Sistas Do You Still Love Black Men???

Then I dont know where else to find a decent one. I dont outshine anyone nor do I expect alot when it comes to a man. Yes I want him to have a good job but he doesnt have to make six figures for me to be with him. I have been attracted to ones who are the average joe's. Work a good job or putting themselves in college. I just think its a shame anymore and I have given up on trying. I do still love my black men but trying to find one to mate is about trying to find a diamond in the rough.

well, i won't say "don't give up"

but i will say sometimes you have to look above and beyond what your expected to look at to find what you want....and no that won't make you a hater of black men. You have to do what makes you happy.

trust me i know exactly what you are dealing with it. finding love doesn't necessarily mean you have to have matching skin tones.
 
Nothing's foolproof. It's just a suggestion. And who hasn't been lied to? I don't know how old you are and I don't know the age range of men you deal with. However, I use the " where do you see yourself in 10 years" question sort of like a job interview. For example, (and I'm being extreme here), if a female tells me, "I wanna be a model". If that's all she gives me, that's a dream. Nothing wrong with dreams. "Aim at nothing and you'll surely hit it" my Moms always said. But, where's the rest of the plan? and I don't mean a business plan. But, what's your contingency plan if that doesn't work out? Is that really a realistic goal or just a dream? Now, if I'm asked that question, well, I think I have about another 10 years in the workforce after I retire from the military. (3 more years and change for Uncle Sam). after that, I just wanna sit on my porch with my lady/wife and watch my grand kids play. Most of the things I wanted to do in life, I've been blessed enough to do. I'm ready to chill. Now, I made the answers "extreme" on purpose for affect. But, you feel what I'm sayin'? hell, my answer may not be what whomever wants to hear but, at least she knows where I've been and where I'm goin'. She can make up her own mind from there.

Thats great but I dont see that working out for me. If someone cannot appreciate a hardworking easy-going person such as myself then I guess I will continue being alone.
 
well, i won't say "don't give up"

but i will say sometimes you have to look above and beyond what your expected to look at to find what you want....and no that won't make you a hater of black men. You have to do what makes you happy.

trust me i know exactly what you are dealing with it. finding love doesn't necessarily mean you have to have matching skin tones.

I would prefer matching skin tones because I think that is wrong with today's black youths and why so many of them go wayward in life. I didnt want it to get to that point but sadly it may.
 
Then I dont know where else to find a decent one. I dont outshine anyone nor do I expect alot when it comes to a man. Yes I want him to have a good job but he doesnt have to make six figures for me to be with him. I have been attracted to ones who are the average joe's. Work a good job or putting themselves in college. I just think its a shame anymore and I have given up on trying. I do still love my black men but trying to find one to mate is about trying to find a diamond in the rough.


My advice...stop looking.

These are some of the things I live by (as a single black man)

The more you look for that "special" someone, the more fustrating you're gonna get when things don't work out, and it makes it harder for the next person who may come along. It becomes like a broken record, so my motto has been "no expectations, no regrets".

Keep concentrating on doing u in the meantime. Most of us single people would like to be in a relationship, but it takes some of us a little longer than others, and maybe that's for the better, but we may not realize these things yet. Things like this come up when u least expect it.

If you really feel in your heart that you are a good natured person with a good heart and who has a lot to offer (only u and GOD know the truth), then it will happen, but as of now it's not your time yet.

This way of thinking helps me out, always thinking of the glass half full even when I get frustrated when dealing with some of the sisters that i've dealt with, but haven't given up on my black women cause i still have that burning desire inside of me not to give up when I see a beautiful sista cross my path. (it's hard to explain). I can admit that I don't have the same feeling when I see women of other races (that rarely has happend).

But in the meantime i've been able to contniue to accomplish my goals as i've become more reserved with the sisters i've been dealing with in the last few years.
 
My advice...stop looking.

These are some of the things I live by (as a single black man)

The more you look for that "special" someone, the more fustrating you're gonna get when things don't work out, and it makes it harder for the next person who may come along. It becomes like a broken record, so my motto has been "no expectations, no regrets".

Keep concentrating on doing u in the meantime. Most of us single people would like to be in a relationship, but it takes some of us a little longer than others, and maybe that's for the better, but we may not realize these things yet. Things like this come up when u least expect it.

If you really feel in your heart that you are a good natured person with a good heart and who has a lot to offer (only u and GOD know the truth), then it will happen, but as of now it's not your time yet.

This way of thinking helps me out, always thinking of the glass half full even when I get frustrated when dealing with some of the sisters that i've dealt with, but haven't given up on my black women cause i still have that burning desire inside of me not to give up when I see a beautiful sista cross my path. (it's hard to explain). I can admit that I don't have the same feeling when I see women of other races (that rarely has happend).

But in the meantime i've been able to contniue to accomplish my goals as i've become more reserved with the sisters i've been dealing with in the last few years.

CO-SIGN!
 
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