Been abstinent for almost a year now. I broke up with my last girlfriend and had a row of VERY bad luck, including one woman who pulled out a crack pipe the moment we got to her crib.
After a while I realized that LTR's and one night stands where the main things holding me back in my life. I refocused, saved my money, now I'm in college and living in Oakland, California (the latter being a life long dream of mine).
Sometimes it's hard, especially when I'm surrounded by all those fine East Bay women, then again, I also see quite a few of my classmates going through the same shit I did. Making commitments ridiculously young and unprepared, constantly cutting class to fight with them on the phone. I've had wives openly badmouth their men to me, try to seduce me. There's even one chick from Canada who constantly phones me leaving all these weird voice mails and she's a week away from having a baby.
I don't believe in God, but if s/he exists I then there's clearly a cosmic message here: "Don't fuck 'em don't trust 'em, don't talk to them, don't look at them, don't even think about looking at them. They are evil and unclean."