why don't sistas look at a mans CHARACTER anymore?
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regardless of race many women will forego love in lieu of security in a relationship....
Wait man not so fast, lets give them a chance to answer this damn good question. I agree, who a man is doesn't seem as important as what he's got, or can provide.
Some women get off on the thrill of having a bad boy.
Probably the same reason that we sometimes overlook a good girl for a worthless chick with a bad ass body.
Probably the same reason that we sometimes overlook a good girl for a worthless chick with a bad ass body.
When does a woman know a man's true character?
To answer your question: after getting to know him over time and being with him, knowing his mind, his personality, his goals, desires, interests, vibe, etc.
What I am interpreting the OP is asking is why aren't these characteristics on the top of the list of priorities as opposed to more material items such as looks, salary, vehicle, etc?
Even though he doesn't want to hear, for most women I know his character IS at the top of the list. If a man approaches me respectfully and treats me like his equal, I assume he has good character. It's like a given that I think he has good character if I'm even spending time with him. If I'm spending time with dude, it's a given that I find him physically attractive too. So then we have to look for the other stuff.
Excellent question! Character can't be defined as easily as superficial things but its 100X more important.
i totally agree with the both of you
That's a funny question for a message board where a woman's large BOOTY is prized more than her intellect. Thoughtful and outspoken women are constantly TRASHED (here and in life). Constantly told to "shut-up and bend over," if they dare express themselves in ways that aren't subserviant to men.
Why don't men consider a WOMAN'S character and education, before her ass?
Examine thyself, first.
Why don't men consider a WOMAN'S character and education, before her ass?
Examine thyself, first.
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That's a funny question for a message board where a woman's large BOOTY is prized more than her intellect. INtelligent and outspoken women are constantly TRASHED (here and in life).
Why don't men consider a WOMAN'S character and education, before her ass?
Know thyself, first.
Can you go one day without criticizing the board and its members?Maybe when my fellow men on this board finally go one day without trashing women, in both obvious and subtle ways. That ain't likely to happen ... so I'm not gonna let the bullies always have the last word.
Its rare but I agree with Blunt.
The OP is criticizing the board and its members BTW
Its rare but I agree with Blunt.
The OP is criticizing the board and its members BTW
If you say so. Looks like a general question about an observation to me.
OK then why do men look at a womans tits and ass before or instead of her character?
Men are visual creatures we are easily stimulated by what we see. That doesn't mean at the end of the day we are not checkin a woman's character. Women do the same but its more prevalent in men.
Honestly the first attraction you have is the visual. When you look at someone you cant see what kind of person they are. Now once you meet them and you only stay becuz of the physical, then there is the problem.
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So then the original question should be directed at men, since they are apparently totally blind to character (based on their genes).
LoneStar29
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First of all ... believe it or not ... I pretty much only look at a mans character and personality when making a decison about wether I like him or not ... all that other shit comes secondary ... I want to be loved and respected by a man so looking at his cuteness or fat pockets wont tell me if he is capable of that ... I gotta see if he's mentally and emotionally capable of loving me the way I want to be loved
C/S ... But that won't matter on BGOL cuz the men don't ever do wrong on here ... only the women do
Man or woman ... you make some damn good points
C/S ... But that won't matter on BGOL cuz the men don't ever do wrong on here ... only the women do
That's a funny question for a message board where a woman's large BOOTY is prized more than her intellect. Thoughtful and outspoken women are constantly TRASHED (here and in life). Constantly told to "shut-up and bend over," if they dare express themselves in ways that aren't subserviant to men.
Why don't men consider a WOMAN'S character and education, before her ass?
Examine thyself, first.
Man or woman ... you make some damn good points
AlexandMorgan
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First of all ... believe it or not ... I pretty much only look at a mans character and personality when making a decision about whether I like him or not ... all that other shit comes secondary ... I want to be loved and respected by a man so looking at his cuteness or fat pockets wont tell me if he is capable of that ... I gotta see if he's mentally and emotionally capable of loving me the way I want to be loved.
When you find out let us know.
C/S ... But that won't matter on BGOL cuz the men don't ever do wrong on here ... only the women do
And you know this
Man or woman ... you make some damn good points
You need to stop going in this direction.
LoneStar29
Banned
We all look at the physical first - but I think that, in general, women might be more likely to look past the physical and get with a someone based on his character. Often times, once a female gets to know the guy, she starts to see him as a possibility - but once a dude gets to know the female, he usually starts seeing her as a "homie"...the chick he tells all his dating horror stories to...
Exactly.
Looks may be how you meet someone (which might not even be true all the time) and then going further would depend on character.
But even then that's true it might not be the case. I know so many men that get a lot of women, that are really just average, but a lot of women are interested in them because they are Katt Williams funny or have a charming personality.
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Is this a critical question about Black women?? I bet it gets labeled as false and man-hating.
It hasn't been labeled all day. The only part I don't like is where the OP said "there is no use in arguing that you all do or saying "not all of us". it's a total waste of time..."
Why ask the women a question and then tell us what we can & can't respond?
Case in point^^^. Fools like this claim to like women, and yet they clearly believe that (falsely) labelling me as a "woman" will be somehow hurtful to me. They use the female gender as a "slur" against men who don't conform to their stupidity, misogyny and bigotry.
Some "boys" still have a very long way to go.
Case in point^^^. Fools like this claim to like women, and yet they clearly believe that (falsely) labelling me as a "woman" will be somehow hurtful to me. They use the female gender as a "slur" against men who don't conform to their stupidity, misogyny and bigotry.
Some "boys" still have a very long way to go.
Mad, eh?I hope you're aware of not being liked by female members on this board as well.
I hope you're aware of not being liked by female members on this board as well.
you adopted my word!
That's a funny question for a message board where a woman's large BOOTY is prized more than her intellect. Thoughtful and outspoken women are constantly TRASHED (here and in life). Constantly told to "shut-up and bend over," if they dare express themselves in ways that aren't subserviant to men.
Why don't men consider a WOMAN'S character and education, before her ass?
Examine thyself, first.
I agree with both of these...as other posters said, it takes time and getting to know a person really well to see their true character. But, there are ways in which to see bits and pieces of it, such as how he views his mom and other women in his family (does he have much respect for them, does he value their opinion, etc.); his ambition and goals towards something in life, particularly what that something is...
There are many ways to get keys into what a man's character is. But, I do think both black women and men tend to look at the outside more and those superficial qualities than even white men and women do. Many times they marry based on similar backgrounds (i.e., parents are both educated, both parties went to college and come from two parent homes, etc.).
Yeah, it made my word of the day list.
The term seemed appropriate for the moment.
West Indian curse words sound so much more vulgar and offensive.
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