3somes And/or Swingers

oddly, all of the answers & comments here are still having their founding motivations in the insecurity and immaturity factors of a person & interpersonal relationships...

peep all the comments w/doubts or that just straight said hell naw...

almost all the reasons cited were security or maturity issues...

goes back to my original point:

CONSENTING ADULTS, SEXUALLY MATURE, EMOTIONALLY SECURE!

can't have pieces. gotta have the balance in all 3 or you're gonna run into dumb shit...

unless you like dumb shit, don't fuck w/swingin' w/o the above mentioned balance. other than that, do you...

i'm tellin' you though, the shit is fun as hell. for example, i am not burdened by any doubt whatsoever that i can satisfy my mate. anytime she has to get me off of her pussy 'cause she can't take cummin' any more, i'm not too concerned. anytime she's passing out on me after we finished bonin' and i'm still up for another round, i'm not too concerned about satisfaction. as a result, i ain't worried about some other nigga controlling my relationship w/his dick. that's basically what most cats would be afraid of...some dude stroked my jawn better than me & now she's gonna wanna keep gettin' that...

i'm not concerned. if you can't be this comfortable w/swingin', then neither you nor your relationship is ready for this type of lifestyle. i don't do this shit all that frequently, but that's more because of my 9-5 lifestyle and family life than because of lack of opportunity...

be safe, be smart, enjoy the experience securely & maturely...

otherwise leave it the hell alone...:yes:
 
you avoid casual sex but if dude fucks better than your punk ass man then you would consider cheating? kind of a contradiction there
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i'm talkin temptation....lol

i wouldn't cheat...i don't believe in it, saw and felt the effects of it being done and its not cool. i'm not willing to risk a RELATIONSHIP over LUST.

BUT

that don't mean that i wouldn't be thinking about sleeping with the other dude and i think sometimes that is just as bad...lol

which is y i would avoid the whole thing and the temptation

but on another note

Y MY DUDE GOTTA BE A PUNK ASS?! :hmm::lol:
 
You and your mate have finally decided to have this 3some. Your mate and the other man/woman are getting off with each other better than you two ever have together. The question is how do you react?

The reaction from the dude in the vid is real. He was way past jealous, he was mad.

Would you feel safe that your mate would never seek out that man/woman again? What if you were the one? Could you resist the temptation?
:devil:
 
why the hell would you go to a brothel? also, if i'm not mistaken, aren't the chicks at the legal joints tested? either way, unless you or your "boo" are as insecure as you kinda sound, you could do a much more practical thing like check out AdultFriendFinder.com (i'm not advertising, but it is quite an effective means of locating like minded sexually secure/mature individuals/couples).

still though, you could be one of those peeps that is better off leaving their fantasies unrealized...

i don't get down w/the whole paying for sex thing...completely boring to me under any circumstances. if it isn't free, i don't want it. and fuck all that dinner & a movie shit too. that ain't paying for pussy...:angry:


I did mention this is a fantasy right????:confused: This should clue you in that this scenario is about as real as Sponge BoB Squarepants. And I do believe my fantasy leans more toward a business transaction to lessen the chance of anyone getting too involved. Your comments about the legal joints having their personnel tested doesn't hold water when referring to herpes. In more than 80% of cases those tested who know they have herpes test false negative due the limitations of the common test for herpes and in part to the increased vulnerability of the virus outside of the nerve. (You must have an open sore actively seeping to get an accurate result). Funny how it's easier to get Herpes than to test for it. Lastly I'm not a swinger but I do appreciate this thread being that I've had fantasies about it. But no matter how freaky I wish I could be I'm a nurse first and there is too much shit out there to get down like that. Let's just say I'm happy with my fantasies remaining fantasies:rolleyes:.

As far as me being insecure... Uh no:hmm:.
 
I did mention this is a fantasy right????:confused: This should clue you in that this scenario is about as real as Sponge BoB Squarepants. And I do believe my fantasy leans more toward a business transaction to lessen the chance of anyone getting too involved. Your comments about the legal joints having their personnel tested doesn't hold water when referring to herpes. In more than 80% of cases those tested who know they have herpes test false negative due the limitations of the common test for herpes and in part to the increased vulnerability of the virus outside of the nerve. (You must have an open sore actively seeping to get an accurate result). Funny how it's easier to get Herpes than to test for it. Lastly I'm not a swinger but I do appreciate this thread being that I've had fantasies about it. But no matter how freaky I wish I could be I'm a nurse first and there is too much shit out there to get down like that. Let's just say I'm happy with my fantasies remaining fantasies:rolleyes:.

As far as me being insecure... Uh no:hmm:.

that's called honesty & trust...this is not some willy nilly shit...

you don't just roll up on cats in the streets. you gotta do your research. do you trust that these other people are disease free? obviously that's a risk, but if you know anything about the community that lives the swinger lifestyle, safe sex is like a law. right behind it is being free of disease...

take a look at that section of your local free weekly paper/Village Voice. there are ways to go about doing things like this...

don't get it at all twisted...

THIS AIN'T CASUAL SEX WE'RE TALKING ABOUT...


nothing wrong w/fantasies though...


i personally like to realize some of mine...


so far, it's been quite fun...

:yes:
 
Swinging and group sex is fun...and most of the employees at the gym we go to...get together once or twice a month after hours for swing parties...and my cousin and I have been going.

The sight and sound and pussy smell of 20 to 30 or more couples fucking is awesome.

Also...you could say my cousin and I are swinging together ourselves...since we fuck and we're first cousins with the same last name.

Since my cuz and I have always been close...and we're both single adults...my parents and my uncle and aunt agree with us...that fucking is a very cool way for she and I to have fun together...so we don't have to hide the sex from our family.
 
Did the threesome thing with my ex. I never thought of it as a pass to cheat. Initially I was more hesitant to do it cause i was worried about how she would feel afterwards.

It was lots of fun and actually didn't seem to cause any trouble in our relationship at the time. BUT, when I ended up breaking up with her later on for other reasons (I was with her for 2.5yrs total) she DID end up thinking that it had to do with the chick from the 3way (which it definitely didn't).

Don't know if I would do it again...
 
Did the threesome thing with my ex. I never thought of it as a pass to cheat. Initially I was more hesitant to do it cause i was worried about how she would feel afterwards.

It was lots of fun and actually didn't seem to cause any trouble in our relationship at the time. BUT, when I ended up breaking up with her later on for other reasons (I was with her for 2.5yrs total) she DID end up thinking that it had to do with the chick from the 3way (which it definitely didn't).

Don't know if I would do it again...

that's 'cause chick was INSECURE. why else bring it up? unless you were messing w/the 3rd jawn, she really had no cause to make it an issue.

i'm fortunate to be a relationship where we have a more mature & secure approach to sexual interaction w/other consenting adults.

i don't even have to hide porn from my wife...i ain't mad...
 
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While On "r U Getting Enough Dick?" Someone Said Something About Their Bisexual Tendencies. Well Im Wondering What Would Happen If A Lady Asked Their Man For A 3some Or To Swing With Another Couple.
Hell Some Men Would Say Yeah!!! Especially If They Believed She Was Talking About With A Woman, But What If She Was Talking About A Man? What If She Asked For A Threesome With A Woman? R We Really Mature Enough To Handle The Consequences And Emotions That Would Evolve From These Types Of Activities? Swinging Involves Another Couple Right? What If Creeping Began? So DO You Feel Like You Can Still Remain Faithful To Your Partner And Enjoy The Eroticism Between The Two Of You? OR Do You Think THIS Would Just Be Permission To Start Cheating?


Sometimes fantasies are meant to be left as that....a fantasy.
 
I was briefly involved with someone who has been active in the swinging community for several years. She has also done porn (I have seen her on one of the other boards in the past.) talked about how she wanted to get away from the lifestyle and find someone who she could connect with. I was very non-judgmental and was supportive. She then said that she wanted to go to a swing party because she had several friends there, but she said she was not going to participate. Of course, a red flag went up. I asked if I could go with her (I've never wanted to participate, but I wanted to see what it was about...you do have that option). She then said that 'As hypocritical as it sounds, I would feel differently about you if you went." WTF? I didn't go, and I didn't see her that weekend. The next week, she asked me how my weekend was and what I did - I told her (I didn't do much). I asked her how her weekend was and what she did in a casual manner; her response was, "Don't ask me what I did if we didn't have plans." Mind you, she asked me first. I later found out that she had many other other personal issues after we stopped seeing each other.

In a nutshell, I have found that many (not all) people who are involved in the swinging scene have some issues with intimacy. The person I am talking about had some other issues, and those that I know she hangs around with do as well. Although I was not judgmental of her during our time together, she was quite judgmental of me, and she was quite often way off base. I guess it really depends on the person.
 
I was briefly involved with someone who has been active in the swinging community for several years. She has also done porn (I have seen her on one of the other boards in the past.) talked about how she wanted to get away from the lifestyle and find someone who she could connect with. I was very non-judgmental and was supportive. She then said that she wanted to go to a swing party because she had several friends there, but she said she was not going to participate. Of course, a red flag went up. I asked if I could go with her (I've never wanted to participate, but I wanted to see what it was about...you do have that option). She then said that 'As hypocritical as it sounds, I would feel differently about you if you went." WTF? I didn't go, and I didn't see her that weekend. The next week, she asked me how my weekend was and what I did - I told her (I didn't do much). I asked her how her weekend was and what she did in a casual manner; her response was, "Don't ask me what I did if we didn't have plans." Mind you, she asked me first. I later found out that she had many other other personal issues after we stopped seeing each other.

In a nutshell, I have found that many (not all) people who are involved in the swinging scene have some issues with intimacy. The person I am talking about had some other issues, and those that I know she hangs around with do as well. Although I was not judgmental of her during our time together, she was quite judgmental of me, and she was quite often way off base. I guess it really depends on the person.

that is very anecdotal. that chick clearly had issues. i can't speak for everyone, but i still stand by what i've been saying. people w/issues like you allude to do not make for stress free swing participants. personally, i can get drama w/1 person. i don't want to be around a group of people w/such issues that it distracts from the enjoyment of the experience...
 
done it. will do it again. not bisexual. not bi-curious at all.

1st time was in a hotel w/2 other couples. the 1 couple was wack as all hell. the other couple was cool as shit and we are still cool w/them. swinging isn't something that consumes your lifestyle unless you let it.

as far as cheating goes, swinging & threesomes are no more of a motivation to cheat than being monogamous is. if you're partner's insecure and/or immature enough to not communicate their displeasure, then you'll likely end up in a cheating situation. mature, secure individuals do not tend to cheat in relationships. why bother?

if you're not getting what you want out of the relationship, WTF are you sticking around for? no excuses. seriously. why cheat? too much trouble...

swinging & menages are for emotionally secure, mature, & relatively stable consenting adults. it ain't for everybody. i like it, & i'm extremely selective about who i do & do not pleasure...

if you think you can't handle it, you're probably right...

most important of all is be safe & healthy, mentally & physically...

:yes:

i agree wit this dude. been there and done it, it was all good till insecurities started to set inand then she started trippin. but if ya'll can both deal wit it have a blast and be safe.:dance::dance::dance::yes::yes::yes:
 
Swinging and group sex is fun...and most of the employees at the gym we go to...get together once or twice a month after hours for swing parties...and my cousin and I have been going.

The sight and sound and pussy smell of 20 to 30 or more couples fucking is awesome.

Also...you could say my cousin and I are swinging together ourselves...since we fuck and we're first cousins with the same last name.

Since my cuz and I have always been close...and we're both single adults...my parents and my uncle and aunt agree with us...that fucking is a very cool way for she and I to have fun together...so we don't have to hide the sex from our family.

WTF!!!!!:smh::smh::smh::puke::puke::(:eek::itsawrap: U A NASTY BITCH. YO FAM?!?!?! EEEEEWWW!!!!! SO IS YA CUZ AND THE REST OF YA FAMILY.
 
WTF!!!!!:smh::smh::smh::puke::puke::(:eek::itsawrap: U A NASTY BITCH. YO FAM?!?!?! EEEEEWWW!!!!! SO IS YA CUZ AND THE REST OF YA FAMILY.

She and her sister (my other cuz) got naked and made my dick an offer it couldn't refuse.

Or actually...my younger cousin got to watch her sister and I fucking while she and her last boyfriend were fucking next to us...and the next day...she came over wanting to ride me.

Our family looks at it like this...we're single adults and the the family hoes are on birth control...so we might as well have fun and enjoy ourselves.

My younger cuz and I have a shared a bedroom for several years at Christmas...when we stay at my parents' house...so they can even hear their niece and I making love at night.

My cousin chicks and I have always been close...and we got smart and did something about it.
 
She and her sister (my other cuz) got naked and made my dick an offer it couldn't refuse.

Or actually...my younger cousin got to watch her sister and I fucking while she and her last boyfriend were fucking next to us...and the next day...she came over wanting to ride me.

Our family looks at it like this...we're single adults and the the family hoes are on birth control...so we might as well have fun and enjoy ourselves.

My younger cuz and I have a shared a bedroom for several years at Christmas...when we stay at my parents' house...so they can even hear their niece and I making love at night.

My cousin chicks and I have always been close...and we got smart and did something about it.

How the fuck you find your way over here...?:hmm:
 
that is very anecdotal. that chick clearly had issues. i can't speak for everyone, but i still stand by what i've been saying. people w/issues like you allude to do not make for stress free swing participants. personally, i can get drama w/1 person. i don't want to be around a group of people w/such issues that it distracts from the enjoyment of the experience...

I'm not clear why some folks seem to feel the need to invalidate BN's position on swinging (he obviously doesn't give a shit). If you don't like it, DON'T DO IT!!!
 
that is very anecdotal. that chick clearly had issues. i can't speak for everyone, but i still stand by what i've been saying. people w/issues like you allude to do not make for stress free swing participants. personally, i can get drama w/1 person. i don't want to be around a group of people w/such issues that it distracts from the enjoyment of the experience...

I'm not clear why some folks seem to feel the need to invalidate BN's position on swinging (he obviously doesn't give a shit). If you don't like it, DON'T DO IT!!! I had a gf who was bi-curious and wanted a 3 some, but we never found the opportunity. She to this day has not enjoyed her fantasy, but is still up for it. I don't know if I could do the group thing because it just seems wierd, but I can see how it would be a rush.

BN, dude you are on another level. There is freedom in such a lack of insecurity. I still don't find the idea appealing, but I do want to get to the level where if my partner wanted to do it it would not bother me if we did (and I might even find I enjoyed it).
 
I'm not clear why some folks seem to feel the need to invalidate BN's position on swinging (he obviously doesn't give a shit). If you don't like it, DON'T DO IT!!! I had a ff who was bi-curious and wanted a 3 some, but we never found the opportunity. She to this day has not enjoyed her fantasy, but is still up for it. I don't know if I could do the group thing because it just seems weird, but I can see how it would be a rush.

BN, dude you are on another level. There is freedom in such a lack of insecurity. I still don't find the idea appealing, but I do want to get to the level where if my partner wanted to do it it would not bother me if we did (and I might even find I enjoyed it).

believe me, it is not an easy path. it isn't even that i don't give a shit. in fact it's quite the opposite. i value my opportunities for sexual enjoyment at such a high level, that i refuse to allow certain things to sabotage what i want to do. if i can't do it clean w/o stress, i ain't doin' shit. i'd say this perspective comes from 2 places

1. i'm very aware of my sexual being
2. i ain't afraid to responsibly let that motherfucker (no pun intended, but i do dig MILFs.) do what he do

responsibility is key...

in fact, i just checked adultfriendfinder, and their rate for a 1 year gold membership is way down...

yeah buddy!

oh yeah, i think another issue w/swingin' for most dudes is homophobia. that's essentially an insecurity issue, but it's so prevalent in society in general, you gotta recognize that shit. i'm cool. i'm not in any way, shape, or form confused about what i'm into. i've known cats who were confused. fortunately, i did not have any interaction w/these cats on the swing tip. that would not be even remotely acceptable. the scary thing about these cats is that they probably would tell you they are straight. don't get it twisted. if you like dick, or playing w/dicks that do not belong to you, you're not fucking straight cuz. you're either lying to the world, or at best, you're bisexual. if that's what you dig, then that's you. just don't be dishonest about that shit...that's not very mature or secure...
 
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believe me, it is not an easy path. it isn't even that i don't give a shit. in fact it's quite the opposite. i value my opportunities for sexual enjoyment at such a high level, that i refuse to allow certain things to sabotage what i want to do. if i can't do it clean w/o stress, i ain't doin' shit. i'd say this perspective comes from 2 places

1. i'm very aware of my sexual being
2. i ain't afraid to responsibly let that motherfucker (no pun intended, but i do dig MILFs.) do what he do

responsibility is key...

in fact, i just checked adultfriendfinder, and their rate for a 1 year gold membership is way down...

yeah buddy!

oh yeah, i think another issue w/swingin' for most dudes is homophobia. that's essentially an insecurity issue, but it's so prevalent in society in general, you gotta recognize that shit. i'm cool. i'm not in any way, shape, or form confused about what i'm into. i've known cats who were confused. fortunately, i did not have any interaction w/these cats on the swing tip. that would not be even remotely acceptable. the scary thing about these cats is that they probably would tell you they are straight. don't get it twisted. if you like dick, or playing w/dicks that do not belong to you, you're not fucking straight cuz. you're either lying to the world, or at best, you're bisexual. if that's what you dig, then that's you. just don't be dishonest about that shit...that's not very mature or secure...

Minor point of clarification: when I said you didn't give a shit I meant about folks' criticism, not about your partner's enjoyment of the occassion.

I value your posts. I realize there is this level of maturity on the other side, it's just covered up by too much silliness (too much testosterone, I guess).
 
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While On "r U Getting Enough Dick?" Someone Said Something About Their Bisexual Tendencies. Well Im Wondering What Would Happen If A Lady Asked Their Man For A 3some Or To Swing With Another Couple.
Hell Some Men Would Say Yeah!!! Especially If They Believed She Was Talking About With A Woman, But What If She Was Talking About A Man? What If She Asked For A Threesome With A Woman? R We Really Mature Enough To Handle The Consequences And Emotions That Would Evolve From These Types Of Activities? Swinging Involves Another Couple Right? What If Creeping Began? So DO You Feel Like You Can Still Remain Faithful To Your Partner And Enjoy The Eroticism Between The Two Of You? OR Do You Think THIS Would Just Be Permission To Start Cheating?

I def don't know any men down with bringing another man into the mix... It might be fun though
 
Minor point of clarification: when I said you didn't give a shit I meant about folks' criticism, not about your partner's enjoyment of the occassion.

I value your posts. I realize there is this level of maturity on the other side, it's just covered up by too much silliness (too much testosterone, I guess).

i thought about that possibility, but i wanted make sure. sho'nuff w/the testosterone...

that shit fucks up a lot of situations on a regular basis, on here and in the actual world...

Charlie Murphy has a funny ass routine about how testosterone fueled actions can fuck up your life....on a side note, that's a funny ass dude...
 
Took a few ladies(different times)to Club Venus(swingers club) in ATL a few times. Had a pretty good time most of the time. For the most part the ones I took were freaks in the first place and besides the physical aspect, there wasn't much of an emotion attachment with them. Took someone I was tight with once and had a totally different experience. Had to leave early cause we was both bout to lose it in there with our insecurities. Hard to do it with someone you love, better off role playing.

at least you realize it was you and not the situation itself. insecurity is a strong influence on much human behavior. unfortunately it is often a negative influence that can cause you to miss out on certain things in life.

i used to be extremely insecure about my appearance and whatnot. i worked that shit out for the most part. i actually don't give much of a fuck what people think about me now unless they appear to be offering some constructive criticism. fortunately, i did not become one of those cats who overcompensates insecurity w/cockiness. that's some irritating shit right there.

i'm not worried about the next cat's dick size when in a swinging situation. my mind state is more on the particular female(s) involved and the response to whatever it is i may be doing. as long as there's no homo/bi-sexual shit going on w/me, i'm not too worried about any dudes in the mix. if a cat can respect that, then we shouldn't have any issue once the preliminary stuff is established...

i gotta say, this is not something to do on some willy nilly shit. i think i already said that, but it bears saying again. role playing is cool too, but it ain't shit like multiple participants.

at this point, my fantasy would be a 5+ couple and/or 10+ person orgy. haven't done shit like that yet. there was a club here, but i think they got shut down by the city for some zoning or license bullshit...:smh:
 
i thought about that possibility, but i wanted make sure. sho'nuff w/the testosterone...

that shit fucks up a lot of situations on a regular basis, on here and in the actual world...

Charlie Murphy has a funny ass routine about how testosterone fueled actions can fuck up your life....on a side note, that's a funny ass dude...

OK, this is not a typical SOL post, but I would appreciate insight on this: why do you think we let short sightedness fuck up so much potential enjoyment? Jealousy, possessiveness, control, in-fucking-security??? I mean, this is the bottom line: people are going to do what they choose to do- whether you are okay with it or NOT okay with it. I certainly will take your (as my female partner) position into account, but that position had better dwell in the land of reality. We are just so awash in bullshit, that when it comes to something as natural as sex we do all we can to fuck it up? Why is that?
 
all that shit comes back to various insecurities. seems it's part of human nature/behavior. the whole European male dominated social ordering doesn't help much either. assuming health/safety issues are non-existent, 2 i's fuck the shit up: immaturity & insecurity...

me & my wife have our issues as well, but communication & honesty keeps that shit moving. she wasn't even w/it when we 1st got together. i'm looking' at a 10 year relationship. she's still more reserved about it than i am, but that's only when it comes to group & couple situations. as far as women are concerned, she's a whole lot less reserved...

i ain't mad at all...
 
all that shit comes back to various insecurities. seems it's part of human nature/behavior. the whole European male dominated social ordering doesn't help much either. assuming health/safety issues are non-existent, 2 i's fuck the shit up: immaturity & insecurity...

me & my wife have our issues as well, but communication & honesty keeps that shit moving. she wasn't even w/it when we 1st got together. i'm looking' at a 10 year relationship. she's still more reserved about it than i am, but that's only when it comes to group & couple situations. as far as women are concerned, she's a whole lot less reserved...

i ain't mad at all...
Sounds like a plan to me... where do I get one?
 
Took a few ladies(different times)to Club Venus(swingers club) in ATL a few times. Had a pretty good time most of the time. For the most part the ones I took were freaks in the first place and besides the physical aspect, there wasn't much of an emotion attachment with them. Took someone I was tight with once and had a totally different experience. Had to leave early cause we was both bout to lose it in there with our insecurities. Hard to do it with someone you love, better off role playing.
yeah feel the same if not romanticly involed no problem swinging. guess i'm not mature or too possessive to do it with someone i'm in love with.cant take seeing that person getting dicked down by some other cat:smh: :lol:
 
Never did it but, my best friend did. Unless you know EXACTLY what you're getting into, leave it alone. He found himself wanting to be with the other female on a solo tip and his girl wanted to do the other guy solo. It was a mess. I say, work with whatcha got.

That's why I wouldn't do it. While I'm single I'd love to have sex with two (or 3) women at one time. I think every guy would like to, but if I'm in a relationship it should be all about her and I. No one else should be involved in our sexual/love making encounters. When other people are involved you're bound to get in to big messes like Nick's friend. I don't have time for that. I'm not knocking what other people do, but for me 3somes/swinging is not something I want to do if I'm seriously involved...
 
Ive actually had one 3some experence with two guys ,one of which I had known and been dealing with for about 7 or 8 months.It was during spring break,so I blamed it on the alcohol. But it was great!. I got all the attention, and when I went home,I didn't have to worry about any drama. Im now dealing with a guy that I have been dating for about a year and we've discussed it casually (him, me & another woman). Im not Bi, but I think it might be interesting. But its funny....Since we are not per say "boy friend" and "girl friend" I'm cool with it, but when or if we decide to get serious, then its no longer an option.
 
i hope those of you that think it is a problem while in a committed relationship do realize that you are exhibiting said insecurity issues. it's cool though. like i said, if you ain't cool w/it, then swingin' ain't for you...

as for the cat looking for swinging videos, most cats that swing keep shit like that amongst themselves. for example, i have pix of my 1st escapade at a hotel, but i'm not posting'em in here. not because i'd be embarrassed at all, but because the pics are not just of me & the wife. i'm not trying to broadcast anyone else's shit w/o them knowing about it. that's not a cool thing to do as someone who's into this type shit...

i have posted pics of the wife before. i don't believe there are any pics on her of me, but i really don't have a reason to be posting my pics on here...

"free your mind and your ass will follow..."
 
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