Do any of you have white friends?

[femmenoire]

I mean white people that you actually hang out with. White people that you invite over to your house. They play with your kids, know your parents, etc.

If so, do you steer away from topics involving race?

 

[followup]

Nope. Last close white friend I had was when I was 6 or 7. But I don't ever back down from race talk with my white coworkers & associates.

 

[gonzo8402]

No, no I don't.

But my sister just got engaged to a white man. We met him for the first time this weekend...

 

[APOPHIS]

Damn. In this day and age is it possible to not have a white friend? Don't anyone take this the wrong way.

I have about four close white friends and about ten other non-blacks friends that I consistently hang with and talk to. My social circle comprises of really artsy and musically inclined folks and we all get along just great. I'm the outsider since I'm the business student.

 

[Imhotep]

.............

 

[APOPHIS]

No, no I don't.

But my sister just got engaged to a white man. We met him for the first time this weekend...

Cool.
My cousin is married to an Aussie fella. Great guy.

 

[PrincessC]

I have two close white girlfriends I grew up with.

 

[femmenoire]

I just wondered because I don't have any. And when I ask my friends they don't have any and don't seem to be bothered by it.

I've hung out with co-workers who were white after work and such. But not to the point where I could consider them friends.

 

[shanebp1978]

I have one white friend.

I've seen him twice in 10 yrs.

The WASPS I am forced to associate with don't talk to me much.

I think it's the Che Guevara shirts, and the Black Panther leather.

 

[CT's Finest]

Do co-workers count? If so, I have a few...


It's funny, because I really haven't had any white friends since high school, even though I went to a "White University" when I went to college. When I was there everyone I dealt with (e.g. friends & associates) were black...

 

[gonzo8402]

Cool.
My cousin is married to an Aussie fella. Great guy.

It's very possible to not have a white friend. It all depends on where you live and how you live...

If I were musically inclined, like yourself, I would have white friends. I have a friend that's a director and his circle is eclectic as fuck because it's all these different artsy folk.

I like attending his events...good times...

 

[APOPHIS]

I just wondered because I don't have any. And when I ask my friends they don't have any and don't seem to be bothered by it.

I've hung out with co-workers who were white after work and such. But not to the point where I could consider them friends.

Invite them over for drinks.
Break the ice.

Having friends from all walks off life allows you to see things from different angles.

It's very possible to not have a white friend. It all depends on where you live and how you live...

If I were musically inclined, like yourself, I would have white friends. I have a friend that's a director and his circle is eclectic as fuck because it's all these different artsy folk.

I like attending his events...good times...

I'm only a lover of music, I do not possess any really skills.
I am, however, getting really good at playing the bongos and the congas.

I guess where and how you live does have an influence on the matter.

 

[femmenoire]

Invite them over for drinks.
Break the ice.

Having friends from all walks off life allows you to see things from different angles.



I'm only a lover of music, I do not possess any really skills.
I am, however, getting really good at playing the bongos and the congas.

I guess where and how you live does have an influence on the matter.

The thing is. I think my co-workers are happy with things the way they are. I don't think they want more out of the friendship. Maybe it keeps us all safe?

I don't see my white co-workers coming out to the hood to have dinner anyway.

 

[Dannyblueyes]

It's very possible to not have a white friend. It all depends on where you live and how you live...

If I were musically inclined, like yourself, I would have white friends. I have a friend that's a director and his circle is eclectic as fuck because it's all these different artsy folk.

I like attending his events...good times...

Almost all of my black friends are people that I've met either directly or indirectly through music, including my ex-wife. If it wasn't for a comment on Necro's website I wouldn't even know about BGOL.

 

[Chicutie]

Damn. In this day and age is it possible to not have a white friend? Don't anyone take this the wrong way.

I totally agree. I currently have a white roommate actually, who is one of my close friends also. I also have about 7 white friends I interact with on the regular. I have black friends also but on a daily basis about 95% of the people I interact with are white.

I do NOT avoid the topic of race at all. I won't say certain things aren't awkward at times, but I love the idea of being able to actually give an a fair representation of what a black person is like because a lot of them have this perception of us that is unreal. A lot of them think that we are gonna be a copy of something they've seen on some hot ghetto mess website.

Also.. .. a lot of my white friends have a hard time understanding certain things I identify as racist or unfair. . and I think that it's a good learning experience for those of them who really thought that racism doesn't exist in society today.

 

[APOPHIS]

The thing is. I think my co-workers are happy with things the way they are. I don't think they want more out of the friendship. Maybe it keeps us all safe?

I don't see my white co-workers coming out to the hood to have dinner anyway.

I thought you live in downtown, ATL?

Making friends after college becomes crucially important because those friends are the ones you will most likely see and socialize with for the rest of your life and they impact who you are.

If it's difficult for you to make friends at the workplace, then you must meet one through one of your current friends who's social circle is more diverse than yours--Kinda like meeting a boyfriend through a friend.

as for me, I make a new friend about every 3-4 months. People just naturally gravitate towards me and vice versa.

 

[followup]

I am, however, getting really good at playing the bongos and the congas.

*flashes her congas at Apophis*

I have friends from other cultures, but no white people. It is entirely possible. Live in the hood, go to predominantly black schools until college, outside of school only hang with people of African descent, all my new friends in college were black, only made a few real friends since undergrad and only one is nonblack (from India)

 

[onyxfemme]

My husband fam is white (he was adopted) and I love them. I have a few white gay guy friends...For some reason guy white men love sista's. I go out w/ them and I am treated like royalty. I have a close white/puerto rican friend that I hang with. We go out twice a month for lunch and pedi's.

 

[SinaminDelite]

Having friends from all walks off life allows you to see things from different angles.

C/S. I have friends from all nationalities. To be honest, I don't have that many black friends, maybe two that I really call "friends." Race topics do come up sometimes, but we never have a convo so heated that friendships become damaged. We all understand that our race/culture is what make us who we are but it doesn't totally define us.

 

[absolutvodka]

fuck honkies and fuck niggas that don't see the pure evil in honkies.

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

No.

I used to have one a long time ago.Turns out she was a straight hoe and also slipped up and said the "N" word thinking its cool.So I slipped up and kicked her ass.

 

[SinaminDelite]

My husband fam is white (he was adopted) and I love them. I have a few white gay guy friends...For some reason guy white men love sista's. I go out w/ them and I am treated like royalty. I have a close white/puerto rican friend that I hang with. We go out twice a month for lunch and pedi's.

What is that about? I have a few gay white male friends and they love me. If ever I need help with anything, I can usually count on them more than my black/Spanish male friends.

 

[femmenoire]

I thought you live in downtown, ATL?

Making friends after college becomes crucially important because those friends are the ones you will most likely see and socialize with for the rest of your life and they impact who you are.

If it's difficult for you to make friends at the workplace, then you must meet one through one of your current friends who's social circle is more diverse than yours--Kinda like meeting a boyfriend through a friend.

as for me, I make a new friend about every 3-4 months. People just naturally gravitate towards me and vice versa.

No, I live in Cascade, a historically black area.

And I don't have problems making friends. Even with white people because for some reason they love me. But we've never gotten so close I would consider them a friend or vice-versa. But I have a different view of what "friendship" is. I have been lucky to have 2 good friends in my life.

Those that cycle out after 3-4 months I don't consider friends, I consider associates.

 

[Harlem's Angel]

Nope no white friends. Had a white roommate. She was so spoiled and annoying and ignorant there was no way we could be friends. She wanted to have the what is the difference between me and you conversation and even when we did she didn't get it. No real way for me to run into white people the way my life is structured. Maybe later in life.

 

[HoneyDip]

One of my closest girl is white and we dont ever steer away from the race conversation... its not that serious between us especially since both her sons are half black

 

[actinanass]

I mean white people that you actually hang out with. White people that you invite over to your house. They play with your kids, know your parents, etc.

If so, do you steer away from topics involving race?

my best friend is white. I look at this dude like my he is family. So when it comes down to race, we laugh at everyone who makes it an issue.

 

[bigirl]

My closest cousin has a longtime live in white English girlfriend. I have had to put her in check for ignorant comments she made quite a few times. Besides she, I know a ton of them from home but not really any I could call such good friends. Cousins gf I am kind of stuck being friends with like it or not. Here in the states I have none.

 

[absolutvodka]

What is that about? I have a few gay white male friends and they love me. If ever I need help with anything, I can usually count on them more than my black/Spanish male friends.

you do know that honkies are responsible for rapist getting out of jail in 2 years right?.

 

[APOPHIS]

*flashes her congas at Apophis*

I have friends from other cultures, but no white people. It is entirely possible. Live in the hood, go to predominantly black schools until college, outside of school only hang with people of African descent, all my new friends in college were black, only made a few real friends since undergrad and only one is nonblack (from India)

Hmmmmmm congas....

No.

I used to have one a long time ago.Turns out she was a straight hoe and also slipped up and said the "N" word thinking its cool.So I slipped up and kicked her ass.

No, I live in Cascade, a historically black area.

And I don't have problems making friends. Even with white people because for some reason they love me. But we've never gotten so close I would consider them a friend or vice-versa. But I have a different view of what "friendship" is. I have been lucky to have 2 good friends in my life.

Those that cycle out after 3-4 months I don't consider friends, I consider associates.

Again, meet one through a mutual acquaintance. Be weary at beginning because some white folks love to show of their Black friends.
It's like they have been waiting all their lives to have one. You become a trophy of sorts. Not all just some.

 

[APOPHIS]

fuck honkies and fuck niggas that don't see the pure evil in honkies.

you do know that honkies are responsible for rapist getting out of jail in 2 years right?.

You must be one of those Black militant guys w/ a secret white girlfriend.

 

[MackInTraining]

I was just talking with my frat brother about this last night. It's a skill that we have as african americans to go into the workforce and hang out with people off all races, but in this case white. I do have a couple good white friends.

Here's the question:
How many times have you been invited to a party/function and you knew from the door you would be the only black person there. Happens to me all the time. On the flip-side, do you think your white friends can hang in a room of black folks.

I do have white friends, but when I had a birthday bash - I didnt invite the one at that time because I knew he would be comfortable (maybe I shouldnt have made the choice for him). On a similar note, when I bought my house and moved in, I had 2 parties. One for my work folks and non black folks and another for my peeps.

Mack

 

[onyxfemme]

What is that about? I have a few gay white male friends and they love me. If ever I need help with anything, I can usually count on them more than my black/Spanish male friends.

Girl I dont know!
I am serious, let me have a bad day at work, they will send me flowers and want to take me out shopping w/ the quickness

 

[gonzo8402]

No.

I used to have one a long time ago.Turns out she was a straight hoe and also slipped up and said the "N" word thinking its cool.So I slipped up and kicked her ass.

that wasn't very friendly of ya

 

[cameo]

I have several white friends, they come to the house, we kick it at the club, one of them I've known for 30 years, all thru kindergarten, high school, he played outside linebacker, and I played strong safety, he's ate at my grandmothers table plenty of times, cried with me and was a pallbearer for my grandfather, I'm the godfather to all three of his daughters, I was his best man for his wedding, I gave him 5K to buy his first house, and he gave me back 8K when he got his roofing business up and booming, me and him, we use to fuck white girls together, black ones, latina, this is my ace, and he's white. Race has never been an issue for us, wrong is wrong, no matter what the color of the person is, wrong doing is just wrong. I'm black, down for the people, but I'll never condone wrong doing, no matter who it is, like big mama use to say " do unto others as you would have them to do unto you !"

REAL TALK

 

[thegreatwall]

Wow, i didn't know this was still an issue in this day and age. I've got friends from all walks of life, old, young, white, black, hispanic and asian, it don't matter...good people are good people, no matter what race. My best friend is white, i've known him since i was in college. His family and mine are close. Of course, it does have a lot to do with your environment, i.e. where you work, and where you hang out at. I myself am asian (Vietnamese to be exact), you won't know it if you didn't see me first, as i have no accent, but most of my girlfriends have been black (just my preference), I've never looked at it as a racial thing. But, you wanna talk about being the only asian person in most case scenarios, that would be me. I'm comfortable in all environments, because it really comes down to being comfortable with YOU!!!