I made some attempts and failed.
I loved them hoes, mayne.
You know, that nice guy shit.
Eventually, I had to learn to do me first. That lesson didn’t come without Ls and plenty of fish grease afterwards.
My issue was I went after women that was on some other stuff. I was the nice guy. I use to think by subscribing to what the men did in fairytales I would land a queen. What I had to find out through experiences was that the women I was pursuing wasn’t interested in that. Nor was they interested in a kat coming up. Wifey was the only woman interested in building with me instead of waiting to be a beneficiary.
I don’t regret loving chicks because I learned a lot, but thinking back, I felt dumb on how I got played being naive. That nice guy shit is not the way to go. You can be a gentleman, but put you first. I spent way too much time to trying to appease them instead of focusing on myself and growth.
I hear you. In my early 20s, I was on that putting women on a pedestal shit too. Being extra nice and whatnot. Can't be impolite etc. It's a wonder I got me a number of BEAUTIFUL, quality women at that time. But I did. But man, once I put faith in the wrong one and got broken? It was like someone put a good pair of glasses on me.
That pedestal shit went out the window. The more I put myself first, the more the women flowed my way, the more choices I had. The more politely disinterested I was, the more it made them start chasing. It became like a damn farmer's market with all the merchandise free for the taking. Good women appreciate a gentleman. ALL women like a dude to have some edge, know when to be direct as hell, speak their mind and not take shit off them.
Nothing wrong with being a nice guy in comparison to what you willing to tolerate! Women will push the boundaries they will always start with a inch then over time those inches add up to yards and miles. My tolerance for women is very low. One of my petty things is if I call you and you hit me back three days later. I’ll hit you three days later from the time you return my call.
Crazy thing is these women start to straighten up and realize if I don’t answer his call I may not hear from him. I remember I invited this chick out for a getaway she said no she can’t make it. I still went and she was blown, saying how you going to go without me! Women are wired fuck up that’s why they leave you confused if you try to figure them out.
Another good tool is watch KS show it allow you to listen to multiple different women views and helps you navigate through them. I think KS interviews maybe 15 new women a week. I may only meet one new chick every week or so.
That's fair. I used to watch dating shows like Blind Date when I was younger. There were a lot of lessons on there of what not to do and say and what kind of women to avoid. That aside, some of the best advice about attracting women came from a friend who is like a big brother to me. Stuff like body language. He taught me some NLP techniques at an early age at a time when neither of us knew that's what it was called. Once I got my mind right, it became a natural part of my flow.
You going on that getaway was some very good shit. That's one of the most important things about being complete as a man. To be comfortable enough with yourself to do things by yourself. Especially things you might normally do with a woman, like going to movies or going to a nice restaurant. Treat yourself. Develop your own hobbies and interests. Grow your business. Makes you stronger. Gets rid of thirst. Because...
...Then, having a woman around becomes less of a need and more of a convenience. At THAT level? Women will SMELL the confidence, peace and self reliant pheromones coming off you and they're there for the taking. Or as I would say, "Is she worth me taking time out of the shit I enjoy doing to give her a piece of my time?"
That half a queer KS ain't finna advance "the culture" either but go off.
I'm not saying that dude is gay. He's said he's not. But no one asked if he's bisexual.
Yeah, the underlying this is that you put you first. That’s where I was fucking up. At my younger age, I wouldn’t have went on that getaway. Hell, when I did put me first, they made me feel bad for doing it.
Eventually, I developed a fuck mentality. I think that’s what attracted wifey to me because I wouldn’t bend to her feelings like other guys did. I was stone cold to chicks and was ready to live the rest of my life single and dating.
I guess you can say found a balance between being the nice guy and not tolerating certain bullshit. The croc tears they use to do would confuse the hell out of me.
That's some wisdom. Grown man shit. Especially the last sentence in bold. You didn't blame women. You blamed yourself for fucking up. But then found the righteous path... Didn't stay broken gridlocked in some kind of woman-hating mode, steadily getting older and recklessly slutting out women because of unresolved hurt. You let the experiences grow you and got you a good woman by your side as a result. Yeah.
