Would you date a recovering addict
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I know I couldn't.
Last GF. Known her about 12 years. Didn't know she was an alcoholic...much of that time she lived in other cities so I didn't know her day to day life.
When the girl before her moved out, as soon as she found out she professed her love for me and wanted to move in (from another city). I eventually gave in. We lasted about 10 months.
The lying, arguing, her restlessness causing me to get no sleep, caring for her I dropped out for a semester. She was drunk at work (teacher) and lost her job. Went to the psychiatric ward about 4 times...I lost count. Cops called on her due to welfare checks...they were itching to take me in for DV...I never touched her (I don't drink)...she scraped my arm up and I had to leave my own house for my own safety.
Ended up that she wouldn't allow me to sleep for days...I mean she was drinking 10 or more mini bottles of wine a day for days at a time. Almost died from alcohol poisoning.
I had to pay about 2000 to fly her dad here and fly them back to California. Tying up loose ends now cause her car and the dog I got her is still here.
I hate to see what she devolved into. She was the light of my life at one time.
I will never ever date anyone with drinking or drug abuse issues. It's not worth the effort and expense of trying to repair their life and keep the lights on and taxes paid.
And fuck marriage...separate residences from here on out for me.
When the girl before her moved out, as soon as she found out she professed her love for me and wanted to move in (from another city). I eventually gave in. We lasted about 10 months.
The lying, arguing, her restlessness causing me to get no sleep, caring for her I dropped out for a semester. She was drunk at work (teacher) and lost her job. Went to the psychiatric ward about 4 times...I lost count. Cops called on her due to welfare checks...they were itching to take me in for DV...I never touched her (I don't drink)...she scraped my arm up and I had to leave my own house for my own safety.
Ended up that she wouldn't allow me to sleep for days...I mean she was drinking 10 or more mini bottles of wine a day for days at a time. Almost died from alcohol poisoning.
I had to pay about 2000 to fly her dad here and fly them back to California. Tying up loose ends now cause her car and the dog I got her is still here.
I hate to see what she devolved into. She was the light of my life at one time.
I will never ever date anyone with drinking or drug abuse issues. It's not worth the effort and expense of trying to repair their life and keep the lights on and taxes paid.
And fuck marriage...separate residences from here on out for me.
Depends on what addictions we are talking about, the age of the person, and their ability to change. Alcoholics - no, Drugs - just no coke or heroine ( over or under the counter)
Damn just reading everybody's stories and what you'al sharing. I guess it depends, like another poster said, are vices have to align and as long it's behind her past. I'm glad I never had to deal with chicks having a past addiction. However, I have dealt with women with sexual abuse, rape and even domestic violence from their own father.