Are Single BLK Mothers DESTROYING their sons?

[killagram]

If you watched the video in the OP you would see that the young man is 33, father of 3, married to a Registered nurse... yet his mother tells him to his face, on camera, that she doesn't respect him as a man. Yet you focus on the absence of the father.

We all know the problem is bigger than one person, bigger than one family.

Her job probably over works her, and underpays her... but that ain't for shit to do with her directing her hatred toward her own son

Fuck that dude...he pro-bullshit...brah

 

[Heavenlywings77]

Tbh, there's people here commenting that haven't ever been in a relationship. They're in here arguing over shit they don't even understand instead of listening

 

[killagram]

Man, I raised myself.

I get what you trying to do, I understand, but ...
Yes, single black mothers have an undue burden .. but that ain't what we talking about.
Yes, black men should step up because it takes two... but that ain't what this discussion is about.

This is about how black single mothers project their trauma & dysfunction at their sons. (They also do this to their daughters, but again, that ain't what this discussion is about!)

They sons are they husbands...and they daughters are they sisters...and the cycle continues...so when we get one of these sister daughters...they hate us...cause they never was taught responsibility from they hoe ass Mammie...brah

 

[killagram]

Tbh, there's people here commenting that haven't ever been in a relationship. They're in here arguing over shit they don't even understand instead of listening

Shit....I have had more women and raised more bastard chirreen than Any nigha in here...brah

 

[shaddyvillethug]

Nigga, why tf you post that shit here?! Why you even on fox News, even more than that, reading the fucking comments.

Any attempt to question the validity of the OP is lost when you view this topic or this particular discussion through the lens of people that believe those statistics to be true.

You real fucking suspect! Matta fact, you the fucking enemy and we ain't gon get ahead until we get rid of niggas like you!

On bro that nigga foul

I been wanting to break my hands on that nigga face for a long time

 

[lazarus]

Single mothers are destroying both their sons and their daughters. I've said this before on numerous occasions, single motherhood is an emergency situation and if you are a multiple-time single mother and you've never even been engaged you are part of the problem

If you are a man with more than one baby mother and you've never even been engaged you are part of the problem (no, men aren't off the hook)

You are guilty of failing to give your sons and daughter is an example of what a family home is supposed to look like.

Your daughter's don't have an example of what a man is supposed to be or act like. Your son's don't have an example of what a man is supposed to be or act like

both genders grow up confused about their role in the family dynamic. Your son's believe that a man is not supposed to be there. Your daughters grow up believing a man doesn't have to be there and you are screwing up an entire generation

If you got three or more kids by three or more guys as a woman you are a failure. If you have three or more baby mothers, you are a failure. I did not stutter

It's 2022, do you not understand how babies are made? Do you not understand what birth control is? IUD? Condoms?

This is an example of immaturity and Reckless Behavior by both parties and you are damaging an entire generation because of it

not being with the mother is not the same as not being there for your child. some single parents have great relationships with their children. you are speaking about situations where the mother decides to have a child on her own and either the man leaves or more likely, 75% of the time, the woman leaves with the child. Since the majority of black men are childless are 80% of black babies are made from 20% of men, I would say it's bad decision making on the person that has to carry the child and the decision or not to keep it. The majority of single black women have kids with the same man as another baby momma.

 

[geechiedan]

Man, I raised myself.

I get what you trying to do, I understand, but ...
Yes, single black mothers have an undue burden .. but that ain't what we talking about.
Yes, black men should step up because it takes two... but that ain't what this discussion is about.

This is about how black single mothers project their trauma & dysfunction at their sons. (They also do this to their daughters, but again, that ain't what this discussion is about!)

If you watched the video in the OP you would see that the young man is 33, father of 3, married to a Registered nurse... yet his mother tells him to his face, on camera, that she doesn't respect him as a man. Yet you focus on the absence of the father.

We all know the problem is bigger than one person, bigger than one family.

Her job probably over works her, and underpays her... but that ain't for shit to do with her directing her hatred toward her own son

Yep that ONE woman is an asshole...thats on HER...and guess what dude get a helmut....EVERYONE'S got at least one parent that got some shit with them..but she's an asshole who raised a kid whose more stable than she is...so how was that black family destroyed???

Tiger Woods is a billionaire elite athlete and his personal life is for SHIT... His father treated him like a fucking golf robot and repeatedly cheated on his mother IN FRONT OF HIM and that's how he learned to have relationships with women and look at how his marriage turned out.

Yet no one ever said Earl Woods is a prime example of why black men can't commit to the women they marry. And guess what Tiger's got a son and a daughter and they both know their father like to bang em two at a time...so how do you think their personal relationships are going to turn out?

The bottom line is one side (black women) is consistently blamed for the kids issues.

yes this discussion is about ONE case in the OP and from that ONE CASE you all want to extrapolate and say this the norm among all black single mothers. Cmon dude

If there was a video of Dr Phil interviewing ONE fucked up black man and from there people tried to make the case of why ALL young black men are fucked up you muthafuckas would be losing your minds in outrage about it. How dare they try to use one person as an example and say this how WE ALL ARE!!

 

[geechiedan]

On bro that nigga foul

I been wanting to break my hands on that nigga face for a long time

suck a dick...hard

 

[killagram]

On bro that nigga foul

I been wanting to break my hands on that nigga face for a long time

I feeling the same thang...in my left hand...brah

 

[killagram]

Yep that ONE woman is an asshole...thats on HER...and guess what dude get a helmut....EVERYONE'S got at least one parent that got some shit with them..but she's an asshole who raised a kid whose more stable than she is...so how was that black family destroyed???

Tiger Woods is a billionaire elite athlete and his personal life is for SHIT... His father treated him like a fucking golf robot and repeatedly cheated on his mother IN FRONT OF HIM and that's how he learned to have relationships with women and look at how his marriage turned out.

Yet no one ever said Earl Woods is a prime example of why black men can't commit to the women they marry. And guess what Tiger's got a son and a daughter and they both know their father like to bang em two at a time...so how do you think their personal relationships are going to turn out?

The bottom line is one side (black women) is consistently blamed for the kids issues.

yes this discussion is about ONE case in the OP and from that ONE CASE you all want to extrapolate and say this the norm among all black single mothers. Cmon dude

If there was a video of Dr Phil interviewing ONE fucked up black man and from there people tried to make the case of why ALL young black men are fucked up you muthafuckas would be losing your minds in outrage about it. How dare they try to use one person as an example and say this how WE ALL ARE!!

We? You must be a bish...

 

[geechiedan]

I feeling the same thang...in my left hand...brah

 

[lazarus]

Yep that ONE woman is an asshole...thats on HER...and guess what dude get a helmut....EVERYONE'S got at least one parent that got some shit with them..but she's an asshole who raised a kid whose more stable than she is...so how was that black family destroyed???

Tiger Woods is a billionaire elite athlete and his personal life is for SHIT... His father treated him like a fucking golf robot and repeatedly cheated on his mother IN FRONT OF HIM and that's how he learned to have relationships with women and look at how his marriage turned out.

Yet no one ever said Earl Woods is a prime example of why black men can't commit to the women they marry. And guess what Tiger's got a son and a daughter and they both know their father like to bang em two at a time...so how do you think their personal relationships are going to turn out?

The bottom line is one side (black women) is consistently blamed for the kids issues.

yes this discussion is about ONE case in the OP and from that ONE CASE you all want to extrapolate and say this the norm among all black single mothers. Cmon dude

If there was a video of Dr Phil interviewing ONE fucked up black man and from there people tried to make the case of why ALL young black men are fucked up you muthafuckas would be losing your minds in outrage about it. How dare they try to use one person as an example and say this how WE ALL ARE!!

you are moving goal posts like a woman.
math deads your, share the blame,argument.

majority of black men don't have children.
80% of new black babies are raised by single women.
who has the more blame, men or women? I would like an answer without any qualifications or bs counterargument. Just male or female.

 

[geechiedan]

We? You must be a bish...

this is the response you give when you can't actually debate a topic

 

[lazarus]

We? You must be a bish...

has to be. has female logic

 

[geechiedan]

you are moving goal posts like a woman.
math deads your, share the blame,argument.

majority of black men don't have children.
80% of new black babies are raised by single women.
who has the more blame, men or women? I would like an answer without any qualifications or bs counterargument. Just male or female.

unless your making the argument that aliens impregnated black women you would have to look at who's cumming in all these single black women to produce that number in the first place.

And your running the stats argument which is a cac thing to do

 

[killagram]

this is the response you give when you can't actually debate a topic

No reason...when I got the wrath of GOD...in my left hand...brah

 

[killagram]

unless your making the argument that aliens impregnated black women you would have to look at who's cumming in all these single black women to produce that number in the first place.

And your running the stats argument which is a cac thing to do

Who's letting these men impregnate them? Are they getting raped? Bitch better pick better...and take responsibility for her actions...and be accountable... brah

 

[geechiedan]

Who's letting these men impregnate them? Are they getting raped? Bitch better pick better...and take responsibility for her actions...and be accountable... brah

if that were the case 80% of BGOLians (especially YOU) wouldn't be here if single black women made better decisions. you can look at it that way.

 

[godofwine]

not being with the mother is not the same as not being there for your child. some single parents have great relationships with their children. you are speaking about situations where the mother decides to have a child on her own and either the man leaves or more likely, 75% of the time, the woman leaves with the child. Since the majority of black men are childless are 80% of black babies are made from 20% of men, I would say it's bad decision making on the person that has to carry the child and the decision or not to keep it. The majority of single black women have kids with the same man as another baby momma.

Though I don't know where you pull your numbers from I agree with you that a large percentage of the babies come from a considerably smaller percentage of men

These ladies are getting knocked up by the same mofos

I fully support abortion because child rearing on one person is one helluva burden and many who partake are flat out irresponsible

No you don't have to be with the mother in order to be a good parent, but without doing extensive research, I would assume that at least 51% of the kids come from relationships that are less than a year old at the time of conception

It's not wise to get Knocked Up by someone you barely know or have known less than a year. Because odds are that relationship is not going to work and the result is a single mother or single parent if the man is lucky enough to get custody

Most of the time babies aren't born out of love, they are born out of the result of fucking which results in broken Homes, single mothers, what have you

It always has me questioning whether people truly understand how babies are made

 

[lazarus]

unless your making the argument that aliens impregnated black women you would have to look at who's cumming in all these single black women to produce that number in the first place.

And your running the stats argument which is a cac thing to do

who's more at fault? men or women? stop deflecting.

80% of newborn children in the black community are made by 20% of the men. so multiple women are choosing the same man to be impregnated by. That was a fail as a deflect.

once again, who is more at fault?

 

[lazarus]

Though I don't know where you pull your numbers from I agree with you that a large percentage of the babies come from a considerably smaller percentage of men

These ladies are getting knocked up by the same mofos

I fully support abortion because child rearing on one person is one helluva burden and many who partake are flat out irresponsible

No you don't have to be with the mother in order to be a good parent, but without doing extensive research, I would assume that at least 51% of the kids come from relationships that are less than a year old at the time of conception

It's not wise to get Knocked Up by someone you barely know or have known less than a year. Because odds are that relationship is not going to work and the result is a single mother or single parent if the man is lucky enough to get custody

Most of the time babies aren't born out of love, they are born out of the result of fucking which results in broken Homes, single mothers, what have you

It always has me questioning whether people truly understand how babies are made

oh I agree but I wanted to note the distinction.

I had this discussion with this woman the other day and she blamed men like Future for the complete fall of the black community after he had 7 children. He was to blame. I asked okay, what about the 7 women who chose to have a baby with a man that was of poor quality and you knew was going to be a bad father? Her response -

......

 

[geechiedan]

who's more at fault? men or women? stop deflecting.

80% of newborn children in the black community are made by 20% of the men. so multiple women are choosing the same man to be impregnated by. That was a fail as a deflect.

once again, who is more at fault?

where are you getting these stats from first of all... because this sounds like any comment on fox news....

in any case it still takes two to make a baby.

 

[geechiedan]

oh I agree but I wanted to note the distinction.

I had this discussion with this woman the other day and she blamed men like Future for the complete fall of the black community after he had 7 children. He was to blame. I asked okay, what about the 7 women who chose to have a baby with a man that was of poor quality and you knew was going to be a bad father? Her response -

......

and yet future gets a pass on impregnating 7 women and having babies all over the place. why is not held to the same standard?

 

[notreally]

who's more at fault? men or women? stop deflecting.

80% of newborn children in the black community are made by 20% of the men. so multiple women are choosing the same man to be impregnated by. That was a fail as a deflect.

once again, who is more at fault?

Where are you getting these numbers?

Repeating what you made up, or simply estimated as probable does not make it real.

I worked in the community in which I was raised for several years as an educator.

Rarely, very rarely, did I see or talk to a father.

It was actually quite an oddity. Like cracking an egg with a double yolk.


The original question is suspect. It absolves black MEN from any responsibility, when they were
at least 50% responsible for each birth.


Perhaps the reason Black American women have a reputation for being so overly aggressive, fierce, some might
say masculine, is the fact that they have borne nearly all of the responsibility for raising one of the largest minority
populations in the United States.

I have known many mothers who would have made impressive men. They had to be assertive, aggressive, and smart just to survive.

As for daddy...that was something generally only seen on TV in my neighborhood.


So the better question is this:


If black children are being ruined, why are only the women responsible for said ruination?

How can you blame the ONLY person, in many, many cases, who has taken on the awesome responsibility of raising
a child, irrespective of whether daddy still wants to play along after busting a nut? If she is responsible for ruining their sons,
it is because nobody else gave a damn. Raising a kid is hard stuff. Somebody's got to be the man of the family. If the so-called man is not around, the task falls to the mother.

Sounds like somebody ain't manning up, to me.

 

[lazarus]

where are you getting these stats from first of all... because this sounds like any comment on fox news....

in any case it still takes two to make a baby.

answer my question first before asking more questions.

 

[lazarus]

and yet future gets a pass on impregnating 7 women and having babies all over the place. why is not held to the same standard?

people rip on future all the time. no one says shit about the women. and that's multiple women. you don't deal with the logic at all. the problem is very clear to see.

 

[geechiedan]

answer my question first before asking more questions.

i did..you just don't like the answer

 

[lazarus]

Where are you getting these numbers?

Repeating what you made up, or simply estimated as probable does not make it real.

I worked in the community in which I was raised for several years as an educator.

Rarely, very rarely, did I see or talk to a father.

It was actually quite an oddity. Like cracking an egg with a double yolk.


The original question is suspect. It absolves black MEN from any responsibility, when they were
at least 50% responsible for each birth.


Perhaps the reason Black American women have a reputation for being so overly aggressive, fierce, some might
say masculine, is the fact that they have borne nearly all of the responsibility for raising one of the largest minority
populations in the United States.

I know my mother would have made a hell of a man. She had to be assertive, aggressive, and smart just to survive.

As for daddy...that was something generally only seen on TV in my neighborhood.


So the better question is this:


If black children are being ruined, why are only the women responsible for said ruination?

How can you blame the ONLY person, in many, many cases, who has taken on the awesome responsibility of raising
a child, irrespective of whether daddy still wants to play along after busting a nut? If she is responsible for ruining their sons,
it is because nobody else gave a damn. Raising a kid is hard stuff. Not for the faint of heart.
Sounds like somebody ain't manning up, to me.

You're a Cac that just joined BGOL last year.

Educator, huh?

Didn't you write this:

I worked at the former Vernor plant that was located on Woodward Avenue.

My job was to sit by the conveyor, and watch for cans that were not filled properly.

The machine would automatically knock them off the conveyor, and I would stab them
with a pole with a long, sharp metal point at the end.

Got laid off after 2 days.

and this:

African American women (NOT all black women, SPECIFICALLY African AMERICAN women) are
very, very often deserving of the stereotype that they are overly aggressive, some might even say
man-like and often mean as hell.

FOH

The majority of births in the black community are made by a small percentage of men, most black men don't have children, and you say it's 50/50. LOL. You're a fucking idiot.

 

[lazarus]

i did..you just don't like the answer

no you didn't. male or female, who is more to blame?

 

[geechiedan]

people rip on future all the time. no one says shit about the women. and that's multiple women. you don't deal with the logic at all. the problem is very clear to see.

people rip on FUTURE an INDIVIDUAL....no one is saying Future is INDICATIVE of how ALL black men are... the OP video is saying that ONE BLACK WOMAN IS INDACTIVE OF HOW ALL SINGLE BLACK MOTHERS ARE. And the rest of you are dogpiling on because:

1. most cats have mommy issues
2. its fun to blame a group when its not your group
3. deep down many cats on bgol hate black women

hence why BLACK MEN as a whole aren't held to the same degree of responsibility for providing the sperm that helped create 80% black children born to single parent households.

 

[geechiedan]

no you didn't. male or female, who is more to blame?

it takes TWO to make baby so I BLAME BOTH...

 

[notreally]

You're a Cac that just joined BGOL last year.

Educator, huh?

Didn't you write this:

I worked at the former Vernor plant that was located on Woodward Avenue.

My job was to sit by the conveyor, and watch for cans that were not filled properly.

The machine would automatically knock them off the conveyor, and I would stab them
with a pole with a long, sharp metal point at the end.

Got laid off after 2 days.

and this:

African American women (NOT all black women, SPECIFICALLY African AMERICAN women) are
very, very often deserving of the stereotype that they are overly aggressive, some might even say
man-like and often mean as hell.

FOH

The majority of births in the black community are made by a small percentage of men, most black men don't have children, and you say it's 50/50. LOL. You're a fucking idiot.

Confronting me with my own words is not a problem.

It is kind of the reason I write them.

You cannot reconcile the statements? Too far a leap
your remaining brain cell? Don't know what reconcile means?
Of course not.

I will make it easy:

Most stereotypes are based in truth, truth stretched beyond reasonable limits.
Black women have a nasty reputation in the USA, partially deserved.

Why?

Stupid motherfuckers making babies and refusing to support them, leaving the mother to do
what has to be done. This is the crucible in which the "strong black woman", or "overbearing bitch",
depending upon one's point of view, is born.

You have been asked several times about your stats.

You have failed to respond. Again.

Which means it is just shit you made up.

According to your bovine excrement molded to resemble statistics, the vast majority
of the black population in the USA are first cousins. This is stupid beyond the scope
of reasonability.

You are loud, obnoxious, insult anyone who disagrees with you, and you pull shit out of
your ass and call it fact.

I'd rather be called "cac" any day of any week than be you.


You are an idiot.

 

[Big Tex]

I blame it on the fact that ppl are doing more on their tech and less interacting with actual ppl.

Example:
I ask my kids would they like to go to the park or go to a family function and they tell me no. They'd rather be on their tablets, phone, or consoles. This is also what my family, friends, and co-workers are telling me their kids are doing.

A whole generation of introverts with no ppl skills.

At 20, my mom and dad were both working adults with two kids to raise with a stable job.

At twenty I dont believe my neices or nephews could hold a stable job let alone raise two kids.

We see it in entertainment too. Osaka, Ben Simmons, Zion are in their twenties but in my eyes I see them as grown kids. They are unable to handle the pressure that comes with their proffesion as adults when previous generations in their same industry had no problems.

We will see in the next 10-20 years what the outcome of all this will be.

Most people are pretty much idiots. So it's good to be able to filter who you interact with online.

 

[RoadRage]

it takes TWO to make baby so I BLAME BOTH...

One male can impregnate a hundred women, so not all "boths" are created equally!

 

[Non-StopJFK2TAB]

More like single black mothers have a much harder time protecting the minds of their children from the current marketing culture designed to maximize consumerism. The result, is we have a generation of children growing up to believe their self worth is equated to the products they are able to buy, this leads to them wanting more and more, to the point where they are ready to kill, sell drugs, and work in the sex trade for it. The kicker is that they are so far gone that the more they get the less happy they appear to be.
Innaculating the minds of your children against this mind control system is a herculean task for two well-educated parents, that only gets worse with one parent, especially if they are less educated and they too suffer from consumerism.

How are you going to go against an empire dolo? That’s that American individualist mindset that has ruined many families.

It takes a village. It has always taken a village. That’s why you have to laugh at these rich, older black ladies in search of a sperm donor. You wish them the best and you keep it moving. If they believe they can defy thousands on generations of knowledge, then so be it.