1) This one comes to mind:
2) This is tricky. Most people don't like change or anything that challenges the status quo, so it's going to be an uphill battle to get them on board. That's when your talent as a storyteller comes in.
I just thought of this and added this to my post
"Don't forget the romantic tie in. I always struggle whether to include that in my stories or not. The idea of it simply seems forced on many occasions"
The disposable black romantic tie-in is annoying to say the least. It's just rife with lazy writing and storytelling.
I would much rather someone focus on the fact that men and women in general have so little in common rather than intentionally adding a love interest that is just cast aside because they really want to be with person X
"Do you like football? "
"No. "
"Basketball? "
"Not really."
"What would you like to do"
"I like movies"
Then you can have a bonding moment going to the movies and have him montage showing that and then showing them sitting in the movie theater or laying on a couch watching the movie together and then talking about the movie afterward.
That's authentic. It's not a trope because it's actual reality. Men and women don't typically have a whole lot in common but when there is a common ground you can draw from that
"Do you like football? "
"No. "
"Basketball? "
"Not really."
"What would do you like to do"
"I like working out"
So they go to the gym together and he's trying to show off how much he can press, and then she corrects his form. Tell him that if he keeps lifting like that he's going to tear something.
Then says that she put herself through college by being a personal trainer and went to college on a partial track scholarship.
He then brags about how fast he is and they Go to the track and race, and though he wins, it's close. He says, you're a lot faster than I thought you were. She says "what part of track scholarship don't you understand," and laughs. Then you've got banter
There are alternatives to the tropes we always see, but they always go to the easy button which is the trope