All you Deadbeat Dads Explain
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Great thread, somebody (NOT ME, somebody else) ought post a link to it on SOL and see what the ladies have to say.
You think they're willing to see it from the man's POV, or is it just gonna be
it just gonna be
I went ahead and did it for you
Peace
chicks lie
You must not have any children. I have twin boys. I love them dearly but I had absolutely no desire to have them. AT ALL, not with me handling business at school. Matter of fact, my ex knew this and she decided "for some reason" to secretly go off of the "pill"..My goal was to have my kids in a "close knit" home when I had locked up my dream job, finances in order and she basically destroyed all of that with her deception. The battles I have had with her over the last 4 years have been EPIC, to the point where I have actually considered saying the hell with all of it. The only reason I cling on is because of the little ones but their mother acts as such a heavy counterbalance..Has me thinking "How the hell did I lay up with Satan". Evil thoughts, man.
North Carolina doesnt make it any better with their bullshit Child Support laws. I pay $2,500 a month for two kids!
Hey stupid... the same people who post on SOL post on this side tooGreat thread, somebody (NOT ME, somebody else
You think they're willing to see it from the man's POV, or is it just gonna be
How can you get something you don't even know how to spell?Visectomy ..... before it leaves your dick ! Cause after is just to fuckn' late !
I wouldn't have even done that because you already know anything they say is going to be seen as "bringing down the black man"I went ahead and did it for you
Peace
I know for a fact that sometimes the system can ruin a good thing. I got a friend that had a kid but the moms of the kid left and hid her and the son from him. Now dude tried to look for his son and when he got settled went to the court to look for him. Shit was a catch 22. He found his son but the chick that took him away decided to go back to the court and file for child support.
Now I am in no way blaming the system, (although it can be fucked up at SOME times); I am not letting some dead beat moms get off either. My cousin had to go to family court with the father of his ex's two kids after she abandoned them (alcoholic). Unfortunately, more often than not it's the father that we see shirking their parental duties, so this is what people focus on. The truth is though we, (as a people), need to grow up and take care our kids. I don't see taking care of my child as a responsibility- how the hell is a person a responsibility? We have a responsibility to pay our rent not to read to our kids. But I digress. The problem will cease when folks realize that children are a blessing and not a bill they can put off on other people.
Y'all niggas is SAD. what the hell do the mother have to do with you not seeing your child. If you don't want anything to do with the babymama then don't. Handle everything though the court system. MAN UP NIGGA. I will be damn if I would let anyone say that you can't see your child.
Well lets see how it goes sis. Men are entitled to their views and if they take it as such then so be it. Its a valid topic and it would be interesting to see it from female perspective if they choose to participate.
Peace
I ain't no deadbeat dad, I got custody and take care of mine. But, I look at it like I can't judge no other man cuz I don't know his situation, but bottom line u don't get no points for denying a kid just cuz his mom was a bustdown or whuteva.
Responsibility is responsibility. If she is as bad as u claim she is, all the more reason for u to take care of ur child.
& I agree w/homie a couple replies up. Go thru the courts if u have to, I did it, ain't gonna lie it took damn near a year (11 months and a couple weeks) but the peace of mind was worth it to know my son would be well cared for. Little stuff like knowing who ur kid is around can make that much of a difference in peace of mind.
Also, no one can judge u but that child will grow up and can see thru any type of bullshit u pulled. U gonna hafta explain that...
If you need motivation think about this:
The nigga in jail, for, surprise trying to provide for his family. My dude is trying to fight to get only 3 and some change in jail, meanwhile his mainchick is out running around wit some tricks dumping their daughter all over town while she gets it in. Homie's only seen his daughter twice, aside from pictures, has no "real" parents himself, or role model, but he was out there hustlin to take care of his babygirl. By the time he gets out she won't know him and he'll have missed all the important stuff; first words, step, her saying dadda probably to some nigga he had beef with while in the streets!! I know its never too late to be a father but something 4 u niggas to think about........
Responsibility is responsibility. If she is as bad as u claim she is, all the more reason for u to take care of ur child.
& I agree w/homie a couple replies up. Go thru the courts if u have to, I did it, ain't gonna lie it took damn near a year (11 months and a couple weeks) but the peace of mind was worth it to know my son would be well cared for. Little stuff like knowing who ur kid is around can make that much of a difference in peace of mind.
Also, no one can judge u but that child will grow up and can see thru any type of bullshit u pulled. U gonna hafta explain that...
If you need motivation think about this:
The nigga in jail, for, surprise trying to provide for his family. My dude is trying to fight to get only 3 and some change in jail, meanwhile his mainchick is out running around wit some tricks dumping their daughter all over town while she gets it in. Homie's only seen his daughter twice, aside from pictures, has no "real" parents himself, or role model, but he was out there hustlin to take care of his babygirl. By the time he gets out she won't know him and he'll have missed all the important stuff; first words, step, her saying dadda probably to some nigga he had beef with while in the streets!! I know its never too late to be a father but something 4 u niggas to think about........
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Hey stupid... the same people who post on SOL post on this side too
Looks like I was right...
I just saw my daughter for the first time in 3 years last weeks she came to stay with me for the summer. Her mom up and moved to Kansas in 2004 i already had a child support order from ga then i got one from ks so i was payin two times for one child. when i was in college my other daughters mom told me i wasnt making enough money because i was going to school full time playin ball and working part time @ the mall so all in all everyday i dont see my kids breaks my heart it literally makes me sick last year i was diagnosed with malnutrition because i cant eat sometimes because i miss them so much sure it wasnt the perfect situation that brought them here but i love them and whenever i can see them i do. so theres my lil 2 cents
so r u saying its ok for a dude to walk out on his kids ???
Hello humans are fucking animals to bruh. We aren't any difference from anyone else. Man made up this marriage bullshit. Staying together for eternity. Heck I'm not sure if marriage is for me. I rather stay by myself and stack my paper. Have a bachelors house with shit I like. I can't imagine a bitch telling me what do. Oh eventually they'll try and run you.
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