this shit right here has to stop!!!!! Fathers raise your sons........

[swiftandsilent]

Better title:

"Women don't have kids unless you are married. That way you won't have to worry about wayward bastard children running amok!".....

Just because the parents are married in NO guarantee the child will be taught right from wrong. There plenty of married men who don't give a shit about their kids because they busy running the streets.

 

[LoneStar29]

Just because the parents are married in NO guarantee the child will be taught right from wrong. There plenty of married men who don't give a shit about their kids because they busy running the streets.

You need stats to back this up cuz apparently the truth lies in the numbers that White people make up

 

[TCapone]

Better title:

"Women don't have kids unless you are married. That way you won't have to worry about wayward bastard children running amok!".....

c/s

 

[kingterp]

Black women are the reason

 

[ansatsusha_gouki]

Just because the parents are married in NO guarantee the child will be taught right from wrong. There plenty of married men who don't give a shit about their kids because they busy running the streets.

Nobody isnt saying being married guaranteed your child will know right from wrong but its sure helps ALOT more when it comes to their development in life.........You cant dispute that........

Until you see prisoners at a 75% rate coming from married couples.....Getting married is the better option....I dont understand why people like you think its cool having kids out of wedlock when most of the problems in society come from niggaz from single mothers.....

 

[thismybgolname]

like I said learn to read nigga...a space between letter aint shit get over it...you understood what I typed but obviously you're the type whose quick to criticizes without ACTUALLY READING what you are criticizing

I'm not a nigga and I understood exactly what you said.

My point was marriage doesn't = good parenting.

You can take two ignorant people that are married then odds are their children will be ignorant but at least they will be married

 

[TCapone]

Just because the parents are married in NO guarantee the child will be taught right from wrong. There plenty of married men who don't give a shit about their kids because they busy running the streets.

Nigga you dumb, just go to any damn prison, jail, & see the correlation to single mother homes.

 

[Drayonis]

It's so sad that black folks prefer APATHY when it comes to the family unit.

So what if the divorce rate is high that has little to do with proper way to raise a family. If black women required a wedding ring when they got pregnant, crime would vaporize over night.

 

[ansatsusha_gouki]

It's so sad that black folks prefer APATHY when it comes to the family unit.

So what if the divorce rate is high that has little to do with proper way to raise a family. If black women required a wedding ring when they got pregnant, crime would vaporize over night.

they is not hearing it.......

 

[MrMotivator]

I'm not a nigga and I understood exactly what you said.

My point was marriage doesn't = good parenting.

You can take two ignorant people that are married then odds are their children will be ignorant but at least they will be married

I think you are looking at this thing wrong nobody that i've read so far said that having to parents guarantees your kids will come out better. But when i hear dumb ass arguments saying that single parents are just as good as having two responsible parents i have to roll my eyes.

Common sense says that if a single mother (or father) who is responsible and makes every effort to raise a good child, having two responsible people make every effort to raise good children should automatically increase the odds of your success shouldn't it??? Why on gods green earth would you want to handicap yourself intentionally?

Single parents are always saying they don't have enough time in the day to work full time and be in their child's life and have time for them self it is impossible to juggle all those things and get the best out of it.

All these single parent success stories include a child who inherently helped the parent become successful. What the fuck are you going to do if you happen to have a problem child? Or you have a weak child who is easily influenced by the ills of society and your ass is at work doing a double shift just to pay the bills.

Hell two parents isn't enough you need a support system of family and friends. Two parents in the home is obviously a great start for success it shows the kid how to treat women(men) with respect, it teaches kids how adults work together, it shows kids what love is between adults, and a blueprint for what they should want out of a spouse and what is required from them.

This shit should be a no brainer.

 

[thismybgolname]

Plus these "brothas" are worse than White people ... they see the boys skin colour and assume he was raised by a single mom that the dad is not there blahblahblah ... they throwing every stereotype available out there without knowing the full situation ... all the while complaining about how the media portrays them negatively This finger pointing is killing us

Good point

Just because the parents are married in NO guarantee the child will be taught right from wrong

What I've been saying.

It's so sad that black folks prefer APATHY when it comes to the family unit.

So what if the divorce rate is high that has little to do with proper way to raise a family. If black women required a wedding ring when they got pregnant, crime would vaporize over night.

So all the ills of the black race would vaporize overnight if you put two people together with no common sense, education or sense of self worth?

I just don't see the logic in that.

I can't see how two people that never value anything more than what they see on television getting married will be the cure all for crime and the ills of our race.

You can take two ignorant people, they reproduce then 9/10 they will have ignorance children.

Are you saying that if women had standards when picking men that we would have a lot less issues or if a man just decided to marry a woman that is expecting?

 

[thismybgolname]

Plus these "brothas" are worse than White people ... they see the boys skin colour and assume he was raised by a single mom that the dad is not there blahblahblah ... they throwing every stereotype available out there without knowing the full situation ... all the while complaining about how the media portrays them negatively This finger pointing is killing us

Good point

Just because the parents are married in NO guarantee the child will be taught right from wrong

What I've been saying.

 

[Acur]

I think you are looking at this thing wrong nobody that i've read so far said that having to parents guarantees your kids will come out better. But when i hear dumb ass arguments saying that single parents are just as good as having two responsible parents i have to roll my eyes.

Common sense says that if a single mother (or father) who is responsible and makes every effort to raise a good child, having two responsible people make every effort to raise good children should automatically increase the odds of your success shouldn't it??? Why on God's green earth would you want to handicap yourself intentionally?

Single parents are always saying they don't have enough time in the day to work full time and be in their child's life and have time for them self it is impossible to juggle all those things and get the best out of it.

All these single parent success stories include a child who inherently helped the parent become successful. What the fuck are you going to do if you happen to have a problem child? Or you have a weak child who is easily influenced by the ills of society and your ass is at work doing a double shift just to pay the bills.

Hell two parents isn't enough you need a support system of family and friends. Two parents in the home is obviously a great start for success it shows the kid how to treat women(men) with respect, it teaches kids how adults work together, it shows kids what love is between adults, and a blueprint for what they should want out of a spouse and what is required from them.

This shit should be a no brainer.

Fixed it.

 

[MrMotivator]

So all the ills of the black race would vaporize overnight if you put two people together with no common sense, education or sense of self worth?

I just don't see the logic in that.

I can't see how two people that never value anything more than what they see on television getting married will be the cure all for crime and the ills of our race.

You can take two ignorant people, they reproduce then 9/10 they will have ignorance children.

Are you saying that if women had standards when picking men that we would have a lot less issues or if a man just decided to marry a woman that is expecting?

No i get what he is saying, its an extreme but truthfully it would put a real freaking dent into this bullshit we have going on today. Basically he is saying there is a entrance fee and its real freaking expensive if you mess up.

Right now dudes get a woman pregnant and run and they are free. If you had to be sure if you got pregnant women wouldn't fuck around and let pookie seed her up, and Ninjas would slow their roll with trying to hit every female with a vagina.

I get the idea he is saying and i agree i don't think it would stomp it out completely but it would put a real dent into it.

 

[DolphinBoy]

Tamontrell? the fuck kinda name is that

 

[swiftandsilent]

Just because the parents are married in NO guarantee the child will be taught right from wrong. There plenty of married men who don't give a shit about their kids because they busy running the streets.

Nigga you dumb, just go to any damn prison, jail, & see the correlation to single mother homes.

Nobody isnt saying being married guaranteed your child will know right from wrong but its sure helps ALOT more when it comes to their development in life.........You cant dispute that........

Until you see prisoners at a 75% rate coming from married couples.....Getting married is the better option....I dont understand why people like you think its cool having kids out of wedlock when most of the problems in society come from niggaz from single mothers.....

I think you both missed my point. I am not saying to have children out of wedlock is a good thing or bad, I am saying the whole marriage tag is blown out of proportion. Just because a man has shoes in a closet in the home of a child does not mean the man is going to take an interest in raising said child. All it could mean is that he paying some bills.

 

[thismybgolname]

I think you are looking at this thing wrong nobody that i've read so far said that having to parents guarantees your kids will come out better. But when i hear dumb ass arguments saying that single parents are just as good as having two responsible parents i have to roll my eyes.

In the ideal situation a two parent house hold will be better of course however in this thread we've assumed that this woman was a single parent.

So I continued the assumption that odds are that this childs mother is somebody that most of us would consider a hood rat.

Hood rats normally pick worthless males, the type of male that would abandon his child.

Her marrying a male that didn't stick around to see his own child be raised would not have saved this boy in the long run in my eyes.

Yall are logic to a niggas actions (once again assuming that she is a single parent with a dead beat dad).

Common sense says that if a single mother (or father) who is responsible and makes every effort to raise a good child, having two responsible people make every effort to raise good children should automatically increase the odds of your success shouldn't it??? Why on gods green earth would you want to handicap yourself intentionally?

Agreed but what are the odds that in this situation this kid had more than one resposible parent let alone two?

We're normally not talking about black folks in these situations, we're talking about ignorant niggas.

Single parents are always saying they don't have enough time in the day to work full time and be in their child's life and have time for them self it is impossible to juggle all those things and get the best out of it.

All these single parent success stories include a child who inherently helped the parent become successful. What the fuck are you going to do if you happen to have a problem child? Or you have a weak child who is easily influenced by the ills of society and your ass is at work doing a double shift just to pay the bills.

Hell two parents isn't enough you need a support system of family and friends. Two parents in the home is obviously a great start for success it shows the kid how to treat women(men) with respect, it teaches kids how adults work together, it shows kids what love is between adults, and a blueprint for what they should want out of a spouse and what is required from them.

Agreed but only if the child has two parents that are worth a damn to begin with.

This shit should be a no brainer.

It is when you're talking about productive members of society and not niggas (white, black, brown).

 

[thismybgolname]

No i get what he is saying, its an extreme but truthfully it would put a real freaking dent into this bullshit we have going on today. Basically he is saying there is a entrance fee and its real freaking expensive if you mess up.

Right now dudes get a woman pregnant and run and they are free. If you had to be sure if you got pregnant women wouldn't fuck around and let pookie seed her up, and Ninjas would slow their roll with trying to hit every female with a vagina.

I get the idea he is saying and i agree i don't think it would stomp it out completely but it would put a real dent into it.

I just disagree on what is the root cause, I say that it is education or a lack there of.

 

[sliccpulla]

WARNING! NOT CP FRIENDLY! VALID POINT MADE THOUGH!

Most of y'all have made some good points, some I disagree with. This shit happened like 6 bloccs from my parents house. The house were I grew up in. I'll say that 85% of that community, that are not elderly families, are single parent households. My brother and I, are two that were raised by both parents in the same house. I agree with the ones who said two parent households help prevent these things from happening. I most definately agree with those who said good parenting ultimaltely determines the outcome. But even with these two things there still can be problems. As I said, I had both and still made some fucced up decisions that had nothin to do with my upbringing and embarassed my parents. Even with all the teaching and things they did to keep me out the streets and jail, shit I still wound up in both of them. Wanting that fast money, seeing my niggas I grew up with in the flyest whip amongst other bullshit. And what was fucced up about it was that my parents would have given all they had to give me the bullshit I was hustling for. Sometimes a lil nigga just have to learn the hard way. Of course I'm not sayin that's what happened in this case, cuz I personally know it ain't. But what I am saying is that, when I fucced up all that good parenting and skills they taught me flashed b4 my eyes. And thanks to that, I turned from those ways and was given another chance to turn my life around. I broke that cycle. So like the old saying goes, "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink."

 

[shaddyvillethug]

ima raise my son right...

 

[bgbtylvr]

And the one nigga pretty much got his eyebrows arched!!!!!!! On some real simp shit! LOL!!!!!!!!!! Lastly, to name your child Tramontrell, or whatever the fuck it is, tells you who the fuck was or failed to raise him. Tramontrell? Fuck outta here! LOL!!!

 

[MrMotivator]

I just disagree on what is the root cause, I say that it is education or a lack there of.

Like i said it wouldn't solve it all it would but a huge dent into it, and then you can focus on education. Think about it.

 

[xcluesiv]

a fucking shame

 

[Lord Vicious]

 

[Acur]

WARNING! NOT CP FRIENDLY! VALID POINT MADE THOUGH!

Most of y'all have made some good points, some I disagree with. This shit happened like 6 blocks from my parents house. The house were I grew up in. I'll say that 85% of that community, that are not elderly families, are single parent households. My brother and I, are two that were raised by both parents in the same house. I agree with the ones who said two parent households help prevent these things from happening. I most definately agree with those who said good parenting ultimaltely determines the outcome. But even with these two things there still can be problems. As I said, I had both and still made some fucced up decisions that had nothin to do with my upbringing and embarassed my parents. Even with all the teaching and things they did to keep me out the streets and jail, shit I still wound up in both of them. Wanting that fast money, seeing my niggas I grew up with in the flyest whip amongst other bullshit. And what was fucced up about it was that my parents would have given all they had to give me the bullshit I was hustling for. Sometimes a lil nigga just have to learn the hard way. Of course I'm not sayin that's what happened in this case, cuz I personally know it ain't. But what I am saying is that, when I fucced up all that good parenting and skills they taught me flashed b4 my eyes. And thanks to that, I turned from those ways and was given another chance to turn my life around. I broke that cycle. So like the old saying goes, "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink."

Say no more.

 

[Acur]

ima raise my son right...

Son that is what You are suppose to do. You will not be praised for doing what you should do.


Here You act like your 5. Here boy

 

[Acur]

What We Must Learn About Raising Boys
For far too long African Americans have made some catastrophic assumptions about raising boys. These assumptions have led us, just like our ancestors, the children of Israel, into a daunting wilderness. Like them, we have been stumbling around in a dark circle desperately searching for a way out.

In the wilderness, a number of disturbing trends prevail for Black males. Namely: pathological anger unmanagement, the rejection of education, Black on Black crime, the shunning of marriage, misogyny, a propensity for underachievement and the mind boggling gravitation toward the ominous thug subculture.

In spite of the challenges, I’ve got some good news; the exit door is clearly illuminated! Our way out of the wilderness rests on our commitment to raising exceptional African American boys! Before we can exit this sphere of hopelessness, the masses must first unequivocally embrace these three critical truths.

●Transitioning into manhood is not a natural process

● It takes a man to raise a boy to be a man

● If boys aren’t properly initiated into manhood, they are destined to embrace a subverted view of being a man


1. Transitioning Into Manhood is Not a Natural Process
Boys do not learn how to become men through osmosis. Osmosis is a gradual, often unconscious process of assimilation. The false assumption that boys will eventually figure out manhood on their own is what has led us into this ominous wilderness. In order to properly transition from boyhood to manhood, boys must be indoctrinated. Pay close attention to this well known, but little understood admonition from God:

Proverbs 22:6 (The Message)
Point your kids in the right direction--
when they're old they won't be lost.

When the Lord gave this command, He intended for us to follow His instructions! The word, “train,” in the original Hebrew is considerably more intense than our English version of the same word. It means to initiate and to discipline. We are called to initiate our sons into manhood. Meaning, we are to admit them into manhood with a ceremony, preceded by an indepth rites of passage, which prepares them for every facet of being a man.

Examining the path to adulthood traveled by most African American boys, reveals how we have miserably failed them in this respect.

Consequently, there must be a change in the social order amongst our families, communities and churches. One in which the masses commit to going back to God’s original blueprint for raising boys. When that happens, we’ll see a renaissance amongst African American males. One that will ultimately restore our families and communities to wholeness.

2. It Takes a Man to Raise a Boy To Be a Man
Some women are fuming as they are reading this second critical truth! I know because they constantly write me and give me a piece of their minds! Adamantly affirming how they beg to differ… pridefully announcing how they don’t need a man and asserting how Black women are the backbone of our families.

Many of these women flaunt how they single-handedly raised a son who graduated from college or never went to jail and to them, that’s proof positive that it doesn’t take a man to raise a boy to be a man.

This issue has been argued and debated to the point of overwhelming weariness. Someone is always performing research or holding a conference or workshop on this subject. While they forge ahead, trying to prove that women can raise boys without men, our marriage rate has plummeted, our divorce rate has soared and daily, masses of Black boys take oaths to only view women as worthless sex objects!

This deplorable state of affairs is a direct result of our boys not being properly initiated into manhood by men! It is no secret that fatherless homes account for:

63% of youth suicides
90% of homeless/runaway children
85% of children with behavior problems
71% of high school dropouts
85% of youths in prison
50% of teen mothers
80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger
These riveting statistics flash before our eyes with each drop out, act of violence, arrest and incarceration and rap song that degrades women. Yet, certain people intentionally elect to reject these facts. One of their arguments is; they know boys who were raised by their fathers who turned out just like the ones who had sporadic or invisible dads.

In the end, this argumentative mentality serves as a major roadblock to our mission of raising healthy vibrant boys. As long as the masses refute the truth that it takes a man to raise a boy to be a man, we will remain deadlocked in this catastrophic collapse of true manhood.

Jesus aptly said it, when He declared, “…every city or house divided against itself shall not stand.” As long as we disagree on this issue, we will fail at raising our boys right. On the other hand, once we affirm this truth, we will be empowered to turn back the tide of young Black males who opt for the subverted version of manhood.

3. If Aren’t Boys Properly Initiated into Manhood, They Are Destined To Embrace a Subverted View of Being a Man
I always marvel while observing the stunned expressions on the faces of men and women when they hear about the acts of Black men who didn’t go through an appropriate rites of passage into manhood. Why should we be astonished at their malevolent deeds? Remember, they weren’t properly initiated into manhood!

If they went through any indoctrination process, it was most likely based on the malicious teachings of the Crips or Bloods or some other demonically inspired gang. Or, the major influences in their lives are Black males who brag about being thugs, such as: Tupac, Mystikal, Steady B, Pimp C and Notorious BIG, all slain or incarcerated rappers.

Again, I ask, how can we be startled or alarmed when our sons are merely behaving how they have been trained to behave? Examine their teachers and role models. They are either: in the penal system, fighting charges, evading warrants, on probation, trying to avoid child support payments, brandishing weapons, trafficking drugs, besmirching women boasting about rapes, robberies or murders or feuding with each other.

How dare we expect our boys to grow into righteous men after we allow them to be indoctrinated by sociopathic males! Get this point drilled in your mind; when boys are not properly indoctrinated into manhood, they are destined to embrace the subverted version of being a man. Subsequently, they’ll exhibit some or all of these harrowing traits.

1. Shun marriage

2. Shun and mock education

3. Harbor deeply seated anger

4. Secretly question their manhood

5. Use and abuse the female gender

6. Become perpetual underachievers

7. Constantly seek instant gratification

8. Effortlessly abandon children they sire

9. Display glaring misogynistic tendencies

10. Mock God and embrace unrighteousness

11. Have no respect for their elders or authority

12. Embrace and glamorize the thug/criminal life

13. Eagerly wrought crimes against their communities

14. Energetically subvert other males from true manhood


African American boys are crying out! They are clamoring for men who will lead them out of the Black male wilderness. A maligned wilderness that is rooted in false bravado and rift with ignorance, anger, hatred, brutality and violence. The only way they will escape this madness, is if we insure that they are properly initiated into manhood. Our efforts must be concerted, consistent and unwavering. I’m up for the assignment. Will you join me?

 

[woodchuck]

What We Must Learn About Raising Boys
For far too long African Americans have made some catastrophic assumptions about raising boys. These assumptions have led us, just like our ancestors, the children of Israel, into a daunting wilderness. Like them, we have been stumbling around in a dark circle desperately searching for a way out.

In the wilderness, a number of disturbing trends prevail for Black males. Namely: pathological anger unmanagement, the rejection of education, Black on Black crime, the shunning of marriage, misogyny, a propensity for underachievement and the mind boggling gravitation toward the ominous thug subculture.

In spite of the challenges, I’ve got some good news; the exit door is clearly illuminated! Our way out of the wilderness rests on our commitment to raising exceptional African American boys! Before we can exit this sphere of hopelessness, the masses must first unequivocally embrace these three critical truths.

●Transitioning into manhood is not a natural process

● It takes a man to raise a boy to be a man

● If boys aren’t properly initiated into manhood, they are destined to embrace a subverted view of being a man


1. Transitioning Into Manhood is Not a Natural Process
Boys do not learn how to become men through osmosis. Osmosis is a gradual, often unconscious process of assimilation. The false assumption that boys will eventually figure out manhood on their own is what has led us into this ominous wilderness. In order to properly transition from boyhood to manhood, boys must be indoctrinated. Pay close attention to this well known, but little understood admonition from God:

Proverbs 22:6 (The Message)
Point your kids in the right direction--
when they're old they won't be lost.

When the Lord gave this command, He intended for us to follow His instructions! The word, “train,” in the original Hebrew is considerably more intense than our English version of the same word. It means to initiate and to discipline. We are called to initiate our sons into manhood. Meaning, we are to admit them into manhood with a ceremony, preceded by an indepth rites of passage, which prepares them for every facet of being a man.

Examining the path to adulthood traveled by most African American boys, reveals how we have miserably failed them in this respect.

Consequently, there must be a change in the social order amongst our families, communities and churches. One in which the masses commit to going back to God’s original blueprint for raising boys. When that happens, we’ll see a renaissance amongst African American males. One that will ultimately restore our families and communities to wholeness.

2. It Takes a Man to Raise a Boy To Be a Man
Some women are fuming as they are reading this second critical truth! I know because they constantly write me and give me a piece of their minds! Adamantly affirming how they beg to differ… pridefully announcing how they don’t need a man and asserting how Black women are the backbone of our families.

Many of these women flaunt how they single-handedly raised a son who graduated from college or never went to jail and to them, that’s proof positive that it doesn’t take a man to raise a boy to be a man.

This issue has been argued and debated to the point of overwhelming weariness. Someone is always performing research or holding a conference or workshop on this subject. While they forge ahead, trying to prove that women can raise boys without men, our marriage rate has plummeted, our divorce rate has soared and daily, masses of Black boys take oaths to only view women as worthless sex objects!

This deplorable state of affairs is a direct result of our boys not being properly initiated into manhood by men! It is no secret that fatherless homes account for:

63% of youth suicides
90% of homeless/runaway children
85% of children with behavior problems
71% of high school dropouts
85% of youths in prison
50% of teen mothers
80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger
These riveting statistics flash before our eyes with each drop out, act of violence, arrest and incarceration and rap song that degrades women. Yet, certain people intentionally elect to reject these facts. One of their arguments is; they know boys who were raised by their fathers who turned out just like the ones who had sporadic or invisible dads.

In the end, this argumentative mentality serves as a major roadblock to our mission of raising healthy vibrant boys. As long as the masses refute the truth that it takes a man to raise a boy to be a man, we will remain deadlocked in this catastrophic collapse of true manhood.

Jesus aptly said it, when He declared, “…every city or house divided against itself shall not stand.” As long as we disagree on this issue, we will fail at raising our boys right. On the other hand, once we affirm this truth, we will be empowered to turn back the tide of young Black males who opt for the subverted version of manhood.

3. If Aren’t Boys Properly Initiated into Manhood, They Are Destined To Embrace a Subverted View of Being a Man
I always marvel while observing the stunned expressions on the faces of men and women when they hear about the acts of Black men who didn’t go through an appropriate rites of passage into manhood. Why should we be astonished at their malevolent deeds? Remember, they weren’t properly initiated into manhood!

If they went through any indoctrination process, it was most likely based on the malicious teachings of the Crips or Bloods or some other demonically inspired gang. Or, the major influences in their lives are Black males who brag about being thugs, such as: Tupac, Mystikal, Steady B, Pimp C and Notorious BIG, all slain or incarcerated rappers.

Again, I ask, how can we be startled or alarmed when our sons are merely behaving how they have been trained to behave? Examine their teachers and role models. They are either: in the penal system, fighting charges, evading warrants, on probation, trying to avoid child support payments, brandishing weapons, trafficking drugs, besmirching women boasting about rapes, robberies or murders or feuding with each other.

How dare we expect our boys to grow into righteous men after we allow them to be indoctrinated by sociopathic males! Get this point drilled in your mind; when boys are not properly indoctrinated into manhood, they are destined to embrace the subverted version of being a man. Subsequently, they’ll exhibit some or all of these harrowing traits.

1. Shun marriage

2. Shun and mock education

3. Harbor deeply seated anger

4. Secretly question their manhood

5. Use and abuse the female gender

6. Become perpetual underachievers

7. Constantly seek instant gratification

8. Effortlessly abandon children they sire

9. Display glaring misogynistic tendencies

10. Mock God and embrace unrighteousness

11. Have no respect for their elders or authority

12. Embrace and glamorize the thug/criminal life

13. Eagerly wrought crimes against their communities

14. Energetically subvert other males from true manhood


African American boys are crying out! They are clamoring for men who will lead them out of the Black male wilderness. A maligned wilderness that is rooted in false bravado and rift with ignorance, anger, hatred, brutality and violence. The only way they will escape this madness, is if we insure that they are properly initiated into manhood. Our efforts must be concerted, consistent and unwavering. I’m up for the assignment. Will you join me?

"Check, please!"

 

[Acur]

"Check, please!"

You won't read something good. You will read the gold teeth eastside classics. You are a country boy who don't like all that book learning hun? I spoke to you in words you understand.

 

[GucciGucci]

This is a real touchy subject i tried to make a thread about it but people ran in all different directions. At the end of the day a woman decides if she wants to have a child with a complete asshole drug dealing retarded idiot type fool with no self respect no up bringing no common sense no future or she chooses not to have his child.

People can scream about men need to grow up and be fathers... or in addition you can scream women need to stop making babies with fucking idiots.


It takes two.

Lets be real. Alot of you so called nice guys are not taking car of your responsibilities either. People here wanna act like its drug dealing gun toting thugs having all of the kids. They are a big part, but its all Black men. If unemployment of Black men is around 10% and around 80% of Black children are born out of wedlock, there has to be alot of normal working men not doing their part. Brothers need to step up period.

Also marriage may help but as long as both parents are involved it can be just as good or better for the child. I'm not with my kids mother but I bet there isnt any married guys doing any better or doing more for their kids. I know married guys who dont do any prenting at all.

 

[Acur]

Lets be real. Alot of you so called nice guys are not taking car of your responsibilities either. People here wanna act like its drug dealing gun toting thugs having all of the kids. They are a big part, but its all Black men. If unemployment of Black men is around 10% and around 80% of Black children are born out of wedlock, there has to be alot of normal working men not doing their part. Brothers need to step up period.

Also marriage may help but as long as both parents are involved it can be just as good or better for the child. I'm not with my kids mother but I bet there isnt any married guys doing any better or doing more for their kids. I know married guys who dont do any prenting at all.

If you asked the average person, “What is the purpose of marriage?” Regrettably, most men and women, including those who are married and those who desire to marry, could not properly answer that question.

Amazingly, countless ministers also posses this harmful lack of knowledge. Some preach that marriage is solely for procreation. They claim that any sexual activity that does not end with the intent of bearing children is immoral and forbidden by God. Some of their other doctrines are just as bizarre. In this life-invigorating session you’ll learn the true purposes for which God instituted marriage.


First Things First…
Let’s be clear on this critical point; the concept of marriage originated solely with God. Mankind had absolutely nothing to do with the institution of marriage; except for being a recipient of its manifold blessings. It was God who decided that it was not good for man to be alone and made a helpmeet for him. After which, He (God) presided over the first ever wedding ceremony recorded in history.

From that glorious moment forward, countless men and women have been joined together in holy matrimony. Yet, with every generation, these spirited questions keep reoccurring, “Why get married? Why not just live together? Is marriage really necessary? Isn’t Marriage Obsolete? What is the purpose of marriage?”

Why Did God Create The Institution of Marriage?
Years ago, Myles Munroe made a profound statement when he said, “Where purpose is not known abuse is inevitable…” The word “abuse,” is the combination of two English words: abnormal and use. When a person does not understand the purpose of a thing, they almost always abnormally use or abuse that thing and marriage is no different.

Therefore, it is of vital importance that we understand the true intent and purpose of matrimony.

The Four-Fold Purpose of Marriage

Partnership
One of the primary purposes of marriage is partnership. Or, I could more fittingly call it, companionship. When God created us, the scripture says, we were fearfully and wonderfully made, (See Psalms 139:14). Part of our make up is; God DID NOT create us to be alone. He specifically wired us for companionship and declared this revelatory truth when He stated, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” (See Genesis 2:18).

The yearning we have for companionship is part of our spiritual DNA. God designed the partnership of marriage to fulfill that yearning. This divinely inspired partnership was designed to fortify both participants in ways that mere words cannot aptly express or define.

Pleasure
One of the ways this partnership fortifies, invigorates, relaxes and pleasures the participants is through sexual relations. Religion has taught us that we were not to enjoy sex. Not only do such doctrines contradict one of the crucial purposes for which God designed marriage; their sermons leave many couples gripped in harmful sexual bondage.

The truth is; God hot-wired us with a sex drive, and He intended for man and woman to express and joyfully fulfill their sexual desires with each other through the rites of passage of a covenant marriage.

Meditate on these facts; God engineered our body parts to fit perfectly together, (male to female). He programmed our bodies to respond to touch, taste, sight, sound and aroma. He installed in us the ability to become sexually aroused. Once aroused, our bodies automatically emit chemicals, aromas and sensitivities that heighten the sexual experience.

He wired us with capabilities to experience intense and immeasurable pleasure from foreplay and sexual intercourse. To top things off, He gave us the capacity to climax and enjoy orgasms. With all of those irrefutable truths and facts, pious religious folks continue to try and convince us that sex was never meant for pleasure. Go figure?

It shouldn’t take a 20-year study by Harvard researchers, a PhD, or a doctorate to understand and accept the fact that God gave us these capabilities for the sole purpose of enjoying sexual pleasures and for no other reason! (See Song of Solomon 4:11 and Proverbs 5:18-19).

Procreation
Another vital purpose of marriage is procreation; the conceiving and bearing of offspring. The Lord God revealed this part of the four-fold purpose of marriage when He released these commanding words:

Genesis 1:28 (Amplified Bible)
And God blessed them and said to them, Be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth…

Jeremiah 29:5-6
5 Build ye houses, and dwell in them; and plant gardens, and eat the fruit of them;
6 Take ye wives, and beget sons and daughters; and take wives for your sons, and give your daughters to husbands, that they may bear sons and daughters; that ye may be increased there, and not diminished.

His vision is to fill the earth with righteous men and women who bring forth righteous children, The Lord intended on parents instilling in their offspring - godly morals and family values, (See Proverbs 22:6). His plan is for this model of the family to multiply and flourish until the earth is filled with men and women who reverence and obey His Word.

Purity
In His infinite wisdom, the Lord God purposed for marriage to protect us from the consequences and devastation of a society engrossed in moral chaos and sexual immorality. Meditate on His words carefully…

Hebrews 13:4 (The Message)
Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.

Make no mistake about it; God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex. Marriage was and is the only pathway the Lord has ordained for a man and woman to engage in sexual relations. (See 1 Corinthians 7:2 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-11).

The Lord has drawn this clearly marked point of demarcation because of the disastrous effects of promiscuity and loose sexual morals. (e.g. birth defects, unplanned and unwanted pregnancies, fatherless children, paternity fraud, HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases, emotional torment, heartbreaking disappointment) and the list goes on.

A marriage union between an honorable man and a virtuous woman protects a man and woman from the impurities of casual and illicit sex.

The Manifold Blessings of Marriage
The manifold blessings of being in a union ordained of God are innumerable. You delight in the most glorious, precious, beautiful and purest intimacy known to mankind. You engage in unfettered romance. You experience true love as it was sculptured by God.

You have the assurance that you are protected from the ravages of sexual degradation and immorality. You develop confidence and a clear conscience from knowing you did it God’s way. Countless men and women lie down with each other, but get up with a guilty conscience. With every sexual encounter they are tormented, knowing in their hearts that God adamantly disapproves of their casual and illicit affairs.

Concerning offspring; children need both parents! The joy, satisfaction and security of growing up in a balanced, loving and stable environment with both father and mother are immeasurable. I could go on and on describing and defining the benefits and blessings of marriage.

Know this; when marriage is done right, it is magnificent, beautiful, romantic, marvelous, awesome, exquisite, grand, fascinating, splendid and much, much more! Now that you know the four-fold purpose of marriage, may God bless you with a joyful and enriching union!

 

[MrMotivator]

Lets be real. Alot of you so called nice guys are not taking car of your responsibilities either. People here wanna act like its drug dealing gun toting thugs having all of the kids. They are a big part, but its all Black men. If unemployment of Black men is around 10% and around 80% of Black children are born out of wedlock, there has to be alot of normal working men not doing their part. Brothers need to step up period.

Also marriage may help but as long as both parents are involved it can be just as good or better for the child. I'm not with my kids mother but I bet there isnt any married guys doing any better or doing more for their kids. I know married guys who dont do any prenting at all.

You read my post wrong i didn't call for the shift in blame i said while you are screaming on black men to be better fathers you should be screaming on black women to be better as well. This includes being waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more selective about who you decide to have a baby with. If at all. Thats all i'm saying, women have played a part in why shit is fucked right now. And right now we spend our time shitting on men demanding more from them while looking the other way at the other sex. And look at the results does society look any better to you?

And our society is destined to fail if people continue with this attitude that you are better off or it is equal being a single parent vs being in a relationship with the childs mother(father) real talk. Throwing this bullshit about well people with both parents have "issues" too is utter nonsense as an excuse to perpetuate single parenthood.

 

[woodchuck]

You won't read something good. You will read the gold teeth eastside classics. You are a country boy who don't like all that book learning hun? I spoke to you in words you understand.

No, you cum gargling bitch, post the link instead of posting this run on shit you do. I know you didn't write this, so there has to be a link. Hey look, there's a car parked outside your house! Head looking like a baboon's penis!

 

[Acur]

No, you cum gargling bitch, post the link instead of posting this run on shit you do. I know you didn't write this, so there has to be a link. Hey look, there's a car parked outside your house! Head looking like a baboon's penis!

You need help. Your so emotional it does not make sense. I don't want to know what You do offline son.

 

[woodchuck]

You need help. Your so emotional it does not make sense. I don't want to know what You do offline son.

Your mother. Check the latest episode of Cum Dumps.