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All you Deadbeat Dads Explain

there are alot of views on this situation. every situation seems to be unique. it's sad that men would purposely not take care of there children. it's also sad that a woman would make it so hard for a man to have a relationship with his son that he gives up. i don't know if the broken system is worse or the circumstances that have led to the implementation of the system. i'm 33 and i don't have any children(although i've had a few close calls). the system isn't designed for black people. the best advice is to try to stay out of the system.
 
Check this out, i got a female friend that was messing around with a married man and got pregnant by him. When she told him he said he'd take care of the child but wanted to keep it a secret so his wife wouldn't find out. She gets mad and and goes off on him about how her child isn't gonna be anyones "secret" and for that she wanted nothing to do with him and said she'd take care of her child herself and cuts off all contact with the dude. Six years later when she hits some hardtimes she all of a sudden remembers the father and immediately has him tracked down and puts him on child support. They tell dude the is owes over 20g's in backpay and he has to pay like $700 a month for the child. He caught up all the backpay and then asked her could he get the payments lowered because he had two other kids to take care of too and the woman gets mad at him and tells him no because he's been ignoring her daughter for 6 years so she deserves this for not having her bio-dad around
 
pookie said:
Check this out, i got a female friend that was messing around with a married man and got pregnant by him. When she told him he said he'd take care of the child but wanted to keep it a secret so his wife wouldn't find out. She gets mad and and goes off on him about how her child isn't gonna be anyones "secret" and for that she wanted nothing to do with him and said she'd take care of her child herself and cuts off all contact with the dude. Six years later when she hits some hardtimes she all of a sudden remembers the father and immediately has him tracked down and puts him on child support. They tell dude the is owes over 20g's in backpay and he has to pay like $700 a month for the child. He caught up all the backpay and then asked her could he get the payments lowered because he had two other kids to take care of too and the woman gets mad at him and tells him no because he's been ignoring her daughter for 6 years so she deserves this for not having her bio-dad around
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so many fugged up stories...I find it so hard, not to catch a case I am no thug, but where I grow up you dont let anyone fug with you and my babbymoma constantly fugs with me. I find myself wishing she would get hit by a bus or something messed up I know but....whatever
 
afroyale said:

Dude, wtf are you smoking?
I think the human race is a step above wild animals.
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Correction: Actually a qtr. step. Of course we'd like to BELIEVE differently, but ANY anthropologist/experimental psychologist will tell you differently. The 'Animal' is right thurr homie, research it yourself. Thought I'd add that for balance.
JG
 
I don't have kids but i've seen firsthand how fucked up some of these chicks handle these situations. I have a friend right now that lives with this chick...she has a baby by some other dude. Every month when that money gets deposited on the card she gives it to the dude she lives with and basically lets him do whatever he wants with the money. The child never even sees a dime of it. So basically her baby pops is paying for another nigga to live lavish.
 
Not seeing the child is their way of denying they have a child and punishing the chick who locked them down with it. Same reason chicks don't let you see the baby when you do try to step up. No gender is any different or better for it, it's all perception. We all know kats with mad kids who do nothing for them, and we all know a dumb ass broad or too with a child by a good dude,but since he won't let her game him, she holds the child hostage and won't let him see the child.

The biggest reason, (in my opinion) is dudes like this believe if they never show up or do anything, the problem doesnt exist. Sort of like ignoring a doctors appointment because you really dont wanna know. Kats believe that if it's out of sight it's out of mind.

Lastly, and it works, if you piss the girl off enough, she will just go on and raise the kid without you and never fuck with you again. Then they get off Scott Free.
 
what about dead beat moms i dont see no topic of discussion for that ...ive read some of the stories on here and they all seem to have similiar women in common...women using the children to hinder the pops sad situation

I believe its to the point now where if you have a baby with a women thats not your wife you are basically signing half ye company away ..fucc that...I suppose im too selfish in some eyes ....but women who rant and rave about child support dont have the kids best interest in mind and speaking from a father with kids in another state its hard to holla at them lil nuccas like you want especially when you separte from they moms when they young.... phone conversation be limited (i know in my situation) and boys you got to win them lil nuccas over they like girls you can say a few things ending with "i love you" what about when the moms dont be promoting the kids to call you ...or say "dad i got the shyt you sent us" then the men become bitter and start looking at the situation for what it is ...just some kids you pay for....TRAGEDY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
what was The Most High's first law given to man? reproduce. the devil, because he wants to keep us in slavery, uses that law against us, by making it a crime to have children, thus, going against The Most High.
 
troybliss said:
what was The Most High's first law given to man? reproduce. the devil, because he wants to keep us in slavery, uses that law against us, by making it a crime to have children, thus, going against The Most High.
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What are you talking about?
 
troybliss said:
what was The Most High's first law given to man? reproduce. the devil, because he wants to keep us in slavery, uses that law against us, by making it a crime to have children, thus, going against The Most High.
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Interesting point. I think it was "be fruitful and multiply"--I dont think having children you cant support, that spoil and turn negative, is being that fruitful. Its being fruitless Id argue
 
I have 2 kids and another on the way. As much as I get pissed with their mother at times I couldn't imagine not seeing them everyday.

You have to be your own man but I wonder what your families (mother / father mainly) think of you not taking care of your kids and how you could live with yourself knowing your child is out there like that.

I'm speaking on cases where the girl was your girlfriend for a long time and yall were serious and she get preg and you run. Not just a hit and run with a random girl.
 
TREY-GA said:
I don't know the facts of your particular situation but just in general,
....explain to me how a woman raising a child(or multiple children) alone is in better shape than you are as a single man and all you have to pay is child support..who feeds, clothes and takes care of that child 24/7, daycare, sickness, homework.etc.????...who comforts YOUR child when your child fears the bully at school, the violence in the street,the storms at night,etc...the cost of raising a child PROPERLY is far more $200/week...being a good father is something you decide TO DO or NOT DO..its not even about the money, A GOOD father spends time with his children, because he cares and loves them..bottom line is no CHILD ever asked to be here and if you call your self a real man you will take care of YOUR responsibility, and not leave it to YOUR girl, or the STATE(us, the taxpayer)...I know many cats complaining about paying child support, yet they have money to hang out 3-4 nites a week, in the club, tossing bills to strippers and wasting money all over town, but don't have time for their own children, theirr own blood...its sad....makes you wonder how our children make it anywhere in the world today when they aren't loved in their own home....WE NEED TO FIX THIS, TIME FOR BROTHAS TO BE STRAIGHT WITH EACH OTHER
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:eek:Couldn't say it better myself..damn:lol:
 
FLboi said:
i tried so hard to be there for the lil dude in the beginning she turned me and my wife away, told us to leave the shit at the door so i say FUCKEM ALL...you can call me a db dad all you want ya dig, she get a healthy check every fucking month which taking away from my wife and kid. I hate to be this way about my situation but i know how she is and i refuse to give her the upper hand. I'll never show any emotion towards her son. by doing that she'd see a way to use him against me, i'd be more pissed if she told me it was going to rain tomorrow then if she was to tell me i'll never hear or see them again. She told me she was having this baby for her, she dont need shit, turn around her hands were out just as quick as she could write the email. She gave the poor boy 4 damn ghetto ass names, lil man will never be able to write his name on a paper and use one line.

Do i think about him yes everytime i want to take my wife out or do something for my lil one and i have to ask my wife for money.
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I'm a father. If my wife and I got divorced I don't care how mad i am at her...WHY TAKE IT OUT ON HIM.

Are you so weak you can't show your child that you are responsible, that you are a man? You putting your hate of her on him and all he will probably ever want is for you to acknowledge him. Real men step up no matter what. Loyalty is being there in the good times AND the bad.

I hope all your boys and your wife run away from your sorry ass as fast as possible. Because you've shown that when times are slightly tough you drop to your knees faster than a $5 hooker. Bitch ass.
 
Re: All you Absentee Dads Explain

Good to see that most of you do it like Furious:

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.......I aint in for no garbage
I'm tryna live with my kids
till they least go to college
can I handle all the problems
all the screaming and hollin'
And the feelings all hurt
cause the shit didn't work.
Yo
It aint a sport
when you sittin in court
All the child support papers
and vindictive nature gets real
Penalize your ass for trying
Got ur bizness in front of the beast the bitch lyin
And they believing
wake from this night mare
screaming for life wheres..
the credit for a man tryin to do whats right:smh:

Will have you stressed with a bottle and a pistol
Handcuffed to a woman full of issues.....
:smh::smh::smh::smh::smh:​
 
femmenoire said:
Because generally if men don't love the woman they have a child with, then they don't love the child.

Women on the other hand, can be raped by a stranger, get pregnant and still love the child nonetheless.
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This is bullshit also...

And women walk off from thier babies,
leave them at the fire stations or on hospital steps,
throw them in dumpsters, allow niggas who aint they daddies to
beat them to death with x-box controllers all the time...

ANd these are babies from dudes they "loved"..


If a baby dont fit the plan she thinks life owes her, baby be damned..
 
Other than not wanting to go to school your son is doing well for his age.
Teach him to marry the woman he has kids with.
Teach him to choose a good woman to marry.
Keep paying what you owe though.
You made your bed now lay in it.

coolnmellow said:
I've got a story. My 19 year old son is enrolled in college courses 9 hours to be exact. He also has a full time job that pays him $24 an hour. I am still paying his Mom $1300 a month child support because he is considered a full time student. In Missouri cases you pay until they are 22 years old or drop out of school. He does not want to go to school but his mom pays for Juco. My other partner is paying child support for a grandchild because his son got a girl pregnant and he is 16 and a minor. The courts make the parents pay. I have a great relationship with my son but he does not want to make his Mom mad so he plays the game.
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man I've heard too many horror story's too many bitches listening to they down and out user ass hoes ass trifling ass no good ass girl friends. Too many niggahs listing to they shitty ass, dead beat ass, fucked up home boy's, and most importantly people who use the environment they grew up in as an excuse instead of just looking at the best interest of a child. I was lucky my mom and dad who got along pretty decent after their divorce because of me.....i always had food shelter and clothing and never wanted for shit. Sometimes it was rough but when i wanted or needed something my parents came TOGETHER for my sake and got it done. My father i know for a fact was broke for years after the divorce but he worked several jobs so i could be straight. My moms was not that bad because we lived with my grandma so she had some padding, but she also worked 12 hour shifts.


I said all that to say there would be a lot more good parents if muhfuckas would put they petty ass feelings aside and think of they fuckin kids, and also all yall folks with baby fathers and mothers....stop telling your fuckin kids how shitty they mom or dad is.....if they around let them fuckin be around and you shut the fuck up....because a father or a mother is God in the eyes of those children....if they mother or father is that bad they will realize it themselves and talk to you about it :yes:
 
femmenoire said:
Because generally if men don't love the woman they have a child with, then they don't love the child.

Women on the other hand, can be raped by a stranger, get pregnant and still love the child nonetheless.
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Bullshit. I know plenty of women that hate the child's father always saying: "You ain't shit!! Just like your bitch ass daddy"!!

It's human nature, and women are humans. Wildly emotional ones too. :smh::smh:
 
rahra816 said:
what about dead beat moms i dont see no topic of discussion for that ...ive read some of the stories on here and they all seem to have similiar women in common...women using the children to hinder the pops sad situation

I believe its to the point now where if you have a baby with a women thats not your wife you are basically signing half ye company away ..fucc that...I suppose im too selfish in some eyes ....but women who rant and rave about child support dont have the kids best interest in mind and speaking from a father with kids in another state its hard to holla at them lil nuccas like you want especially when you separte from they moms when they young.... phone conversation be limited (i know in my situation) and boys you got to win them lil nuccas over they like girls you can say a few things ending with "i love you" what about when the moms dont be promoting the kids to call you ...or say "dad i got the shyt you sent us" then the men become bitter and start looking at the situation for what it is ...just some kids you pay for....TRAGEDY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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PLASMA CANNON said:
It's Simple Really Thoes Dudes Are Not Real Men
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Exactly. Paying your child support does not make you a father, and if the woman is giving you a hard time save up some money & take HER ass to court to get your visitation. It is so simple. Quit making excuses. That's your blood :smh:
 
Nothing good come out of paying child support. it ruins a man's life. that's how the system set it up to be. so all these sista's and brothers that talk that about take care of youre kids dont know shit there are lots of men that take good care of there kids that was put into the system because of some bitter bitch just to fuck it up for a man.







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followup said:
Exactly. Paying your child support does not make you a father, and if the woman is giving you a hard time save up some money & take HER ass to court to get your visitation. It is so simple. Quit making excuses. That's your blood :smh:
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The state picks up the check to prosecute fathers. Why should men have to come outta pocket to make the mother do whats right? For c/s to work it has to be redefined, you cant tell me pay or go to prison and in the same breath tell me to to hire a attorney and hope for the best when the mother is fucking up.
 
Great thread, somebody (NOT ME, somebody else :smh:) ought post a link to it on SOL and see what the ladies have to say.

You think they're willing to see it from the man's POV, or is it just gonna be :angry: :angry: :angry:
 
My Seeds live outta state, But I do seem at least 6 times a year, And have em for the summer, Phone calls 3 to 4 times a week... No Problems
 
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