I’m going to start off by saying this isn’t to bash overweight women, or say they’re bad people or unworthy of love. This is completely about FACT, STATISTIC, and being HONEST about how weight impacts your dating pool and choices tremendously.
If youre an overweight black woman, it’s harder to get a man of good quality. Of course you’ll still have men that fetishize you because you’re fat, or they think they can easily use you. Of course there are some exceptions that do get married and have a man regardless, but this isn’t the rule — and the average 250-300lb black woman isn’t walking around with a decent, loving boyfriend let alone husband.
MOST men; yes even black men, because I’ve seen people try to peddle the BS that BM prefer overweight women or are more comfortable with it then their white and non YT counterparts — but that’s not true. Most black men do like “thick” bodies that are shapely and curvy but still not fast; most overweight women — especially when you’re ridiculously overweight are NOT shapely. There are some but most fat girls are misshapen. And even when you’re shapely, when you get too big to a point you just still look LARGE.
I have a girlfriend who I’ve been cool with since Middle school and she’s educated, has a beautiful face, kind, works out, has her own home and car — but she’s overweight. So the majority of her boyfriends have either used her, don’t like her very much or she goes with men who are underemployed, or men who have fat fetishes, or men who ONLY want to sleep with her and get their rocks off and not show her in public. She’s tried to lose weight for years but because of her being sedentary and not wanting to work out to her eating a terrible diet - she never truly loses weight.
Same with another friend of mine who I met throughout college & is my current coworker too. Beautiful in the face. Classy. Comes from a Jack and Jill background. Well spoken. But she constantly has a history of dating abus!ve men whether they be financially abusive or emotionally abusive (“I never wanted your fat a** anyway”) type of comments.
Studies show women in GENERAL, including white women are married LESS when they are obese or overweight.
If you want a good quality man or to be married at some point, YOU HAVE TO LOSE WEIGHT.
And I’m not talking about a little chunky or average sized either I’m talking about the women who are overweight and obese.
EVEN if you aren’t trying to get a man or looking for one or even if you want to stay single, HEALTH IS WEALTH. As black women are more prone to heart disease, diabetes, cholesterol issues and this risk especially heightens when you throw in being overweight.
And in my humble opinion, lots of women — not even just black women but women for all groups are in denial about how unhealthy they are. People think “feeling fine” or being “comfortable” with your own body as an overweight person is all you need to do but it’s not. The body positive movement has especially pushed women of all races to accept their fatness and basque in it as long as they’re comfortable and feel fine because “no one can judge you”. But the harsh reality is you are judged for your appearance and weight in the dating world.
LOSE THE WEIGHT.
Besides, as we get older being obese/overweight isn’t the move anyways. I’m in my early 30s but I can’t tell you how many people I know my age that have serious joint pain, back pain, or diabetes/blood pressure issues from being overweight throughout most of their life.
