Mutual Masturbation
Sharing a masturbation experience can be one of the most intimate acts you can experience with your partner.
Mutual masturbation can be done as foreplay to intercourse or it can be done all on it’s own right to orgasm. Either way it can be a lot of fun and create a very intimate session for you and your partner. If you have sex toys that you enjoy playing with they can come in very handy when you are pleasuring each other in this fashion.
Mutual masturbation is a great activity for those lazy days, when you really don’t want to crawl out of bed at all. This is definitely a great way to wake up! Lying beside each other it’s fairly easy to reach over and run your fingers through his pubic hair or skim your fingers lightly over his balls and cock. As you play you will notice that his cock will arise to the occasion. At this point if he hasn’t already started to work his hands over towards your pussy there’s nothing wrong with grabbing his hand and directing it to your pussy yourself. He’ll get the idea.
Lubrication is always a good idea. If there isn’t enough lubrication then sensitive skin can become chafed and extremely uncomfortable. Now there are many different types of lubrication that you can use. Some of the choices you will make in choosing lubrication might depend on whether or not you’re going to indulge in oral sex afterward. If this is the case then you want to use something that will at least taste good and not leave a bad taste in your mouth. There are lots of love lotions available from the sex shops that will fill the bill here. If taste isn’t an issue then go with a water-soluble based lubrication. If things start to dry out you just have to add a little bit of moisture to it and you’re all set to go again. If you don’t have any of the lubrication above available then just use what comes naturally which is your saliva and juices that your body produces when you are sexually aroused.
Positioning:
Mutual masturbation can be done in a number of different positions. It’s simply a matter of finding what is the most comfortable for you and your partner.
The most common position is lying side by side on your backs in the bed. Your arm will cross over your partner’s arm or vice versa and reach to their most sensitive spots.
Another position that can be used for mutual masturbation is for you both to be sitting facing one another with genitals close together. Easiest if this is done in a semi-recline position so that you are able to reach your partner’s genitals easily.
Masturbation for Her
The majority of women, myself included can only attain orgasm through manual stimulation. There are a few who can achieve orgasm through intercourse alone and I’m jealous of them. Anyway, here are some techniques that might add a little variety to your masturbation play
Direct Clitorial Stimulation:
*Rolling, rolling, rolling: for this technique you need to place your thumb and forefinger around the clitoris and gently roll it in between your fingers. You can start off with a slow gentle roll and then gradually pick up the pace and the pressure according to what feels good to you.
*Circular rub: Just take your first two fingers from either hand and place them over top of you clitoris. Then begin moving them in a circular motion over top of the clitoris. You can vary the speed and pressure easily with this technique. If you want to change the feel slightly just add your favourite lube and everything becomes very slippery.
*Tapping: This technique is a little different and it’s not for everyone, as with anything some things will work for some people and not for others. For this one I use my left hand to pull the pussy lips back out of the way so that the clitoris is very exposed. Then with my index finger on my right hand I lightly begin tapping the fingertip gently on the clitoris. It results in a very delicious sensation that builds to a point where you just can’t hold it back anymore.
*Combination: There is nothing that gets me wetter faster than using a combination of both hands. Have your fingers from one hand playing with your clitoris, stimulating it however you wish. Take the other hand and place two or three fingers inside your vagina and begin thrusting. Basically you’re simulating intercourse with this action and it works rather nicely in tandem with the clitoral stimulation and can bring you to a rocking orgasm!
Waterworks:
Water is your friend. It can be used in a multitude of ways to get you off! Try these out. Please avoid sending strong streams of water directly into your vagina as that can be potentially dangerous.
*Running Water: Now, just imagine that same water flow landing on your clitoris. It’s a wild feeling. The only thing you need for this one is some time and a bathtub. Hopefully your bathtub will be shaped properly so that you can slide your butt down against the end of the tub and position yourself so that the water flow will land on your clitoris. It’s best to start of with a lighter water flow and gradually work up to a higher pressure flow. Make sure that you test the warmth of the water before sticking your pussy under it, wouldn’t want to get scalded in that area!
*Water Spray: this on is just a bit of a variation on the one above. In this instance just place your thumb or finger over the faucet and then direct the spray so that it falls directly on your clitoris.
*Shower Massage: this is a great one if you’ve got one of those Shower Massage devices because you can pick whether it pulses or comes out in a steady spray. There are many options. You’ll have to experiment with them to see what works best for you. Here again, you can adjust the pressure and temperature of the spray to whatever you’d like them to be.
*Jacuzzi Jive: If you’re lucky, you will have private access to a Jacuzzi and you’ll be able to take advantage of the water flow from the jets! This is one to be careful with since the flow of water from the jets has considerably more pressure behind it than that from the shower or bathtub. My recommendation is to start a fair distance back from the jets and then move yourself closer to find the pressure level that works for you. All you need to do is position yourself so that the water flow lands directly on your vagina and clitoris. Once you’ve found the right spot let yourself go and enjoy the warm water and indulge in a little fantasy.
Good Vibrations:
Vibrators are handy little gadgets and in my opinion every woman should have one tucked away in a drawer for those moments when you really need it. Vibrators are primarily used for clitoral stimulation but can also be used vaginally or anally if you prefer. You can try different combinations out to see which you like best.
*Clit rub: Vibrators are great for clitoral control since you can change alter the speed of the vibration easily and bring yourself to the edge and then slow it down again. Pressure is a key factor as well. You may also want to try rubbing the vibrator over your inner thighs and around your pussy lips and even up over your nipples. Masturbation doesn’t have to be confined to just the clitoral area.
*Dildos: A good dildo will provide you with hours of entertainment for when you’re going solo or even when you’ve got a partner to play with. It’s well worth the money to spend and get a good one that’s going to last for a long time. You want to make sure that the surface is easily cleaned. Some of the latex ones had pores in them which made them very difficult to keep clean. There’s some really cool gel dildos on the market these days. Check out your local love shop and see what they have to offer. Don’t be afraid to ask questions.
*External Stimulation: using the dildo on the outside of your body is probably the easiest way to do things to start off with. Here are a couple of ideas to get you started, first of all apply some lube to the dildo and lay it flat on a hard chair. Then if you position yourself above it and sit down so that the dildo runs the full length from the crack of your ass all the way up to your clit and slide yourself back and forth on it. This will provide all kinds of stimulation
*Head: You can also use the head of the dildo, it’s shaped pretty much like the real thing, and rub it against your clitoris. By applying pressure and moving the head over your clitoris in an up and down or circular motion you can provide great stimulation to the clit. The more pressure you apply the faster you will come. On the other hand just using light pressure will take you longer to reach the climax but the result will be a more intense orgasm. For better control, you may find it easier to use two hands to grip the dildo.
*Internal Stimulation: The dildo also does a wonderful job when inserted into the vagina as well. Such a multipurpose kind of toy. One of the things you need to consider is the size of your dildo, it doesn’t have to be a huge monster to be effective. Simply find one that is wide enough to be snug inside your vagina and longer than what you need to insert as you have to have something to hold onto. Find a comfortable position to be in while you play. Insert the dildo into your vagina and then begin moving it in an in and out fashion. Depth of the thrusts is entirely dependent on how you feel, and the sensation will be different at different depths. Once you’ve established a bit of a rhythm start rubbing or stroking your clitoris in time with the strokes. If you want something a little different try positioning the dildo so that when it moves in and out it will pull a bit and stimulate the clitoris that way.
*Double Up: Dildos come in many shapes and flavors so you can get whatever you’d like. You might want to consider purchasing a dual dildo. This will enable you to insert one end into your vagina and the other end into your anus. This way you have double the thrusting pleasure while you stimulate your clit. You can also combine the use of a vibrator in one spot and a dildo in the other. If you were feeling adventurous you could place a vibrating butt plug in your anus and a vibrator in your vagina and stimulate your clit with your fingers. The combinations are only limited by your imagination.
Masturbation for Him
Hands On:
*Single Fist: The use of a single fist is perhaps the most basic male masturbation technique. You simply wrap your fingers around your erect penis firmly and slide your hand up and down over your cock. This technique produces the most contact between your hand and your penis.
*Fist over Fist: In this technique you can alternate fists, sliding first one and then the other from the base of the penis to the tip. In this manner you can strike up a similar rhythm that approximates the single fisted method. To add a slightly different twist, try moving one fist upwards and the other downwards.
*Two Fists Together: If your penis is of a fairly large size, you may be able to place both of your fists on your penis at the same time and slide them back and forth on your penis in unison.
Sharing a masturbation experience can be one of the most intimate acts you can experience with your partner.
Mutual masturbation can be done as foreplay to intercourse or it can be done all on it’s own right to orgasm. Either way it can be a lot of fun and create a very intimate session for you and your partner. If you have sex toys that you enjoy playing with they can come in very handy when you are pleasuring each other in this fashion.
Mutual masturbation is a great activity for those lazy days, when you really don’t want to crawl out of bed at all. This is definitely a great way to wake up! Lying beside each other it’s fairly easy to reach over and run your fingers through his pubic hair or skim your fingers lightly over his balls and cock. As you play you will notice that his cock will arise to the occasion. At this point if he hasn’t already started to work his hands over towards your pussy there’s nothing wrong with grabbing his hand and directing it to your pussy yourself. He’ll get the idea.
Lubrication is always a good idea. If there isn’t enough lubrication then sensitive skin can become chafed and extremely uncomfortable. Now there are many different types of lubrication that you can use. Some of the choices you will make in choosing lubrication might depend on whether or not you’re going to indulge in oral sex afterward. If this is the case then you want to use something that will at least taste good and not leave a bad taste in your mouth. There are lots of love lotions available from the sex shops that will fill the bill here. If taste isn’t an issue then go with a water-soluble based lubrication. If things start to dry out you just have to add a little bit of moisture to it and you’re all set to go again. If you don’t have any of the lubrication above available then just use what comes naturally which is your saliva and juices that your body produces when you are sexually aroused.
Positioning:
Mutual masturbation can be done in a number of different positions. It’s simply a matter of finding what is the most comfortable for you and your partner.
The most common position is lying side by side on your backs in the bed. Your arm will cross over your partner’s arm or vice versa and reach to their most sensitive spots.
Another position that can be used for mutual masturbation is for you both to be sitting facing one another with genitals close together. Easiest if this is done in a semi-recline position so that you are able to reach your partner’s genitals easily.
Masturbation for Her
The majority of women, myself included can only attain orgasm through manual stimulation. There are a few who can achieve orgasm through intercourse alone and I’m jealous of them. Anyway, here are some techniques that might add a little variety to your masturbation play
Direct Clitorial Stimulation:
*Rolling, rolling, rolling: for this technique you need to place your thumb and forefinger around the clitoris and gently roll it in between your fingers. You can start off with a slow gentle roll and then gradually pick up the pace and the pressure according to what feels good to you.
*Circular rub: Just take your first two fingers from either hand and place them over top of you clitoris. Then begin moving them in a circular motion over top of the clitoris. You can vary the speed and pressure easily with this technique. If you want to change the feel slightly just add your favourite lube and everything becomes very slippery.
*Tapping: This technique is a little different and it’s not for everyone, as with anything some things will work for some people and not for others. For this one I use my left hand to pull the pussy lips back out of the way so that the clitoris is very exposed. Then with my index finger on my right hand I lightly begin tapping the fingertip gently on the clitoris. It results in a very delicious sensation that builds to a point where you just can’t hold it back anymore.
*Combination: There is nothing that gets me wetter faster than using a combination of both hands. Have your fingers from one hand playing with your clitoris, stimulating it however you wish. Take the other hand and place two or three fingers inside your vagina and begin thrusting. Basically you’re simulating intercourse with this action and it works rather nicely in tandem with the clitoral stimulation and can bring you to a rocking orgasm!
Waterworks:
Water is your friend. It can be used in a multitude of ways to get you off! Try these out. Please avoid sending strong streams of water directly into your vagina as that can be potentially dangerous.
*Running Water: Now, just imagine that same water flow landing on your clitoris. It’s a wild feeling. The only thing you need for this one is some time and a bathtub. Hopefully your bathtub will be shaped properly so that you can slide your butt down against the end of the tub and position yourself so that the water flow will land on your clitoris. It’s best to start of with a lighter water flow and gradually work up to a higher pressure flow. Make sure that you test the warmth of the water before sticking your pussy under it, wouldn’t want to get scalded in that area!
*Water Spray: this on is just a bit of a variation on the one above. In this instance just place your thumb or finger over the faucet and then direct the spray so that it falls directly on your clitoris.
*Shower Massage: this is a great one if you’ve got one of those Shower Massage devices because you can pick whether it pulses or comes out in a steady spray. There are many options. You’ll have to experiment with them to see what works best for you. Here again, you can adjust the pressure and temperature of the spray to whatever you’d like them to be.
*Jacuzzi Jive: If you’re lucky, you will have private access to a Jacuzzi and you’ll be able to take advantage of the water flow from the jets! This is one to be careful with since the flow of water from the jets has considerably more pressure behind it than that from the shower or bathtub. My recommendation is to start a fair distance back from the jets and then move yourself closer to find the pressure level that works for you. All you need to do is position yourself so that the water flow lands directly on your vagina and clitoris. Once you’ve found the right spot let yourself go and enjoy the warm water and indulge in a little fantasy.
Good Vibrations:
Vibrators are handy little gadgets and in my opinion every woman should have one tucked away in a drawer for those moments when you really need it. Vibrators are primarily used for clitoral stimulation but can also be used vaginally or anally if you prefer. You can try different combinations out to see which you like best.
*Clit rub: Vibrators are great for clitoral control since you can change alter the speed of the vibration easily and bring yourself to the edge and then slow it down again. Pressure is a key factor as well. You may also want to try rubbing the vibrator over your inner thighs and around your pussy lips and even up over your nipples. Masturbation doesn’t have to be confined to just the clitoral area.
*Dildos: A good dildo will provide you with hours of entertainment for when you’re going solo or even when you’ve got a partner to play with. It’s well worth the money to spend and get a good one that’s going to last for a long time. You want to make sure that the surface is easily cleaned. Some of the latex ones had pores in them which made them very difficult to keep clean. There’s some really cool gel dildos on the market these days. Check out your local love shop and see what they have to offer. Don’t be afraid to ask questions.
*External Stimulation: using the dildo on the outside of your body is probably the easiest way to do things to start off with. Here are a couple of ideas to get you started, first of all apply some lube to the dildo and lay it flat on a hard chair. Then if you position yourself above it and sit down so that the dildo runs the full length from the crack of your ass all the way up to your clit and slide yourself back and forth on it. This will provide all kinds of stimulation
*Head: You can also use the head of the dildo, it’s shaped pretty much like the real thing, and rub it against your clitoris. By applying pressure and moving the head over your clitoris in an up and down or circular motion you can provide great stimulation to the clit. The more pressure you apply the faster you will come. On the other hand just using light pressure will take you longer to reach the climax but the result will be a more intense orgasm. For better control, you may find it easier to use two hands to grip the dildo.
*Internal Stimulation: The dildo also does a wonderful job when inserted into the vagina as well. Such a multipurpose kind of toy. One of the things you need to consider is the size of your dildo, it doesn’t have to be a huge monster to be effective. Simply find one that is wide enough to be snug inside your vagina and longer than what you need to insert as you have to have something to hold onto. Find a comfortable position to be in while you play. Insert the dildo into your vagina and then begin moving it in an in and out fashion. Depth of the thrusts is entirely dependent on how you feel, and the sensation will be different at different depths. Once you’ve established a bit of a rhythm start rubbing or stroking your clitoris in time with the strokes. If you want something a little different try positioning the dildo so that when it moves in and out it will pull a bit and stimulate the clitoris that way.
*Double Up: Dildos come in many shapes and flavors so you can get whatever you’d like. You might want to consider purchasing a dual dildo. This will enable you to insert one end into your vagina and the other end into your anus. This way you have double the thrusting pleasure while you stimulate your clit. You can also combine the use of a vibrator in one spot and a dildo in the other. If you were feeling adventurous you could place a vibrating butt plug in your anus and a vibrator in your vagina and stimulate your clit with your fingers. The combinations are only limited by your imagination.
Masturbation for Him
Hands On:
*Single Fist: The use of a single fist is perhaps the most basic male masturbation technique. You simply wrap your fingers around your erect penis firmly and slide your hand up and down over your cock. This technique produces the most contact between your hand and your penis.
*Fist over Fist: In this technique you can alternate fists, sliding first one and then the other from the base of the penis to the tip. In this manner you can strike up a similar rhythm that approximates the single fisted method. To add a slightly different twist, try moving one fist upwards and the other downwards.
*Two Fists Together: If your penis is of a fairly large size, you may be able to place both of your fists on your penis at the same time and slide them back and forth on your penis in unison.
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