why don't sistas look at a mans CHARACTER anymore?

[onyxfemme]

That's a funny question for a message board where a woman's large BOOTY is prized more than her intellect. Thoughtful and outspoken women are constantly TRASHED (here and in life). Constantly told to "shut-up and bend over," if they dare express themselves in ways that aren't subserviant to men.

Why don't men consider a WOMAN'S character and education, before her ass?

Examine thyself, first.

Real talk....


Why start a thread like this but then shut women down before they can answer? Thread Over

 

[ladyscorpio]

Real talk....


Why start a thread like this but then shut women down before they can answer? Thread Over

Onyx because even when women make themselves heard there are some that choose to continue to overlook and label us emotional creatures.

 

[onyxfemme]

Onyx because even when women make themselves heard there are some that choose to continue to overlook and label us emotional creatures.

True...True...

 

[INVICTUS3RD]

My 2:

The reason is very simple: That is the 1st thing we (Women/Men) see. 1 first thing! Is how a person looks!

I mean how many people walk down the street and say, "Damn, look at dat sista's phat personality?"

Or

Sistas walking down the street and look at a guy and say, "Shit, that fucker ova is hangin' low with responsibility and loyality!!! I gotta get some of dat!!!"

Answer is: No one does. We are all visual people. That is why we have TWO eyes. To see more. And we are different in our tastes, so what one sista might not like, another sister will.

Vice Versa.

Here is the deal:
Put yourself in a position, where sistas can be attracted to BOTH your looks and personality. And let your personality far outweight your looks. Look, even if a brother looks like Oscar the Grouch, but he dresses decent, good with money and has a platinum personality, the Sistas would find you in the daylight with a flash light. Trust me.

Just like you wanna wake to something beautiful in the morning, beautiful on the inside, as well as out, so do the sistas and I am not mad at them for that. They are only human, as we are. We CANNOT fault them for what they do or say and we do it. That is just not fair.

Be real and fair with yourself and take care of yourself, and trust, they will come.

 

[Blunt]

I hope you're aware of not being liked by female members on this board as well.

I hope you're aware that your tragically misguided opinion of me is of no consquence to anyone. Someone as silly as you should probably read more and comment less.

 

[The Pope]

i stopped fuckin with hoes 5 years ago. i only fuck white chics now. it's a lot less drama and i don't have to worry about buying weave for them.

 

[Blunt]

i stopped fuckin with hoes 5 years ago. i only fuck white chics now. it's a lot less drama and i don't have to worry about buying weave for them.

Thanks for sharing. You want a cookie?

 

[Harlem's Angel]

there is no use in arguing that you all do or saying "not all of us". it's a total waste of time...

so i'm curious, why isn't a mans character a top the list of priorities when choosing a mate?

What's the point in asking a question when you say that the answer some of us may give is invalid?

 

[Harlem's Angel]

i stopped fuckin with hoes 5 years ago. i only fuck white chics now. it's a lot less drama and i don't have to worry about buying weave for them.

so what you're saying is that no good black woman would give your dumbass the time of day so you quit and went for the easier target?


Would you like a lashing to go with your bale of cotton?

 

[Poobs]

Females dont look at a nigga's character first because honestly niggaz dont look a female's character first...motherfuckas worried bout people sayin "damn his/her boyfriend/girlfriend look raw as hell"...kinda like a trophy type thing...if they looked at a man's character first and we still worried about the outside appearance of them...than its a double standard and it would make females feel like they lowerin theyself to a man...and u know thats the last thing they want in today's age

 

[sirwoodz]

Okay i've read the replies and i'll address/clarify some things

A) I did not SHUT ANYBODY DOWN in my initial question...I've been on the web for over a decade, and I've facilitated a bunch of these discussions in school and the first thing women do when a question like this comes up is say "I AINT LIKE THAT!!" or "DONT LUMP US ALL TOGETHER!!"...bullshit. I think anybody with 2 eyeballs and only 1/3 of a functioning brain knows that black women in general, are not knocking down the doors of black men in law or medical school and brothas that work for NASA. I tried to cut through the bullshit before it hit me in the face. that's all.

B) Being on a PORN board means absolutely nothing. BGOL has tons of worthless ignorant ass thug niggas, and also a ton of intelligent business minded professional black men as well. One thing has nothing to do with the other...

I want to know why black women date and make babies with men that they know good and damned well they wouldn't want their sons to grow up to be like.

 

[sirwoodz]

Females dont look at a nigga's character first because honestly niggaz dont look a female's character first...motherfuckas worried bout people sayin "damn his/her boyfriend/girlfriend look raw as hell"...kinda like a trophy type thing...if they looked at a man's character first and we still worried about the outside appearance of them...than its a double standard and it would make females feel like they lowerin theyself to a man...and u know thats the last thing they want in today's age

- I have to disagree with that...I think even the dumbest man out here that wants to do nothing else but have sex with chicken heads and strippers, knows that he wouldn't wife those chicks up. this is why there is a term called "wifey" (which i think is dumb but i get the meaning behind it) for the ones that he would.

from what I see, black women can't differentiate between the two...they see shiny rims, a fake boss nigga attitude and that psuedo-alpha male bravado, and they can't see through it enough to know that this cat REALLY has no character whatsoever. yeah there is nothing wrong with lusting after a man like that, but to want to MARRY him? want to have KIDS with him? this is not intelligent thinking.

 

[femmenoire]

because we'd need a microscope and we can't carry them shits every where we go along with the kids you leave us with.

 

[cbm_redux]

...why isn't a mans character a top the list of priorities when choosing a mate?

Sounds like a shiftless motherfucker making excuses for his lack of accomplishments to me. Get a job, nyuggah!

 

[cbm_redux]

regardless of race many women will forego love in lieu of security in a relationship....

It's just as easy for a woman to fall in love with a gainfully employed man with decent credit and some savings as it is to fall for a perpetually un/under-employed nigga who lives in his momma's basement.

 

[mrjody]

Slap "Character" on a set of obscenely large rims.

THats the only way these chicks will look at it....

 

[Ace Money]

It's just as easy for a woman to fall in love with a gainfully employed man with decent credit and some savings as it is to fall for a perpetually un/under-employed nigga who lives in his momma's basement.

Man u sound like a fat guy with a cool job that hate's on men whom are less economically acconplished then you but still deal with better women then you do.

 

[shanebp1978]

This should become mildy entertaining.

 

[wadusay]

Some women get off on the thrill of having a bad boy.

Probably the same reason that we sometimes overlook a good girl for a worthless chick with a bad ass body.

Co-sign 100%

I've overlooked a couple of nice girls just for those chicks with a banging body.

Bottom line: Both men and women do it.

It's attraction...then you get experienced, matured, older(whatever you wanna call it) and you start looking for more worthwhile qualities.

 

[caramelcute]

That's a funny question for a message board where a woman's large BOOTY is prized more than her intellect. Thoughtful and outspoken women are constantly TRASHED (here and in life). Constantly told to "shut-up and bend over," if they dare express themselves in ways that aren't subserviant to men.

Why don't men consider a WOMAN'S character and education, before her ass?

Examine thyself, first.

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

i stopped fuckin with hoes 5 years ago. i only fuck white chics now. it's a lot less drama and i don't have to worry about buying weave for them.

Happy for you.Do you want a prize or something

 

[LoneStar29]

i stopped fuckin with hoes 5 years ago. i only fuck white chics now. it's a lot less drama and i don't have to worry about buying weave for them.

So white girls can't be hoes ... or be in drama ... or wear weave

[flash]http://www.youtube.com/v/WfuOYDIclms&feature=related[/flash]

 

[Poobs]

Co-sign 100%

I've overlooked a couple of nice girls just for those chicks with a banging body.

Bottom line: Both men and women do it.

It's attraction...then you get experienced, matured, older(whatever you wanna call it) and you start looking for more worthwhile qualities.

Pretty much sums it up

 

[jucurious]

It's just as easy for a woman to fall in love with a gainfully employed man with decent credit and some savings as it is to fall for a perpetually un/under-employed nigga who lives in his momma's basement.

true

and i agree with Blunt, especially the part of how men claim to love women soooooooooo much but terms usually associated with women are used as a diss to a males manhood

and i agree that is a male & female issue

not just women


not just black ppl either