Is it a problem for you if your wife makes more money than you, or she decides to go back to school?

[godofwine]

If you are new or don't remember I posted it in the Fuck Stories section (see link below)

https://www.bgol.us/forum/threads/chocolate-secrets-freaky-tales-of-me-2-married-women-messing-around-on-the-job.1062970/

Alright.

I talked to her last Friday and she said her husband is tripping because she's a nursing school and he think as soon as she gets her degree for RN she's going to dump his ass

This is what I don't understand about insecure bitch ass motherfuckers.

If you act like an asshole by overtly or covertly squashing your woman's dream because you think she's going to leave you once she succeeds. What you're doing is damn near ensuring that that happens by acting like an insecure bitch.

If your girl, especially your wife is trying to better herself, be supportive. Help out. Support her.

Maya Angelou said, “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

I was talking to my ex-wife recently. We've been kind of talking about maybe getting back together. She brought up out of the blue, "You're damned near a nurse yourself. You wrote the closing on all of my papers.

"One of my professors said he couldn't give me higher than a 'B' on what would have been an 'A+' paper if it had a halfway decent closing."

She remembered how I made her feel - supported.

Yeah we did eventually get a divorce, but we wouldn't be talking now if I did what her husband is doing.

Her last kid is 15. She finishes Nursing School next September. I bet dude won't make the kids graduation




But real talk, I remember an episode of Martin where Martin was pissed off when he found out that Gina made more money than him and he had that attitude throughout the entire show until the end when she said you make what you make working 4 hours a day, I got to pull 15 hours Sundays

Then he was able to chill.

I've met a lot of guys on some bullshit and a lot of women who were with guys who are on bullshit that couldn't handle the fact that she made more money than them even though she never brought it up or rubbed his face in it or anything

If your woman, particularly your wife wants to go back to school would you support it? If not, why wouldn't you

 

[godofwine]

Bump

 

[knightmelodic]

no problem whatsoever

 

[CoTtOnMoUf]

My gf and I live together for 5.5 years and she makes more than me and it's great! Why would that be a problem again?

 

[gene cisco]

I don't relate to bitch ass, insecure ass weirdos. A real relationship is a fucking team.

The protect and provide dynamic really has some 'men' shook. Most American men sure as shit can't protect, so all they got is provide. Once they see that going, they get really insecure.

 

[Ballatician]

My wife was established when I met her and I was just starting my career in finance. 10 years later I’m making more money than her and it don’t matter because my money is hers and hers is mine. We ain’t never fought one day about money.

My only pet peeve is when she doesn’t use the AMEX Blue for groceries

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

The more money she brings into the team / partnership, the better. The longer that plays out ... great.

Just don’t saddle us with debt. No scrubs applies to ladies too.

Career women are sexy as fuck.

 

[Ceenote]

Just don’t saddle us with debt

I have seen this!! Many women dont know what to do with money but spend it and sometimes rack up debt even though they have the money to keep the debt down or out the picture whatsoever... but i have no problem with wifey making more than me... before my wife retired she scaled up into a higher position so that she would have more into her retirement...meanwhile she was making more than me..

 

[Dr. Truth]

It’s only a problem for bitch niggas

 

[havelcok]

nah, nurses leave their guys all the time

 

[jasonblacc]

I paid for my wife to get her masters
She makes more than me now, and does it from the home office. I’m not insecure about it but I’m a little jealous

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

I have seen this!! Many women dont know what to do with money but spend it and sometimes rack up debt even though they have the money to keep the debt down or out the picture whatsoever... but i have no problem with wifey making more than me... before my wife retired she scaled up into a higher position so that she would have more into her retirement...meanwhile she was making more than me..

Props to your wife scaling up to increase future retirement returns.

I was talking to my pops about this recently. Living within your means while also enjoying your life within reason. We have a friend of the family who makes good money. But came into his marriage 6 years ago with plenty of debt, and doesn’t have any savings. Him and his wife spend like no tomorrow, and are growing their family. But the thing is ... what good is a big income if you’re spinning your wheels and just have consumer goods to show for it, and a huge mortgage to carry?

 

[playahaitian]

The more money she brings into the team / partnership, the better. The longer that plays out ... great.

Just don’t saddle us with debt. No scrubs applies to ladies too.

Career women are sexy as fuck.

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I paid off her school debts the rent etc at the start now she a boss.

That's the way it supposed to be if you really a team.

All that other sh*t is from concerning what OTHER people think.

This ain't no competition with your own life partner.

How the f*ck that work?

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

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I paid off her school debts the rent etc at the start now she a boss.

That's the way it supposed to be if you really a team.

All that other sh*t is from concerning what OTHER people think.

This ain't no competition with your own life partner.

How the f*ck that work?

That’s well said.

Only a problem for outsiders.

Definitely shouldn’t be a competition with your life partner. You want them at their best. Strong earning power is a great added bonus. And if she is working her way up from a lower rank ... support it. If she wins, so does the home team.

 

[playahaitian]

That’s well said.

Only a problem for outsiders.

Definitely shouldn’t be a competition with your life partner. You want them at their best. Strong earning power is a great added bonus. And if she is working her way up from a lower rank ... support it. If she wins, so does the home team.

Cause think about...

How and why would anyone ELSE know your money situation?

And if either if you in that relationship would use MONEY as a weapon?

Yall already lost.

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

Cause think about...

How and why would anyone ELSE know your money situation?

And if either if you in that relationship would use MONEY as a weapon?

Yall already lost.

Couldn’t agree more.

If money issues are leaking outside of the home ... clearly things are already heading south.

That’s something for the individuals to focus on. Understandable if they need financial support from loved ones. But their $ problems shouldn’t be a talking point amongst their friend group. That’s distraction & interference.

 

[Ceenote]

Props to your wife scaling up to increase future retirement returns.

I was talking to my pops about this recently. Living within your means while also enjoying your life within reason. We have a friend of the family who makes good money. But came into his marriage 6 years ago with plenty of debt, and doesn’t have any savings. Him and his wife spend like no tomorrow, and are growing their family. But the thing is ... what good is a big income if you’re spinning your wheels and just have consumer goods to show for it, and a huge mortgage to carry?

Agreed! Agreed on so many levels! I nave a best friend and he is a truck driver and making a very good living, but he said something to me and i laughed at him... he said man i got this raise at work shit imma go ahead and trade my cars in and get two more cars (high end used cars $$$$)! Afterwards his response was more money, more spending i said i dont think like that.. hes like what.. im dude thats the way you think.. shitted nicca i be trying to figure out how much more can i squeeze out to put in my stock account... then he got quiet! And was like i aint doing that kind of stuff i said i know.. but im just saying thats what i would be doing...this nicca cant miss a day of work, but i can i just dont like to miss a day...lol...at the end of the day we all live our lives differently and i guess thats jus that...

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

Agreed! Agreed on so many levels! I nave a best friend and he is a truck driver and making a very good living, but he said something to me and i laughed at him... he said man i got this raise at work shit imma go ahead and trade my cars in and get two more cars (high end used cars $$$$)! Afterwards his response was more money, more spending i said i dont think like that.. hes like what.. im dude thats the way you think.. shitted nicca i be trying to figure out how much more can i squeeze out to put in my stock account... then he got quiet! And was like i aint doing that kind of stuff i said i know.. but im just saying thats what i would be doing...this nicca cant miss a day of work, but i can i just dont like to miss a day...lol...at the end of the day we all live our lives differently and i guess thats jus that...

Thanks. Yeah - it’s about the long-term choices. What will help you in the long run. Things to be able to retire soon OR more comfortably. And when things are more modest income-wise, live more sparingly. Spend later when you have peace of mind and know you’ve got it. No need to impress the Joneses while working up to BGOL millionaire card carrying club status. Get there and then ball out with the caviar, bad heaux & lavish holidays in 2035 once covid officially ends.

 

[carsun1000]

Humility is key if she makes more money than you. As long as you're not a bum living off of her, she should respect you as her man. Some men see themselves as just a warm body in some of this type of situations and are scared to accept this reality. You have to know your own self worth and bring as much as you can to the table. respect begets respect. She can only nag you when she feels like she's carrying you alongside all the bills in the relationship.

 

[tallblacknyc]

Whether she makes more or less than me I always make them my sugar mama.. spoil me it’s the only way I like it

 

[Better]

Kind of off-topic.

I'm actually impressed by people who get get into long-term relationships AND remain in them.

I'm super-generous with money. A female, who act like I want a woman to act, and look how I want 'em to look, can get damn near anything out of me...

...except my time. They can have way more of my money than my time. I just don't want to do shit other than what I want to do. My aunt had her 80th birthday last weekend, and EVERYBODY was there - except me. I know it's ultra fucked up, because this is the woman who had to drive me to the hospital when they called and said my momma was not going to make it. I appreciated that, and I've expressed my gratefulness in other ways, but if I'm not in a mood to do something, there is an extremely low chance of me doing it.

So, yeah, when I hear about dudes and their relationships/marriages, it's like y'all are from a different species. I do believe that shit may haunt me in my later years if I need someone to look after me, though.

 

[woodchuck]

I tell my wife all the time that she's my "sugar mama"! I gives a fuck that she makes more than me. It's all going in the same pot.

 

[woodchuck]

Props to your wife scaling up to increase future retirement returns.

I was talking to my pops about this recently. Living within your means while also enjoying your life within reason. We have a friend of the family who makes good money. But came into his marriage 6 years ago with plenty of debt, and doesn’t have any savings. Him and his wife spend like no tomorrow, and are growing their family. But the thing is ... what good is a big income if you’re spinning your wheels and just have consumer goods to show for it, and a huge mortgage to carry?

My late pops used to tell us: "Act your age and your wage."

 

[jagu]

I will not put myself in a position where my wife makes more than me, I'm sorry.

 

[tallblacknyc]

I will not put myself in a position where my wife makes more than me, I'm sorry.

If she won the lotto what you gonna do

 

[^SpiderMan^]

My wife went back to school to get her Masters. Prior to going back to school, she laid out a solid plan in which would result in her bringing in significantly more income after getting her Masters. My only concern at the time was that the Masters cost would be a good investment rather than her doing it for the accomplishment because we had just paid off her private student loans. Now she makes more than me which hasn’t been a problem. It’s more household income to invest, save, and spend. An important aspect of any good team is that all the players feel that the leader has their bests interests at heart.

If a guy feels the need to hold his woman down to keep her then he doesn’t actually “have” her. She is just settling for him.

 

[jagu]

If she won the lotto what you gonna do

You realize that's going to be our money and if she decides it's hers, then there are ways to equalize that.

 

[Journey]

If a guy feels the need to hold his woman down to keep her then he doesn’t actually “have” her. She is just settling for him.

Very well said. I always felt the same way.

 

[34real]

The more the better it is for me,us as a whole why would I be upset about that unless she thinks it's something that makes her better which she doesn't or I wouldn't be with her.

The person making the bulk of the money sets the standards in the relationship/house?that's just a bomb waiting for a spark....tick!tick!tick! Booom!

 

[DC_Dude]

Yeah I never dealt with broke bitches so every female I dealt with was making the same or more than me.

Never felt insecure. Actually, that's how I want it....


A team wins championships, not 1 single individual.

 

[killagram]

I will not put myself in a position where my wife makes more than me, I'm sorry.

dam right... brah

 

[killagram]

If she won the lotto what you gonna do

she didn't make more money...she won it...I make so much dam money..I never seen one around me that does... I walk around with 20k...in my pocket..to fuck off....brah

 

[jagu]

My wife went back to school to get her Masters. Prior to going back to school, she laid out a solid plan in which would result in her bringing in significantly more income after getting her Masters. My only concern at the time was that the Masters cost would be a good investment rather than her doing it for the accomplishment because we had just paid off her private student loans. Now she makes more than me which hasn’t been a problem. It’s more household income to invest, save, and spend. An important aspect of any good team is that all the players feel that the leader has their bests interests at heart.

If a guy feels the need to hold his woman down to keep her then he doesn’t actually “have” her. She is just settling for him.

This has nothing to do with holding anyone down.

My wife went back to school to get her Masters. Prior to going back to school, she laid out a solid plan in which would result in her bringing in significantly more income after getting her Masters. My only concern at the time was that the Masters cost would be a good investment rather than her doing it for the accomplishment because we had just paid off her private student loans. Now she makes more than me which hasn’t been a problem. It’s more household income to invest, save, and spend. An important aspect of any good team is that all the players feel that the leader has their bests interests at heart.

If a guy feels the need to hold his woman down to keep her then he doesn’t actually “have” her. She is just settling for him.

please stop. No one is putting any woman down. I’m the situation that you described, You watched your wife go elevate herself while you stayed in place.
Please understand that I’m not insulting you. It was just an observation from what you wrote.

 

[^SpiderMan^]

This has nothing to do with holding anyone down.

please stop. No one is putting any woman down. I’m the situation that you described, You watched your wife go elevate herself while you stayed in place.
Please understand that I’m not insulting you. It was just an observation from what you wrote.

I’m confused about your response. Admittedly, I only read a few posts in this thread so I might lack context.

My wife made 47% of my salary. Got her Masters and some certifications and now she makes 2% more than me. Our combined household income from our salaries and investments is sufficient to pay for a comfortable lifestyle in which we are no longer motivated to climb the salary ladder on our jobs.

 

[lightbright]

Bump

No.... more loot for us.... unless she's a bitch and tries to get godly with me.... but I think that I would've seen that in her before we got married


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