13 reasons for a single man not to date a women with kids!

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13 reasons for a single man not to date a women with kids! and the same applies to women also!

By Peezy Head (aka Jumpig Mack Flash)


1) Baby Damage - Birth has a traumatic effect on the female form. Pregnancy leaves stretch marks, saggy breasts, and c-section scars. I've also heard that the nookie is even stretch out and it isn't the same anymore. Then there's the weight gain. Most women NEVER LOSE IT or they never get their former hot shape back.

2) "I Can't Find A Baby Sitter" - Women will use this as an excuse to get out of date with you or they may legitmately can't find a baby sitter. Either case it isn't your problem and you shouldn't have to deal with it.

3) Babies Interrupt Sex - I've had this happen to me. I was banging a woman and her kid interrupted my sex. Needless to say I was pissed. If some kid is going to interrupt the meanest head you've ever gotten, that kid should have your last name.

4) Baby's Daddy - When your dealing with a woman and your getting know her, you shouldn't have to deal with kid's father. Some guys can't get over the fact that their ex has moved on. Before he was an un-attentive jerk and didn't give a jolly damn about her. Now that you've entered into the picture, the dude wants to be the ideal boyfriend and a "father of the year," nominee." The guy stars stalking her and wants to fight you. Even if the woman and guy are on good terms, the guy feels as if he can always smash. He knows her. He knows what she wants to hear and what makes her happy. The next know you your having this conversation- "I've decided to try and make it work with Jimmy's dad". Best way to avoid the situation is to avoid single moms.

5) Rent-A-Daddy - Realizing her mistake, realizing that kids (especially boys need fathers,) The woman gets desperate, any and every guy has the potential to be "daddy." You're out trying to get some, not inheirit a family.

6) The Kids Are Still Up - This is only a problem if your trying to pursue something other than a booty call. Wanting to spend time with you, but not wanting to bring strange men around her kids, you find yourself only seeing this female after 10 or 11PM. You want to move forward, but she has to make sure your the "one." This could take months. I suggest dealing with women that are readily available to hang out.

7) Double Heart Break - You are with the woman, then everything falls apart. You not only do you have to deal with losing the woman, but you've formed a bond with lil' Jimmy. You and Jimmy play HALO together, watch the Wizards' hoop it up, go to the zoo, and things dads do with sons or daughters. On top of maybe missing the woman, you miss the kid.

8) Your Not My Dad. - You hook up with the woman, eventually the issue of discipline is going to come up. Some kids being resentful or just being a bratty prick is going to eventuallly pull the "YOU CAN'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!! YOUR NOT MY DAD!!!" card. Personally if I did date single mothers and some dumba$$ kid pulled that stunt on me, I would say, "Your right. I'm not your father. Since I have no authority over you and you refuse to listen to me, you need to pack your sh*t and go live with your dad." This would be a deal breaker for me. In addition some mothers or the dad would have problem with you disciplining their kid. I'm sorry, if some kid broke my laptop, I'm whooping his a$$.

9) You Know What She Going To Do - She already has one kid, if you knock her up, it's safe to assume she's going to have another one.

10) Bad Judge of Character - This female got knocked up by somebody that she was "supposely in love with." Not only is she a bad judge of character, she's GROSSLY irresponsible. The same guy that's an a$$hole now, is the same guy she thought the world of and had unprotected sex with.

11) Unneccessary Expeditures - Eventually you'll get to meet the kid(s.) Soon those dates turn into family outings. Instead of paying for two people, your paying for three or more. The same goes if you move in with her.

12) You'll Never Be #1 - When your trying to build a relationship with somebody, you should be the focus of the woman's life. It should be about you and her. If she has a kid, you'll NEVER BE #1!!! That's not a bad thing either, but it's something I don't want to deal with. Neither should you.

13) Tag, Your It! - This should be the BIGGEST deterrent to EVER dealing with a single mother. In some jurisdictions, I think California is one of them, if you start dealing with a female with kids, move in with her and things go south. THE FEMALE CAN SUE YOU FOR CHILD SUPPORT!!!! She can claim that the her and child have "become a customed to you supporting the child." YOU COULD END UP POSSIBILY PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR A KID THAT ISN'T EVEN YOURS! Imagine being extorted money because you were doing what you thought was the "right thing." The state doesn't give a rat's a$$ about the relationship being over or you being a "good guy." They just don't want the chick on welfare. So as far as your concerned, it's "TAG, YOUR IT!"
 
Great read source???...or off the dome???.....really to the point....I know some will come a clown'n but honestly that's a damn, good, legit top 13 reasons.
 
Damn...(un)lucky 13. I can't fully agree with numbers 1, 9, 10 (see 9), but the rest?! Especially 2, 7, and 12? ON POINT!!! I might have to pass this off to a few. Good post.

-Z
 
sheeeeeeeiiit...you could have made #5 the only thing on the list and it'd been straight..

I have always had a rule of not messing w/chicks with kids - I broke my own rule last year and wound up

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Street terminology: real talk Educational terms: legitimate rhetoric. Could'nt have said it any better........
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C/S this...It is harder to find Good women who aint got kids nowadays

- black women yeah...especially in your mid 20's like me...I run into tons of white women my age that don't have children..even in 2008 if you tell a lot of people of different cultures that you have kids w/o ever being married, they look @ you like u are crazy.
 
13) Tag, Your It! - This should be the BIGGEST deterrent to EVER dealing with a single mother. In some jurisdictions, I think California is one of them, if you start dealing with a female with kids, move in with her and things go south. THE FEMALE CAN SUE YOU FOR CHILD SUPPORT!!!! She can claim that the her and child have "become a customed to you supporting the child." YOU COULD END UP POSSIBILY PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR A KID THAT ISN'T EVEN YOURS! Imagine being extorted money because you were doing what you thought was the "right thing." The state doesn't give a rat's a$$ about the relationship being over or you being a "good guy." They just don't want the chick on welfare. So as far as your concerned, it's "TAG, YOUR IT!"

If a chickenhead ever tried that shit on me!!! I swear to GOD I would, go find my ass a good lawyer and pray ! Wallah.
 
Not all women with kids are like this. True alot of women do/are have/having kids by Mr. Bad-Ass, I respect those who don't go the chop shop and woman up and handle their business which includes cutting off Mr. Bad-Ass, not fucking another Bad-Ass and nothing trying to find a new father. Nothing is wrong with being with a woman with kids, but most men should be mature enough to avoid baby factories. Widows, Divorcees are one thing, women who suck at picking men, or suck at relationships, who are 27 with 3 kids by 3 men should just stop.
 
i'm not moving to california :smh::smh: but forreal, when it comes to women, u gotta check the one u chose
 
You can date them cause the pussy is still good but their logic is fucked up if they think anyone owes them anything.

Many tend to be ungrateful...the reason they are alone always becomes apparent during the course of you fucking her.

It used to turn me off when bitches always were sending their kids to baby sitters or leaving them home.

I mean the pussy was good but in the back of my mind I was like "Damn this is kinda fucked up and I feel sorry for little man."

She had two on the verge of going to college and then she let some other nigga nut up
in her so this makes 3 babies and 3 daddies.

I cant blame a nigga for nutting up in that pussy though.:smh:

Wheeeeeew!!!!:smh:

I had to make the right choice and I don't regret it.


She had good pussy but the bitch made poor choices
 
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I consigns the shits outta this.
Experienced all except #13 and close call on #9

I don't know why baby moms be glad to know I don't have any kids myself?...shit! they need to be looking for a dude with kids so they can be on the same level.



Advise to all men (with no baggage) reading: Leave them damaged goods alone.

Only men with kids themselves should date women with kids.



For you hard-head nuckas that still wanna gun-hoe and date these baby mommas:
http://kidseatfree.com/ :lol:
 
1) Baby Damage - Birth has a traumatic effect on the female form. Pregnancy leaves stretch marks, saggy breasts, and c-section scars. I've also heard that the nookie is even stretch out and it isn't the same anymore. Then there's the weight gain. Most women NEVER LOSE IT or they never get their former hot shape back.

I like the effects of Baby Damage- Aint nothing better than some loose pussy on a slightly sloppy chick. So what the nookie is stretched out. All that extra fat colapsed around the coochie anyway.
 
13 reasons for a single man not to date a women with kids! and the same applies to women also!

By Peezy Head (aka Jumpig Mack Flash)


1) Baby Damage - Birth has a traumatic effect on the female form. Pregnancy leaves stretch marks, saggy breasts, and c-section scars. I've also heard that the nookie is even stretch out and it isn't the same anymore. Then there's the weight gain. Most women NEVER LOSE IT or they never get their former hot shape back.

I've been women who've been fine after they had kids, it's all about how they take care of themselves.
2) "I Can't Find A Baby Sitter" - Women will use this as an excuse to get out of date with you or they may legitmately can't find a baby sitter. Either case it isn't your problem and you shouldn't have to deal with it.

I don't need a baby sitter becuase I usually take the kid with us if we were to be introduced. it's all about getting to know the kid too. and for the most part the kids are alright

3) Babies Interrupt Sex - I've had this happen to me. I was banging a woman and her kid interrupted my sex. Needless to say I was pissed. If some kid is going to interrupt the meanest head you've ever gotten, that kid should have your last name.

Actually they really don't. I've had a son come into the room while I was fucking his moms and all that happened was that he just didn't know what was going on, so..........no, they really don't

4) Baby's Daddy - When your dealing with a woman and your getting know her, you shouldn't have to deal with kid's father. Some guys can't get over the fact that their ex has moved on. Before he was an un-attentive jerk and didn't give a jolly damn about her. Now that you've entered into the picture, the dude wants to be the ideal boyfriend and a "father of the year," nominee." The guy stars stalking her and wants to fight you. Even if the woman and guy are on good terms, the guy feels as if he can always smash. He knows her. He knows what she wants to hear and what makes her happy. The next know you your having this conversation- "I've decided to try and make it work with Jimmy's dad". Best way to avoid the situation is to avoid single moms.

that's probably the biggest problem, but if she's still inlove with him, she'll deal with his bullshit, that's psychology 101. Usually when they've moved on, they let them know from the time the new guy comes along. I've had that shit happen to me a couple times, and all that was is her still feeling for him and wanted to grab his attention. it's up to you on wether you want to deal with that. I'd rather not

5) Rent-A-Daddy - Realizing her mistake, realizing that kids (especially boys need fathers,) The woman gets desperate, any and every guy has the potential to be "daddy." You're out trying to get some, not inheirit a family.

that's the problem with most cats dating women with kids. they're not mature enough to accept the kid/s so they fuck around and think that getting the pussy is all is cracked up to be. think mothafuckas. alot of ya'll are pretty immature for agreeing with this shit

6) The Kids Are Still Up - This is only a problem if your trying to pursue something other than a booty call. Wanting to spend time with you, but not wanting to bring strange men around her kids, you find yourself only seeing this female after 10 or 11PM. You want to move forward, but she has to make sure your the "one." This could take months. I suggest dealing with women that are readily available to hang out.

women that want to see you will make the arrangements, trust me. they will pay to keep a baby sitter on call for whatever, whenever IF they are interested in you and if you put your best effort

7) Double Heart Break - You are with the woman, then everything falls apart. You not only do you have to deal with losing the woman, but you've formed a bond with lil' Jimmy. You and Jimmy play HALO together, watch the Wizards' hoop it up, go to the zoo, and things dads do with sons or daughters. On top of maybe missing the woman, you miss the kid.

it's up to you to communicate wether you want to break up amicably with the girl in order to keep the child in your life. I've done that with my God daughter and I love her like she was my own child. it's really up to you and how mature you take on the task

8) Your Not My Dad. - You hook up with the woman, eventually the issue of discipline is going to come up. Some kids being resentful or just being a bratty prick is going to eventuallly pull the "YOU CAN'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!! YOUR NOT MY DAD!!!" card. Personally if I did date single mothers and some dumba$$ kid pulled that stunt on me, I would say, "Your right. I'm not your father. Since I have no authority over you and you refuse to listen to me, you need to pack your sh*t and go live with your dad." This would be a deal breaker for me. In addition some mothers or the dad would have problem with you disciplining their kid. I'm sorry, if some kid broke my laptop, I'm whooping his a$$.

If you can't establish some type of buddy system with the dad, then you're doomed to have that shit goin on in your life. listen, I've had a great friendship with this little boys father where he asks me if he acts up to let him know, it's all in how you tackle the situation. communicate with the kids father about their mishaps and they'll deal with it. I had that kid walk straight with me and he didn't do much after I told his dad. call it snitching, but it's his dad, and I'd rather him deal with than deal with him. I don't bring anything valuable around kids anyway, so that was your mistake to trust a damn kid around your shit.


9) You Know What She Going To Do - She already has one kid, if you knock her up, it's safe to assume she's going to have another one.

Of course she's gonna want another one, but it's up to you to make that decision of being with her and staying with her, bruh. don't be a dumbass and man up to that shit.

10) Bad Judge of Character - This female got knocked up by somebody that she was "supposely in love with." Not only is she a bad judge of character, she's GROSSLY irresponsible. The same guy that's an a$$hole now, is the same guy she thought the world of and had unprotected sex with.

so by saying she's a bad judge of character places you in the same fucking catagory, negro. what the fuck is this argument about. Are you trying to save her? The minute you find out she has a kid, you should've told yourself"Stay away" but Noooooooooooo, you had to think with your dick, dumbfuck, and now your posting up some bullshit about how immature you are. Now tell me who's the bad judge of character?

11) Unneccessary Expeditures - Eventually you'll get to meet the kid(s.) Soon those dates turn into family outings. Instead of paying for two people, your paying for three or more. The same goes if you move in with her.

what, you mean to tell me you never enjoyed going out with your own family? man, you selfish mothafuckas kill me with this bullshit excuse. I've always had a good time with the kids being involved. it helped me appreciate being around family and I got to know the child better and actually enjoyed their company the more I got to know them

12) You'll Never Be #1 - When your trying to build a relationship with somebody, you should be the focus of the woman's life. It should be about you and her. If she has a kid, you'll NEVER BE #1!!! That's not a bad thing either, but it's something I don't want to deal with. Neither should you.

wanting to be number one around a MILF is just a selfish thought. Why even date them, you dumb mothafucka. seriously, you knew what you were getting into, she obviously told you she had a child or children. make your decision on whether you want to deal with her or not. Yeah, she's fine but she's got a kid, so what's up

13) Tag, Your It! - This should be the BIGGEST deterrent to EVER dealing with a single mother. In some jurisdictions, I think California is one of them, if you start dealing with a female with kids, move in with her and things go south. THE FEMALE CAN SUE YOU FOR CHILD SUPPORT!!!! She can claim that the her and child have "become a customed to you supporting the child." YOU COULD END UP POSSIBILY PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR A KID THAT ISN'T EVEN YOURS! Imagine being extorted money because you were doing what you thought was the "right thing." The state doesn't give a rat's a$$ about the relationship being over or you being a "good guy." They just don't want the chick on welfare. So as far as your concerned, it's "TAG, YOUR IT!"

well, if you deal with a trifling chick that's your fault for doign so. I've had amicable splits and have formed frienships with their kids. makes me feel good that somebody's looking out for them instead of their dead beat dads.

It's up to you on wether you want to date them and you'll know what's up the first ten to fifteen minutes of getting to know them if you're analytical enough to evualate them. Some of you aren't so you're fucked over by the hood rat who outsmarted your ass and you deserve every bit becuase you practically served as surrogate to their child/ren


Oh, and this is in no way my way of FUCKING with you FLASH. props on the post, but I think somebody else compiled and you're passing it along
 
Great thread flash,i have no kids but my ole lady has a son but she dosent make her son my responsibility i say 1 maby depending on how she carries herself but no more than that!!!! but if we dont work out my next chick will have none!
 
Good post! There's many other reasons for single men(especially childless) not to date women who have children.

The problem is........... it's kind of difficult to find suitabale single women in their 30's, who don't have any kids.

Don't get me wrong........ some of the coolest and most stable-minded women that I have met are single moms, it's just those 1 or 2 youngins in tow, that made me leary.:lol:
 
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ur right, i just got out of a relationship with this chick. I have to say that these reasons are dead on accurate! No bullshit here
 
Good post! There's many other reasons for single men(especially childless) not to date women who have children.

The problem is........... it's kind of difficult to find suitabale single women in their 30's, who don't have any kids.

Don't get me wrong........ some of those coolest and most stable-minded women that I have met are single moms, it's just those 1 or 2 youngins in tow, that made me leary.:lol:

You're not looking hard enough playa, there are plenty educated sistas who have no kids and don't want any until they find their soulmate. I met a 36 year old chick in Vegas who's got no kids at all and is fine as hell and fuck like there's no tomorrow
you're not looking hard enough.

most chicks that have kids are either married with the father or are uneducated and too naive to know better.

so youre assessment of the situation pertains to your ignorance. Not to disrespect to you, but you should check yourself and how you go about on the prowl
 
- black women yeah...especially in your mid 20's like me...I run into tons of white women my age that don't have children..even in 2008 if you tell a lot of people of different cultures that you have kids w/o ever being married, they look @ you like u are crazy.

Yeah me and this white guy at work was talking at lunch and he got into "i got crazy people in my family" talk, he went on and on and then he said "and guess what, I got cousin that had a baby AND SHE ISN"T EVEN MARRIED". I started to laugh because i thought he was joking but when i looked at him he was serious as hell
 
You're not looking hard enough playa, there are plenty educated sistas who have no kids and don't want any until they find their soulmate. I met a 36 year old chick in Vegas who's got no kids at all and is fine as hell and fuck like there's no tomorrow
you're not looking hard enough.

most chicks that have kids are either married with the father or are uneducated and too naive to know better.

so youre assessment of the situation pertains to your ignorance. Not to disrespect to you, but you should check yourself and how you go about on the prowl

I said kind of difficult, not impossible!
 
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Yeah me and this white guy at work was talking at lunch and he got into "i got crazy people in my family" talk, he went on and on and then he said "and guess what, I got cousin that had a baby AND SHE ISN"T EVEN MARRIED". I started to laugh because i thought he was joking but when i looked at him he was serious as hell

- I believe that and it hit me hard as hell when I went to college. I was the only black person in my department, and after about 3 years of the same 30 or so people being around each other all the time it dawned on me that none of them had children...all of them were in their 20's too...

not saying black folks are more fucked up morally/sexually, we just have different cultural attitudes towards marriage and pregnancy
 
Fuck that baby mama shit...my wife always say's so you would not have married me if I had a kid from some other guy..and my answer is Hell no..:smh::smh:
 
from a male's point of view, all of these reasons are valid but I do take issue with #1. motherhood can do wonders for the breasts, ass and hip region, especially if she had little to none previously.
as far as the "baby interrupts sex" reason...you stand a better chance of reaching completion when the baby that's doing the interrupting isn't yours. you try getting up on Mommy with flash jr in the house - the oedipos complex will unleash on you furiously.
 
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