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Drayonis

Drayonis

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....Niccas they are just fucking? Settle this argument for me.

My homegirl over at my board believes in the old scenario...

Sister gets pregnant for her "boyfriend" and "boyfriend" abandons her and child!

VS.

Girl gets pregnant for "guy she hardly knows" and he DECIDES to not be with her after he finds out.
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My ex girlfriend just called me today (January 22nd 2008) to tell me she's 3 months pregnant. Hooray? When I inquired about when she was getting married she said, "Married? Me and old boy never even dated! I just want a healthy baby is all".

I asked another question, "Damn does he have any other kids?"
She replied, "I dunno..I think he said he had 3-4 others"
I asked, "where does he live"?
She replied "In Dallas..he's taking the bus down here to Houston this weekend to hang out"
I asked another one, "what are you going to do for money, I mean you don't make that much already"

Her reply, "I don't care about the money, I just want a healthy baby".
"Child support"? I asked...
"I don't care if he writes me a check or not, I got this, I'm 33 years old and getting older it time for me to have a baby of my own".

Right now I know 3 women in this SAME EXACT SITUATION, yet my homegirl is still sticking to the fallacy that black men are leaving their "girlfriends" vs women getting knocked up by "fuck buddies".
 
Not married and not practicing safe sex = She got pregnant because they both were stupid! End of story!:smh:
 
Mo-Better said:
Not married and not practicing safe sex = She got pregnant because they both were stupid! End of story!:smh:
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you didn't answer the question. It's not about blame. It's about the most common ways baby mommas get preggers.
 
Mo-Better said:
Not married and not practicing safe sex = She got pregnant because they both were stupid! End of story!:smh:
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Bro, she wanted a child because she is getting old.

The rich could afford to go sperm banks and get some, stay at a fertility clinic etc....

The poor chooses men who will stick and move i.e. they want just the baby.



Same desired outcomes........... different routes.


At the end of the day nature wins.................


:cool:
 
I'm gonna have to go with the "boyfriend" over the "guy she hardly knows"
she know where he works and how much child support she gonna get before she gets pregnant
 
Fact of the matter is that most of the broads just dont think enough of themselves to MAKE the dude put a rubber on. I feel like if i'm about to get some new pussy and the chick doesnt at least TRY to make sure that I have on a rubber then somethin is wrong...even though i'm gonna have one on anyway.
 
I have discussed this before. I don't think you guys realize the power of a woman's biological clock. I am 37 and currently do not want any children. However, last year my ex was harassing me for one and I actually strongly considered it. Its fucked up to feel you only got a few years left or no dice. All I know is I right at the end here and if I feel myself wanting one I will do what I have to do, steady man or not. It's like that sometimes.

I think it happens with boyfriends and booty calls both although more often with boyfriends. Something to keep in mind is often times the stress of the baby is exactly what breaks couples up and then the woman becomes "baby momma" even though that was not the original plan.
 
Damn Dray' ... her and others like her sound like what Nas was talking about back in 1996 or so. Straight ...

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... mindset.
 
I'm in Houston, Texas. The thing is when I question many (single women with children) about the relationship they had that resulted getting pregnant. More times than not, these guys "are not" their boyfriend but rather a dude they were just fucking and they got "pregnant".

In some cases they couldn't tell the difference between a man being their boyfriend or a fuck buddy.

One chick said she was with a guy for a whole year, yet had never been to his house, had never met his family and knew none of his friends. Every time they kicked it, she would meet him somewhere and they'd hit the motel afterwards. She gets pregnant and is upset that his people said he NEVER mentioned her ever. In fact he had a woman he lived with. Up till now she swears that was her Boyfriend.
 
kayanation said:
Bro, she wanted a child because she is getting old.

The rich could afford to go sperm banks and get some, stay at a fertility clinic etc....

The poor chooses men who will stick and move i.e. they want just the baby.



Same desired outcomes........... different routes.


At the end of the day nature wins.................


:cool:
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BUMP.

And, to answer your question, if a woman can tell herself he's the boyfriend, and feel better about it, she will...even if he is not.

But, in reality, he's a FB...
 
Drayonis said:
One chick said she was with a guy for a whole year, yet had never been to his house, had never met his family and knew none of his friends. Every time they kicked it, she would meet him somewhere and they'd hit the motel afterwards. She gets pregnant and is upset that his people said he NEVER mentioned her ever. In fact he had a woman he lived with. Up till now she swears that was her Boyfriend.
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True ... had a friend like that too. She was 18/19 fucking around with some cat 37 - 38 (separated from his wife; 11yo daughter). They NEVER went to one another's homes (she lived with her family) ... they NEVER met one another's friends ... and only met up to fuck and act (acterward) like boyfriend/girlfriend at his place. That shit didn't last long.
 
Drayonis said:
I'm in Houston, Texas. The thing is when I question many (single women with children) about the relationship they had that resulted getting pregnant. More times than not, these guys "are not" their boyfriend but rather a dude they were just fucking and they got "pregnant".

In some cases they couldn't tell the difference between a man being their boyfriend or a fuck buddy.

One chick said she was with a guy for a whole year, yet had never been to his house, had never met his family and knew none of his friends. Every time they kicked it, she would meet him somewhere and they'd hit the motel afterwards. She gets pregnant and is upset that his people said he NEVER mentioned her ever. In fact he had a woman he lived with. Up till now she swears that was her Boyfriend.
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Well the way some of yall act these days, thats all many women have ever known. :smh:
 
bigirl said:
Well the way some of yall act these days, thats all many women have ever known. :smh:
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The scenario that keeps being sold wholesale is that "black men" are leaving the home..... when I've countered that many of these men weren't in the "home" to begin with.

I believe the 70% out of wedlock birthrate is being pushed by women/girls who aren't in "relationships" to begin with.....
 
Drayonis said:
The scenario that keeps being sold wholesale is that "black men" are leaving the home..... when I've countered that many of these men weren't in the "home" to begin with.

I believe the 70% out of wedlock birthrate is being pushed by women/girls who aren't in "relationships" to begin with.....
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This I agree with and it basically skew the real numbers. :smh:
 
Drayonis said:
The scenario that keeps being sold wholesale is that "black men" are leaving the home..... when I've countered that many of these men weren't in the "home" to begin with.
I believe the 70% out of wedlock birthrate is being pushed by women/girls who aren't in "relationships" to begin with.....
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Dray,
I feel you. But you know in every scenario the BLAME is always going to rest on the men :smh:

But like I tell all the women
"If a man is unwilling to make a lifelong commitment to you in the form of a WEDDING RING, what makes you think he is going to make a lifelong commitment to YOU + KID(s) )?
 
Drayonis said:
The scenario that keeps being sold wholesale is that "black men" are leaving the home..... when I've countered that many of these men weren't in the "home" to begin with.

I believe the 70% out of wedlock birthrate is being pushed by women/girls who aren't in "relationships" to begin with.....
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Bro, we know the deal.


At the end of the day, we can never know what it feels like to run out of time i.e. child bearing

Judging from a male perspective doesn't make sense.

As bi-girl alluded when nature calls, it's whatever.

I understand that.

You keep thinking that these women want relationships, they don't necessarily. If they get one also, fine but most are content to do without the drama.


The only thing I do have a problem with is when they blame the men for not being around when that was not part of the negotiation process. Most times the man is an unknowing participant in the scheme to get impregnated.

I think more women would get respect if they just came out and said they just wanted a child.

I could respect that.
 
DiamondDeuce said:
"If a man is unwilling to make a lifelong commitment to you in the form of a WEDDING RING[/COLOR])?
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These days that ain't no lifelong commitment neither so at the end of the day its all just labels and doesn't really matter :hmm:
 
kayanation said:
Bro, she wanted a child because she is getting old.

The rich could afford to go sperm banks and get some, stay at a fertility clinic etc....

The poor chooses men who will stick and move i.e. they want just the baby.



Same desired outcomes........... different routes.


At the end of the day nature wins.................





:cool:
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C/S, No Doubt​
 
bigirl said:
These days that ain't no lifelong commitment neither so at the end of the day its all just labels and doesn't really matter :hmm:
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co-sign...........

I just don't understand the rush to judgment.

To me the problem is not single parents.

There have been single parents forever.

The problem is that there is no extended family providing that support, no grandparents, uncles, aunts in sight that to provide real life mentors.......


Black people are conditioned to better themselves in life and run from their families.

We are too young in terms of restoring family life after all the hurdles that were set up the break up our families, to adopt nuclear families.

Extended families should be the norm in the black community until we have achieved the required social mobility as a group.

Just my .02
 
shit is simple...niggas they was just fuckin'...well for me my son's mother is just a chick i was seeing, she was never my woman...i think she had him hoping that it would lead to more....it didnt
 
kayanation said:
The problem is that there is no extended family providing that support, no grandparents, uncles, aunts in sight that to provide real life mentors.......
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Yeah that would be the case if I had one which is one reason I don't. Kid would have me and some distant cousins and that would be it.
 
SHE'S DUMB AS FUCK...

Good thing you got rid of her before she tried to trip your ass up.

end of story.
 
Drayonis said:
I'm in Houston, Texas. The thing is when I question many (single women with children) about the relationship they had that resulted getting pregnant. More times than not, these guys "are not" their boyfriend but rather a dude they were just fucking and they got "pregnant".
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That's it. And then he girl wants to say he left her, but he was never with her, they were just fucking.
 

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