suffered more from the widespread notion that it was a nonblack woman with whom he cheated. I mean, if you can cheat on Beyoncé, with a white woman, is any black woman safe?


Hov also released a video, “Footnotes for 4:44,”with a number of men explaining their relationship woes. Jesse Williams, the last of the light-skinned heartthrobs, appeared in the video and addressed his divorce and the pain he went through.



The feeling was echoed later in the week when news broke that Williams was dating Minka Kelly (see, I didn’t call her “a white woman,” even though many of you know I suffer from a yet-to-be-named syndrome that renders me unable to tell white women apart). The intelligent part of your brain that makes kale smoothies and reads think pieces said, “I don’t care who celebrities date. That’s their business.” But the reptilian part of your brain that likes Real Housewives and occasionally will buy chicken from a gas station said, “Damn! Not Jesse ‘Woke Bae’ Williams!”


I don’t know who Kelly is, but I assumed she was white (I didn’t even Google her picture) because:

  1. Her name; I’ve never met a black Minka. (I know a “Meka” and a “Mika,” whom I am careful not to get confused because—for some reason—if you refer to someone named Tomika as “Tameka,” you might as well just go full out and call them the b-word, because they are very sensitive about their shit.)
  2. Jesse Williams is rich and successful. And as much as we want to deny the truth in it, when he gets on ...
This is not an indictment of Williams or of white women. Williams is free to choose whomever he wants to love, and he should. And it’s not as if there’s a ceremony that graduates black men to the white-woman dating pool and gives them a secret white-girl discount to use on Tinder. It’s just a reflection of the society we live in.


There was a beautiful piece of writing a few days ago that examined the new movie The Big Sick. In the movie, a Pakistani man chronicles his love affair with his white girlfriend. Aditi Natasha Kini wrote a beautiful piece about watching men always choose the white woman. However, I don’t know if a black woman could write this without being castigated.



And that’s where the unlikely trio of Umar Johnson, Jesse Williams and white women all meet. Politeness and rules of inclusiveness won’t let us say it out loud. Our kale minds don’t want to accept it, but our gas-station-chicken-eating brains know that there is a universally intrinsic value to white women, and it is not just an American thing. It is beat into the head of every single human being on earth from the moment we are born, and black men—like all others—have bought into it. White women are the global standard of beauty. Everything about them, from the way they wear their hair to the color of their lips, is imitated and monetized by every civilization on the planet.


The brainwashing is so pervasive that it has managed to bypass our instinct and nature. Most societies want to perpetuate their culture by having the men marry within it. Ask a Korean mom, a Jewish family or an Indian father, and they will most likely tell you that they hope their children marry someone of their faith, ethnicity or nationality. There are even studies that show men marry women who remind them of their mothers.

But white women are the exception.

As a man, I know it. I feel it. I see it. But there is nothing on earth more attractive to me than a black woman. It might be racist of me to say that everything else pales in comparison, but I am often called a racist, so—everything else pales in comparison.


I know it’s uncouth to express these thoughts out loud, but I—and I bet many black women—wonder how someone can switch so easily. From afar it looks like kicking your mother to the curb. To the black people “left behind,” it feels like the person who switched sides chose to stiff-arm their culture and their people. My experience as a human on this planet is colored by the lens of living as a black man. I can’t fathom choosing to spend my life with someone who will never be able to understand that.

But then again, I’m not “on,” yet.

If we’re being honest, we’ll agree that black women are the ones on whose shoulders Williams’ platform of #BlackGirlMagic speeches and BET awards was built. They didn’t make him famous, but the core support that made Williams a star was from black women who thought he was cute, outspoken and smart—as if Steph Curry joined the Black Panthers.


Williams’ new girlfriend in no way means that he has lessened his commitment to the causes and issues he championed. And yes, Williams can and should date whomever he wants. As a rule, everyone on the planet should love whomever they choose to love. We should not let cultural norms fence in our relationships. But we aren’t required to suppress our disappointment.

I imagine that it feels a little bit shitty to navigate the trials of life with someone and have to stand there and watch that person leave—regardless of whom he or she leaves with. But living in a country that seemingly wakes up every day with the express purpose of making sure you know that, simply because of the color of your skin, you will always be in second place—and then having to watch the men who were supposed to protect and accompany you walk away, hand in hand, with facsimiles of your oppressor—must be pretty tough.

We don’t have to hide those feelings, even if they seem illogical. Emotions are not meant to have logic. We can say it out loud, and we don’t have to give a damn what people think about the sentiment, because it is natural.


Plus, anyone who cares is probably gonna leave your ass for a white girl.

http://www.theroot.com/jesse-jay-z-umar-and-the-allure-of-white-women-1796924566
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Man, dude can get the fuck outta here with this bullshit, it's such a small percentage of brothers who do this. Dude can go fuck himself with this bullshit
 
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Jesse Williams, Jay-Z, Umar Johnson and the Allure of White Women

Michael Harriot
7/14/17 1:35pm
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“There’s dishes in the back, he gotta roll up his sleeves
But while y’all washin’—watch him
He gon’ make it to a Benz out of that Datsun
He got that ambition, baby, look in his eyes
This week he moppin’ floors, next week he’s on fries
So stick by his side
I know there’s dudes ballin’, and yeah, that’s nice
And they gonna keep callin’ and tryin’, but you stay right, girl
And when you get on, he’ll leave yo’ ass for a white girl”
—Kanye West, “Gold Digger”

There is always truth in humor. The reason Kanye West’s line is so memorable is that we’ve all seen it happen. The idea that white women have always been a graduation present or lifetime achievement award for black men has become an accepted trope among black people. We quietly talk about it among ourselves, in barbershops and at cookouts.



The thought that rich, successful and famous black men eventually trade in black women for white women is such an acknowledged fact that we don’t even bother pointing out that the guy who wrote and rapped it left our ass for a white girl.

At no time has that idea been more in focus than this week. The entire Umar Johnson controversy started over comments he made on The Breakfast Club about interracial dating. Johnson basically condemned black men who choose to date white women. While his comments were cringeworthy to most progressive, logical-thinking people, his explanation was almost like hearing someone describe a bout of explosive diarrhea—you don’t want to listen, but you can’t publicly deny that you’ve felt the same way.








That’s also how many of us caught feelings listening to Jay-Z on 4:44 explain his regret over his affair with the infamous “Becky with the good hair.” I always believed that Jigga suffered more from the widespread notion that it was a nonblack woman with whom he cheated. I mean, if you can cheat on Beyoncé, with a white woman, is any black woman safe?


Hov also released a video, “Footnotes for 4:44,”with a number of men explaining their relationship woes. Jesse Williams, the last of the light-skinned heartthrobs, appeared in the video and addressed his divorce and the pain he went through.



The feeling was echoed later in the week when news broke that Williams was dating Minka Kelly (see, I didn’t call her “a white woman,” even though many of you know I suffer from a yet-to-be-named syndrome that renders me unable to tell white women apart). The intelligent part of your brain that makes kale smoothies and reads think pieces said, “I don’t care who celebrities date. That’s their business.” But the reptilian part of your brain that likes Real Housewives and occasionally will buy chicken from a gas station said, “Damn! Not Jesse ‘Woke Bae’ Williams!”


I don’t know who Kelly is, but I assumed she was white (I didn’t even Google her picture) because:

  1. Her name; I’ve never met a black Minka. (I know a “Meka” and a “Mika,” whom I am careful not to get confused because—for some reason—if you refer to someone named Tomika as “Tameka,” you might as well just go full out and call them the b-word, because they are very sensitive about their shit.)
  2. Jesse Williams is rich and successful. And as much as we want to deny the truth in it, when he gets on ...
This is not an indictment of Williams or of white women. Williams is free to choose whomever he wants to love, and he should. And it’s not as if there’s a ceremony that graduates black men to the white-woman dating pool and gives them a secret white-girl discount to use on Tinder. It’s just a reflection of the society we live in.


There was a beautiful piece of writing a few days ago that examined the new movie The Big Sick. In the movie, a Pakistani man chronicles his love affair with his white girlfriend. Aditi Natasha Kini wrote a beautiful piece about watching men always choose the white woman. However, I don’t know if a black woman could write this without being castigated.



And that’s where the unlikely trio of Umar Johnson, Jesse Williams and white women all meet. Politeness and rules of inclusiveness won’t let us say it out loud. Our kale minds don’t want to accept it, but our gas-station-chicken-eating brains know that there is a universally intrinsic value to white women, and it is not just an American thing. It is beat into the head of every single human being on earth from the moment we are born, and black men—like all others—have bought into it. White women are the global standard of beauty. Everything about them, from the way they wear their hair to the color of their lips, is imitated and monetized by every civilization on the planet.


The brainwashing is so pervasive that it has managed to bypass our instinct and nature. Most societies want to perpetuate their culture by having the men marry within it. Ask a Korean mom, a Jewish family or an Indian father, and they will most likely tell you that they hope their children marry someone of their faith, ethnicity or nationality. There are even studies that show men marry women who remind them of their mothers.

But white women are the exception.

As a man, I know it. I feel it. I see it. But there is nothing on earth more attractive to me than a black woman. It might be racist of me to say that everything else pales in comparison, but I am often called a racist, so—everything else pales in comparison.


I know it’s uncouth to express these thoughts out loud, but I—and I bet many black women—wonder how someone can switch so easily. From afar it looks like kicking your mother to the curb. To the black people “left behind,” it feels like the person who switched sides chose to stiff-arm their culture and their people. My experience as a human on this planet is colored by the lens of living as a black man. I can’t fathom choosing to spend my life with someone who will never be able to understand that.

But then again, I’m not “on,” yet.

If we’re being honest, we’ll agree that black women are the ones on whose shoulders Williams’ platform of #BlackGirlMagic speeches and BET awards was built. They didn’t make him famous, but the core support that made Williams a star was from black women who thought he was cute, outspoken and smart—as if Steph Curry joined the Black Panthers.


Williams’ new girlfriend in no way means that he has lessened his commitment to the causes and issues he championed. And yes, Williams can and should date whomever he wants. As a rule, everyone on the planet should love whomever they choose to love. We should not let cultural norms fence in our relationships. But we aren’t required to suppress our disappointment.

I imagine that it feels a little bit shitty to navigate the trials of life with someone and have to stand there and watch that person leave—regardless of whom he or she leaves with. But living in a country that seemingly wakes up every day with the express purpose of making sure you know that, simply because of the color of your skin, you will always be in second place—and then having to watch the men who were supposed to protect and accompany you walk away, hand in hand, with facsimiles of your oppressor—must be pretty tough.

We don’t have to hide those feelings, even if they seem illogical. Emotions are not meant to have logic. We can say it out loud, and we don’t have to give a damn what people think about the sentiment, because it is natural.


Plus, anyone who cares is probably gonna leave your ass for a white girl.

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Jesse Williams, 36, 'dating' SportsNet New York anchor Taylor Rooks, 26, following Minka Kelly split
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Jesse Williams is rumored to be dating SportsNet New York anchor Taylor Rooks.

The Grey's Anatomy star was spotted on a date with the 26-year-old broadcast journalist in Atlantic City over the weekend.

The pair were seen together at Kevin Hart’s comedy show at Boardwalk Hall in New Jersey, according to Page Six.

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New couple alert: Jesse Williams is rumored to be dating SportsNet New York anchor Taylor Rooks

'They are eager to keep their romance under wraps. He’s been going through a difficult divorce, but he’s found solace with Taylor,'a source told the site.

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The site also claimed the two were the only guests at a 1,400 room Atlantic City hotel — the Ocean Resort Casino —a month before it officially opens.

The 36-year-old filed for divorce from wife of six years Aryn Drake-Lee, with whom he had been in a relationship for 13 years total.

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Date: The pair were seen together at Kevin Hart’s comedy show at Boardwalk Hall in New Jersey

He began dating his The Butler co-star Minka Kelly shortly after the split, and the two were forced to defend against cheating rumors. They then split late last year.

Jesse and Arynshare two children — four-year-old Sadie and two-year-old Maceo — and have been embroiled in a bitter custody dispute since their split.

They filed court documents agreeing to very specific custody, visitation and communication rules, with Aryn even stipulating neither can introduce the children to any 'intimate partners' until six months into any new relationship.

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Ex: The 36-year-old filed for divorce from wife of six years Aryn Drake-Lee, with whom he had been in a relationship for 13 years total. They share two kids

She had also sought an increase in the $50k per month payments, claiming he could clearly afford it in his $250k per episode Grey's Anatomy salary.

The former couple first met the a real estate broker before he was a big-time actor, while he was working as a schoolteacher in New York.

New squeeze Rooks meanwhile is a rising star who hosts the YouTube show and podcast TimeOut With Taylor Rooks, Counting Meek Mill among her most recent guests.

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Romance: He began dating his The Butler co-star Minka Kelly shortly after the split, and the two were forced to defend against cheating rumors. They then split late last yea
 

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