So if a black woman married a white man, she should no longer be concerned about the state of black relationships. Right?
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So if a black woman married a white man, she should no longer be concerned about the state of black relationships. Right?
LoneStar29
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I knew you weren't gonna answer her lmao
You call me angry every chance you get on the front page ... its funny cuz of the behavior you exhibit every chance you get when you see a female post
You aren't too far off from them other guys you know? Just sayin
Are you going to answer or deflect?
And find where I said you were angry........I think you got me confused with someone else.
Nevermind. Don't answer it. I'm done with this post. I see why this was posted on this side of BGOL.
I'm a SGL, and the thread was made about dating. Something i have experience in and was quite successful with. Now. Your turn to answer my question please.
Just because I'm married, doesn't mean I shouldn't post about the on goings with men and women. But it doesn't matter anymore. I'm done with this thread. Wheeee, you win.
Awwww babe-come on now! Dont do us like that?
I probably should go back and re read all of what is going on-because everyone lost me.
This......
I probably should go back and re read all of what is going on-because everyone lost me.
This......
That's a noble concept, and I'm saying this as far as every woman, regardless of race, color, ethnic background, etc. - Do you really think EVERY woman you come across has no game or scheme whatsoever? Some, if not most women get off on that chivalrous gentlemanly attitude a lot of dudes try to put forward on dates and take advantage.
And Mel... *Kanye Shrug* stuff happens.
Ok, serious questions for the guys in this thread....
1. Is it your opinion that there should be no dates at all, or do you think that women should reevaluate their idea of a good date?
2. What would YOU say is a good date (if you think dates should be gone on)
3. If you think that women should change their idea of what a date is, how does that mesh with the idea that men often put forth of "women get treated like crap because they allow men to treat them like crap. If they expected more, men would step up"?
4. If you think that dates are just a way for a woman to get a free meal from a guy, and most women don't deserve that because you don't even "know them like that" or "know that they're worth spending money on", how else do you suggest getting to know someone? If you met your significant other in college, obviously that's a singular living experience that is not applicable to the rest of your life. Are you suggesting that people go straight from talking on the phone or whatever to being in a committed relationship?
Answers please.
1. Is it your opinion that there should be no dates at all, or do you think that women should reevaluate their idea of a good date?
2. What would YOU say is a good date (if you think dates should be gone on)
3. If you think that women should change their idea of what a date is, how does that mesh with the idea that men often put forth of "women get treated like crap because they allow men to treat them like crap. If they expected more, men would step up"?
4. If you think that dates are just a way for a woman to get a free meal from a guy, and most women don't deserve that because you don't even "know them like that" or "know that they're worth spending money on", how else do you suggest getting to know someone? If you met your significant other in college, obviously that's a singular living experience that is not applicable to the rest of your life. Are you suggesting that people go straight from talking on the phone or whatever to being in a committed relationship?
Answers please.
LoneStar29
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You didn't answer the initial question then are gonna try to call ME out for deflecting
Yeah it was posted on THIS side to keep the convo mature and hopefully keep the bitter negative people out but
Okthanksbye
I wasn't. If I didn't see that "thing" in you, no date. For me, dating was for relationship building. I can hang out with my friends. For me to spend money, we had to be onto something. By a first date, me and a woman would have spend a LOT of time talking and getting to know each other.
^^ Hmmm so i am getting incite on males view of dating. Hmmmmm. But to add a side note. lol And this is meant and intended as a BIT of a jab to the fellas. Just in playful manner. Many of you wonder why a lesbian can come in and swoop up a woman like they can. Many of those answers can be traced back to some of the responses from guys in threads like this.
naww.. dont no woman turn gay.... its pre programmed in yall..... they be looking for excuses to DYKE when in actuality they just GAY and afraid to come out and be REAL.. so they make excuses as to why they turn 2 puss... " my man aint do this, he did this, he dont do that" = translation " I want to bump pussys with a bitch becuz she can treat me like shit just like a nigga can"...... YACE
naww.. dont no woman turn gay.... its pre programmed in yall..... they be looking for excuses to DYKE when in actuality they just GAY and afraid to come out and be REAL.. so they make excuses as to why they turn 2 puss... " my man aint do this, he did this, he dont do that" = translation " I want to bump pussys with a bitch becuz she can treat me like shit just like a nigga can"...... YACE
Hmm, maybe. Maybe not. Or maybe she had always wondered about it. Never did anything about it until the opportunity came along. And when it did come along her guy she was talking too had the mindset of "she doesn't need to be treated special. I'm going to keep doing what i do ya know. Cuz i'm a G about minez! Ya hurd meh!?" And the other woman says let me take you out. Show you a nice time. Treat you special.
It's just an OR. Another perspective.
Don't go by me. I meet very few men that approach women like I do. Even with my wife, if she didn't speak to me first, we would have never gone out in the first place. I always thought I was introverted but I've found out that people take it as arrogance. Not that care to change though. I got what I wanted.
No, laziness killed it. And ironically the internet.
Wow...uh...I have some oatmeal pies!
Hey I'm still waiting on some answers from dudes. I'm not even touching this one with my thoughts; I'm intrigued.
Isn't this usually what happens?
naww.. dont no woman turn gay.... its pre programmed in yall..... they be looking for excuses to DYKE when in actuality they just GAY and afraid to come out and be REAL.. so they make excuses as to why they turn 2 puss... " my man aint do this, he did this, he dont do that" = translation " I want to bump pussys with a bitch becuz she can treat me like shit just like a nigga can"...... YACE
Uh...I got carrot cake too!
Why are you offering them dessert?
I consider you and just about every other guys opinion about the same in this thread, except for the 1 guy. I forget his name. But you guys all had about the same ...GENERAL idea. Which has been enlightening to me. I'm like hmmmm.
Sugar makes everything better?
If you have nothing nice to say say nothing at all?
Uh...
Help me out here...
*light bulb
If you hear shit, sweet can cover it up long enough for you to get a broom.
lol Oh. Ok. *puts a lil icing on your nose*
*Desperately tries to see if she has a tongue like Menage
right ... how did this become a thread on women killed it???
Dude ... you do sound very bitter from your experiences or things you perceive to be going on around you ...
We can say a lot of things have "killed" dating ... not just women, men, the internet, or whatever . it was a culmination of various elements ...
Too many misguided youth grow up into disillusioned and bitter adults ... If these kids never saw their mother or father actually date .. how will they know how to date .. half of us (yes I said us) are figuring it out as we go along. There is no one set guide for dating . What floats your boat may be a sinker for mine.
But it doesn't matter what I say, I read EJD
Damn, I go to work and miss a lot.
Lil Momma I don't think it should go from A to Z quickly, but let's be real, there's a lot of weeding out to be done to find a mate, if that is one's aim. I can only speak from my experiences and my conclusion is I'm just tired of pointless dates and chatter.
And Mel don't be shaking your head at me
Lil Momma I don't think it should go from A to Z quickly, but let's be real, there's a lot of weeding out to be done to find a mate, if that is one's aim. I can only speak from my experiences and my conclusion is I'm just tired of pointless dates and chatter.
And Mel don't be shaking your head at me
No but the gf does. lol
But it doesn't matter what I say, I read EJD
And Mel don't be shaking your head at me
Shy I was worried about you! I don't want you to be some lonely bitter old man with 20 dogs just because you grew this warped opinion on women and dating.
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Mind Bender! Six Flags Over Georgia!!! What you know bout dem apples!?!
Sorry...got carried away there...the crevices that tongue could find...
The crevices they DO find. heh heh
I don't like dogs. lol
Awwwww Shy, *group hug*
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Isn't this usually what happens?
Not from what I've seen but it could be. A first date for me was not an "audition" or a "feeling out" type thing. If we went out, we were building toward a relationship.
Interesting. I might read the thread now.
I can pull out the Huggbees again.
See this was my expectation. My parents were the same. They knew each other and by the time they went out they were building a relationship.
Strange enough they met when my father went on a blind date for my mothers sisters (aunt) future husbands sister. But he had a thing for me moms and kept making excuses to see her, (like getting his hair done). So the dates went good they have been married for 33 years. Not saying such a formula works for everyone but...trust me it's very plausible.
Is a guy date-able if he does not have a car (or does not plan on getting one soon) but does have his own apartment. My "friend"
Be brutally honest.
Not having your own car or apartment / house / whatever doesn't dictate the dateability of a man or woman.
I personally think the drive to own or rent one when you don't have one at all factors in whether or not you get a second date...
...I know someone who stopped seeing someone because they worked two jobs trying to move to a better apartment. Instead of staying with him to be like "You can do better" or "Let's work through this together" she left him cause they didn't have enough time to see each other...unless he really wasn't feeling her...dunno...it's complicated...
...scratch that last part...
Is a guy date-able if he does not have a car (or does not plan on getting one soon) but does have his own apartment. My "friend"
Be brutally honest.
I think it might depend on both where you are, and what the girl's situation is. I, for instance, don't have a car, but I live in DC where there's a fairly reliable and easily accessible Metro system. So for me, it wouldn't matter if the guy didn't have a car, because we could basically get to where we needed to go via Metro or cab. However, if I was home in Michigan, where public transportation is non-existent and so you must drive everywhere, I could see it getting tiresome for one person (girl or guy) to always have to do all the driving to see each other.
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