Sistas Do You Still Love Black Men???

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

All Of The Sistas I Know And I Know Alot Of Sistas They Say They Love Themselves A Brotha Including Me The Dangerousblackman.

 

[GET YOU HOT]

All Of The Sistas I Know And I Know Alot Of Sistas They Say They Love Themselves A Brotha Including Me The Dangerousblackman.

What makes them love you so much blackman...?

 

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

What makes them love you so much blackman...?

Cause I Keep It Real And I'm About Business But I Like To Have Fun Also And Whenever I'm With A Female She Feels Protected Cause I Don't Play If Something Pops Off.



DBM

 

[CT's Finest]

^^^ Sounds like this brother is handling his business. I try to handle mine in a similar fashion. As men we have to hold it down for our own personal well being and for the well being of women, children, and elderly...

 

[DANGEROUSBLACKMAN]

As men we have to hold it down for our own personal well being and for the well being of women, children, and elderly...

Yep.

 

[caramelcute]

You're contradiciting yourself. You said in your first post that you "hate Black men". I just blasted you on your earlier post. I apologize if you didn't mean what you said earlier. if you did, then I don't. I say to you again, you are looking in the wrong places. Don't down ALL of our young lions. There are plenty of them that are trying to make it. (like my oldest that's in Grad school. I speak of what I know. not of what I think).And the one thing they don't need is a young Sister downing them. Trust, they get enough of that from white society. I know. I was young once. sure there are ones out there that aren't trying. Why are you even entertaining the ones that aren't worth anything? Please don't fall in the category of women that say, "my Boo cute, I can change him". A leopard never changes his/her spots. Someone mentioned to you earlier that your "listing" of what you have comes across as "hey, I got everything" I don't need you. and quiet as it's kept, a young Brother that's got his act together don't need you either. But, it ain't about that. It's about wanting each other and the same things out of life.

Okay now I am free to answer you. My compiled list isnt to brag about what I have. See this from my POV. I have been around very good men and listened to what they dont want and what they do want. Some want a financially independent fem. Some want thin females. Some want no kids females. And so on and so forth. My rant (which is what it is cause of course I love black men) was here I am doing all the things I think is right to attract a decent black man and it seems no matter what its never good enough. I did appear to come across as contradicting but it truly wasnt. The first paragraph was me ranting because I was aggravated and the last paragraph you quoted was me speaking from the heart about everything. I truly will and always love black men but I cannot help but to feel a bit sadness that no matter where I look black men who are in it for the long run cannot it seems be found. My parents have been married for over thirty years. My grandparents over sixty before both my grandfathers died. They epitomize the type of black men I love. I also realize scandalous females also play a role in how black men are too. I hate black fems who get a good guy and mistreat him. Makes me very angry. So I hope that somewhat clears up my thoughts on my quotes. In short, yes I adore black men. Always have and always will.

 

[whoalilmomma]

I think they love niggas and hoodrats but confuse THEM with real black men. True black women are fed up, but....with the fukt up choices THEY make in choosing men, not men in general. They don't have to educate, fix up or complain about a black man, they need to stop getting knocked up by "niggas". Once a black woman realizes that it's her choices in men, se usually mellows out and attracts a good one.

Hmmm, how about giving your Black women some credit? There are plenty PLENTY of educated, industrious Black women who still very much love their Black men (myself included). Unfortunately, often these same women are turned down by real black men you talk about for women of other races, or women who don't have as much going for themselves so that these men can "feel like men". I'm pretty sure that all the women on this board who have said that they love Black men aren't talking about the thugs or ni**as you brought up, but men such as yourself (I'm sure ) who have their life together and don't have to resort to violence, illegal activities, or illiterate and curse filled ramblings to prove their masculinity or the fact that they are a man deserving of all the riches loving a beautiful Black woman has to offer.

 

[CT's Finest]

Hmmm, how about giving your Black women some credit? There are plenty PLENTY of educated, industrious Black women who still very much love their Black men (myself included). Unfortunately, often these same women are turned down by real black men you talk about for women of other races, or women who don't have as much going for themselves so that these men can "feel like men". I'm pretty sure that all the women on this board who have said that they love Black men aren't talking about the thugs or ni**as you brought up, but men such as yourself (I'm sure ) who have their life together and don't have to resort to violence, illegal activities, or illiterate and curse filled ramblings to prove their masculinity or the fact that they are a man deserving of all the riches loving a beautiful Black woman has to offer.

What you said makes allot of sense. I can't speak for the brother who make the comment you replied to, but the impression I got when I read his statement was that women need to be more accountable for the men they attract and deal with. As I have mentioned, the treatment and attention you all receive is directly related to the way you present yourselves. Once you all accept that responsibility and recognize the kind of people you are dealing with you can make choices that will maintain or change that...

 

[owl]

It is funny how people like Harriet Tubman or Frederick Douglas even existed...

I live very simply in my technological world. Even the televisions no longer entertain me as they once did. I can meet any woman and probably seduce her on the first night. This is not bragging, not even me being confident, just something I know. I can't even bring myself to masturbate to a white woman, regardless of my past dating habits, you just get used to better when you have it. I'm not saying this to promote the stereotypic black feminine role perpetuated through the media, but to uplift the spirits of those women who are breaking the mold, sometimes better than we men can...

 

[nick177th]

Okay now I am free to answer you. My compiled list isnt to brag about what I have. See this from my POV. I have been around very good men and listened to what they dont want and what they do want. Some want a financially independent fem. Some want thin females. Some want no kids females. And so on and so forth. My rant (which is what it is cause of course I love black men) was here I am doing all the things I think is right to attract a decent black man and it seems no matter what its never good enough. I did appear to come across as contradicting but it truly wasnt. The first paragraph was me ranting because I was aggravated and the last paragraph you quoted was me speaking from the heart about everything. I truly will and always love black men but I cannot help but to feel a bit sadness that no matter where I look black men who are in it for the long run cannot it seems be found. My parents have been married for over thirty years. My grandparents over sixty before both my grandfathers died. They epitomize the type of black men I love. I also realize scandalous females also play a role in how black men are too. I hate black fems who get a good guy and mistreat him. Makes me very angry. So I hope that somewhat clears up my thoughts on my quotes. In short, yes I adore black men. Always have and always will.

In short, my suggestion would be for you to stop "looking". You and whoever, will find each other. And stop talking to "knuckle heads". it's only gonna make it harder for you to see "the one" when he passes by. One thing I've started to notice about people. We ignore the initial "red flags". I guess we say, "I'm trippin" to ourselves or simply choose to ignore it because ol' boy is fine or ol' girl got a bangin' body. If a red flag goes up, "hold what ya got" as we say in the military. That is to say, don't let the relationship "progress" until you figure out what's really goin' on. I'm not saying don't go out with the person but, don't let your "feelings" progress any further until that red flag situation is resolved. One thing I always ask is, "where do you see yourself at in 10 years". (not geographically). if the answer is not satisfactory to me, Gotta go, gotta go, gotta go. It's not that I'm "judging", it's just that I know where I wanna be in 10 years. It's not that it's all about me but, if the other person has different aspirations, or none at all (that's scary), I think it's best to cut my losses and keep it movin'.

 

[nick177th]

Hmmm, how about giving your Black women some credit? There are plenty PLENTY of educated, industrious Black women who still very much love their Black men (myself included). Unfortunately, often these same women are turned down by real black men you talk about for women of other races, or women who don't have as much going for themselves so that these men can "feel like men". I'm pretty sure that all the women on this board who have said that they love Black men aren't talking about the thugs or ni**as you brought up, but men such as yourself (I'm sure ) who have their life together and don't have to resort to violence, illegal activities, or illiterate and curse filled ramblings to prove their masculinity or the fact that they are a man deserving of all the riches loving a beautiful Black woman has to offer.

This is interesting to me. As much as I hear people talk about "mixed" couples, I hardly ever see them. I mean I see them but not on a frequent basis. I don't measure my "manhood" by how much I can or can't do for my woman. I think it's more important to focus on what you are or aren't doing for your children. a very good friend of mine that's a Pastor told me along time ago that you love a person despite themselves. That is to say, you love someone "just because". I don't neglect my relationship with a woman but, as long as we're trying to help one another and "take care" of the relationship, the relationship will take care of us. (i hope that make sense)The one thing that "validates" my manhood to me is, when my kids have the "superman syndrome" about me. I mean when they think "Daddy can make anything right". Although I know I can't, it makes me feel good that my kids think I can.

 

[CT's Finest]

In short, my suggestion would be for you to stop "looking". You and whoever, will find each other. And stop talking to "knuckle heads". it's only gonna make it harder for you to see "the one" when he passes by. One thing I've started to notice about people. We ignore the initial "red flags". I guess we say, "I'm trippin" to ourselves or simply choose to ignore it because ol' boy is fine or ol' girl got a bangin' body. If a red flag goes up, "hold what ya got" as we say in the military. That is to say, don't let the relationship "progress" until you figure out what's really goin' on. I'm not saying don't go out with the person but, don't let your "feelings" progress any further until that red flag situation is resolved. One thing I always ask is, "where do you see yourself at in 10 years". (not geographically). if the answer is not satisfactory to me, Gotta go, gotta go, gotta go. It's not that I'm "judging", it's just that I know where I wanna be in 10 years. It's not that it's all about me but, if the other person has different aspirations, or none at all (that's scary), I think it's best to cut my losses and keep it movin'.

PREACH!!!

Man from the first line of this you kept it 100. These are all things I've said to people. I've always felt that looking for love has no effect on when it comes. Finding the right person is a matter of timing. If the two meet at the wrong time things will not progress. The timing and the situation have to be right for them to click and take things to another level...I also agree with the statements about "red flags". I believe that the first impression/feeling about a person or situation is usually the right one. If something doesn't feel right from the beginning there is usually a reason for that. There may be times when that (initial) feeling is wrong, but if nothing else it should serve as a sign to proceed with caution...

 

[LeroyDibiase]

Hmmm, how about giving your Black women some credit? There are plenty PLENTY of educated, industrious Black women who still very much love their Black men (myself included). Unfortunately, often these same women are turned down by real black men you talk about for women of other races, or women who don't have as much going for themselves so that these men can "feel like men". I'm pretty sure that all the women on this board who have said that they love Black men aren't talking about the thugs or ni**as you brought up, but men such as yourself (I'm sure ) who have their life together and don't have to resort to violence, illegal activities, or illiterate and curse filled ramblings to prove their masculinity or the fact that they are a man deserving of all the riches loving a beautiful Black woman has to offer.

No they're not, no they're not, no they're not, this is bullshit. Black men are not leaving Black women for women of other races. Stop buying that bullshit. Most of the interracial relationships happen with the super-rich (>500K a year) or the super-poor, of which none of us fall.

 

[LoneStar29]

No they're not, no they're not, no they're not, this is bullshit. Black men are not leaving Black women for women of other races. Stop buying that bullshit. Most of the interracial relationships happen with the super-rich (>500K a year) or the super-poor, of which none of us fall.

NAAAAAAAAAAW ... not in the T.Dot ... I would estimate that at least 65% of the Black men here date outside the race and half of them probably do it exclusively meaning they don't fuck with any Black girls at allMoney has nothing to do with it here ... alot of the Black men express a negative view of Black women so they date outside the race

 

[LeroyDibiase]

NAAAAAAAAAAW ... not in the T.Dot ... I would estimate that at least 65% of the Black men here date outside the race and half of them probably do it exclusively meaning they don't fuck with any Black girls at allMoney has nothing to do with it here ... alot of the Black men express a negative view of Black women so they date outside the race

I'm talking about a real country...America.

 

[LoneStar29]

I'm talking about a real country...America.

Yeah ... cuz everything in the whole entire world revolves around America

 

[Southpaw]

NAAAAAAAAAAW ... not in the T.Dot ... I would estimate that at least 65% of the Black men here date outside the race and half of them probably do it exclusively meaning they don't fuck with any Black girls at allMoney has nothing to do with it here ... alot of the Black men express a negative view of Black women so they date outside the race

I live in Toronto and what youre saying is totally false. Majority of black men are with black women. You may have a higher degree of interracial relationships in Canada becuase black are all recent immigrants and most consider themselves, Jamaican-Canadian, Bajan-Canadian, Nigerian-Canadian first, not just black.

Secondly, you're a female so your emotions cloud logic and simply reasoning especially when it comes to statistics and percentages. Where did you get 65% from? You probably think 40% of black men in Toronto are gay. Please stop projecting your hatred of your sons father on all black men in Toronto.

Answer this question, who's more likely to date outside their race, blacks in Toronto or your own Ethiopian peoples. A lot of your peoples don't even consider themselves black, unless its convenient to and disassociate themselves from other African and West Indian peoples.

 

[LeroyDibiase]

Yeah ... cuz everything in the whole entire world revolves around America

I'm talking about America because 90 percent of this board is in America and because I live in America. That's the default when people talk about situations. I'm sorry. If this was bgol.ca, then MAYBE you'd have something here. You wanna talk about Spain and Spanish race relations, I lived there too, we can talk about that. Canada is different because your concepts of race, your racial identities and your racial histories are much much much different than Americas, especially in Toronto with it's high immigrant population.

 

[bigirl]

I'm talking about America because 90 percent of this board is in America and because I live in America. That's the default when people talk about situations.

I strongly disagree

 

[Imhotep]

bump

 

[LoneStar29]

I live in Toronto and what youre saying is totally false. Majority of black men are with black women. You may have a higher degree of interracial relationships in Canada becuase black are all recent immigrants and most consider themselves, Jamaican-Canadian, Bajan-Canadian, Nigerian-Canadian first, not just black.

Secondly, you're a female so your emotions cloud logic and simply reasoning especially when it comes to statistics and percentages. Where did you get 65% from? You probably think 40% of black men in Toronto are gay. Please stop projecting your hatred of your sons father on all black men in Toronto.

Answer this question, who's more likely to date outside their race, blacks in Toronto or your own Ethiopian peoples. A lot of your peoples don't even consider themselves black, unless its convenient to and disassociate themselves from other African and West Indian peoples.

Okay first of all ... I don't know how many men YOU'VE dated in Toronto but I meet alot of men and they pretty much have AAAAAAALL told me they date outside the race ... number 2 do you go outside ... have you been to certain areas in Toronto ... certain malls ... I can go a whole day without seeing a Black man with a Black woman ... I am a straight female so I observe mens habits ... this is where my post came from ... are YOU observing mens habits ... is that how YOU know ... cuz I have no clue who the women are dating ... I don't watch them ... that's supposed to be YOUR job

My son has nothing to do with this issue and neither does his father and you bringing shit from other threads into here where the issue is not even related goes to show what type of a petty "I'll prove my point in anyway" individual you are ... grow the fuck up

I was under the assumption that Ethiopians were Black ... are we a whole different racecuz I was including Ethiopian men in my post since they are Black as well

IGNORANT ASS

 

[LoneStar29]

I'm talking about America because 90 percent of this board is in America and because I live in America. That's the default when people talk about situations. I'm sorry. If this was bgol.ca, then MAYBE you'd have something here. You wanna talk about Spain and Spanish race relations, I lived there too, we can talk about that. Canada is different because your concepts of race, your racial identities and your racial histories are much much much different than Americas, especially in Toronto with it's high immigrant population.

That's why in my posts I always say "in the T.Dot" ... I'm not making statements for the whole world based on what happens in one country

 

[LoneStar29]

I live in Toronto and what youre saying is totally false. Majority of black men are with black women. You may have a higher degree of interracial relationships in Canada becuase black are all recent immigrants and most consider themselves, Jamaican-Canadian, Bajan-Canadian, Nigerian-Canadian first, not just black.

Secondly, you're a female so your emotions cloud logic and simply reasoning especially when it comes to statistics and percentages. Where did you get 65% from? You probably think 40% of black men in Toronto are gay. Please stop projecting your hatred of your sons father on all black men in Toronto.

Answer this question, who's more likely to date outside their race, blacks in Toronto or your own Ethiopian peoples. A lot of your peoples don't even consider themselves black, unless its convenient to and disassociate themselves from other African and West Indian peoples.

Come to think of it ... I'm actually a little flattered ... you seem to know alot about me ... been reading alot of my posts I seeSorry ... it would never work out ... I don't date assholes

 

[CT's Finest]

^^^ LS29 Keep doing ya thing up there in Canada and keep loving and supporting the brothers. A good one will come along and scoop you in due time...

 

[nick177th]

PREACH!!!

Man from the first line of this you kept it 100. These are all things I've said to people. I've always felt that looking for love has no effect on when it comes. Finding the right person is a matter of timing. If the two meet at the wrong time things will not progress. The timing and the situation have to be right for them to click and take things to another level...I also agree with the statements about "red flags". I believe that the first impression/feeling about a person or situation is usually the right one. If something doesn't feel right from the beginning there is usually a reason for that. There may be times when that (initial) feeling is wrong, but if nothing else it should serve as a sign to proceed with caution...

I'm feelin you.

 

[Southpaw]

Come to think of it ... I'm actually a little flattered ... you seem to know alot about me ... been reading alot of my posts I seeSorry ... it would never work out ... I don't date assholes

You aint black so I wouldn't want you anyways with your sewed up pussy.

 

[CT's Finest]

Wow, things are getting a little off track with some of the personal attacks. This is supposed to be about positive energy and interaction between black men and women. Let's try to stay on that vibe...

 

[LeroyDibiase]

at some of these niggas.

 

[CT's Finest]

at some of these niggas.

Word, it's getting a little testy in here.

 

[caramelcute]

In short, my suggestion would be for you to stop "looking". You and whoever, will find each other. And stop talking to "knuckle heads". it's only gonna make it harder for you to see "the one" when he passes by. One thing I've started to notice about people. We ignore the initial "red flags". I guess we say, "I'm trippin" to ourselves or simply choose to ignore it because ol' boy is fine or ol' girl got a bangin' body. If a red flag goes up, "hold what ya got" as we say in the military. That is to say, don't let the relationship "progress" until you figure out what's really goin' on. I'm not saying don't go out with the person but, don't let your "feelings" progress any further until that red flag situation is resolved. One thing I always ask is, "where do you see yourself at in 10 years". (not geographically). if the answer is not satisfactory to me, Gotta go, gotta go, gotta go. It's not that I'm "judging", it's just that I know where I wanna be in 10 years. It's not that it's all about me but, if the other person has different aspirations, or none at all (that's scary), I think it's best to cut my losses and keep it movin'.

To me that doesnt always work either, the asking where they are going in such and such years. People can lie. I have had that happen to me. The way I figure it is I am an easy going person. Either you can choose to be and remains friends with me or not.

 

[Adam Knows]

Okay first of all ... I don't know how many men YOU'VE dated in Toronto but I meet alot of men and they pretty much have AAAAAAALL told me they date outside the race ... number 2 do you go outside ... have you been to certain areas in Toronto ... certain malls ... I can go a whole day without seeing a Black man with a Black woman ... I am a straight female so I observe mens habits ... this is where my post came from ... are YOU observing mens habits ... is that how YOU know ... cuz I have no clue who the women are dating ... I don't watch them ... that's supposed to be YOUR job

My son has nothing to do with this issue and neither does his father and you bringing shit from other threads into here where the issue is not even related goes to show what type of a petty "I'll prove my point in anyway" individual you are ... grow the fuck up

I was under the assumption that Ethiopians were Black ... are we a whole different racecuz I was including Ethiopian men in my post since they are Black as well

IGNORANT ASS

from what i noticed during my trips to canada, Toronto in particular, there are no walls as far as segregation in dating. it's not about being with someone because they are your own kind it's about being with someone, period. race comes second since of the very large diversity there. no one can claim self hate up there because it is common.

 

[Adam Knows]

It seems have done everything to try to give a black man what he wants and they still dont seem to care nor appreciate it. I am not stuck up. Not by any means. I get complimented all the time on how I present myself. And I love my black men. Never did stop caring for them. I guess I am just frustrated in no matter what I do, it never seems to be good enough. So I just keep working and doing me.

maybe it's the black men your trying to give this all to. Maybe you just need to set your sights to a man of a higher quality.

the people you have been with attracted to, who are they what do they do, how do they live?

some men do not like women who "outshine" them. And most that do, are usually about taking advantage of said women. find someone that is more your equal on the playing field. Most women on here scorn me for saying this but there are different levels as far as people go, maybe your playing the game with the wrong level and need to step up to the next one.

 

[nick177th]

To me that doesnt always work either, the asking where they are going in such and such years. People can lie. I have had that happen to me. The way I figure it is I am an easy going person. Either you can choose to be and remains friends with me or not.

Nothing's foolproof. It's just a suggestion. And who hasn't been lied to? I don't know how old you are and I don't know the age range of men you deal with. However, I use the " where do you see yourself in 10 years" question sort of like a job interview. For example, (and I'm being extreme here), if a female tells me, "I wanna be a model". If that's all she gives me, that's a dream. Nothing wrong with dreams. "Aim at nothing and you'll surely hit it" my Moms always said. But, where's the rest of the plan? and I don't mean a business plan. But, what's your contingency plan if that doesn't work out? Is that really a realistic goal or just a dream? Now, if I'm asked that question, well, I think I have about another 10 years in the workforce after I retire from the military. (3 more years and change for Uncle Sam). after that, I just wanna sit on my porch with my lady/wife and watch my grand kids play. Most of the things I wanted to do in life, I've been blessed enough to do. I'm ready to chill. Now, I made the answers "extreme" on purpose for affect. But, you feel what I'm sayin'? hell, my answer may not be what whomever wants to hear but, at least she knows where I've been and where I'm goin'. She can make up her own mind from there.

 

[CT's Finest]

Nothing's foolproof. It's just a suggestion. And who hasn't been lied to? I don't know how old you are and I don't know the age range of men you deal with. However, I use the " where do you see yourself in 10 years" question sort of like a job interview. For example, (and I'm being extreme here), if a female tells me, "I wanna be a model". If that's all she gives me, that's a dream. Nothing wrong with dreams. "Aim at nothing and you'll surely hit it" my Moms always said. But, where's the rest of the plan? and I don't mean a business plan. But, what's your contingency plan if that doesn't work out? Is that really a realistic goal or just a dream? Now, if I'm asked that question, well, I think I have about another 10 years in the workforce after I retire from the military. (3 more years and change for Uncle Sam). after that, I just wanna sit on my porch with my lady/wife and watch my grand kids play. Most of the things I wanted to do in life, I've been blessed enough to do. I'm ready to chill. Now, I made the answers "extreme" on purpose for affect. But, you feel what I'm sayin'? hell, my answer may not be what whomever wants to hear but, at least she knows where I've been and where I'm goin'. She can make up her own mind from there.

That makes sense.

 

[caramelcute]

maybe it's the black men your trying to give this all to. Maybe you just need to set your sights to a man of a higher quality.

the people you have been with attracted to, who are they what do they do, how do they live?

some men do not like women who "outshine" them. And most that do, are usually about taking advantage of said women. find someone that is more your equal on the playing field. Most women on here scorn me for saying this but there are different levels as far as people go, maybe your playing the game with the wrong level and need to step up to the next one.

Then I dont know where else to find a decent one. I dont outshine anyone nor do I expect alot when it comes to a man. Yes I want him to have a good job but he doesnt have to make six figures for me to be with him. I have been attracted to ones who are the average joe's. Work a good job or putting themselves in college. I just think its a shame anymore and I have given up on trying. I do still love my black men but trying to find one to mate is about trying to find a diamond in the rough.