I had someone that was bipolar that I didn't know was bipolar until after we stopped talking.
Reason I stopped talking to the crazy bitch was because she plotted a murder in front of me.
Would you date a recovering addict
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I had someone that was bipolar that I didn't know was bipolar until after we stopped talking.
Reason I stopped talking to the crazy bitch was because she plotted a murder in front of me.
Nope.
You're too picky
Nah, I've seen others go through it. Fuck that!
Hell no I wouldn't.
The premise is off in that you would have to know from the jump but that's not reality. Of course, no one would willingly date anyone they knew had serious baggage.
but heres a question....would you date a woman who was raped?? or had sexual assault in her background? Thats serious emotional baggage too.
people come with baggage of some sort either you want to be with them or you don't
cats in here saying a hard NO have some kind of baggage/issue that if women knew before had theyd be like
but heres a question....would you date a woman who was raped?? or had sexual assault in her background? Thats serious emotional baggage too.
people come with baggage of some sort either you want to be with them or you don't
cats in here saying a hard NO have some kind of baggage/issue that if women knew before had theyd be like
Dudes always wanna put small things and big thing in the same category... A person that stole a bag of candy when they were 8 is not the same as a person that did credit card fraud and identity theft.... A person that has watched a porno once isn't the same as a pedo... If you had kids and needed a babysitter is the person that has watched a regular porn scene the same as a person that's been put in prison for molesting toddlers? The answer is hell no... So while nobody is squeaky clean being a former drug addict or alcoholic isn't the same as a person that smoked weed once or cheated on his girl back in the 10 grade... And as far as being with a person that was sexually molested/rape that s a hard pill to swallow cause some never fully recover mentally and may have moments where you got to take a step back... I've fucked females who suffered those experiences and I also fell back from some that were touchedThe premise is off in that you would have to know from the jump but that's not reality. Of course, no one would willingly date anyone they knew had serious baggage.
but heres a question....would you date a woman who was raped?? or had sexual assault in her background? Thats serious emotional baggage too.
people come with baggage of some sort either you want to be with them or you don't
cats in here saying a hard NO have some kind of baggage/issue that if women knew before had theyd be like
Pedalstool*
Alcohol probably kills more Americans every year than all the drugs combined. But no I wouldn't fuck with anyone that's addicted to a substance.
since we're talking about differences...dating and fucking are two different things. Anyone can fuck anybody if all your doing is having fun. Dating is on the road to a deeper relationship.
If your dating someone who has addiction in their background and things are vibing then its not so cut and dry. Ariana Grande dated mac miller for two years before they broke up over his addiction issues...
BUT there was obviously many good points about him that kept her around for that long...the only way to find that out is to deal with the person IF you truly like them like that, to begin with.
Recovering..??
Sure.. I'm about a dysfunctional mother fucker myself. My past ain't the prettiest picture and I won't judge anyone based on theirs. Oh I'd be cognizant and aware of thier capabilities but I wont discount them based solely on a "PAST" indescrepecy.
Sure.. I'm about a dysfunctional mother fucker myself. My past ain't the prettiest picture and I won't judge anyone based on theirs. Oh I'd be cognizant and aware of thier capabilities but I wont discount them based solely on a "PAST" indescrepecy.
I spent about 6 months fucking a BAAAAAD older chick who gave up drinking and drugs 25 yrs ago. She was off drugs so long, I never thought of it. And was one of the best fucks I ever had.
Ahhh...pre-married life...
Ahhh...pre-married life...
that is a very, very true statement!!!Sounds like fun until you get one
Minus whale...
Dash has spoken openly about past traumas in her personal life. She has at various times revealed that she was molested as a child by a family friend, was addicted to cocaine in her teens and 20s, and has a history of being with physically and emotionally abusive partners.
Every single last one of you mofo was caping for her in the 90s (during her shit mind you) and don't act like you wasn't..
So let me ask you then. You meet a woman who's 30 years old. You find out that during college she used to be a raver who at some point abused all of the substances you would associate with warehouse parties. She's in danger of flunking out so in her senior year she parties less and focuses more on her studies. By the time she graduates she's left the rave scene behind and has been sober ever since.
Is her past drug use baggage that should disqualify her from dating or having a romantic relationship? Is it reasonable to assume that she's more likely than most to fall off the rails and go on a week-long bender?
or on the other hand...
Is it possible that she's either outgrown or learned to deal with the issues that caused her to use drugs in the first place? Could she have learned to manage her temptations to the point that they no longer have any control over her life? If she stayed sober for another 10 years would she still be a recovering addict at age 40?
Not trying to judge, but I'm curious about where you draw the line.
she could be a friend with benefits nothing more... I'm not a relationship thirsty person... I don't believe in monogamy so me being with juss 1 chick ain't ever happening... My cut off switch is epic I can literally talk to somebody everyday for yrs and if they rub me the wrong way could be cut off juss like that(def happened b4)... You have to be extra important in my life to not being put on the shun list if you fuck up(pretty much blood or longtime/childhood friend)... As for the chick day by day situation
So it would have more to do with your feeling on relationships in general then your opinion on what her past drug use would mean today?
I can dig it!
Don't really believe in the term 'alcoholic', but at one point I was a very heavy drinker. lost a lot of friends, a couple jobs, and almost got thrown out of college over it. engaged in a lot of risky behavior that could have left me dead or in jail. At one point I tested my blood sugar on a whim and saw it was near diabetic levels.
When I first quit simply looking at a Budweiser billboard would make me want to drink. I go to the corner store for a snack and stare at the beer fridge. Eventually I learned to walk into a corner, close my eyes and tell myself "the urge is temporary, if you give in you'll hate yourself, if you don't it'll go away on its own and you'll grow stronger." It got a few strange looks, but I still walked out of there with nothing more than a bag of smartfood popcorn.
The more I did this the less frequent and less intense the cravings became. Now after 10 years I can go into a bar with friends, sip soda while they get hammered, and not think anything of it.
Her drug use would be a factor right off the back... More than likely wouldn't pass a certain level in my eyes as where I would put her in my mindset... Would probably have her as fuck buddy /jump off ... The highest rank would be friend with benefits and even that would come with an asterisk
alcoholic is very real same with cancer stick smoking.... Alcohol consumption is on the crazy rise... Most people don't understand they fall in that category... If you drinking everyday you def got some form of alcoholism... Nigs needing a buzz constantly or attempting to get nice multiple times a day mean you got a silent problem... You aint drinking to quench your thirst you drinking for other hidden issues... Bottles are getting bigger as far as people wants... Some people drink 5ths of alcohol a day
You are too real sometimes
I learn from you
I'm always trying to help everyone and get caught up in dumb shit
- Dad has been going to AA since 1996
- Mom has been going to AA since 2016
- Grandpa was a lifetime drunk - died in 2006
- Grandpa's younger brother was the same - died in 2017 (they were the oldest & youngest respectively of 11 kids - four are still alive today)
- A few other aunts and uncles have died over the years (all heavy drinkers)
- Cousin had problems for a number of years, but is better now
- Other aunt (mom's older sister) still drinks too much for my liking
- Mom has been going to AA since 2016
- Grandpa was a lifetime drunk - died in 2006
- Grandpa's younger brother was the same - died in 2017 (they were the oldest & youngest respectively of 11 kids - four are still alive today)
- A few other aunts and uncles have died over the years (all heavy drinkers)
- Cousin had problems for a number of years, but is better now
- Other aunt (mom's older sister) still drinks too much for my liking
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Been there
I know I was looking crazy at the psyche Ward a few times. (Baker Act)
Cops looking at me like, "That pussy fire, huh?
Was she for real?
Please explain
There's a couple of big differences though.
If a nicotine addict quits smoking they're considered a "former smoker". If an alcohol addict quits drinking they're considered a "recovering alcoholic" even if they've gone months or years without a drink.
If someone is offered a cigarette and they say "no thanks I don't smoke" the usual response is "good for you."
If someone is offered a beer and they say "No thanks, I don't drink" the response is usually "Oh my God, what happened?" or "So sorry. Didn't mean to trigger you."
In America we have this twisted idea that if someone quits drinking it means that they must be weak or mentally diseased. Maybe they hit bottom, woke up in a ditch, and the only thing keeping them from an epic blackout is a plastic 30 day chip.
While that does apply to some former drinkers, most quit because they no longer like how it feels or what it does to their lives. In my case, most of alcohol's negative effects didn't become obvious to me until years later when I saw how much better my life was without it.
our biggest weakness as libras is trying to improve the world even when the world fights us not to... Still we never give up cause some will actually listen sometime... You juss got to learn to aim your energy at more people deserving of it
Yeah, I think the framing is off.
"I'm Rembrandt-- I never let go of anything and I smoke weed nearly everyday." "I'm Tasha, I used to do heroine and I'm still tempted all the time. Nice to meet you!" That's not how it happens.
You meet someone and you learn things and you decide whether to go forward or not. I never sought out a relationship with someone with problems but it has happened multiple times.
uh im a libra and i see the world for what it is and operate accordingly. i don't think most libras are optimistic but realists.
Down to 2 now. One sister died in early-November 2020 (MS, shingles, dementia, covid).
Another sister died last Friday (other health issues).
Rest in peace, R' and O'.
I'm being literal.
The chick had stabbed her a year prior and almost killed her so this was her pay back.
She had a female cousin come down from Chicago and she plotted how they were going to kill her at the ladies salon while she worked.
It was a surreal experience.