How to Date.

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Guys get with these dingbat women and then want to take it out on all women. If a chick tells you she won't be with you because you don't have a car? Cease speaking with her. Right quick on the double. As a matter of fact. If a chick says this to you, do like that gif of the cat who fell in the water. And move at break neck speeds. This is a dingbat.

Her reasons. Are hers though. It may be a status symbol to her. It may mean you can't take care of her. It may mean you can't give her what she wants.

That may be all well and good. BUT. If that's her reason for not being with you? Then she doesn't value ANY THING ELSE You are. And you should move around. Her priorities are screwed up.

 

[bootlegga]

Are you 1 of those people who gets into relationships instead of dating? Do you have alot of dating experience and can share some insight? Let us know here. What are your ideas? What SHOULD dating be like vs what it is like?

What do you believe dating even MEANS?

hmm.

usually i don't date. i live near nyc, and i, point blank, can't afford to date most women here. (FWIW, i have a job. not good enough to afford the usual sbw here). however, someone who i think, is worth it (after more than a few convos). So i'm giving it 110%. when i have the money, i try to come up with stuff to do. it also helps that she's not a bougie chick. Dunkin Donuts iced coffee, walking around the park and spending time means a lot to her (from what i've experienced).


a date...TO ME, the thing is if i'm actually doing a 'date', its because i think she has potential. So it's more of a thing that she gets to know more about me, and i get to know more about her. it's to put together an experience that makes me stand out (in a positive way) in her mind, in her subconscious. this can be done by spending 100 bucks on some ritzy ass restaurant... or maybe using some ingenuity and shit.

for example, doing a miniature golf in a park, followed by restaurant in a quiet area in walking distance (i don't know nothing about any picnic shit, sorry). Maybe if you know that she has a favorite flower, showing up with that flower when you see her (if you can find it). i dunno, some shit like that. i don't consider a date being the club, that's lazy ass bullshit.


i've read some of the fellas answers, and it don't sound bitter, it just sounds reserved and guarded. probably because like women value their body...men nowadays value their time, and their money. many dudes don't see the point in spending time and money on someone that they aren't going to get a return on (whether it be ass, or relationship, depends on the dude).

 

[Cleopatra_J]

Is a guy date-able if he does not have a car (or does not plan on getting one soon) but does have his own apartment. My "friend" ) has missed out on a lot of pussy because of this.

Be brutally honest.

Like someone else said it allll depends on location.. Where I live in NJ I feel you need a car to be able to do all that you need/want to do .. If you don't have 1 I'd hope that you'd have a desire to have 1. But I work in nyc so if I met a guy who lived there I wouldn't expect him to have a car because of how much they rely on public trans and how readily accessible it is. Even in areas of NJ that border nyc you don't need a car, but its nice to have...

 

[mailboxpimp]

"dating" you............. has NOTHING ........... to do with me meeting your children

just because were dating dont mean that im required to "HELP" you with your rent / utilities or even gas money too & from......

& dont as k me to help you pay for the baby sitter!!!!! your kids are your responsibility... not OURS!
major reason why i dont fuck with women that got kidz..... too many fucking problems!!!! if i cant hit & keep it movin then

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Well....different perspectives are certainly welcome. But how do you see dating? What do you consider to be "dating"?

 

[soulcontroller]

Wooaaahh .. while I am not a Zane fan .. I think you cannot characterize her books and EJD's books in the same category .. he actually weaves a story and interesting characters .. I happen to like EJD .. and I also read some of everything .. my to read list will have books from EJD to Richard Wright to Bret Easton Ellis (who I'm in fact currently reading) and the book prior to this was a fiction book based on the Vel d'Hiv and prior to that it was the Shack by W.M Young ..

You're being awfully judgmental of people in your initial assumptions.. I would be offended if a guy didn't think I was worthy of attention for one book I'm buying ... but i'd also take it as he's not worth my time if he's that quick to judge

women and men all are quick to judgement on certain things they deem as a big no no. If I saw a bitch in the bookstore with a Zane or EJD book I would probably think less of her as well, but if she's attractive give her the opportunity to find out if she's a dumb ass bitch primed for fucking or not.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

 

[dHustla]

@ the bolded

But at the rest there are some chicks who would like that...I mean just the companion part.

I noticed that some chicks are on the 'diva' rag and they think they are the shit so they need you to pick them up, pay for the food, buy them a new bag, fix food at the house, etc. I ain't down for that bullshit. These people are playing themselves, they want a do boy and not a man that will put his foot down and say chick ill buy you a bag if you buy me these shoes of equal or more value. Or I can front you on dinner tonight but come saturday you better in in front of my door with some crab legs and sasusages and corn ready to throw down. It's too much damn take these days and not enough give, or even the expectation to give. What makes it worse though is that dudes don't want to explain to the chick that she is not entitled to EVERYTHING and that she has to work for it. So she left looking like the dumbass she is cusing you out and goes on to the next dude do the same damn thing and then cry to her friends "men are bitches! the last three left me at the golden buffet with the fake sushi! he cant even afford real fish!" smh

and watch out for those girls that say i dont normally date guys like you but stay looking at your keys, shoes, and hang on words like business, house, condo, work, idea, and partner.


you gotta take it slow. go eat n talk about yyour childhood. you can get there seperately but dude pay first chilvary.

next time she pay but you go to dave n busters or something. hell go to the zoo, volunteer together. its important to see how people act in public. bring them to a family function outside first if you feeling it like that. escalate to cooking at home for reals. its about getting to know someone for them not oh he not really my typr but he got a condo. or but he has no golds in his mouth or oo girl he got a house. be the kind of dater that know shit like he allergic to honey or she traumatized by styrofoam. If you can get there you might have something.

 

[mailboxpimp]

lotta cheap ass niggaahz feel some type of way about how much they spend on a breakfast / lunch/ dinner date!

I go where I like the food! Good food & good service! Ill take a date to a place where I feel comfortable & I know Ill enjoy myself. If she likes it... then thats all the better!

I dnt understand the logic behind an exspensive meal ( whatever tat means) & feeling like she OWES you some pussy! that is clearly some bitch ass iggaah shit!

 

[mailboxpimp]

A major problem is ....
most men & women do not kow how to maintain platonic frendship relatioships with memeber of the opposite sex!

women can not negotiate the terms of a relationship with a man WHILE fucking said dude!

just because we started fucking 3 - 4 weeks after we met doesnt mean we are friends! All it means is we are fucking, I talk to you just about everyday, & I like you! None of that make us friends!

 

[dHustla]

[emoji38] @ the bolded

But at the rest there are some chicks who would like that...I mean just the companion part.

I noticed that some chicks are on the 'diva' rag and they think they are the shit so they need you to pick them up, pay for the food, buy them a new bag, fix food at the house, etc. I ain't down for that bullshit. These people are playing themselves, they want a do boy and not a man that will put his foot down and say chick ill buy you a bag if you buy me these shoes of equal or more value. Or I can front you on dinner tonight but come saturday you better in in front of my door with some crab legs and sasusages and corn ready to throw down. It's too much damn take these days and not enough give, or even the expectation to give. What makes it worse though is that dudes don't want to explain to the chick that she is not entitled to EVERYTHING and that she has to work for it. So she left looking like the dumbass she is cusing you out and goes on to the next dude do the same damn thing and then cry to her friends "men are bitches! the last three left me at the golden buffet with the fake sushi! he cant even afford real fish!" smh

and watch out for those girls that say i dont normally date guys like you but stay looking at your keys, shoes, and hang on words like business, house, condo, work, idea, and partner.


you gotta take it slow. go eat n talk about yyour childhood. you can get there seperately but dude pay first chilvary.

next time she pay but you go to dave n busters or something. hell go to the zoo, volunteer together. its important to see how people act in public. bring them to a family function outside first if you feeling it like that. escalate to cooking at home for reals. its about getting to know someone for them not oh he not really my typr but he got a condo. or but he has no golds in his mouth or oo girl he got a house. be the kind of dater that know shit like he allergic to honey or she traumatized by styrofoam. If you can get there you might have something.

@ Bolded..
Oh, I explain! Just not very smooth, I'm blunt as the fuck. And they don't like that, it scares em away.


They want a nigga that's gon LIE to em, make it sound FLY to em!

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[playahaitian]