Are A Majority Of Women Lame When It Comes To Men?

[jwilliam85]

I hear a lot of niggas talking about having game and we had the whole Mouthpiece Vs. Looks disscusion. But am I the only one noticing that a lot of chicks have no mouthpiece whatsover and that their main game is just looking good and hoping a nigga come scoop them up and marry them. They seem to just wait for a dude to say something but some don't even know how to let a dude know that they feeling him. A lot of women expect that you know when she is ready. Women will not go out of their way like men do to find their ideal men. So I guess it's all on us niggas to go out here and open our mouth and holla.

 

[thighsneyez22]

I would say that this "shyness", as I would like to call it, evolved from women shying away from damaging the fragile male ego.

You see, often times, a woman that does make the first move is labeled forward or fast.

I guess it's because some men believe if this lady had the courage to step to them with any type of easy or finesse- they imagine her having initiated conversations (and more) with scores of other men.

That idea doesn't sit easy with some men. So to keep the male psyche at ease, some of us find it easier to let the men think that they chose us.

 

[DJCandle]

Women are born with vaginas. By default they are excluded from the approach because we have what they want. Couple that with ego, insecurity, and a lifetime of being put on the pedestal with the, "you're a queen, you're a princess, you don't have to work for shit" notion embedded in their brains, and there you have it. There's no need to present an approach, because 9 times out of 10 one will be provided.

The solution to this mental state? Money.

While it may seem shallow, it holds very true. It shakes the very foundation they're built on and nothing commands more respect than that. Get that paper, and they will approach. No matter how much they may not want to or know how.

 

[Mt. Yukon]

I would say that this "shyness", as I would like to call it, evolved from women shying away from damaging the fragile male ego.

You see, often times a woman that does make the first move is labeled forward or fast.

I guess it's because some men believe if this lady had the courage to step to them with any type of easy or finesse- they imagine her having initiated conversations (and more) with scores of other men.

That idea doesn't sit easy with some men. So to keep the male psyche at easy, some of us find it easier to let the men think that they chose us.

Ungh hungh... Whatever you wanna tell yourself to justify that most females are so insecure that they wont approach because of the chance the guy may not be interested... Or that most females are indeed... BORING. So they dont know what to say to guy to gain his attention for longer than a glimpse to size her up. Most females are just good at looking good and little else.

 

[spicykjun]

I would say that this "shyness", as I would like to call it, evolved from women shying away from damaging the fragile male ego.

You see, often times a woman that does make the first move is labeled forward or fast.

I guess it's because some men believe if this lady had the courage to step to them with any type of easy or finesse- they imagine her having initiated conversations (and more) with scores of other men.

That idea doesn't sit easy with some men. So to keep the male psyche at easy, some of us find it easier to let the men think that they chose us.

point lotta insecure niggaz these days but 2b truthful it seems everyone is insecure these days except for the narcissistic

 

[4North1Side2]

Nope, they just don't like you.

Black women approach me with no problem it seems as long as I don't have the face.

 

[curryshotta]

I would say that this "shyness", as I would like to call it, evolved from women shying away from damaging the fragile male ego.

You see, often times a woman that does make the first move is labeled forward or fast.

I guess it's because some men believe if this lady had the courage to step to them with any type of easy or finesse- they imagine her having initiated conversations (and more) with scores of other men.

That idea doesn't sit easy with some men. So to keep the male psyche at easy, some of us find it easier to let the men think that they chose us.

that is part of it. I have heard some(very few) men with this reasoning.


but it is a VERY SMALL part of it.


For the most part men are more easy going than women. If even average looking broads were to go and talk to guys the reception would not be chilly.

after all, its just a conversation.

 

[True Real Info]

Ungh hungh... Whatever you wanna tell yourself to justify that most females are so insecure that they wont approach because of the chance the guy may not be interested... Or that most females are indeed... BORING. So they dont know what to say to guy to gain his attention for longer than a glimpse to size her up. Most females are just good at looking good and little else.

 

[thighsneyez22]

Ungh hungh... Whatever you wanna tell yourself to justify that most females are so insecure that they wont approach because of the chance the guy may not be interested... Or that most females are indeed... BORING. So they dont know what to say to guy to gain his attention for longer than a glimpse to size her up. Most females are just good at looking good and little else.

Id like to submit that an approach doesn't necessarily have to take the form of a physical approach (me moving my body from my space to your space and engaging you).

An approach can be a manner in which you garner attention. More than just looks, it can be a look, an inviting smile.

...but you don't hear me though.

 

[Twistyaaliyah]

Fairytale syndrome and The whole "the man must make the first step" syndrome.

Fact is...all most women do now a days is focus on looking good...and not on how to have a good conversation which isn't about the usual cliche topics u see on television with a man.

I saw some bullshit on tyra the other night. She is saying that there are Three words to get a man to like you : " You are hot"

 

[SaKem]

Women are born with vaginas. By default they are excluded from the approach because we have what they want. Couple that with ego, insecurity, and a lifetime of being put on the pedestal with the, "you're a queen, you're a princess, you don't have to work for shit" notion embedded in their brains, and there you have it. There's no need to present an approach, because 9 times out of 10 one will be provided.

The solution to this mental state? Money.

While it may seem shallow, it holds very true. It shakes the very foundation they're built on and nothing commands more respect than that. Get that paper, and they will approach. No matter how much they may not want to or know how.

Yep C/S

 

[andusay]

There are many women out there with zero personality. It's a sad thing but true. They focus so much on the physical they rarely have time to focus on anything else. There was a line in The Last Temptation of Christ which made a shit load of sense. The "angel" tells Jesus to go inside with Mary's sister which was just flirting with him and telling him to go inside for a little while. He didn't want to at first but the "angel" told him," There is only one woman with a million faces." (or something to that effect). For the most part, this is true. It isn't even their fault and that's the saddest part of it all. Society and a white male dominated mindset has objectified women and made them something one should only oggle and praise for beauty. Most men accept that and pretty much only go for looks. Although there are many men nowadays who realize sometimes its better to get with an 8 who has much more to offer than just looks than a 10 with absolutely nothing else to offer.

 

[Mt. Yukon]

Id like to submit that an approach doesn't necessarily have to take the form of a physical approach (me moving my body from my space to your space and engaging you).

An approach can be a manner in which you garner attention. More that just looks, it can be a look, an inviting smile.

...but you don't hear me though.

On the contrary, I understand you completely. I have to play the game, but I still see flaws in it. Yes I understand that playing "eyetag," a smile, a "look," her walking close to you with out saying something is her telling you she wants your attention. But sometimes Ill ignore them just to see if they have the guts to speak. Those little "games" are for the birds, miss me with that shit. All you have to do is say hello and Ill do the rest, but some of you cant even do that. It seems like the vast majority of females overlook the fact that the ratio in most public places are atleast 2 to 1, so why play coy when you have more competition than I do???

 

[Blu Diablo]

point lotta insecure niggaz these days but 2b truthful it seems everyone is insecure these days except for the narcissistic

Mann the narcissistic one are generally the most insecure.

I would say that this "shyness", as I would like to call it, evolved from women shying away from damaging the fragile male ego.

You see, often times a woman that does make the first move is labeled forward or fast.

I guess it's because some men believe if this lady had the courage to step to them with any type of easy or finesse- they imagine her having initiated conversations (and more) with scores of other men.

That idea doesn't sit easy with some men. So to keep the male psyche at easy, some of us find it easier to let the men think that they chose us.

As a counter-point: I have a lot of female friends, the majority of them are attractive and decently educated. What I find surprising is that most of them are exceptionally socially awkward when it comes to dealing with dudes so they rely on the "let him approach me" mantle because they fail outside of that scenario.

Fairytale syndrome and The whole "the man must make the first step" syndrome.

Fact is...all most women do now a days is focus on looking good...and not on how to have a good conversation which isn't about the usual cliche topics u see on television with a man.

Fair amount of truth here

Id like to submit that an approach doesn't necessarily have to take the form of a physical approach (me moving my body from my space to your space and engaging you).

An approach can be a manner in which you garner attention. More that just looks, it can be a look, an inviting smile.

...but you don't hear me though.

You can't continue to play little girl games and expect to be taken seriously as a grown woman.

 

[DeSiRe]

someone said it earlier...

women are conditioned to be passive or allow themselves to be prey when it comes to men

the aggressive ones are looked at like whores and often intimating

i think most men prefer a woman without a mouthpiece

 

[thighsneyez22]

On the contrary, I understand you completely. I have to play the game, but I still see flaws in it. Yes I understand that playing "eyetag," a smile, a "look," her walking close to you with out saying something is her telling you she wants your attention. But sometimes Ill ignore them just to see if they have the guts to speak. Those little "games" are for the birds, miss me with that shit. All you have to do is say hello and Ill do the rest, but some of you cant even do that. It seems like the vast majority of females overlook the fact that the ratio in most public places are at least 2 to 1, so why play coy when you have more competition than I do???

duly noted, kind sir, duly noted

But what is to be said of the chase?

Was it not once touted as a thrill?

Maybe writer Helen Rowland said it best: “A man is like a cat; chase him and he will run - Sit still and ignore him and he'll come purring at your feet”

 

[DAYNE]

Nope, they just don't like you.

Black women approach me with no problem it seems as long as I don't have the face.

or the interest isn't that strong

If the interest is strong enough, they will approach, and if not they won't.

 

[DJCandle]

duly noted, kind sir, duly noted

But what is to be said of the chase?

Was it not once touted as a thrill?

Maybe writer Helen Rowland said it best: “A man is like a cat; chase him and he will run - Sit still and ignore him and he'll come purring at your feet”

The chase has more importance than the end result?

 

[RoadRage]

Woman of all races are all pretty similar, the biggest difference are of course the religious and cultural differenes and how women of a homogenious society tend not to date outside their race. The biggest thing I can point out about black women, is that they tend to all a more ridged notion of what an ideal man is, and they tend to be less diverse than us guys, meaning you have a whole lot of women trying to get a hand full of guys. And unlike us, many women would rather get played out, dogged and even used rather then drop their standareds or explore a different option with us guys.
Funny when they do realize that they are chasing a dream and a change is in order, they sometimes go to the extreame and wind up dating other women, or white guys. Some would rather go that rout than date black guys out side the parameters of what they feel a perfect man is.
Another thing many young black women tend to over evaluate their looks, got 5's thinking in their heart, they are at least a good 9, its almost like they are convinced that their looks is the only thing they have to offer, and rather that deal with who they are, they'll rather lie to themselves and others, to make themselves feel more acceptable.

 

[LegalMoney]

I may be following aging tenet, but I was always taught that if you see a woman you're interested in, you say something. If she's not feeling you, that chick's loss.

I know I'm a picky cat, so I have no problems doing such. More likely than not the women that stepped to me I wasn't feeling them; be it physically, socially, intellectually.

IMO a woman shouldn't have to step to a man because if she does than dude probably isn't feeling her... Of course if he hasn't seen her yet, and she's been eye stalking him, try the subtle shit like get within his field of vision and try to initiate some inviting eye contact...

If she does all that and homeboy notices it AND hasn't got the guts to step to her, then she probably shouldn't be fucking with that nigga anyway

 

[DAYNE]

Woman of all races are all pretty similar, the biggest difference are of course the religious and cultural differenes and how women of a homogenious society tend not to date outside their race. The biggest thing I can point out about black women, is that they tend to all a more ridged notion of what an ideal man is, and they tend to be less diverse than us guys, meaning you have a whole lot of women trying to get a hand full of guys. And unlike us, many women would rather get played out, dogged and even used rather then drop their standareds or explore a different option with us guys.
Funny when they do realize that they are chasing a dream and a change is in order, they sometimes go to the extreame and wind up dating other women, or white guys. Some would rather go that rout than date black guys out side the parameters of what they feel a perfect man is.
Another thing many young black women tend to over evaluate their looks, got 5's thinking in their heart, they are at least a good 9, its almost like they are convinced that their looks is the only thing they have to offer, and rather that deal with who they are, they'll rather lie to themselves and others, to make themselves feel more acceptable.

80/20 Rule....

The other shit was real talk as well..

 

[Mt. Yukon]

duly noted, kind sir, duly noted

But what is to be said of the chase?

Was it not once touted as a thrill?

Maybe writer Helen Rowland said it best: “A man is like a cat; chase him and he will run - Sit still and ignore him and he'll come purring at your feet”

Lester my Dad, "you dont take quotes from someone else and apply them literally to your life"... With that said, why would you take a pointer on how to deal with a dude... From a women??? The chase is overrated. If we click we click, fuck who chased whom. If Im in a chasing mood that night then I wouldnt have waited for you to speak to me right??? A little about men, we dont always feel like chasing you. Nothing personal, just may not be in the mood. Then all your "games" arent working because were just being lazy that night. What do you do then???

 

[asiam]

I would say that this "shyness", as I would like to call it, evolved from women shying away from damaging the fragile male ego.

You see, often times a woman that does make the first move is labeled forward or fast.

I guess it's because some men believe if this lady had the courage to step to them with any type of easy or finesse- they imagine her having initiated conversations (and more) with scores of other men.

That idea doesn't sit easy with some men. So to keep the male psyche at easy, some of us find it easier to let the men think that they chose us.

Well it is true. A woman who approaches like that in approaches others like that. The same goes for men so everyone is on even footing, nothing damaging about that!

 

[Mt. Yukon]

I may be following aging tenet, but I was always taught that if you see a woman you're interested in, you say something. If she's not feeling you, that chick's loss.

I know I'm a picky cat, so I have no problems doing such. More likely than not the women that stepped to me I wasn't feeling them; be it physically, socially, intellectually.

IMO a woman shouldn't have to step to a man because if she does than dude probably isn't feeling her... Of course if he hasn't seen her yet, and she's been eye stalking him, try the subtle shit like get within his field of vision and try to initiate some inviting eye contact...

If she does all that and homeboy notices it AND hasn't got the guts to step to her, then she probably shouldn't be fucking with that nigga anyway

Alright then pimp, are you always int the hunting mood??? Sometimes I leave the house with the bow and arrow and sometimes I dont. That dude that didnt bite on her hints may not always be a wack ninja, but just doesnt feel like chasing. Lions may be hungry, but dont feel like hunting that day, do they die of starvation??? No, they pick that shit up the next day, if they miss a few Gazells then so be it, but to hunt when your heart isnt in it is futile and fruitless.

 

[thighsneyez22]

If she does all that and homeboy notices it AND hasn't got the guts to step to her, then she probably shouldn't be fucking with that nigga anyway

I believe that what he said might be the end of the thread.

I can't speak for all women, but I believe evolution has something to do with our natural posture when it comes to letting men approach us. In the wild, no animal wants a wimp for a partner. You want someone who has guts. Guts enough to overcome normal fears, go out there and get, get, get it.

An easy way to weed out the gutless is to lay back and see who has the cajones to come to you.

He who hesitates is lost. Thanks Darwin.

 

[Mt. Yukon]

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The above post would also apply to you thighsneyez22

 

[curryshotta]

I believe that what he said might be the end of the thread.

I can't speak for all women, but I believe evolution has something to do with our natural posture when it comes to letting men approach us. In the wild, no animal wants a wimp for a partner. You want someone who has guts. Guts enough to overcome normal fears, go out there and get, get, get it.

An easy way to weed out the gutless is to lay back and see who has the cajones to come to you.

He who hesitates is lost. Thanks Darwin.

misguided but amusing

You should add this response into a thread about why women are finding it hard to meet men or get married.

 

[Blu Diablo]

I'm looking at this thread and can only come to the conclusion that equality & chivalry are nothing more than tools of convenience and so the cycle continues.

 

[LegalMoney]

Alright then pimp, are you always int the hunting mood??? Sometimes I leave the house with the bow and arrow and sometimes I dont. That dude that didnt bite on her hints may not always be a wack ninja, but just doesnt feel like chasing. Lions may be hungry, but dont feel like hunting that day, do they die of starvation??? No, they pick that shit up the next day, if they miss a few Gazells then so be it, but to hunt when your heart isnt in it is futile and fruitless.

I can't disagree with anything you've stated. If you don't want to hunt at that particular time, it of course is not an indication of lameness or gutlessness.

However, when one is out hunting and expects that gazelle or deer to come up to them, lay before their majestic paws, place itself into the hunter's jaws, and snap it's own neck, that is a problem. IMO..

 

[thighsneyez22]

Lester my Dad, "you dont take quotes from someone else and apply them literally to your life"... With that said, why would you take a pointer on how to deal with a dude... From a women??? The chase is overrated. If we click we click, fuck who chased whom. If Im in a chasing mood that night then I wouldnt have waited for you to speak to me right??? A little about men, we dont always feel like chasing you. Nothing personal, just may not be in the mood. Then all your "games" arent working because were just being lazy that night. What do you do then???

I totally understand what you are saying. You guys definitely need a night off, too. The thing is that with as many thirsty dudes as there are, Ive never needed a night on- LOL.

Its almost like the saying if you don't work, you don't eat.

If you don't approach, you don't skeet.

Its not fair, but its the way it is right now.

Let's agree to disagree.

 

[sirwoodz]

man you ain't lying...but they really don't need it though

 

[Mt. Yukon]

True both of you. IMO alot of thirsty ass ninjas fuck the game up. "It aint trickin if you got it type ninjas" That holla at anyone with a pussy leads to alot of chicks thinking theyre entitled to something and with inflated opinions of themselves.

 

[DeSiRe]

I'm looking at this thread and can only come to the conclusion that equality & chivalry are nothing more than tools of convenience and so the cycle continues.

equality AND chivalry? those are kinda polar opposites...im not getting what u are saying

 

[thighsneyez22]

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The above post would also apply to you thighsneyez22

What's funny is that very soon ill be leaving that 42% of black women that we keep hearing about.

That's why I haven't been really active on here for the last while.

I came to soak up yall's game and it worked.

Thanks guys!

 

[Mt. Yukon]

equality AND chivalry? those are kinda polar opposites...im not getting what u are saying

Hes saying that females want to scream equality only when it suits them. When it doesnt they want men to be chivalrus and place them on pedestals. If youre our equal, then you should approach us, much like you expect us to.