I am not victim calling but it seems she wittness him losing his mind. It is a sad case with her being killed because his working for the devil and ability to not be able to be stopped. I do feel her and others should have been carrying a gun
Woman post video of her husband beating her, the next week he shoots and kills her
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i have a question for some of you that are blaming her..if you knew one of your boys beating his girl/wife, would you step to him about it or would you just be like "thats their business"..reason i ask is i was talking to a female friend about situations like this and she was saying that men should hold other men accountable when they are beating women...
Right or wrong, I don't confront other men about their marriages/relationships.
I have zero tolerance about the shit. Adopted that policy when niggas called themselves white knighting because I was talking aggressively to my girl once...The nerve of mfer's telling me I'm doing something wrong because my tone offends a bunch of single mothered son-husbands.
A black woman gets shot in the head 5 times by her husband while their children are in the back seat and this is the conversation being had by “black men”.
I don't get this, like we're not supposed to talk about black men? Isn't the husband black?
Damn she finally left him and somehow dude found her and killed her, so sad.
Happens all the time sadly
Way too much
And it isn't easy.
Real talk if every man spent a day in a women's shelter a clinic foster care facility?
A whole of warped ideals we read on here would change immediately
I stated that's where the plan went wrong.
I grew up with Ike Turner for a dad, so I've been in these situations. When you go to a shelter they tell you abandon ALL habits and known locations
Kids can't go to school or visit relatives like grandparents or aunts and uncles.
The biggest reason I'm terrified of roaches right now is because there were rampant roaches at that shelter my mom sister and brother and I were at. My mother had to stay up at night to swat roaches off the bed to keep them from crawling all over us
( I had it written into my lease at my last apartment that if I saw a roach I could break my lease without penalty)
Day care is not an easy thing to change, and that process does not take to "spur of the moment" well.
This is on that nutcase, for which jail is not enough. As I said I'm not blaming the victim because there was no recourse. What was she going to do? She had to take her kids to daycare in order to go to court. She couldn't bring them to court with her.
I just wish someone had seen that error in the process
My sister-in-law had a guy break her eye socket. Punk ass piece of shit.
The shelter I eventually took her to had us go to four different places before we actually went to the shelter.
At each place they had a contact that we had to speak to and that contact had to go outside and look around to make sure no one else was around before they let our car go
We went to the hospital, Walmart, the police station and somewhere else before they gave us the location for the women's shelter
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I don't associate with that ilk. I dont eveb fuck with niggas that talk bad to black women.
I be talking shit online, but in real life it's "Yes ma'am" & "No ma'am" even if they're younger than me. I wasn't raised that way, I just learned to lead with respect.
No. Those type of guys thrive on control. And if they think you're going to leave them, that's you wresting control from their grip and they can't have that. That is the ultimate disrespect and a personal affront to their manhood.
Disrespect must be punished. There is no "Let this one go" in their minds. You check a bitch and show her who the motherfucker is.
He didn't just snap. The closer she got to actually leaving was her disrespecting him. That challenge to his manhood. But it started even before that.
Controlling men, the shit starts out like love and caring. "Oh, he really cares about me." No he's trying to control you
By the time most women realize they are in a controlling relationship it is too late. There are feelings involved. Easy to walk away for you or me, but these guys make it hard for women to run away
They control her money. They even control her car. They use her car while she's at work, saying they'll pick her up, but it's all about control
Let's get a joint account. A real man pays his lady's bills so she doesn't have to worry about that.
There's a strategy to their manipulation.
If the man controls the money, she can't afford to go anywhere cuz she doesn't have any money.
You think I don't know what I'm talking about? I saw my father throw my mother down the stairs, run down behind her as she's tumbling down the stairs and punch her in the mouth at the bottom of the stairs knocking out her front tooth
That's why I'm so relaxed as a dude in a relationship because I'm not trying to be that dude like my father.
Maybe at a later date I'll share an incident where I turned into my father for one day and personally vowed never to let that happen again.
The daughters of abusers (or abused mothers) often become abused as adults. The sons of abusers (or abused mothers) often become abusers themselves. Had I not had that incident I don't know where I would be as a man right now
But that incident also taught me not to deal with volatile habitual line stepping women. There are some women that dare you to hit them. Because of my temper, I can't be with those type of women. I don't want to see that side of myself again
That's why I'm so relaxed as a dude in a relationship because I'm not trying to be that dude like my father.
Maybe at a later date I'll share an incident where I turned into my father for one day and personally vowed never to let that happen again.
The daughters of abusers (or abused mothers) often become abused as adults. The sons of abusers (or abused mothers) often become abusers themselves. Had I not had that incident I don't know where I would be as a man right now
But that incident also taught me not to deal with volatile habitual line stepping women. There are some women that dare you to hit them. Because of my temper, I can't be with those type of women. I don't want to see that side of myself again
I'm sensitive to tone policing as well, but verbal abuse is a thing, too. Verbal abuse can be used to intimidate, manipulate, and control weaker people, fam.
It's a way to say stuff, especially to somebody you're in a relationship with.
Not all confrontations have to be aggressive.
Well I understand that and all of that is true
but I know folks snap(not saying he didn’t go over board or anything)
I'm gone cut little pieces off him at a time...and smoke it on my smoker...and feed it to my Cane Corsos'.. while he watches it..forever...til no more pieces left.... bones and all....shiddd...I might eat some too...brah
I've learned that it is a very thin line between controlling and protecting/providing, and many times it all depends on perspective.
That's why intentions should be communicated
This can also be a form of control & manipulation. It's all perception sometimes.
Two Christmas' ago we had an intervention with my female cousin who was being beaten by her boyfriend and her boyfriend for beating her, at first they both tried to act like it wasn't happening but then my cousin just broke down crying and admitted he had been beating her. The boyfriend still tried to deny it at first but then admitted it too, my cousin went into a bedroom with my sisters and the boyfriend was in the living room with me and my brother, we told him how it was wrong, that no woman deserves to be beaten and how would he feel if it was his mom or sister. My sisters said they told my sister how she has kids and doesnt need to grow up seeing her in relationships like that and she could move in with them if she needed someplace to stay. The boyfriend was putting up a front like he was listening and agreeing with us saying he was wrong and would change but we knew he was lying, my sister told my cousin that if things hadn't changed by March then leave the guy and move in with her, she said ok. They came back over on New Years acting like they were so in love, we again talked to them about abuse and my sister told her her March offer still stood, On March 1st our cousin sent a copy of a marriage certificate to our group chat and said if we couldn't be happy for her AND HER HUSBAND then she didn't want to see us anymore, we didn't see her or her kids for a about a year, she had cut off all communication, moved and we didn't even know where they lived. The guy beat her up in front of one of his friends and they called the police, police came beat his ass for resisting arrest and she called my sister, after this she still went back to him, she had moved in with my sister and was sneaking to see him. We think she had planned on leaving her kids for my sister to take care of and she was going to be with the guy because she came up with some story that her job was to far away to drive back and forth so she was going to stay with a friend during the week, her kids would stay with my sister and she'd see them on the weekends. She did this for 3 weeks until my sister called her out about it telling her she knows she's still seeing the guy. Their relationship only ended when the guy dumped her for another woman
Sorry to hear that man...at least you tried, but at the end of the day she made that decision. As you told him, beating women is not ok, but if you keep coming back to get the beating...
you dont want her to die or anything like that, but thats like playing russian roulette, any one of those beatings can end in death
They not only thrive on control they thrive on seeing women hurt, when they first get into a relationship they put on the perfect man front, gifts, dates, you're the best thing that ever happened to me, I've never met a woman like you before, calling all the time, wanting to spend all their with the woman, it's all part of their strategy to get the woman to fall in love with them so they can start the abuse. Women really believe in love at first sight, if the woman likes the guy but is just casually dating him she will see the guy suffocating her, know they are red flags, get turned off and won't even get serious with him, but if the woman has those love at first sight feelings then she will know they are red flags but because she's in love she'll still get serious with the guy.
Sad man, especially with kids involved and being witness to abuse. That's going to stay with them for life.
You better than me, fam. Like CoolBreeze said, "get him drunk and break him off like they ain't know him". But I do understand you wanna be measured with your response because the fallout has deep & far reaching results.
Damn our families are so fractured.
And folks wonder why there are woman who get great dick and still block your ass.
Also for the women that told you men should hold other accountable men accountable did you ask them how do they feel about their friends who keep going back to guy abusing them after they've let the friend stay at their house, came to her house to get her after he's beaten her and talked to her a million times trying to get her to stay away from him but she won't.
Damn man. Thanks for sharing
Sad man, especially with kids involved and being witness to abuse. That's going to stay with them for life.
You better than me, fam. Like CoolBreeze said, "get him drunk and break him off like they ain't know him". But I do understand you wanna be measured with your response because the fallout has deep & far reaching results.
Damn our families are so fractured.
Yeah it was a bad situation, there was more stuff that happened but i had already passed the COLIN limit, it also wasn't the first time we gotten/tried to get her out of an abusive relationship
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