I need yall opinion on this..male and female

[tallblacknyc]

so easy that she sent the selfie, right?

who said she didn't????? remember juss a week ago he didn't kno his girl was getting god guidance from a cokey...juss a week ago he didn't kno his girl was being asked to be jerk off material..u said it like u got the pastor phone..for all we kno rite now my man sniffing an 8ball and rubbing 1 out to op shorty in pink boyshorts...what else dosen't he kno or better yet what else will he find out..stay tune next week for the coke chronicles

 

[durag211]

You lucky it's just the pastor, if it was the deacon you'd have real problems

 

[baboss2212]

All of this!!!! Yes!!!!



What if she was very disturbed by the fact that her pastor was asking for these things and she thought, if my pastor, who I trusted can ask me for pics while married, what is my non-believing boyfriend capable of doing?

Some people have a hard time separating religion from morality & having a code of ethics. She might be one of those.

Extra fucked up. Cuz the Pastor slimey, u gotta question ur man? Cuz the Pimp Pastor asked for it, that gives her reason to go thru his phone? That shit don't sound right. Stop trying cape for her.
Logic over emotions.

 

[ViCiouS]

who said she didn't????? remember juss a week ago he didn't kno his girl was getting god guidance from a cokey...juss a week ago he didn't kno his girl was being asked to be jerk off material..u said it like u got the pastor phone..for all we kno rite now my man sniffing an 8ball and rubbing 1 out to op shorty in pink boyshorts...what else dosen't he kno or better yet what else will he find out..stay tune next week for the coke chronicles

 

[thighsneyez22]

who said she didn't?????

Not being able to prove that something didn't happen is not proof that it did happened.

We don't have proof that she did or proof that she didn't - so we have to set this point of the selfie, whether it was sent or not, on the back burner.

Right now the only fact we have is that is does not appear that she sent the selfie, because it was not in the text thread.

 

[Sampson]

Extra fucked up. Cuz the Pastor slimey, u gotta question ur man? Cuz the Pimp Pastor asked for it, that gives her reason to go thru his phone? That shit don't sound right. Stop trying cape for her.
Logic over emotions.

Women logic. They'll justify their behaviour through illogical reasoning governed by emotion.

This is why I say (with all due respect) men should heed advice from their fellow men and them alone. Am I gonna ask the police officer or the criminal how to arrest him?

 

[tallblacknyc]

something i almost forgot to ask is ur shorty new to ur state?? didn't ya say the pastor live somewhere else?? could this be a case of old hoe new town?? switch locations and try to have a new clean slate...what went down in outtastate stays in outtastate... idk.. question when was her last relationship?? how many relationships has she ever been in?? do u have pics of her old mates??? what were their jobs and characteristics like?? u mite wanna kno her history b4 u plan ur future..the red flag game mite need to be on standby

 

[Sampson]

That pastor has been taking half of his congregation on missionary.... And I ain't talking conversions.

 

[woodchuck]

I do have one more question: Your girl is an innocent lamb. She don't know when someone is spitting game, unwise to the ways of the world, and she thinks that it's her fault when someone comes on to her. And that means that they usually don't know when game is being run on them, and that's fine. I've known males and females like that. That being said, don't you think it odd that someone with these attributes would have the gumption or wherewithal to just start checking her man's phone?

 

[thighsneyez22]

Extra fucked up. Cuz the Pastor slimey, u gotta question ur man? Cuz the Pimp Pastor asked for it, that gives her reason to go thru his phone? That shit don't sound right. Stop trying cape for her.
Logic over emotions.

Not caping, just offering another point of view.

Though, I admit, my rationalization for her going through OPs phone is speculation, I am not saying that is for sure the reason why she went through the phone. Just trying to counter the Anecdotal fallacies given by so many others who think just because *their* girl went through *their* phone because *their* girl were doing something foul, that does not mean that is the case here.

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

Plus, people lose all logic when God or religion come into play. You ever see a horrible singer singing a gospel song get booed on "Showtime At The Apollo"? Even though they sound like a moose being forcibly raped, the audience will usually let them finish.

lol,

they be like, I wanna boo this, but I aint tryin to diss jesus....

 

[cocobeauty]

This is how I feel right now. I dont feel like that text was enough to resolve the issue. This is a PASTOR that works with the youth and is married like i mentioned. I really feel like i shoudld do something else. I feel like he needs to be exposed. I feel like I need to talk to him. I found his twitter,ig,and linkedin.

Leave that man alone. His wife and members probably know he ain't shit, that's the new church these days. They'll blame you before him.
You just need to make sure your girl didn't delete her part of the replies before you make an ass out of yourself.

You're either going to trust her or not...If she's done with him...then so are you.

 

[NinjaspiT]

TBH we both have trust issues from our former relationships. TBH, she gave me her pass word to her phone and computer a long time ago and I never gave her mines, so I can understand somewhat her actions. Did she find anything in my phone? Not at all, because im not that type of guy.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

he obviously didn't kno his girl either until he lucked up on her text..question is what would've happen if he never did

I agree. Us total strangers who've never met her know her better than he does. Relationships don't work. MGTOW.

 

[tallblacknyc]

TBH we both have trust issues from our former relationships. TBH, she gave me her pass word to her phone and computer a long time ago and I never gave her mines, so I can understand somewhat her actions. Did she find anything in my phone? Not at all, because im not that type of guy.

what kinda of men did she use to deal with??? how did they get her??? how did u get her??? has she ever starting seeing someone else b4 leaving her old relationships???... gotta investigate is ur girl a creature of habit..her patterns, her actions

 

[playahaitian]

I do have one more question: Your girl is an innocent lamb. She don't know when someone is spitting game, unwise to the ways of the world, and she thinks that it's her fault when someone comes on to her. And that means that they usually don't know when game is being run on them, and that's fine. I've known males and females like that. That being said, don't you think it odd that someone with these attributes would have the gumption or wherewithal to just start checking her man's phone?

 

[cocobeauty]

This is NOT a sit down issue with the pastor and her and you.
That right there is what folks call unnecessary drama with a side of #TeamTooMuch.

You and your girl have hope, please do not let these guys convince you of anything else. Some of them have been hurt so bad, they paint all women with a broad brush. Others might be jealous of the fact that you have a beautiful woman on your arm that has many suitors. If they have never experienced that dynamic in a relationship, they might not be able to give you relevant advice.

You are at an advantage now. You know that your girl likes game & guidance so, give it to her. Be her leader; a calm force that she can trust. Be wiser than your years and channel your anger into a level-headed understanding force that will help her peep game & navigate life.

Yes indeed!

 

[ViCiouS]

Not caping, just offering another point of view.

Though, I admit, my rationalization for her going through OPs phone is speculation, I am not saying that is for sure the reason why she went through the phone. Just trying to counter the Anecdotal fallacies given by so many others who think just because *their* girl went through *their* phone because *their* girl were doing something foul, that does not mean that is the case here.

when is it ever a good sign that a s/o is snooping through your phone?

 

[NinjaspiT]

what kinda of men did she use to deal with??? how did they get her??? how did u get her??? has she ever starting seeing someone else b4 leaving her old relationships???... gotta investigate is ur girl a creature of habit..her patterns, her actions

No, shes been in faithful relationships. Had a few flings she told me about that were justified and normal. I wouldnt date her if thats who she was. I really just think shes an attention whore and a combo of not knowing whats appropriate for a relationship at times.

 

[playahaitian]

I got a real bad feeling...

ya'll need to CHILL with OP

seriously....

before he do something he can't take back.

 

[thighsneyez22]

when is it ever a good sign that a s/o is snooping through your phone?

Agreed!

I think we all agree that is a trust issue that has festered. OP shared that he been had her passwords and she didn't have his. That would make anyone think that he possibly had something to hide.

 

[NinjaspiT]

This is NOT a sit down issue with the pastor and her and you.
That right there is what folks call unnecessary drama with a side of #TeamTooMuch.

You and your girl have hope, please do not let these guys convince you of anything else. Some of them have been hurt so bad, they paint all women with a broad brush. Others might be jealous of the fact that you have a beautiful woman on your arm that has many suitors. If they have never experienced that dynamic in a relationship, they might not be able to give you relevant advice.

You are at an advantage now. You know that your girl likes game & guidance so, give it to her. Be her leader; a calm force that she can trust. Be wiser than your years and channel your anger into a level-headed understanding force that will help her peep game & navigate life.

This is the most positive thing ive heard. Im not sure i cant 100% believe it yet, but I do think there is hope. I would like to believe that there is. Thank you.

 

[cocobeauty]

@NinjaspiT ok you got your answer now stop exposing yourself and her for more criticism. If you're happy with her. Make it work. Both of yall know yall have trust issues...work on them. Be done with the Q & A

These niggas will have you single and then call you a simp because you can't get pussy.

 

[NinjaspiT]

All of this!!!! Yes!!!!



What if she was very disturbed by the fact that her pastor was asking for these things and she thought, if my pastor, who I trusted can ask me for pics while married, what is my non-believing boyfriend capable of doing?

Some people have a hard time separating religion from morality & having a code of ethics. She might be one of those.

Thats exactly what i said to her. The fact that she knew that this pastor was a former drug addict is what pisses me off. She said I was being judgemental, but seriouisly...i would NOT let someone like that hold such a high position and allow him near my children. That has nothing to do with being judgemental,its common fucking sense.

 

[Famous1]

Personally. ... pastor would have to break me off some of thar collection plate every 1st and 3rd Sunday. ... or I jut might hafta testify...

 

[woodchuck]

@NinjaspiT ok you got your answer now stop exposing yourself and her for more criticism. If you're happy with her. Make it work. Both of yall know yall have trust issues...work on them. Be done with the Q & A

These niggas will have you single and then call you a simp because you can't get pussy.

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

TBH we both have trust issues from our former relationships. TBH, she gave me her pass word to her phone and computer a long time ago and I never gave her mines, so I can understand somewhat her actions. Did she find anything in my phone? Not at all, because im not that type of guy.

I have a feeling a good civil conversation over a nice meal and a glass of wine, maybe able to get you back on track and

keep pastor punanny in his cage....

 

[tallblacknyc]

I agree. Us total strangers who've never met her know her better than he does. Relationships don't work. MGTOW.

that's funny cause i met many dudes and females who i never ever spoke to and rite off back was able to see they weren't shit...it's like if a girl was about to show u her boyfriend and rite off the back u could look at him and be like this nig ain't shit i kno he a sneaky bastard..most males would pick up on it while the female be completely oblivious to it..i'm pretty sure u seen a female and be like i kno she ain't shit juss by seeing her and be like i don't want any male i'm cool with around her.. like i said b4 there are some people who are completely oblivious to obvious shit... i could walk down the street and read that some nig on some stickup shit while another clueless motherfucker will walk like a sitting duck into the situation... if u live life u will come in contact with many people and u will find out many people have traits that are common after awhile u can read certain behaviors to come thru with correct conclusions.. remember u hate all black men even though u never even met or had a 10 min convo with at least a million of us

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

something i almost forgot to ask is ur shorty new to ur state?? didn't ya say the pastor live somewhere else?? could this be a case of old hoe new town?? switch locations and try to have a new clean slate...what went down in outtastate stays in outtastate... idk.. question when was her last relationship?? how many relationships has she ever been in?? do u have pics of her old mates??? what were their jobs and characteristics like?? u mite wanna kno her history b4 u plan ur future..the red flag game mite need to be on standby

he gonna have them cookin rocks and whippin dat work!!!

 

[playahaitian]

Thats exactly what i said to her. The fact that she knew that this pastor was a former drug addict is what pisses me off. She said I was being judgemental, but seriouisly...i would NOT let someone like that hold such a high position and allow him near my children. That has nothing to do with being judgemental,its common fucking sense.

what you doing right there?

IS JUDGMENTAL fam.

Stop blaming her.

If you can't move on just let her go.

You now know the church is important to her...this didn't JUST happen

you think of a sudden YOU gonna make her turn her back on God?

God?

For YOU?

I think YOU need to use some common sense right now.

You need to accept her for what she is and let this go.

Tell her your issues try to resolve them together show her respect and patience and stop trying to make her into something YOU find acceptable..

move on.

you KNEW how she was from the jump

don't act all brand new now.

If you gonna harp on this...or bring this up over and over you ALREADY lost her and essentially might as well let her use your credit card to take an Uber over to the Pastor crib.

 

[tallblacknyc]

@NinjaspiT ok you got your answer now stop exposing yourself and her for more criticism. If you're happy with her. Make it work. Both of yall know yall have trust issues...work on them. Be done with the Q & A

These niggas will have you single and then call you a simp because you can't get pussy.

lmao

 

[baboss2212]

Op don't be pussy whipped young man...
Whip that pussy

 

[woodchuck]

what you doing right there?

IS JUDGMENTAL fam.

Stop blaming her.

If you can't move on just let her go.

You now know the church is important to her...this didn't JUST happen

you think of a sudden YOU gonna make her turn her back on God?

God?

For YOU?

I think YOU need to use some common sense right now.

You need to accept her for what she is and let this go.

Tell her your issues try to resolve them together show her respect and patience and stop trying to make her into something YOU find acceptable..

move on.

you KNEW how she was from the jump

don't act all brand new now.

If you gonna harp on this...or bring this up over and over you ALREADY lost her and essentially might as well let her use your credit card to take an Uber over to the Pastor crib.

Yeah, that's a pretty big ask.

 

[cocobeauty]

Why you laughing at me? lol

 

[tallblacknyc]

why op won't answer how long they been together for??? in fact do ya live together???