Why would a black woman pass up a good black man?
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Well it depends.....
what do you define as a good black man?????
what do you define as a good black man?????
True....True....
Standards are different for each person...but, there is an on-going conversation I am having with someone, where they stated that a said man was a "good man", and yet they didn't want to be with them due to what I will define as superficial reasons...
So, my question is actually based on whatever you as a responder defines as a "good man", what would be the reason as to why you wouldn't want to date them...
So, my question is actually based on whatever you as a responder defines as a "good man", what would be the reason as to why you wouldn't want to date them...
People say that I am a 'good'man. I guess they mean well mannered, employed, treat women with respect etc
I am also very generous
However, I am single. Now, I am not bitching about this. I have come to realise that being 'good' is not enough
One sista rejected me in favour of a married brotha with a child. Another is having an affair with a married man too
It does not matter how charming, kind, responsible and solvent you are.........if she ain't feeling you, there is nothing you can do
So keep it moving and don't dwell too much
I am also very generous
However, I am single. Now, I am not bitching about this. I have come to realise that being 'good' is not enough
One sista rejected me in favour of a married brotha with a child. Another is having an affair with a married man too
It does not matter how charming, kind, responsible and solvent you are.........if she ain't feeling you, there is nothing you can do
So keep it moving and don't dwell too much
You and Bullet obviously have experience...
What I don't want to do with this thread though is to go into any bashing or victimization. I don't have a problem with the decisions that women make, so many things are psyco-socially embedded into our minds, that often I wonder if life isn't really like the matrix...yet, I digress...anywho...
it depends on what makes that person a good man
also, with every person there you have to look at the benefit/cost factor....so what are the benefits and what are the costs
and just b/c the person is good doesn't mean they don't got shit w/ em so....does one heavily outweigh the other? are they even?
lastly, a person can be good but just not good for u
so yeah....those are some reasons why in general imo
also, with every person there you have to look at the benefit/cost factor....so what are the benefits and what are the costs
and just b/c the person is good doesn't mean they don't got shit w/ em so....does one heavily outweigh the other? are they even?
lastly, a person can be good but just not good for u
so yeah....those are some reasons why in general imo
Hmmm....
Please expound on this, how did you say,..."the benefit/cost factor"...if you could, include a bar graph or chart, as I am a visual and tactile learner...
Thank you much....
Sigh....
There's no such thing as a good black man or good black woman.... it's only a perception. Just like beauty.
To answer the question, it's because women lose interest. The same interest that make women hook up with men in the first place disappears.
There's no such thing as a good black man or good black woman.... it's only a perception. Just like beauty.
To answer the question, it's because women lose interest. The same interest that make women hook up with men in the first place disappears.
An assumption from the world reknown Ju? Wow...I must be getting better...
Anywho...
Please explain this paradigm that is so "self-explanatory" that I might be up to date with all those who apparently are aware of it....
cut it out lolits simple ...but i guess not simple enough for u to grasp so here goes:
1) what are the benefits of being with this person? (spiritually, socially, intellectually, developmentally and all the other -ly's u can think of)
2) what are the costs/burdens of being with this person? (spiritually, socially, intellectually, developmentally and all the other -ly's u can think of)
can u understand now?
And on that case/thread closed
Hey, the ferocious Puma....how is your website going?
Right...
anywho...
its simple ...but i guess not simple enough for u to grasp so here goes:
1) what are the benefits of being with this person? (spiritually, socially, intellectually, developmentally and all the other -ly's u can think of)
2) what are the costs/burdens of being with this person? (spiritually, socially, intellectually, developmentally and all the other -ly's u can think of)
can u understand now?
Didn't I tell you I need charts and pie graphs? The jury is still out on the "crazy chick" case...
My reason for making this thread has yet to be resolved...I mean...why would any woman pass up "Mr. Everything You Want In A Man"...?
its simple ...but i guess not simple enough for u to grasp so here goes:
1) what are the benefits of being with this person? (spiritually, socially, intellectually, developmentally and all the other -ly's u can think of)
2) what are the costs/burdens of being with this person? (spiritually, socially, intellectually, developmentally and all the other -ly's u can think of)
can u understand now?
I can dig that
sounds like the 80/20 rule if you ask me....
The greeks learned something....
Anywho...
Fuck...another "why did I get married" reference...
Aren't they as tired as the oft quoted "Training Day", chess/checkers referral?
No to worry...
Precisely. Rather intriguing paradox if you ask me. One that emerges when ambiguous terms like "good" and "bad" are used in this context.
Shit, it's like art. [Universally speaking] there's no such thing as good or bad art. Or food.
Co-sign 100%
Same process where people tend to think life can only be black and white...
when it's actually purely gray.
...you are pretty good on the retorts...
...fuck you doing over here asking questions?
^^^ That last line right there, is some deep shit. Way way deeper than folks might appreciate.
That isnt right owl.......
A sista has a lot going onDang it
My fault, mi amor...
...I'm still in therapy and shit...
...can we still do some side business?
I think that people like the idea of something good... but if you ask them they can't thoroughly define it by what it means to them... so hence when someone "good" comes along... they aren't ready for it or can't see it...
And like someone said... "Good" doesn't mean good for you... those are big things... Ex... some definite a "good" man as someone who works, comes home with the pay... supports the family..he does all the routine things that need to be done but what about having aspirations and dreams... he wouldn't be a "good" man to someone who is a dreamer and lives life thinking and being philosophical... idk.. just what I think
And like someone said... "Good" doesn't mean good for you... those are big things... Ex... some definite a "good" man as someone who works, comes home with the pay... supports the family..he does all the routine things that need to be done but what about having aspirations and dreams... he wouldn't be a "good" man to someone who is a dreamer and lives life thinking and being philosophical... idk.. just what I think
true, true...
Show me a one good woman, and I'll show you one man that's tired of fucking her...
Show me a one good man, and I'll show you one woman that's tired of fucking him...
Hey, Life is what you make it
No, life is two cups of milk,
three cups of processed cheese,
two layers of shells,
and one hour of cooking...
Keep mixing the shells and cheese...lasagna is a bitch....
Blood gang...seven-six hundred, and I'm out...hollla at you sean....
That is all bullshit, first of all most females have low self-esteem. That's why they can't appreciate a man that will treat them right.Its more about what that man can do for them instead of which man really wants me and what we can accomplish together. The big problem is they are not able to understand until there is a ring on your finger, that man is not entitled to give you anything.Dates and gifts are privileges that are earned; not given. The reason a black woman would pass up a good black man is because she is too busy running behind some sorry ass nigga, that do not want her. Again, that all falls in the low self-esteem category.
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There's more than one recipe to cook lasagna or more than one way to look at life that is...
We can call anything lasagna.... it just depends on our own tastes of perfect lasagna.
Now I like the direction this thread is taking...
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