Why Women Date Married Men-True?

[onyxfemme]

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#1 The sex is hot. Just like a lot of men, many women crave sex. As a result, when some women meet a man that they have an undeniable sexual attraction to, they rush forward and pounce. Although it's not always admitted to, this is one reason why some women just can't let a married man go. They love the sex and, as a result, refuse to end the relationship.

#2 She doesn't think it's hurting anyone. Have you ever heard the saying 'what you don't know won't hurt you?' This is a statement that some females who play the role of the other woman live by. They feel that as long as nobody knows (especially the wife) what they're doing, it's okay. As a result, this woman will never stop seeing the married man until things blow up.

#3 She loves the money. Some women barter sex for money. This exchange is as old as the bible. As a result, if a man has a lot of cash that he's willing to spend on her, the other woman will go for it without any regret. It's not that she want's to hurt anyone or even be the other woman,she just needs help paying her bills.

#4 She believes all men are dogs.You'd think that a woman who thinks so lowly of all men wouldn't wind up in a dirty affair. However, this idea is wrong. Because she thinks all men are dogs, she expects very little from them - including faithfulness. So it seems natural to her that a married man would cheat since that's what all men do anyway. If you ask her about the wife, nine times out of ten she'll tell you about the number of times she's been cheated on by a man. It's her justification for her actions.

#5 She needs to feel powerful. This point is where I believe Monica Lewinsky falls. Sleeping with the President of the United States probably lifted her self-esteem and made her feel powerful. It's a trap women fall into who like to sleep with high-profile men. They get their energy and life from an accomplished man instead of finding other ways to build themselves up.

Is this true?? Your thoughts??​

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

I always wondered this myself.

 

[onyxfemme]

^^Me too^^I guess the reason doesnt matter, it is tacky and sad regardless but I have always thought 4 & 5 were the primary reasons well those and that some women will get attention from where ever they can so they take it from a married man too.
I hope some of the others chime and discuss this topic. I would like to hear some of the male views too.

 

[maddcat]

Known a few women who have messed around with married men....none of that stuff was the reason.

A married guy is stable in their eyes. He's predictable and reliable, and for the most part he want's what she has to offer. In his words....his wife is not the person he dated, She's gained weight, she's has taken the marrage seriously and has devoted her life to the kids, and she's not really keeping up with the spicy sex life.

All of this has been explained to the woman who is messing with the married man. she is empathic to what he wants and it makes her feel needed. Sex is not forced on her and she doesn't feel obligated to perform in the bedroom.

So all the bullshit that goes with a committed relationship she forgoes. She get's her cake and eats it too.

As for the money...yeah there are those who won't do it unless he leaves some cash on the nightstand.

 

[onyxfemme]

Ahhhh good input!
Makes sense too-so somewhat out of convenience??

 

[Mo-Better]

Sorry ladies for some women their reasoning for dating a married man is more primal than anything listed. It's the power of the orgasm. If it can't be had at home women will find a location. She's Gotta Have It! If there's money involved all the better.

Then too women date married men because he can't be demanding of her time. He has a family he must spend time with. So in this regard they have some control over him. Possibly more than wifey.

 

[onyxfemme]

True true...So why not just leave wifey??

I am sorry I am a bit psycho for good "D" I am waaaay to possessive to ever share my man... I just cant see how sistas do it.

Sorry ladies for some women their reasoning for dating a married man is more primal than anything listed. It's the power of the orgasm. If it can't be had at home women will find a location. She's Gotta Have It! If there's money involved all the better.

Then too women date married men because he can't be demanding of all his time. He has a family he must spend time with. So in this regard they have some control over him. Possibly more than wifey.

 

[Mo-Better]

True true...So why not just leave wifey??

I am sorry I am a bit psycho for good "D" I am waaaay to possessive to ever share my man... I just cant see how sistas do it.

Why are you apologizing? In answer to your question listen to Johnny Taylor's big hit It's Cheaper To Keep Her.

It's Cheaper to Keep Her - Link: http://www.last.fm/music/Johnnie+Taylor/_/Cheaper+to+Keep+Her

But let's refocus here, Why should he leave wifey? He's got it great, the man's got 2 women. (No one said the outside girl was better than wifey. The outside girl is with this married guy because she's wasn't sexually satisfied.

 

[jedimasta]

True true...So why not just leave wifey??

I am sorry I am a bit psycho for good "D" I am waaaay to possessive to ever share my man... I just cant see how sistas do it.

It's cheaper to keep her.



And as far as sharing good "D," apparently it's a scarce commodity so some women will share it because they think they won't find it anywhere else.

I.E. if water was scarce and the only way you could get some was to share with someone else, you'd better believe you'd share.

Then eventually try to take it.

 

[followup]

I don't think it's any of those reasons. I think it comes back to the fact that women want a good man. A man who is a provider. Who represents that better than a married, family man? Seems like the women are willing to overlook the litle fact that he is a cheater and give more weight to how good and family-oriented the man is.

On a side note: have any of you ladies ever thought about being with a married man? Has a married man ever tried to get with you? Are you friends with any married men, but not their wives? Same questions for the guys and a married woman

I'll answer first since I asked the questions. Never knowingly wanted to be with a married man. One guy almost trapped me because I didn't know he was married. I admit that I am still attracted to him and friends with him, but don't know his wife... **I know the shit is dangerous but he knows where I stand**

 

[onyxfemme]

I don't think it's any of those reasons. I think it comes back to the fact that women want a good man. A man who is a provider. Who represents that better than a married, family man? Seems like the women are willing to overlook the litle fact that he is a cheater and give more weight to how good and family-oriented the man is.

On a side note: have any of you ladies ever thought about being with a married man? Has a married man ever tried to get with you? Are you friends with any married men, but not their wives? Same questions for the guys and a married woman

You know I can see your point and I think that is what it is some of the time...But how good of a man or provider is one who is cheating on the one they married? I mean as a woman I would have a problem if you can fuck me and break me off some change, but cant say I do to me. I will feel cheap. If a dude could tell me you are so cool and you are so pretty...LETS FUCK and that is all there is, I would feel like..Dayum is that my worth? A fuck?
I dunno it takes a pretty desperate women to mess w/ a married man...In my book. Especially if the wife doesnt know about you. There is a reason she doesnt know. Because he is protecting her feelings and dont give a dayum about yours.

Now to your question-A good one by the way!
I dated this guy for a minute and I kind of liked him. But I knew something wasnt right. His stories changed and would never stay the night at my house. Anywho when I found out he was married I told him to kick rocks. I mean my pussy literally dried up, I was done w/ him. There was no need for me to be bitter or try to call his wife. I found out and left him alone.

Yeah.........Dude turned straight psycho! Arguing w/ my boyfriend coming up trying to look in my windows. Leaving cards and flowers in my car...Finally one day my boyfriend (on again off again) was like enough-they had words and my dude was like-
Dayum....She must have sucked your dick if you are acting like this.

And why is that joker BACK! He found me through another site and is sending me all kinds of messages and shit. He divorced and remarried and is right back to the same tricks.

 

[Mo-Better]

You know I can see your point and I think that is what it is some of the time...But how good of a man or provider is one who is cheating on the one they married? I mean as a woman I would have a problem if you can fuck me and break me off some change, but cant say I do to me. I will feel cheap. If a dude could tell me you are so cool and you are so pretty...LETS FUCK and that is all there is, I would feel like..Dayum is that my worth? A fuck?
I dunno it takes a pretty desperate women to mess w/ a married man...In my book. Especially if the wife doesnt know about you. There is a reason she doesnt know. Because he is protecting her feelings and dont give a dayum about yours.

Now to your question-A good one by the way!
I dated this guy for a minute and I kind of liked him. But I knew something wasnt right. His stories changed and would never stay the night at my house. Anywho when I found out he was married I told him to kick rocks. I mean my pussy literally dried up, I was done w/ him. There was no need for me to be bitter or try to call his wife. I found out and left him alone.

Yeah.........Dude turned straight psycho! Arguing w/ my boyfriend coming up trying to look in my windows. Leaving cards and flowers in my car...Finally one day my boyfriend (on again off again) was like enough-they had words and my dude was like-
Dayum....She must have sucked your dick if you are acting like this.

And why is that joker BACK! He found me through another site and is sending me all kinds of messages and shit. He divorced and remarried and is right back to the same tricks.

Damn girl that stuff must be good... To get a married dude all sprung like that.


I think its time to send a PM.

 

[onyxfemme]

you so silly...

Damn girl that stuff must be good... To get a married dude all sprung like that.


I think its time to send a PM.

 

[P.L.]

Dayum....She must have sucked your dick if you are acting like this.

And why is that joker BACK! He found me through another site and is sending me all kinds of messages and shit. He divorced and remarried and is right back to the same tricks.
^^^^^^