Yes ma'am. *head nods
Like what? can you elaborate?
It's more of an institutional thing. Especially in the black community. All my life all i've seen around me were absentee fathers and mothers doing it on their own. 3 of my best friends are products of this.
And no, i'm not saying this is true everywhere. And i know someone will pop around and say, "well where i'm from...it's not like this..." Or they'll say, "it's just the people you know..."
But no i don't think so. My view comes from a pretty wide spectrum i believe. I speak to alot of people and have observed a great many occurances. Spoken to alot of guys raised by single moms. Spoken to alot of single moms and daughters themselves.
It's always pretty much the same effect. These past few generations are growing up without fathers, without positive black male role models. And are learning the wrong things in life. And it's all the black man's fault.
It's a double edged sword too. I think so, just my opinion not stating this as fact. But women aren't accountable because men weren't accountable. Men were placed under extreme pressures and they couldn't survive. They couldn't make it out and the black family was shattered.
Something i did with my kids a few months ago, i gave them stacks of magazines and i had them watch TV and pay close attention and catalogue the tv shows and commercials, to see how many black men were shown to be fathers or even around.
The results were just insurmountable in favor of the idea that there's no black male presence. 1 thing that sticks out in my mind specifically was seeing the magazines, Family magazines and things like that. Where you'd find black mothers with children, white families together. The black men with their families? Almost NONE.
What message does this convey? On television i can count...maybe 2? Black family shows? Maybe 3? White family shows? Just off the top of your head? Shows with a mostly white cast? How many people are together?
Shows with a mostly black cast? How many people are together?
This recent rash of "where the good black man at?" Specials and CNBC and all that's going on? There's an issue somewhere. Crime dramas? Where's the father?
How are black people generally shown? Loving at home together mom and dad?
Black women if they say they need a man...What happens to them?
A little about me? This is my deceased husbands account. I'll tell anyone who'll listen. I NEED my husband. I MISS my husband. If i could turn back the hands of time and get my husband back i would. Because i need him. My balance is off. My everything that HELPED make me ME.
I need my black man. My point of view purely comes from the idea of what my sons are being shown. What my husband has been shown. All the male friends i discuss how they feel. What they feel like. There's a few black men here who are saying the same thing.
I've seen alot of things coming up to make me have these ideas. I've seen women berate their kids fathers, especially in front of boy children. I don't know what to do to change this. I just know that i keep MY sons in the knowledge they are loved and wanted by ME. If no one else.
