William... is that you?! Damn how you find me online!
hmm lets compare my post count to yours....
hmmm... dont hurt yourself when you come up with an answer...
numbers don't lie....-jayz
The Stalkers Awareness Thread: The 24 Hour Rule?!
- Thread starter MzKittyDelicious
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William... is that you?! Damn how you find me online!
hmm lets compare my post count to yours....
hmmm... dont hurt yourself when you come up with an answer...
numbers don't lie....-jayz
Um. I'm offended by this thread. I am very saddened to think that you believe "youngins" would not have valuable information to offer you.... Like we've never been stalked before.MzKitty, I am extremely disappointed in your prejudice.
*rub's Harlem Angel's tiddies*
oh mama I found the best damn happy hour in the city last night! I am not sure if you are old enough to have the occasional drink but its on 34th & 8th
wtf does MY post count have to do with YOURS? you lurk more than your post, so what? i just went through an experience with a bitch like you but it was much deeper than just knowing each other for a week. yea i'm bitter.William... is that you?! Damn how you find me online!
hmm lets compare my post count to yours....
hmmm... dont hurt yourself when you come up with an answer...
numbers don't lie....-jayz
You right he needs a chick with no job/life who can be at home talking on the phone with him.
AlexandMorgan
Banned
Maybe it was but sometimes when you really want something you will try harder. But if you had liked him and he had not called or shown enough interest you would have been pissed off as well i bet.
By laying down the ground rules early you set the tone for how the relationship develops and by not doing anything you take the blame if he does not stop sweating you.
Maybe he is accustomed to needy chicks and that is what he considers normal but that don't matter.
In my limited experience when a woman likes you or is interested she will make time for you so he just has to pick up the blatant hint you gave him.
By laying down the ground rules early you set the tone for how the relationship develops and by not doing anything you take the blame if he does not stop sweating you.
Maybe he is accustomed to needy chicks and that is what he considers normal but that don't matter.
In my limited experience when a woman likes you or is interested she will make time for you so he just has to pick up the blatant hint you gave him.
actually I am not a lurker even though I joke about being a lurker. I post when I am on. But thats neither here nor there.
IF A CHICK TELLS YOU THE DRILL BEFORE YOU GET INVOLVED.... THATS ON YOUR DUMB ASS FOR NOT LISTENING TO WTF SHE SAID. FOR EXAMPLE FOR THE SLOW PEOPLE:
chick: Here is my number, but I must warn you that I am extremely busy. I will let you know how my schedule is.
dude: *calls 15 times in a week*
that is not the chicks fault for the dude getting his feelings hurt. so why you over there being bitter maybe you need to sit back and reflect on where you went wrong.
the moment I told you I was busy and you accepted the number... thats the same moment you agreed to my terms.Maybe it was but sometimes when you really want something you will try harder. But if you had liked him and he had not called or shown enough interest you would have been pissed off as well i bet.
By laying down the ground rules early you set the tone for how the relationship develops and by not doing anything you take the blame if he does not stop sweating you.
Maybe he is accustomed to needy chicks and that is what he considers normal but that don't matter.
In my limited experience when a woman likes you or is interested she will make time for you so he just has to pick up the blatant hint you gave him.
and once again I talked to him twice. in addition, i dont lose sleep if a dude dont call me... especially in the first week *shrugs* i never put all my eggs in one basket... but apparently most of the men on SOL do... oh well use this thread as a learning tool... not all chicks wanna be pressed!
AlexandMorgan
Banned
I doan feel like pissing into the wind anymore so i will say nothing more.
actually I am not a lurker even though I joke about being a lurker. I post when I am on. But thats neither here nor there.
IF A CHICK TELLS YOU THE DRILL BEFORE YOU GET INVOLVED.... THATS ON YOUR DUMB ASS FOR NOT LISTENING TO WTF SHE SAID. FOR EXAMPLE FOR THE SLOW PEOPLE:
chick: Here is my number, but I must warn you that I am extremely busy. I will let you know how my schedule is.
dude: *calls 15 times in a week*
that is not the chicks fault for the dude getting his feelings hurt. so why you over there being bitter maybe you need to sit back and reflect on where you went wrong.
DId you tell him your schedule AT the time you gave him the number?? If you didn't, THEN HOW WAS HE SUPPOSED TO KNOW WHEN TO CALL?
None of the other dudes have this problem with you because they are just fucking you and you are there jump off. Hell you are doing them a favor because they don't have to talk to you. Why do you think he only talks to you? Just because he is interested in you does not mean he is desperate. I promise you dude probably has a roster full of women. To him you seem like a leading candidate for his number one spot. Instead of complaining be happy someone cares enough about you to contact you to simply see how you are doing.
Sometime you females kill me. You cry all the time that you want a man to pay attention to you and treat you nice but when you get one you run faster the Carl Lewis. I can't believe you logged on just to type and complain about a guy who simply is contacting you just to say hello and how was your day. Girl you have people in this world with real problems...like dead beat dads, fathers not paying child support, Husband/Boyfriend is cheating or mentally and physically abusing ....and you have the nerve to complain about this.
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*rub's Harlem Angel's tiddies*
oh mama I found the best damn happy hour in the city last night! I am not sure if you are old enough to have the occasional drink but its on 34th & 8th
Local?
None of the other dudes have this problem with you because they are just fucking you and you are there jump off. Hell you are doing them a favor because they don't have to talk to you. Why do you think he only talks to you? Just because he is interested in you does not mean he is desperate. I promise you dude probably has a roster full of women. To him you seem like a leading candidate for his number one spot. Instead of complaining be happy someone cares enough about you to contact you to simply see how you are doing.
Sometime you females kill me. You cry all the time that you want a man to pay attention to you and treat you nice but when you get one you run faster the Carl Lewis. I can't believe you logged on just to type and complain about a guy who simply is contacting you just to say hello and how was your day. Girl you have people in this world with real problems...like dead beat dads, fathers not paying child support, Husband/Boyfriend is cheating or mentally and physically abusing ....and you have the nerve to complain about this.
Judging by your reaction to my thread over a dude ive known for only a week... I see why the chick you was with left you.
yea, in midtown
Scorsese
Banned
ManAll I Want To Say Is MTL Got Some Sexxy Lipps.... Now That Thats Out The Way....
Mz Kitty This Thread Is Bullshit.... You Should Of Just Told The Cat Your Not Interested And Moved On..... If He Would Of Kept Calling After That, Then Its Considered Stalking.....
IF I CALL A FEMALE 3 TIMES, AND SHE DONT HAVE TIME TO TALK, THEN I MOVE THE FUCK ON... I DELETE HER OUT MY CELL PHONE...
Mz Kitty This Thread Is Bullshit.... You Should Of Just Told The Cat Your Not Interested And Moved On..... If He Would Of Kept Calling After That, Then Its Considered Stalking.....
IF I CALL A FEMALE 3 TIMES, AND SHE DONT HAVE TIME TO TALK, THEN I MOVE THE FUCK ON... I DELETE HER OUT MY CELL PHONE...
actually I am not a lurker even though I joke about being a lurker. I post when I am on. But thats neither here nor there.
IF A CHICK TELLS YOU THE DRILL BEFORE YOU GET INVOLVED.... THATS ON YOUR DUMB ASS FOR NOT LISTENING TO WTF SHE SAID. FOR EXAMPLE FOR THE SLOW PEOPLE:
chick: Here is my number, but I must warn you that I am extremely busy. I will let you know how my schedule is.
dude: *calls 15 times in a week*
that is not the chicks fault for the dude getting his feelings hurt. so why you over there being bitter maybe you need to sit back and reflect on where you went wrong.
WOW...I could really go on a long Collin Powell on this Thread. But, I'll try to keep it short. I see what the issue is.
First, You are working according to a rule you learned in Cali, and now you're in NYC. The problem is he doesn't know anything about your rule, or that this rule you are judging him on even exists. He probably thinks that you're testing him in some other way, and he's trying to show determination. Is is possible that you made a really good impression on him
Second, You are doing something many women do. You haven't made him aware of what his position is. So he's calling to get some idea as to what his next move should be. It's obvious that in the time you two did have to talk you were ever straight and direct about what kind of position you had open and what the rules of that position was. He's like a basketball player on a football field. He has no idea of what the boundaries are and what he's supposed to do, so he's doing the only thing he can.
Third, You haven't made him aware that you have objections to him calling you. You haven't explained to him that his voice mails are bothering you. Since you haven't done that , how would he know this is not something you want. Especially if you've talked to him after he's called a few times. You've pretty much support this behavior. If he's called you 10 times, and you've picked up the phone and had a conversation with him and didn't tell him that calling you 10 times was extreme, that's your fault for not speaking up.
I'm with everybody else here in this thread that says if you're no interested in the guy then you should be woman enough to let him know, that way he can move on to some one , with whom he has more potential. I think every man in the world has been in this man's shoes. So we are telling you the truth. Either you are interested or you're not interested, what ever it is just woman up and let him know what the deal is.
True you said you're very busy, but what does that mean? Did you tell him not to call during your work hours? Did you tell him that you didn't like voice mails? "I'm very busy" is a vague statement.
You can't expect him to live up to or meet your standards, when you haven let him know what they are. Also, Why are you so bothered by voice mails, and calls? You gave him you phone number, did you not think he was going to call? If Voice mails and calls bother you that much you may want to be more selective on how you give your number out. Remember, you gave him your number, he didn't steal it from you.
at first i was semi interested from what I saw of him in person. the week he got the number was memorial day week so shit was crazy at work because of the 4 days. as i stated i did manage to talk to him twice during the week but I guess twice wasnt enough...after i checked my voicemail on wednesday and got heard the 6 back2back messages... I did talk to him and tell him his calls were excessive.... and he didnt see it that way *shrugs* i think i said this before... had I of known he was like that i would of never given him my number... but thats the point of exchanging numbers.... getting to know a person.
Scorsese
Banned
I FEEL YOU... HE MUST OF SAW THEM CALI TETA'S AND WENT CRAZY.....
CAUSE I MIGHT HAVE... NAH BUT ON ANOTHER NOTE, IM FROM BROOKLYN, AND WE DONT MOVE LIKE THAT... IF WE SEE SOMETHING WE WANT, WE GO FOR IT... IF SHE AINT BUYING IT WE MOVE ON......IF I GET A FEMALES NUMBER, AND SAY I CALL HER AT THE END OF THE WEEK... IF SHE DONT SHOW INTEREST SHE'S OUT OF MY ADDRESS BOOK.... AND MY CONVERSATION IS MEAN, SO I KNOW IT WOULDNT BE ME AT ALL...
AGAIN I FEEL YOU THOUGH...
If you had a conversation with him, and directly told him that his behavior was bothering you, and he made it clear that he didn't care about what you were saying, there's a bigger problem there. This issue has nothing to do with the 24hr rule. This has to do with him not respecting your space. If I were you I would just shrug this off. It's only going to get worse. Have you told him not to call or contact you, and that you are no longer interested? If you haven't you're just encouraging his disregard of your space, and opinions about his behavior. As well as making a problem for your self.
did you read through this thread at all? because of your points where answered. whenever you exchange numbers with someone of course your somewhat interested. the purpose the exchanging numbers is to see if you two click on another level. as i stated in my original post the point of this thread was not to ask for advice but to ask the 3 questions.
In addition, I didnt apply the 24 hour rule with him.... if I had I wouldnt have talked to him the couples of time I did. I genuinely didnt have an opinion about him until on Wednesday he had 6 back to back messages. I feel like if i said dude called me 100 times during the course of one week yall would still be defending him.
I guess I can agree to disagree with with the few men on BGOL who feel like calling chicks 15 times is not a problem... (mind you more people have hit me about this thread agreeing with my stance then not). And I state again 15 times in one week is wayyyy to many times to call a person. The standing rule should be leave a message wait a day for the person to respond, not keep calling and calling. That shit is nerve racking... and to answer your question....The shit was nipped in the bud.
Babe, as I stated earlier the purpose of this thread was not to ask advice but more so to ask the 3 questions. I did express my concerns and he has stopped calling.
You know the deal with holiday week...the job gives u one day off but the work load doesn't stop. literally that week moved so quickly that I barely had a chance to call my own family members back. My intension's weren't to jerk dude around... but in all fairness I told him I had 2 side businesses besides my own main job and I was starting a running club that started last week. He asked me for my number and I told him I would let him know when I had available time. Its not like he didnt know...
I FEEL YOU... HE MUST OF SAW THEM CALI TETA'S AND WENT CRAZY.....
IF I GET A FEMALES NUMBER, AND SAY I CALL HER AT THE END OF THE WEEK... IF SHE DONT SHOW INTEREST SHE'S OUT OF MY ADDRESS BOOK.... AND MY CONVERSATION IS MEAN, SO I KNOW IT WOULDNT BE ME AT ALL...
AGAIN I FEEL YOU THOUGH...
you know I didnt mean to make it seem like I am shitting on NY dudes... yall are like Tom Cats all cute and loveable... but turn my back and yall at the next chicks house lmaoooo.
Naw but moving here I learned that behind the tough exterior... NY dudes are some real gentlemen! I've met more good dudes then bad... actually this dude was the only bad apple as far as giving my number out goes...
I'm happy to admit I didn't read thought the entire thread, 85% of it was silly arguments and bickering. I did only read the first post, and the post I chose to reply to. I'm not defending him, I'm trying to give you some insight as to what you may have over looked. Being a female you haven't been on the other side of the fence so I'm sure you couldn't understand a man's actions unless a man explained it to you. However, If he called you 100 times; Yes, I'd think it was strange, but I still wouldn't denounce what he did. I'm am not in agreement with your idea of a "rule", unless you actually express that rule to the other person. Then if the rule is broken you simple dissolve the association. At least that's how I behave. This might help in the future, since you're very busy, don't give out your number. Just ask for theirs, and call when you have time. That's what I do, and if a woman tells me she's very busy then I'll give her my number.
Plain in simple, 15 is a lot. I would have called once, if i got your voicemail leave a message. Ball is in your court, if you dont call back you are not interested or your busy..either way i did my part.
I understand where you coming from, you thinking why the fuck dont dude have anything else to do or other females to keep him from blowing up your phone, especially when he know you got his number too...
thats dam needy..if he acting like that before yall fuck, just think how he going to act when you give him the skins....
Cali male.....
I understand where you coming from, you thinking why the fuck dont dude have anything else to do or other females to keep him from blowing up your phone, especially when he know you got his number too...
thats dam needy..if he acting like that before yall fuck, just think how he going to act when you give him the skins....
Cali male.....
Well I have had more positive experiences then negative ones in NY... but I guess you have pointed out that I only post the negative.Hmmm, but the positive stuff is boring.You would ignore my thread if I posted about this wonderful dude I met from the Bronx!
The positive stuff is not boring, but gives a balance and perspective. By posting only the negative you (maybe not intentionally) give a negative impression of NYC. It's like the news media only posting stories about Blacks when there is a robbery, rape, mugging, wilding out, etc. It formed that incorrect impression of NYC (especially to those outside NYC) as a crime-ridden city where you'd get killed going to the corner for a loaf of bread and Blacks of being crazed criminals no better than wild animals that to this day persists and is hard to shake.
I mean until I met some cool people from Cali and went out there, I used to call it "The land of fruits and nuts"
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MzKittyDelicious;4195014[COLOR="Red" said:]*rub's Harlem Angel's tiddies*[/COLOR]
Hey! She'd slapped anyone else for that!
oh mama I found the best damn happy hour in the city last night! I am not sure if you are old enough to have the occasional drink but its on 34th & 8th
Where? The only spots I know are the Diner on the corner across from the HSBC bank, Penn Station nearby, and a Chili's (or some other restaurant chainnearby)
Movie: Swingers >> The Phone Call 
[flash]http://www.youtube.com/v/u0PUrNwvvBk&hl=en[/flash]
[flash]http://www.youtube.com/v/u0PUrNwvvBk&hl=en[/flash]
William Is Super Thirsty, But This Is All Your Fault. You Should Have Nipped It When You First Caught Wind Of His Bitchassness. It Does Seem Like William Is A Cool Dude, Maybe You Should Take A Step Back And Have Another View At The Kid. Instead Of Just Dismissing Him, Let Him In On The Secret You Werent To Busy To Share With Us.
YOU KNOW, HAD YOU JUST SAID "HEY SLOW DOWN." YOU WOULDNT BE COMPLAINING. SEEMS TO ME LIKE YOURE THE ONE PLAYING GAMES. NOW WE ALL KNOW THAT THERE IS A WILLIAM OUT THERE THAT LIKES YOU AND YOURE CLOWNING HIM ON A PORN BOARD. DAMN SHAME TO BE THAT NIGGA ON SO MANY LEVELS. HOPE YOU SLEEP WELL.
YOU KNOW, HAD YOU JUST SAID "HEY SLOW DOWN." YOU WOULDNT BE COMPLAINING. SEEMS TO ME LIKE YOURE THE ONE PLAYING GAMES. NOW WE ALL KNOW THAT THERE IS A WILLIAM OUT THERE THAT LIKES YOU AND YOURE CLOWNING HIM ON A PORN BOARD. DAMN SHAME TO BE THAT NIGGA ON SO MANY LEVELS.
HOPE YOU SLEEP WELL.
see a nigga like me have this....
and this....
to get my mind off not talking to YOU.
Ya'll females keep on talking to them "thirsty, EVERY THURSDAY from 10 am to 10 pm calling" ass niggas. My theory is this, if you are so bad that you make me sell my "roster", thats when I'm giving you more attention.
Mz. Kitty I feel you. My aunt gave my number to some guy and he would call like 3 or 4 times a day, but not leave a voice mail. I didn't recognize the number so I didn't call back. Finally he left a message saying who he was, but by then I was so turned off.
Men and women: call once, leave a message. If you don't hear from the person in a couple of days, give one more courtesy call if you're really interested. If you still get nothing keep moving
Men and women: call once, leave a message. If you don't hear from the person in a couple of days, give one more courtesy call if you're really interested. If you still get nothing keep moving
Thats my spot when I am in that area. I like to hide out on the back patio.
Movie: Swingers >> The Phone Call
[flash]http://www.youtube.com/v/u0PUrNwvvBk&hl=en[/flash]
*rub's Harlem Angel's tiddies*
oh mama I found the best damn happy hour in the city last night! I am not sure if you are old enough to have the occasional drink but its on 34th & 8th
HEY FUCK YOU MAN I'M OLD ENOUGH TO DRINK AND EVEN WHEN I WASN'T THESE TITS ARE ACCEPTED MORE PLACES THAN VISA, MASTERCARD, AND AMERICAN EXPRESS COMBINED!!!...But uh, what's the name? I like blockheads. $3 Margaritas
All women are different, I've known women that want that type of attention. But thats not all just some women.
15 calls is a lot of calls, either he's totally sprung and big time in love or desperate. Generally I won't call more than once a day and even then I will wait until I get a return call. Too many calls could be looked at as a form of stalking, looking to gain control of you or he's being attentive.
You need to sit down and talk with him and lay down some ground rules. Then see how it goes.
15 calls is a lot of calls, either he's totally sprung and big time in love or desperate. Generally I won't call more than once a day and even then I will wait until I get a return call. Too many calls could be looked at as a form of stalking, looking to gain control of you or he's being attentive.
You need to sit down and talk with him and lay down some ground rules. Then see how it goes.
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