Lets talk about Black men who chase women away
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no this about YOU and there ae 90 zillion anti Black woman threads here so now there is 1 anti Black man thread here so deal with it
Actually i don't mind...there are 15,16 million black women in america over 20, 21, i think...i'm quite sure that 10-12 million don't find me attractive or whatever, thats all good...i just have to find 1 good mate...
just like you
besides, i'm not interested too much in getting into a pissing contest on anti-this or anti-that...black men and black women have been doing it for far too long. if you feel better in the arms of Biff, then more power too you, i hope you get to go golfing with him, and he takes you to the horse races
maybe she can adopt puppies, i've heard that dogs bring joy into people's life...
or maybe she can adopt a black kid, i hear that's going to be the new thing once this Black in America show goes down
LoneStar29
Banned
yeah and they don't have to be Black neither
True ... feel free to date whoever you'd like ... I've thought about it ... but I'm not sure if I can do it ... I am really only attracted to brothas
To me, relationships do not revolve around the player vs the playee
C/fuckin'/S
I do meet alot of Black men with this sort of game mentality
You are just upset Bi ... I don't think you really mean that
I can relate though ... there are times when I feel like giving up as well
This past weekend a family member insisted I watch this DVD called the Secret for her. Actually, it watched me cause I fell asleep on half of it.
However, it did have some good points, though. If you constantly focusing/thinking about negative dudes (like this thread), that's what you are going to continue to attract because that's the type of energy you're giving off.
But if you mentally focus on more positive shit, it's the reverse.
However, it did have some good points, though. If you constantly focusing/thinking about negative dudes (like this thread), that's what you are going to continue to attract because that's the type of energy you're giving off.
But if you mentally focus on more positive shit, it's the reverse.
the secret is garbage watered down buddhist stuff but I know what you are saying
Somehow I believe you believe that...lolol you know what I mean.
my way is bond.
and i am always right.
I never said they had to be.
But I will say that true happiness comes from within and in itself, attracts positivity.
If you give out positive vibes, you to will eventually attract the kind've quality individual you may desire.
Peace and blessings sistren.
Go live.
I think that went over a few heads.
just like you
besides, i'm not interested too much in getting into a pissing contest on anti-this or anti-that...black men and black women have been doing it for far too long. if you feel better in the arms of Biff, then more power too you, i hope you get to go golfing with him, and he takes you to the horse races
Damn, you went Back to The Future.
I never said they had to be.
But I will say that true happiness comes from within and in itself, attracts positivity.
If you give out positive vibes, you to will eventually attract the kind've quality individual you may desire.
yes I well aware of this and skunts disrupt positivity which is why I so glad to be free at last!
yes I well aware of this and skunts disrupt positivity which is why I so glad to be free at last!
You'll be okay Bigirl.
Just take the time out to reassess what you really want in the meantime.
Have fun, catch up with important stuff you may have neglected and just enjoy being you.
Life's way to short to waste dwelling on negative stuff.
since when doesn't acting a fool not attract vagina?.
Acting a fool damn near guarantee's eager and willing pussy all the time.
LoneStar29
Banned
Here is the problem in itself ... ya'll think all women are the same ... not all women like this type of stupidness ... Bi I feel where you are coming from
Some of them have no fuckin' clue
Here is the problem in itself ... ya'll think all women are the same ... not all women like this type of stupidness ... Bi I feel where you are coming from
LoneStar29
Banned
Bi ... I can relate to you very much ... some of the other SOL ladies like to pretend their love lives are perfect but I will keep it real and say that yes I too have been treated badly by Black men ... and these were not thugs, ballers, playas either ... brothas love to pretend like those are the only ones who do fucked up shit to us
Regular Black men, prefessional Black men can be DOGS too ... and it aint always about something the woman has done wrong ... some of them just want to have their cake and eat it too
You need to do what I'm doing now ... take Black men OFF the pedestal you have them on ... just do you and whatever makes you happy ... don't worry about them cuz sadly they are not worried about you ... I no longer worry about wether they will love me or not ... I just love myself and don't give them a second though
Sure it's a bit lonely and I think lonliness is what drives alot of women to make fucked up decisions about men ... but you gotta prioritize
Edit: I have also stopped sharing my feelings with other people (especially on here) cuz that leaves you too open for judgement ... and SOL is full of some very hypocritical, judgemental people
Regular Black men, prefessional Black men can be DOGS too ... and it aint always about something the woman has done wrong ... some of them just want to have their cake and eat it tooYou need to do what I'm doing now ... take Black men OFF the pedestal you have them on ... just do you and whatever makes you happy ... don't worry about them cuz sadly they are not worried about you ... I no longer worry about wether they will love me or not ... I just love myself and don't give them a second though
Sure it's a bit lonely and I think lonliness is what drives alot of women to make fucked up decisions about men ... but you gotta prioritize
Edit: I have also stopped sharing my feelings with other people (especially on here) cuz that leaves you too open for judgement ... and SOL is full of some very hypocritical, judgemental people
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kwazdog
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not all of us are like that
. I've showed compassion and concern for a few women. I found that when I have "worried" about sistas in the past they stopped "caring" or "worrying" about me, which lead to me strategically "not caring" when I really do. I think a lot of brothas are like this, but the more they've been hurt the harder it is to convince them they are genuinely accepted, safe and not judged (which is rarely the case with most females. ya'll know its true). Try making a brova who's used to "playing the game" or "getting played" breakfast in bed long enough the ninja might shed a "thug tear" or two
, because we all know that it's impossible for any "real" man to cry right!? Most ninjas never heal because we often dont have the luxury, Environment or support system (these "ole hold my hand ass niggas', how many times have you heard that on bgol, that's a clear indication of suffering) to morn (and heal) properly over past relationships.It's all a game, ppl dont always feel on the inside what they portray on the outer
. It's usually the inverse. niggas that say "I dont love no bitch" really means, 'so and so hurt me soo soo (internal sob, waaaaahhh
) bad when he was a young G" "I love'de'd her so much"
... when they were young females played hella games, they let this dictate all future interactions predicated on a few experiences. some ppl never break those shackles of fear to find "true love". Looks like that's gonna be most of us...but that can change by us finding the bravery to show compassion again..
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Bi ... I can relate to you very much ... some of the other SOL ladies like to pretend their love lives are perfect but I will keep it real and say that yes I too have been treated badly by Black men ... and these were not thugs, ballers, playas either ... brothas love to pretend like those are the only ones who do fucked up shit to us
You need to do what I'm doing now ... take Black men OFF the pedestal you have them on ... just do you and whatever makes you happy ... don't worry about them cuz sadly they are not worried about you ... I no longer worry about wether they will love me or not ... I just love myself and don't give them a second though
Sure it's a bit lonely and I think lonliness is what drives alot of women to make fucked up decisions about men ... but you gotta prioritize
Edit: I have also stopped sharing my feelings with other people (especially on here) cuz that leaves you too open for judgement ... and SOL is full of some very hypocritical, judgemental people
Bi ... I can relate to you very much ... some of the other SOL ladies like to pretend their love lives are perfect but I will keep it real and say that yes I too have been treated badly by Black men ... and these were not thugs, ballers, playas either ... brothas love to pretend like those are the only ones who do fucked up shit to us
You need to do what I'm doing now ... take Black men OFF the pedestal you have them on ... just do you and whatever makes you happy ... don't worry about them cuz sadly they are not worried about you ... I no longer worry about wether they will love me or not ... I just love myself and don't give them a second though
Sure it's a bit lonely and I think lonliness is what drives alot of women to make fucked up decisions about men ... but you gotta prioritize
Edit: I have also stopped sharing my feelings with other people (especially on here) cuz that leaves you too open for judgement ... and SOL is full of some very hypocritical, judgemental people
Hi Lone, you made a lot of solid points in your post and I see nothing wrong with what you've said as regards bad behaviour not being restricted to the "usual subjects".
I even agree with your assessement of this behaviour relating to the black men you've been let down by because firstly, that has been your own personal experience and secondly, by your own admission, you've only dated blackmen.
All I can say is that regardless of some mens backgrounds, they all have baggage from previous situations and in the worst case scenario, are actually very psycologically damaged individuals.
In this, they are no more different to most of humanity as well as their female counterparts in this regard.
No one should ever be placed on a pedestal because we are all to some degree, fallible and imperfect in many ways.
Placing people on pedestals gives a distorted view of a person and can set one up for serious emotional dissapointment. I've learnt to take people like situations, one step at a time and in addition, make allowances for their human failings because, being human myself, I'm also capable of fucking up too.
As regards other races, regardless of what gets said here on SOL or on the main BGOL board, the grass isn't always greener on the other side even though it may sometimes appear to seem so when peered at through rose tinted glasses.
Afterall, regardless of race or ethnicity, we're still talking about people with similar drives, desires, needs and dysfunction wheter they be black, white, latino, oriental or any of the other glorious spectrums of the human rainbow.
Fucked up people are fucked up regardless.
Lonliness as you rightly pointed out, can sometimes lead to individuals (male or female) making bad choices just to fill the gap but hopefully, as an individual becomes more comfortable with themselves, they can put the downtime between relationships to good use.
At least they'd then be in a better position to enjoy life more by getting to know themselves to a fuller degree and just enjoying an emotionally richer quality of life.
Peace and blessings.
LoneStar29
Banned
not all of us are like that
I mean no disrespect to you in any way ... and I don't mean to put you on the spot right now
But you and I have spoken in another thread about how you have passed up on women you knew were good, cared for you and held you down because they weren't "dimes" as you put it
Brothas with that sort of mentallity are a BIG part of the problem and the reason why I have stopped caring so much for ya'll
Being a good woman and holding your man down doesn't guarantee you any sort of love from a Black man because Bi Girl is right alot of you do think with your dicks
Ya'll want us to be physically perfect when first of all you aren't yourselves and second of all that is unrealistic ... we can of course control our weight but we can't control our facial features, or how big or small our breasts and asses are, or the exact curve of our thighs ... but sadly that is what alot of you seem to base your opinions of us on ... so you look for these video hoe types then act confused when they are gold diggers and can't cook all the while screaming "bitches aint shit" ... then you have all the average looking girls getting bitter because we can cook and we will hold you down but you wont give us the chance cuz you don't think we are cute enough ... or (this has happened to me) you stay with us until something "better" comes along ... or you put us in the "only fuckable" zone based off of our looks
I'm talking about real men here too so I don't wanna hear any of this "oh that's only on BGOL shit" cuz that is BULL The so called good men always seem to chase the prettier girls so that leaves us average broads to choose from the best loser ... yes I said the best loser ... he is the one who isn't the worst but he still sucks ... hence the bitterness
I'm so over it ... Bi Girl, the day you realize that there is no "fairytale prince" for you the better your life will be I guarantee it ... push all of them aside and worry about your own happiness ... I am realistic now and I know there is no prince charming coming for me so I just do me and my life has become much less complicated and some of the bitterness I felt (being honest) has gone away ... it's all about realizing where you stand with them then using that to your advantage
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: Regular Black men, prefessional Black men can be DOGS too ... and it aint always about something the woman has done wrong ... some of them just want to have their cake and eat it too
You need to do what I'm doing now ... take Black men OFF the pedestal you have them on ... just do you and whatever makes you happy ... don't worry about them cuz sadly they are not worried about you ... I no longer worry about wether they will love me or not ... I just love myself and don't give them a second though
yes this
Oh I definitely realize that you have no idea and basically they are good for one thing and one thing only fuck all the rest
with their despicable behavior
If their behavior chased you away then whats the problem?
Different strokes for different folks I presume.
We dont all think like that. (Yes I know, it's hard to believe.)
The dick has an independent mind of its own and knows what it likes.
Hot, wet pussy with a side platter of juicy tittays, plump booty and chocolate caramel, cocoa complected skin. (Or Icelandic pale depending on whether the dicks been attuned to snow bunnies)
Some guys allow their johnsons to lead them astray but there are those who choose to take the problem in hand and focus on whats really important.
That's a bit of a generalization Lone.
Some of those "video hoes" can cook.........jk
Seriously, guys are visual creatures who tend to gravitate towards hot chicks and if the tittays, booty and inviting thighs are curvaceous it's like an all you can eat buffet for most guys.
It takes a certain sort of guy to look for something more fulfilling beyond the first few gluttonous bites and those are the kinda guys who decide to stay around longer than a random one night stand.
then you have all the average looking girls getting bitter because we can cook and we will hold you down but you wont give us the chance cuz you don't think we are cute enough ... or (this has happened to me) you stay with us until something "better" comes along ... or you put us in the "only fuckable" zone based off of our looks
There's nothing remotely "average" or homely about the way you look Lonestar, so I'm not sure why you'd be referring to yourself in that department.
I'm sure there's probably more than one cat who's been enraptured by our distinctive East African charms just before you knocked him out with a left hook for paying too much attention to your mangoes.
If a guy decides to leave you then that's his loss for not recognizing your positive qualities and appreciating you for being a fly ass sister down for whatever.
But in the end, the choice is still made.
Why settle for anything less than what you percieve to be the "best"?
In the end, you'll only end up being angry, depressed and disillusioned leaving the "loser" feeling like shit and thus spawning the creation of the next bitter, twisted and vindictive man onto the next unfortunate lady.
Dunno bout' no fairy tale prince carming but I do know that there are probably a ton of guys who feel exactly the same way you do.
You just have to let the right one find you.
sooo I take it that BI will have some time to come in the chat room?
I actually really busy with my own stuff which is a next reason its good he gone
Ok ok ok. I'll take this thread a little seriously... just a little... for a minute ...
THAT ... tirade ^^^ ... is all over the place (like onions and pasta sause when i'm cooking spaghetti). But I can understand. Because you're venting. Just like that one *points*. That's fine.
I'm sure you know women can also be on the same double standard shit too.
See, this is thread started off as a typical pre-psychotic hondarag Bigirl rant, but it's ended up as yet another typical "not all men are like that", "not all women are like that" ... nodescript forums for ranting about past fuck ups. Maybe it can be therapeutic?
And there are at least 13 threads on SOL talking about the same shit. And they always seem to pop up during hondah week. But w/e. lol.
Take black men off the pedestal? Putting someone on a pedestal based on ethnicity and pop-culture. How CACishly stupid is that? Any woman (or man) that has that notion is an IDIOT and deserves whatever they get.
That being said ... all this intra-ethnic stereotyping.
Aint that a bish.
Lemme guess. It does froma CAC?
That's gotta suck.
Wow.
So you were standing on the other side of the puddle in your little peti-coat crying "woe is me!" waiting on some fabio looking prince charming dude named Fernando wearing an unbuttoned white linen shirt holding a rose between his teeth riding on a Pegasus swooping down from the sky theme song of Arthur playing in the background Morgan Freeman narating n shit talking bout ... "... and so as you'd have it, Penelope and ..."
Bi ... I can relate to you very much ... some of the other SOL ladies like to pretend their love lives are perfect but I will keep it real and say that yes I too have been treated badly by Black men ... and these were not thugs, ballers, playas either ... brothas love to pretend like those are the only ones who do fucked up shit to us
You need to do what I'm doing now ... take Black men OFF the pedestal you have them on ... just do you and whatever makes you happy ... don't worry about them cuz sadly they are not worried about you ... I no longer worry about wether they will love me or not ... I just love myself and don't give them a second though
Sure it's a bit lonely and I think lonliness is what drives alot of women to make fucked up decisions about men ... but you gotta prioritize
Edit: I have also stopped sharing my feelings with other people (especially on here) cuz that leaves you too open for judgement ... and SOL is full of some very hypocritical, judgemental people
THAT ... tirade ^^^ ... is all over the place (like onions and pasta sause when i'm cooking spaghetti). But I can understand. Because you're venting. Just like that one *points*. That's fine.
I'm sure you know women can also be on the same double standard shit too.
See, this is thread started off as a typical pre-psychotic hondarag Bigirl rant, but it's ended up as yet another typical "not all men are like that", "not all women are like that" ... nodescript forums for ranting about past fuck ups.
Maybe it can be therapeutic? And there are at least 13 threads on SOL talking about the same shit. And they always seem to pop up during hondah week. But w/e. lol.
Take black men off the pedestal? Putting someone on a pedestal based on ethnicity and pop-culture. How CACishly stupid is that?
Any woman (or man) that has that notion is an IDIOT and deserves whatever they get.That being said ... all this intra-ethnic stereotyping.
Aint that a bish.
Lemme guess. It does froma CAC?
That's gotta suck.
Wow.
So you were standing on the other side of the puddle in your little peti-coat crying "woe is me!" waiting on some fabio looking prince charming dude named Fernando wearing an unbuttoned white linen shirt holding a rose between his teeth riding on a Pegasus swooping down from the sky theme song of Arthur playing in the background Morgan Freeman narating n shit talking bout ... "... and so as you'd have it, Penelope and ..."
Why are you putting the blame on men for your poor judgement? You are the one that picked these dudes
