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youngdave21

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I never post anything, but I feel the need to say something about
how it really effects you when you break up with you're girl.
I was in a relationship for about a year; had ups & downs but managed to get
through it. My girl was down when she didn't have a job, so I was there
when she needed anything. A few months go by, and she got another job. Then a few weeks later she's like, "we need a break & you need to focus on you." I am like WTF!
How in the world do you just leave someone just like that?
Maybe I am whack for tripping over the woman, because there are so many women
out here. So my question how do you fellas deal with a break up? Do you
go and smash something new or party like crazy so you don't have to think about
you're girl? I am so lost right now with out her....
I know I may get clowned for saying that I still love her. LOL!
 
Duke she was just using you plain and simple. Bitches do that type of thing to come up from their situation that they're in. You have to notice this these type of hoes out in the world before you invest time and money into them. Take this as a "L" but learn from it and you'll be ok.
 
She saw you as a chump and was obviously using you.... In time you will learn well from this experience.

Move forward with your life son.... No chick is worth that much stress.
 
youngdave21 said:
I never post anything, but I feel the need to say something about
how it really effects you when you break up with you're girl.
I was in a relationship for about a year; had ups & downs but managed to get
through it. My girl was down when she didn't have a job, so I was there
when she needed anything. A few months go by, and she got another job. Then a few weeks later she's like, "we need a break & you need to focus on you." I am like WTF!
How in the world do you just leave someone just like that?
Maybe I am whack for tripping over the woman, because there are so many women
out here. So my question how do you fellas deal with a break up? Do you
go and smash something new or party like crazy so you don't have to think about
you're girl? I am so lost right now with out her....
I know I may get clowned for saying that I still love her. LOL!
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I can't take it, I'm tearing up:

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youngdave21 said:
I never post anything, but I feel the need to say something about
how it really effects you when you break up with you're girl.
I was in a relationship for about a year; had ups & downs but managed to get
through it. My girl was down when she didn't have a job, so I was there
when she needed anything. A few months go by, and she got another job. Then a few weeks later she's like, "we need a break & you need to focus on you." I am like WTF!
How in the world do you just leave someone just like that?
Maybe I am whack for tripping over the woman, because there are so many women
out here. So my question how do you fellas deal with a break up? Do you
go and smash something new or party like crazy so you don't have to think about
you're girl? I am so lost right now with out her....
I know I may get clowned for saying that I still love her. LOL!
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Sounds like it was a one way Street. Some women are like monkeys. They hold on to the branch until they get a grip on the next one. So move on, hit up the clubs, get a lap dance and buy a large box of rubbers and never look back. :yes: Make sure you find a female friend to hang out with... Dinner, lunch, go out dancing and shit. Ladies are attracted to me the has somethning/someone going on and in their life. :yes:
 
youngdave21 said:
I never post anything, but I feel the need to say something about
how it really effects you when you break up with you're girl.
I was in a relationship for about a year; had ups & downs but managed to get
through it. My girl was down when she didn't have a job, so I was there
when she needed anything. A few months go by, and she got another job. Then a few weeks later she's like, "we need a break & you need to focus on you." I am like WTF!
How in the world do you just leave someone just like that?
Maybe I am whack for tripping over the woman, because there are so many women
out here. So my question how do you fellas deal with a break up? Do you
go and smash something new or party like crazy so you don't have to think about
you're girl? I am so lost right now with out her....
I know I may get clowned for saying that I still love her. LOL!
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It's tough, I had a sidechick whom I haven't seen for 4 months now who I still think about daily. She wasn't even that cute but she had a bomb ass personality. Just try to keep yourself constantly occupied throughout your days. Make a list of pro's vs con's she had and write down all the red flags she gave you so you can avoid investing time, emotion, and money in the wrong woman again.

ABSOLUTELY DO NOT CHASE HER!!! I wouldn't even accept her back if she has a change of heart because you would be reliquishing any power you had and this officially makes you a sucka, chump, simp, etc. Common sense tells me when she breaks up with you out of no where after you allegedly treated her so well, someone else been in the picture.
 
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cmac105 said:
Duke she was just using you plain and simple. Bitches do that type of thing to come up from their situation that they're in. You have to notice this these type of hoes out in the world before you invest time and money into them. Take this as a "L" but learn from it and you'll be ok.
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^^^^^^^THIS^^^^^^^ :bravo:
 
Always put yourself in situations to meet new females everyday wether you are single or not. You best believe your girl was meeting dudes every day. She just called them friends. Peace.
 
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cmac105 said:
Duke she was just using you plain and simple. Bitches do that type of thing to come up from their situation that they're in. You have to notice this these type of hoes out in the world before you invest time and money into them. Take this as a "L" but learn from it and you'll be ok.
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That's why you leave them jobless bitches alone.
 
The best go through it champ..now is a perfect I mean perfect time to invest in you..go hard in the paint for yourself..success attracts women..but always keep yourself in mind first..and it maybe hard but try not catch feelings with these women until you truly know them..even then they'll test you..when a woman knows that you don't need them it changes the game;)
 
it was just your turn. now its someone else's turn. charge it to the game and keep it movin man. it happens to the best of us.
 
Happens to all of us at some point, Luckily i was 17 and not 35. A 35 yr old man sobbering over the toilet screaming "why she dont love me...why she dont love me" is not a picture you wanna see....wish i hadnt :lol:

Each day gets easier. Write a letter telling her everthing you wanna say, read it aloud to yourself when you wanna talk to her, but dont send it! when you feel a little better about the situation, burn the letter. Shyt actually helps.
 
grow some nuts and move one...like others said the bitch was using you. Learn ofrom this and NEVER let it happen again.


Now go out a get some new pussy...that will make you forget about that bitch
 
Sound like she was just waiting for a comeup/upgrade. Hit the club and get a new chick that's badder than her. You will be glad you did
 
youngdave21 said:
I never post anything, but I feel the need to say something about
how it really effects you when you break up with you're girl.
I was in a relationship for about a year; had ups & downs but managed to get
through it. My girl was down when she didn't have a job, so I was there
when she needed anything. A few months go by, and she got another job. Then a few weeks later she's like, "we need a break & you need to focus on you." I am like WTF!
How in the world do you just leave someone just like that?
Maybe I am whack for tripping over the woman, because there are so many women
out here. So my question how do you fellas deal with a break up? Do you
go and smash something new or party like crazy so you don't have to think about
you're girl? I am so lost right now with out her....
I know I may get clowned for saying that I still love her. LOL!
Click to expand...

first you face the fact that she met one or more cats on her new job that are running up in that ass right now on a lunch break as u read this comment.

second u face the fact that if she was at least still in love she woulda attempted to lie and cheat on you while keeping you in her life. she cut you smooth off so that means she is completely done with you and hasnt thought about you since the day she cut u off.

third u can think about the fact that since she cut u off right when she got a new job, u can be 99.9% sure that u were a resthaven for a hoe... a landing pad... a rest stop....

if u still in love after all that, drink a beer and swallow bout 17 sleeping pills. go lay down and think about her till u fall asleep.
 
themainman said:
first you face the fact that she met one or more cats on her new job that are running up in that ass right now on a lunch break as u read this comment.

second u face the fact that if she was at least still in love she woulda attempted to lie and cheat on you while keeping you in her life. she cut you smooth off so that means she is completely done with you and hasnt thought about you since the day she cut u off.

third u can think about the fact that since she cut u off right when she got a new job, u can be 99.9% sure that u were a resthaven for a hoe... a landing pad... a rest stop....

if u still in love after all that, drink a beer and swallow bout 17 sleeping pills. go lay down and think about her till u fall asleep.
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:eek::smh::lol:

Cold blooded.
 
themainman said:
first you face the fact that she met one or more cats on her new job that are running up in that ass right now on a lunch break as u read this comment.

second u face the fact that if she was at least still in love she woulda attempted to lie and cheat on you while keeping you in her life. she cut you smooth off so that means she is completely done with you and hasnt thought about you since the day she cut u off.

third u can think about the fact that since she cut u off right when she got a new job, u can be 99.9% sure that u were a resthaven for a hoe... a landing pad... a rest stop....

if u still in love after all that, drink a beer and swallow bout 17 sleeping pills. go lay down and think about her till u fall asleep.
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all this right here
 
op, it's like the guy said in goodfellas...'everybody has to take a beating sometime'

it happens to everybody...let it sting real good, learn from it, and try to keep it moving (it'll take a while).

success is the only revenge you'll get in this lifetime, btw. work on yourself
 
let this be a lesson to you youngin...and trust me we have all been there..

in the beginning you were probably so glad to be getting some new pussy on the regular that you missed the warning signs. The signs where there you just didn't see them, Or you chose to ignore them Tell the truth playa you know you were getting played and probably didn't care. that 'ol "naw she ain't like that syndrome". cause she was giving you the pussy on the regular.. You should have fucked a few time and backed the fuck off and and waited to see how she reacted...

The two things women crave the most is money and attention...starve them of either one and their true colors will start to show...
 
Maybe she broke up with you because you don't know when to use"your" instead of you're"?
:dunno: Just sayin'. :dunno:
Seriously. Fuck her. Moveon.org, playa.
 
:smh: It happens. Learn from it.

I remember I went through some shit with this girl I worked with. One day, I was talking to her about how I just went through some bullshit with another girl and I really opened up to her about it. I was babblin', I was looking hurt, I was almost in tears, almost though.

She herself was in a situation where she had a crazy boyfriend beating her, fighting with her and stalking her and shit. But she wouldn't just leave him.


Then every day after that one day we talked about our individual situations, she started flirting with me a lot more, was a lot more physical with me and started talking like she really wanted to get with me.


But I saw through that shit because I had just been played almost the same exact way. That bitch was about to use me as a rest haven. She was going to use me to re-build her confidence so she can let some other nigga, or maybe the same nigga, break it down again.

And that's exactly what the hell happened. Because months after she left her job, she came back and visited me and our co-workers and she was STILL with that nigga who was beating her ass, and arguing with her ass everyday. She would've played the shit outta me if I had fell for that trap.

She knew I would've treated her good and made her feel good, may or may not have let me hit, probably would've had me and dude going at it, and then dropped me to go back to him or a nigga just as worse. And I didn't let that happen to me.

I didn't pay her tricks no mind. I didn't play her games. I was having none of that shit. And I'm glad I did what I did.

That bitch with a lesbian now. Which is somewhat logical, because if she was dumb enough to NOT leave a nigga beating her ass, she's probably dumb enough to think a bull dyke gone treat her better because she's a woman.

But I wouldn't have known that shit was a trap and if I hadn't been through some shit. And ever since that shit happened to me (that first time I got played), I've been able to dodge some SERIOUS fuckin' bullets.
 
youngdave21 said:
I never post anything, but I feel the need to say something about
how it really effects you when you break up with you're girl.
I was in a relationship for about a year; had ups & downs but managed to get
through it. My girl was down when she didn't have a job, so I was there
when she needed anything. A few months go by, and she got another job. Then a few weeks later she's like, "we need a break & you need to focus on you." I am like WTF!
How in the world do you just leave someone just like that?
Maybe I am whack for tripping over the woman, because there are so many women
out here. So my question how do you fellas deal with a break up? Do you
go and smash something new or party like crazy so you don't have to think about
you're girl? I am so lost right now with out her....
I know I may get clowned for saying that I still love her. LOL!
Click to expand...


Just keep busy yo. And I'm not saying nec. feel like you need new pussy immediately (but it helps), but go to happy hour, take up a hobby you been neglecting, get in the gym and get your self correct (Summer coming!) and like Ole Girl recommended: Concentrate on YOU.

Find comfort in these FACTS: the lost feeling is only temporary, and the next situation will be better because of the experience in some way. Instead of concentrating about the break-up, find COMFORT in looking forward to a better situation/female in your future. Always works for me.
 
youngdave21 said:
Do you go and smash something new or party like crazy so you don't have to think about you're girl? I am so lost right now with out her....
I know I may get clowned for saying that I still love her. LOL!
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only a kid would clown u for being real like that. and every dude in here that's had life experience has dealt with what u going through right now.

u mentioned smashing a girl or just partying so u won't have to think about your girl. but after fukin whoever u gonna fuk, u gonna drive home. and eventually u gonna be in a room by yourself. and u know what? u ain't gonna be thinkin about the girl u just fuked. u gonna be thinking about your ex-girl.

u can go party too with all your boys. THEY gonna be wilding out and partying and havin a good time like :D but YOU won't have much fun. and even if u decide to get drunk, u gonna go home and prolly get sick if u drunk 2 much. and then u gonna be throwin up all night in the bathroom in front of the toilet. head spinning, stomach churning, body hot. and in the morning when u feel like sheit, u STILL gonna be thinking about your ex-girl.

the point is, there is NUTHING u can do to get over heart ache. there's a big difference between 'like' and 'love and it sounds like u may be going through the love thing. nothing u can say will change her mind either. so don't call pestering her, asking her 1,000 questions about who she with or why she wanted to break it off. cause on the real, it ain't like she just thought of this yesterday. she BEEN thinking about ending it with you. she just didn't say nuthin until now. whether it was to get to a point where she could emotionally move on w/o it being hard on her OR if it was because she wasn't in a good place financially and didn't wanna rock her life before getting another job, there ain't sheit u can say to her to make her wanna get back with u. only thing u can do is hold ya head up and keep pushin.

sheit, if u don't jock or bother her and be like 'i cared 4 u. hope u find whatever it is you're looking for' then be out, she gonna eventually be on YOUR jock when she discovers that she fuked up and lost a good man (provided of course yo azz is a good man) :lol:

most women gotta go through a few bad situations b4 they figure out that they downgraded after ending your relationship......THEN they wanna come back :smh: that sheit happens 2 every dude eventually
 
It is just weird that there are a lot of people who have been lurkers FOREVER and now they want to post some "C'mon, BGOL. I need help" posts. They have like 15, 25, 40 posts.

I don't have time to waste like that on what is probably a bullshit story.
 
hey man, hang in there. I take it you're a younger cat, this shit happens. Don't worry about it. As far as what you need to do, take the girls advice even with its irony and focus on you. Go to a gym, take up a new hobby, do something to improve yourself, set yourself up to put more cash in your pocket. Like I said, shit happens, its a real world out there, let this be a lesson and learn from it bro. Good luck and God speed. Better now than later.
 
godofwine said:
It is just weird that there are a lot of people who have been lurkers FOREVER and now they want to post some "C'mon, BGOL. I need help" posts. They have like 15, 25, 40 posts.

I don't have time to waste like that on what is probably a bullshit story.
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Stories from top posters could be fake.
 

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