A Shitty Situation

[Steelwill2006]

I'm just curious to know what some of the younger people would do if they're husband/wife had a stroke or was involved in an accident which left them bed ridden and you had to care for him or her basically for the rest of their life. Do you think you could remain faithful and be at their side during the early stages of their time of need?

I ask this because I have an Aunt whose in this situation, and needs help with caring for her husband of 40+ years because he's so huge. She does all most everything for him, except get him outta bed. And when I say everything, I mean EVERYTHING.

I could see myself remaining at their side, but being faithful? I dunno. I think the age of both people definitely plays a role in it. If you're young, you're still gonna want to enjoy life. And having a partner that is immobile will only complicate things. Where as an older person has basically done it all and doesn't mind spending time with their partner. What do you think?

 

[AlexandMorgan]

Ok just stop a moment and imagine if the situation were turned around what how would you want to be treated.

One of the key vows in there is "In sickness and in health for richer and for poorer".

Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment made knowing that anything can happen so if you know you do not or could not ever do it, do not.

Love does not come with "an except if this happens happens button"

 

[Steelwill2006]

Ok just stop a moment and imagine if the situation were turned around what how would you want to be treated.

One of the key vows in there is "In sickness and in health for richer and for poorer".

Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment made knowing that anything can happen so if you know you do not or could not ever do it, do not.

Love does not come with "an except if this happens happens button"

I agree with you. Today's marriages barely make it past 10 years. So, that's why I wanted to know what the younger people thought they were capable of dealing with. Folks are divorcing each other under the most trivial circumstances, and I find it to be very sickening. No loyalty whatsoever.

 

[onyxfemme]

My husband and I talk about this all the time, I trust that he would take care of me and I dayum sure would take care of him.

 

[Steelwill2006]

My husband and I talk about this all the time, I trust that he would take care of me and I dayum sure would take care of him.

That's love right there.

 

[JofromthaNO]

Ok just stop a moment and imagine if the situation were turned around what how would you want to be treated.

One of the key vows in there is "In sickness and in health for richer and for poorer".

Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment made knowing that anything can happen so if you know you do not or could not ever do it, do not.

Love does not come with "an except if this happens happens button"

I agree with this brother's statements right here. Before my father passed and he was sick, my mom cared intensely for him, even when he didn't seem to "want" her around or didn't know how to show it (he became selectively mute before he passed). Sometimes I wondered how did she garner the strength to do that for him, but I realized she was still his wife, still loved him, and still believed in those vows she took 40 years ago when she married him...I can only hope that someone will entrust me with their life that much...

 

[Digital Angel]

This is why it's important to not only love the person but to LIKE the person at the same time. Your love for them will keep you there to take care of them. But your "like" for them will help you get through the rest. If my boo could no longer satisfy me in bed I'd be cool cause he could always help me reach the BIG "O" by just talking to me or watching porn with me etc. Not to mention he's brought me to ectsasy enough for a lifetime already. My girls and I talk about this all the time. Folks are so busy looking at the person on the outside they don't take the time to them out on the inside. In most situations a couple who are "friends" above everything can handle this type of situation as long as they are willing to work on it.

 

[BenQ]

I'm just curious to know what some of the younger people would do if they're husband/wife had a stroke or was involved in an accident which left them bed ridden and you had to care for him or her basically for the rest of their life. Do you think you could remain faithful and be at their side during the early stages of their time of need?

I ask this because I have an Aunt whose in this situation, and needs help with caring for her husband of 40+ years because he's so huge. She does all most everything for him, except get him outta bed. And when I say everything, I mean EVERYTHING.

I could see myself remaining at their side, but being faithful? I dunno. I think the age of both people definitely plays a role in it. If you're young, you're still gonna want to enjoy life. And having a partner that is immobile will only complicate things. Where as an older person has basically done it all and doesn't mind spending time with their partner. What do you think?

I agree with you. Today's marriages barely make it past 10 years. So, that's why I wanted to know what the younger people thought they were capable of dealing with. Folks are divorcing each other under the most trivial circumstances, and I find it to be very sickening. No loyalty whatsoever.

That's love right there.

 

[RAULDK]

Ok just stop a moment and imagine if the situation were turned around what how would you want to be treated.

One of the key vows in there is "In sickness and in health for richer and for poorer".

Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment made knowing that anything can happen so if you know you do not or could not ever do it, do not.

Love does not come with "an except if this happens happens button"

i concur and you hit it right on the nose.

rauldk

 

[Machete]

Ok just stop a moment and imagine if the situation were turned around what how would you want to be treated.

One of the key vows in there is "In sickness and in health for richer and for poorer".

Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment made knowing that anything can happen so if you know you do not or could not ever do it, do not.

Love does not come with "an except if this happens happens button"

yes it does.