Yet another "AINT NO BLACK MEN LEFT" forum starring Jacque Reid
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Bruh. You and I both know its quality brothas. But women and their UNREALISTIC standards are the reason they dont see them. A brotha working for UPS, driving a decent ride, living in a modest house, below his means wouldnt register to most women unless hes a 10 lookswise to them. They only want a certain kind of dude, living a certain kind of life. Issue is that kind of dude normally aint looking to build with her.
Or has options and is exercising them....
But you know...shame on him.
* two cents *
actually she is correct..
and we got it right..
No Good Black men left....
That would put up with her energy
draining bullshit..
You can close this thread now!!
and we got it right..
No Good Black men left....
That would put up with her energy
draining bullshit..
You can close this thread now!!
It ain't us bruh. We're vile wretched cretins.
Look at our posts. Come on... maybe a few of the fellas Ronnie Romancing it up. Giving one woman the world and putting their jackets on puddles. Generally speaking... most of our porn watching, prostitute purchasing, playatastic (me) asses are all about a good nut.
I could easily say I'm a "good man" because I'm in business with my girl, I love her, and treat her great. We get money together and I protect her. It'd be a lie though because I can't keep my dick in my pants.
Some of you dudes may be "good people", with a genuine heart, and respect women. May not even cheat. However, what other areas could you be lacking?
All you "good people" aren't responsible, or rich, or have good hygiene... etc. Nobody's perfect so is there even a REAL definition of a good man?
Just end this convo. "Good men" are indeed a unicorn and stop getting all emotional if some women preferences in men exceeds your definition of what you think should be an acceptable grade of man.
Oh.. Fuck these hoes mayne. They'll fuck your friend or rich boss while you're at home cutting the lawn.
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Or has options and is exercising them....
But you know...shame on him.
* two cents *
Right. Ive told all my homegirls through the years that the line to get with a chick isnt infinite. It may seem that way in your 20s, but eventually the caliber of men that approach are going to get weaker and weaker. The reverse typically happens for men. The key for women is to cash in their chips a year too early, rather than a year too late. They call it settling, I call it cashing out before you go bust. None think its going to happen to them though. Theyre under the assumption men looks for the same shit in women as they do in men. They think their careers and accolades make them good women that men want.
So the older they get, the more degrees theyll have, and the more money theyll make and men will always want them. Boy are they in for it.
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First off... Gregory works for no Jew cracker. Let's get that straight.
Fuck yeah she needs a nigga like me to knock the cobwebs off that thang. I can't make her any worst. One of two things would happen.
A) she'd become a lesbian after losing ALL hope in men after encountering this end game. Which would result in no loss to mankind seeing as how she little faith in men anyway.
B) She'd love that way I worked that Kat. However, she strikes me as that "too proud" type... so, she'd still be sliding across stage talking that no good men shit while her panties are dripping wet thinking about how I put her feisty ass her place and tore that shit the fuck up.
I wouldn't even say shit neither. I'd let her continue to do her and have niggas crying like a lil bitch as she unleash the kraken (or flutes?) on the mic.
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More women have to get down with that then.
Good man?!?...hmm, I'll bite 
I consider hubby a good guy because he accepts me, flaws and all. Doesn't (and didn't) try to change me...not out in these streets being unloyal to me...had ME on the couch in MY place, telling me what's up and making me question my actions towards the beginning of our relationship...it was, like, HE gave me the talk I needed: here's this good guy in front of me, and I'm clowning the dude because I didn't like his accessories?!? (Yes, that was an ACTUAL hangup I had when we were first dating...mind you, this is now over four years ago)
Now, one of the major things that brought us closer was he was the main caretaker for his dying father - here's this man, doing literally EVERYTHING for his dad (bathing, feeding, etc.) I went through the declining health and eventual death of my father prior to that and I felt EVERYTHING he felt. Yet, he was doing EVERYTHING I didn't have the strength to do for my own father. I saw that love and patience he had and was, like, damn - this is a GOOD man. Once I opened myself up to that...BOOM!
I consider hubby a good guy because he accepts me, flaws and all. Doesn't (and didn't) try to change me...not out in these streets being unloyal to me...had ME on the couch in MY place, telling me what's up and making me question my actions towards the beginning of our relationship...it was, like, HE gave me the talk I needed: here's this good guy in front of me, and I'm clowning the dude because I didn't like his accessories?!? (Yes, that was an ACTUAL hangup I had when we were first dating...mind you, this is now over four years ago)
Now, one of the major things that brought us closer was he was the main caretaker for his dying father - here's this man, doing literally EVERYTHING for his dad (bathing, feeding, etc.) I went through the declining health and eventual death of my father prior to that and I felt EVERYTHING he felt. Yet, he was doing EVERYTHING I didn't have the strength to do for my own father. I saw that love and patience he had and was, like, damn - this is a GOOD man. Once I opened myself up to that...BOOM!
Good man?!?...hmm, I'll bite
I consider hubby a good guy because he accepts me, flaws and all. Doesn't (and didn't) try to change me...not out in these streets being unloyal to me...had ME on the couch in MY place, telling me what's up and making me question my actions towards the beginning of our relationship...it was, like, HE gave me the talk I needed: here's this good guy in front of me, and I'm clowning the dude because I didn't like his accessories?!? (Yes, that was an ACTUAL hangup I had when we were first dating...mind you, this is now over four years ago)
Now, one of the major things that brought us closer was he was the main caretaker for his dying father - here's this man, doing literally EVERYTHING for his dad (bathing, feeding, etc.) I went through the declining health and eventual death of my father prior to that and I felt EVERYTHING he felt. Yet, he was doing EVERYTHING I didn't have the strength to do for my own father. I saw that love and patience he had and was, like, damn - this is a GOOD man. Once I opened myself up to that...BOOM!
I can dig it.
Good man?!?...hmm, I'll bite
I consider hubby a good guy because he accepts me, flaws and all. Doesn't (and didn't) try to change me...not out in these streets being unloyal to me...had ME on the couch in MY place, telling me what's up and making me question my actions towards the beginning of our relationship...it was, like, HE gave me the talk I needed: here's this good guy in front of me, and I'm clowning the dude because I didn't like his accessories?!? (Yes, that was an ACTUAL hangup I had when we were first dating...mind you, this is now over four years ago)
Now, one of the major things that brought us closer was he was the main caretaker for his dying father - here's this man, doing literally EVERYTHING for his dad (bathing, feeding, etc.) I went through the declining health and eventual death of my father prior to that and I felt EVERYTHING he felt. Yet, he was doing EVERYTHING I didn't have the strength to do for my own father. I saw that love and patience he had and was, like, damn - this is a GOOD man. Once I opened myself up to that...BOOM!
I can dig it.
The person.
That's what it should be on both sides.
Character. Duty. Word. Loyalty. Understanding. Compatibility.
UPS Workers cake..
Im not dissing a UPS worker. AT ALL. They make a quality paycheck. But allot of uppity chicks aint trying to chose one if theyre standing beside a dude making 6 figuares. All signs can point to the UPS worker, but Id bet money theyde still take their chances with the other dude.
I witnessed a very close friend do the exact same for her dying father and i viewed and held her in a completely different light from that day forward. And this was when we both VERY young (19-20). We didnt end up together but i still hold special feelings for her in large part to how she handled herself during that time.
They have to find men who're worthy. Women are designed to submit to a man. If you have unworthy men. You'll have women who're flailing. Even T. keeps me in line now a days.
They have to find men who're worthy. Women are designed to submit to a man. If you have unworthy men. You'll have women who're flailing. Even T. keeps me in line now a days.
you ain't got as much fight as you used to though. he's getting off lucky.
Worthy is true though. just has to be extreme understanding maybe ill look into it and you can slide through
It is not for everyone but some can and do make these unions work.
No it's not. But with proper education(as i've always preached) and proper MEN. It can happen. It happens in other places just fine.
Every guy who's posted in this thread (except for you and major that i can remember) thinks they're worthy and their existence is enough and have pretty much said women should be satisfied with that.
And not THAT much fight sir. I have new toys. I have been re-energized!
Black women didn't create those standards in the first place. Many of them are following a template dictated by the majority in this country.
I would suggest that single black women start making their own standards based on what's right for them. Not what's right for their friends, their mama, or society.
Tending to the ailing with poise/grace/dedication/compassion shows a LOT about a person. Most people aren't able to see that level of depth of character of others. And when they lack it in themselves it's a major eye opener to that person about themselves. In my experience it's usually for the better that they turn out.
Good man?!?...hmm, I'll bite
I consider hubby a good guy because he accepts me, flaws and all. Doesn't (and didn't) try to change me...not out in these streets being unloyal to me...had ME on the couch in MY place, telling me what's up and making me question my actions towards the beginning of our relationship...it was, like, HE gave me the talk I needed: here's this good guy in front of me, and I'm clowning the dude because I didn't like his accessories?!? (Yes, that was an ACTUAL hangup I had when we were first dating...mind you, this is now over four years ago)
Now, one of the major things that brought us closer was he was the main caretaker for his dying father - here's this man, doing literally EVERYTHING for his dad (bathing, feeding, etc.) I went through the declining health and eventual death of my father prior to that and I felt EVERYTHING he felt. Yet, he was doing EVERYTHING I didn't have the strength to do for my own father. I saw that love and patience he had and was, like, damn - this is a GOOD man. Once I opened myself up to that...BOOM!
Thank you for your post Jo and I hope you and your man continue to have a great relationship.
But he DID change you...and ultimately for the better and for your benefit as you've said so yourself...
"Flaws and all" is one of the biggest self made obstacles women have as it pertains to getting into and maintaining a relationship. "You have to accept me for ME!" Well no I don't, not if 'you being you' to a certain degree is undercutting our relationship- which you know considering that you're in a healthy one is about not only acceptance but compromise. That's why he sat you down and had the talk- your 'flaws and all' was going to have you miss out on something and someone special.
* two cents *
Balderdash. Where is she supposed to get this wisdom of solomon from? No one springs out of the womb with knowledge of knowing what to do. How to go about it. That's the drivel you guys say to little girls who can be lead by you. In the real world most successful people listen to others with knowledge and wisdom over their own.
You guys say that nonsense so you can get away with whatever bullshit you want to put over on her.
Thank you for your post Jo and I hope you and your man continue to have a great relationship.
But he DID change you...and ultimately for the better and for your benefit as you've said so yourself...
"Flaws and all" is one of the biggest self made obstacles women have as it pertains to getting into and maintaining a relationship. "You have to accept me for ME!" Well no I don't, not if 'you being you' to a certain degree is undercutting our relationship- which you know considering that you're in a healthy one is about not only acceptance but compromise. That's why he sat you down and had the talk- your 'flaws and all' was going to have you miss out on something and someone special.
* two cents *
Oh, he absolutely changed me - he is the man I NEEDED versus the man I WANTED. But, I knew, based on previous failed relationships, something had to change within me. I was open and willing to change. You have a lot of knuckle-headed men and women unwilling to change/bend in their ways (even if they are flawed.) You have to be willing to open yourself up if you're really looking for something fulfilling...
aye im trying to play!
Stop trying to derail my rage. None of it will work.
Not trying to derail it just putting positive imagery out there.
so when i slide through you'll be inviting and not bear mace me
Good man?!?...hmm, I'll bite
I consider hubby a good guy because he accepts me, flaws and all. Doesn't (and didn't) try to change me...not out in these streets being unloyal to me...had ME on the couch in MY place, telling me what's up and making me question my actions towards the beginning of our relationship...it was, like, HE gave me the talk I needed: here's this good guy in front of me, and I'm clowning the dude because I didn't like his accessories?!? (Yes, that was an ACTUAL hangup I had when we were first dating...mind you, this is now over four years ago)
Now, one of the major things that brought us closer was he was the main caretaker for his dying father - here's this man, doing literally EVERYTHING for his dad (bathing, feeding, etc.) I went through the declining health and eventual death of my father prior to that and I felt EVERYTHING he felt. Yet, he was doing EVERYTHING I didn't have the strength to do for my own father. I saw that love and patience he had and was, like, damn - this is a GOOD man. Once I opened myself up to that...BOOM!
It sounds like you werre were an ain't shit broad that got upgraded.
with all due respect.
Good man?!?...hmm, I'll bite
I consider hubby a good guy because he accepts me, flaws and all. Doesn't (and didn't) try to change me...not out in these streets being unloyal to me...had ME on the couch in MY place, telling me what's up and making me question my actions towards the beginning of our relationship...it was, like, HE gave me the talk I needed: here's this good guy in front of me, and I'm clowning the dude because I didn't like his accessories?!? (Yes, that was an ACTUAL hangup I had when we were first dating...mind you, this is now over four years ago)
Now, one of the major things that brought us closer was he was the main caretaker for his dying father - here's this man, doing literally EVERYTHING for his dad (bathing, feeding, etc.) I went through the declining health and eventual death of my father prior to that and I felt EVERYTHING he felt. Yet, he was doing EVERYTHING I didn't have the strength to do for my own father. I saw that love and patience he had and was, like, damn - this is a GOOD man. Once I opened myself up to that...BOOM!
Co-sign every word. Especially bolded.
