why do female always fall for the bad guys?
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This is the truth, PREACH BROTHER PREACH.......
this has nothing to do with my situation.
I really think there is no explanation for it. Alot of women are attracted to a certain guy and dont even know why. I think its biological thing. No matter how ppl try to switch it into a social phenomenon (- like status etc)... It isn't always that.
I certainly agree that this is part of it...ever notice how offended some people get if you suggest biology/nature over nurture in something as fundamental as sexual attraction...as if attraction doesn't have some purpose or function...and might not have served our ancestors in good stead at some point...
Because good men ain't shit. Have to be at work on time or the mighty boss man might fire him. Have to work late on a term paper so that he might have a future. Have to make a budget so that he can buy his precious insurance to insulate him against things that might happen to him. He's a pathetic, shriveled little marshmallow scared of getting wet. He's also safe, boring, and predictable. The only thing he has to offer a woman is the same. Offering a woman a choice between a good man and a thug is like a choice between a Friday night out at the library and Friday night out at the club.
These women also know that once they get tired of the bad boys your good lil' simp ass will still be waiting with candy and flowers in hand. So why not grab the excitement as long as possible?
These women also know that once they get tired of the bad boys your good lil' simp ass will still be waiting with candy and flowers in hand. So why not grab the excitement as long as possible?
Women who deal with aint shit niggas get aint shit results. Keep the line movin if she aint down for you because you look a certain way or you go tshit going for you. Black women make dumb ass decision and wonder why they aint go no man.
Stop sayin dudes look like players, you don't what a man has going on in his life he just looks good so be it.
Stop sayin dudes look like players, you don't what a man has going on in his life he just looks good so be it.
whatever y'all! 
why do nice girls finish last and men like bitches who nag about silly stuff, fuck dat shit man!
why do nice girls finish last and men like bitches who nag about silly stuff, fuck dat shit man!
Woman at times can be walking oxymorons. There are a few reasons why woman tend to date the bad guy. Woman don’t judge a man the same way that they would judge another woman. She would view another female as a hoe, slut or trifling if she slept around with different men or a few people in the work place. Now this same woman would view a man who did the same things such as sleep around with different women and a few in the work place as being just a man. Women ignore the past history of men. This guy could approach her....her guard will be up initially but if he was persistent in showing HER attention she will let her guard down. Once feelings come about women will began to try and justify and rationalize why talking to them is different from all the rest of the women he has approached. Women tend to believe that they are not equal. Her rationalization would be one that says "Those other woman were not real woman and did not respect themselves and were to easy blah blah blah" She will convince herself that these other woman did not want true love, true romance, faithful God fearing man, financially stable and caring man with family values. Logic says that if he slept with 100 women do you truly believe all of these 100 women did not want something meaningful? She will convince herself of that being true.
The oxymoron is that women have good men in their lives. The anthem to everyone female when it comes to relationships is "I want my man to be my best friend" Women will shout to the sky that they want an honest, God Fearing, Family Oriented, Caring, intelligent, and financially stable guy. Once again the theme music cues and they sing "I want my man to be my best friend" When they find a man that has all of these wonderful qualities the man gets placed in the friend zone.
Now they say he is to nice and I only see him as a friend or like a brother because they can talk to him about anything and he understands their feelings. Now the guy who does not care about them the one that has them sitting wondering where he at or why he does the things to make her upset she wants to give her heart to him. She will then hold the guy that is in the friend zone ear hostage for hours at a time talking about why the dude is doing her wrong and that she is not asking for much and only looking for a man that is honest, God Fearing, Family Oriented, Caring, intelligent, and financially stable guy. Ummm ladies that guy is on the other end of the phone.
The oxymoron is that women have good men in their lives. The anthem to everyone female when it comes to relationships is "I want my man to be my best friend" Women will shout to the sky that they want an honest, God Fearing, Family Oriented, Caring, intelligent, and financially stable guy. Once again the theme music cues and they sing "I want my man to be my best friend" When they find a man that has all of these wonderful qualities the man gets placed in the friend zone.
Now they say he is to nice and I only see him as a friend or like a brother because they can talk to him about anything and he understands their feelings. Now the guy who does not care about them the one that has them sitting wondering where he at or why he does the things to make her upset she wants to give her heart to him. She will then hold the guy that is in the friend zone ear hostage for hours at a time talking about why the dude is doing her wrong and that she is not asking for much and only looking for a man that is honest, God Fearing, Family Oriented, Caring, intelligent, and financially stable guy. Ummm ladies that guy is on the other end of the phone.
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Woman at times can be walking oxymorons. There are a few reasons why woman tend to date the bad guy. Woman don’t judge a man the same way that they would judge another woman. She would view another female as a hoe, slut or trifling if she slept around with different men or a few people in the work place. Now this same woman would view a man who did the same things such as sleep around with different women and a few in the work place as being just a man. Women ignore the past history of men. This guy could approach her....her guard will be up initially but if he was persistent in showing HER attention she will let her guard down. Once feelings come about women will began to try and justify and rationalize why talking to them is different from all the rest of the women he has approached. Women tend to believe that they are not equal. Her rationalization would be one that says "Those other woman were not real woman and did not respect themselves and were to easy blah blah blah" She will convince herself that these other woman did not want true love, true romance, faithful God fearing man, financially stable and caring man with family values. Logic says that if he slept with 100 women do you truly believe all of these 100 women did not want something meaningful? She will convince herself of that being true.
The oxymoron is that women have good men in their lives. The anthem to everyone female when it comes to relationships is "I want my man to be my best friend" Women will shout to the sky that they want an honest, God Fearing, Family Oriented, Caring, intelligent, and financially stable guy. Once again the theme music cues and they sing "I want my man to be my best friend" When they find a man that has all of these wonderful qualities the man gets placed in the friend zone.
one of the best response so far.
its funny how life can be when dealing with certain people.
This is a serious subject especially if a woman wants a quality man
To my understanding younger women are attracted to bad boys, older women are more attracted to either the nice guy or the rich guy. of course these are loose catagories. It is actually quite simple, it is basic human nature. Women like a person that exudes confidence ( doesn't have to be a bad boy) because inside each woman is a girl who needs to feel secure and is looking for an alpha male, think pack animals Wolves, lions ect. If a girl talks to you and you are coy she might not conciously think of you as weak, but sub conciously her mind will be telling her if the shit goes down he is going to be the first person hiding, so she feels that you are not man enough. plus as she gets older and is like yeah the bad boy doesn't treat me well, and thinks she is stepping up she actually will then be attracted to men with money and that is because in the world of adults the one with more money has more power and the cycle continues itself.
Unfortunately many women usually have been damaged emotionally from the badboy of there youth and now carry baggage or worse end up with a multitude of children from there bad boy and have a lesser chance now of catching the man they really want
I remember I asked my Ex-why she liked thugs she said "they never walk away when shit go down"
Most guys in prison are there because they couldn't walk away from shit and now she is learning the hardaway like Tim and Anfernee
They are attracted to strength...not necessarily muscle, but spirit. Also, women like to utilize the beauty that they have been conditioned by society and nurture to compete for a "challenge" -not a guy who is easily caught. Why do you think women are prone to trying to take other women's men? It validates their beauty. On a different tact, some women like the jerks because they "know" deep down that they WILL NOT have a chance of a permanent relationship. (self-destructive tendency -or self-preservation/validation of low self-esteem by sabotage) Example: My ex-GF is terrified of being in another long term relation, so she is only into guys that are not candidates for LT relations. Also, women and men tend to copy the chaos that they observed in their childhood watching how their parents related. In Taiwan, many people still subscribe to not marrying a woman with divorced parents. It's considered "bad luck". (In reality, how would she know a normal lifestyle?) People tend to re-create what they saw as "normal" growing up.
To my understanding younger women are attracted to bad boys, older women are more attracted to either the nice guy or the rich guy. of course these are loose catagories. It is actually quite simple, it is basic human nature. Women like a person that exudes confidence ( doesn't have to be a bad boy) because inside each woman is a girl who needs to feel secure and is looking for an alpha male, think pack animals Wolves, lions ect. If a girl talks to you and you are coy she might not conciously think of you as weak, but sub conciously her mind will be telling her if the shit goes down he is going to be the first person hiding, so she feels that you are not man enough. plus as she gets older and is like yeah the bad boy doesn't treat me well, and thinks she is stepping up she actually will then be attracted to men with money and that is because in the world of adults the one with more money has more power and the cycle continues itself.
Unfortunately many women usually have been damaged emotionally from the badboy of there youth and now carry baggage or worse end up with a multitude of children from there bad boy and have a lesser chance now of catching the man they really want
I remember I asked my Ex-why she liked thugs she said "they never walk away when shit go down"
Most guys in prison are there because they couldn't walk away from shit and now she is learning the hardaway like Tim and Anfernee
They are attracted to strength...not necessarily muscle, but spirit. Also, women like to utilize the beauty that they have been conditioned by society and nurture to compete for a "challenge" -not a guy who is easily caught. Why do you think women are prone to trying to take other women's men? It validates their beauty. On a different tact, some women like the jerks because they "know" deep down that they WILL NOT have a chance of a permanent relationship. (self-destructive tendency -or self-preservation/validation of low self-esteem by sabotage) Example: My ex-GF is terrified of being in another long term relation, so she is only into guys that are not candidates for LT relations. Also, women and men tend to copy the chaos that they observed in their childhood watching how their parents related. In Taiwan, many people still subscribe to not marrying a woman with divorced parents. It's considered "bad luck". (In reality, how would she know a normal lifestyle?) People tend to re-create what they saw as "normal" growing up.
Woman at times can be walking oxymorons. There are a few reasons why woman tend to date the bad guy. Woman don’t judge a man the same way that they would judge another woman. She would view another female as a hoe, slut or trifling if she slept around with different men or a few people in the work place. Now this same woman would view a man who did the same things such as sleep around with different women and a few in the work place as being just a man. Women ignore the past history of men. This guy could approach her....her guard will be up initially but if he was persistent in showing HER attention she will let her guard down. Once feelings come about women will began to try and justify and rationalize why talking to them is different from all the rest of the women he has approached. Women tend to believe that they are not equal. Her rationalization would be one that says "Those other woman were not real woman and did not respect themselves and were to easy blah blah blah" She will convince herself that these other woman did not want true love, true romance, faithful God fearing man, financially stable and caring man with family values. Logic says that if he slept with 100 women do you truly believe all of these 100 women did not want something meaningful? She will convince herself of that being true.
The oxymoron is that women have good men in their lives. The anthem to everyone female when it comes to relationships is "I want my man to be my best friend" Women will shout to the sky that they want an honest, God Fearing, Family Oriented, Caring, intelligent, and financially stable guy. Once again the theme music cues and they sing "I want my man to be my best friend" When they find a man that has all of these wonderful qualities the man gets placed in the friend zone.
like you men are any better.
This is a serious subject especially if a woman wants a quality man
To my understanding younger women are attracted to bad boys, older women are more attracted to either the nice guy or the rich guy. of course these are loose catagories. It is actually quite simple, it is basic human nature. Women like a person that exudes confidence ( doesn't have to be a bad boy) because inside each woman is a girl who needs to feel secure and is looking for an alpha male, think pack animals Wolves, lions ect. If a girl talks to you and you are coy she might not conciously think of you as weak, but sub conciously her mind will be telling her if the shit goes down he is going to be the first person hiding, so she feels that you are not man enough. plus as she gets older and is like yeah the bad boy doesn't treat me well, and thinks she is stepping up she actually will then be attracted to men with money and that is because in the world of adults the one with more money has more power and the cycle continues itself.
Unfortunately many women usually have been damaged emotionally from the badboy of there youth and now carry baggage or worse end up with a multitude of children from there bad boy and have a lesser chance now of catching the man they really want
I remember I asked my Ex-why she liked thugs she said "they never walk away when shit go down"
Most guys in prison are there because they couldn't walk away from shit and now she is learning the hardaway like Tim and Anfernee
They are attracted to strength...not necessarily muscle, but spirit. Also, women like to utilize the beauty that they have been conditioned by society and nurture to compete for a "challenge" -not a guy who is easily caught. Why do you think women are prone to trying to take other women's men? It validates their beauty. On a different tact, some women like the jerks because they "know" deep down that they WILL NOT have a chance of a permanent relationship. (self-destructive tendency -or self-preservation/validation of low self-esteem by sabotage) Example: My ex-GF is terrified of being in another long term relation, so she is only into guys that are not candidates for LT relations. Also, women and men tend to copy the chaos that they observed in their childhood watching how their parents related. In Taiwan, many people still subscribe to not marrying a woman with divorced parents. It's considered "bad luck". (In reality, how would she know a normal lifestyle?) People tend to re-create what they saw as "normal" growing up.
this is real talk babes!
You men are NO better than some women, wanting a nice woman and when you "have" a nice woman you treat her like shit, please save me the melodramatic bullshit.
The difference is that we actually holla at the female.You men are NO better than some women, wanting a nice woman and when you "have" a nice woman you treat her like shit, please save me the melodramatic bullshit.
Woman at times can be walking oxymorons. There are a few reasons why woman tend to date the bad guy. Woman don’t judge a man the same way that they would judge another woman. She would view another female as a hoe, slut or trifling if she slept around with different men or a few people in the work place. Now this same woman would view a man who did the same things such as sleep around with different women and a few in the work place as being just a man. Women ignore the past history of men. This guy could approach her....her guard will be up initially but if he was persistent in showing HER attention she will let her guard down. Once feelings come about women will began to try and justify and rationalize why talking to them is different from all the rest of the women he has approached. Women tend to believe that they are not equal. Her rationalization would be one that says "Those other woman were not real woman and did not respect themselves and were to easy blah blah blah" She will convince herself that these other woman did not want true love, true romance, faithful God fearing man, financially stable and caring man with family values. Logic says that if he slept with 100 women do you truly believe all of these 100 women did not want something meaningful? She will convince herself of that being true.
The oxymoron is that women have good men in their lives. The anthem to everyone female when it comes to relationships is "I want my man to be my best friend" Women will shout to the sky that they want an honest, God Fearing, Family Oriented, Caring, intelligent, and financially stable guy. Once again the theme music cues and they sing "I want my man to be my best friend" When they find a man that has all of these wonderful qualities the man gets placed in the friend zone.
This is a serious subject especially if a woman wants a quality man
To my understanding younger women are attracted to bad boys, older women are more attracted to either the nice guy or the rich guy. of course these are loose catagories. It is actually quite simple, it is basic human nature. Women like a person that exudes confidence ( doesn't have to be a bad boy) because inside each woman is a girl who needs to feel secure and is looking for an alpha male, think pack animals Wolves, lions ect. If a girl talks to you and you are coy she might not conciously think of you as weak, but sub conciously her mind will be telling her if the shit goes down he is going to be the first person hiding, so she feels that you are not man enough. plus as she gets older and is like yeah the bad boy doesn't treat me well, and thinks she is stepping up she actually will then be attracted to men with money and that is because in the world of adults the one with more money has more power and the cycle continues itself.
Unfortunately many women usually have been damaged emotionally from the badboy of there youth and now carry baggage or worse end up with a multitude of children from there bad boy and have a lesser chance now of catching the man they really want
I remember I asked my Ex-why she liked thugs she said "they never walk away when shit go down"
Most guys in prison are there because they couldn't walk away from shit and now she is learning the hardaway like Tim and Anfernee
They are attracted to strength...not necessarily muscle, but spirit. Also, women like to utilize the beauty that they have been conditioned by society and nurture to compete for a "challenge" -not a guy who is easily caught. Why do you think women are prone to trying to take other women's men? It validates their beauty. On a different tact, some women like the jerks because they "know" deep down that they WILL NOT have a chance of a permanent relationship. (self-destructive tendency -or self-preservation/validation of low self-esteem by sabotage) Example: My ex-GF is terrified of being in another long term relation, so she is only into guys that are not candidates for LT relations. Also, women and men tend to copy the chaos that they observed in their childhood watching how their parents related. In Taiwan, many people still subscribe to not marrying a woman with divorced parents. It's considered "bad luck". (In reality, how would she know a normal lifestyle?) People tend to re-create what they saw as "normal" growing up.
The best responses thus far in this thread. Confidence helps in the long run, but that's really not what keeps women. Try being confident with a woman who is only interested your material worth, and not your intellectual, emotional or spiritual worth...all you'll be left with IS your confidence!
Bottom line, keep it movin' when you see shit approaching your way, even it is packaged nicely
the only thing i do not understand and it irks me in the worst way is why some women complain because they are not wanted after they made their mistakes. They've dated the wrong people, made poor judgements, were left holding the bag, try go get back out there and are finding themselves not wanted. Then the attitude comes of "no good men" because literally the good men do not want to be bothered by them and their baggage.
Theres something else I want to address with you ninjas...
we need to stop putting these females on a pedistal cupcaking and shit..if a woman get out of pocket give her the boot...
There are too many below average sisters that think they got it goin on..and they don't( by below average I dont just mean looks but just intelligence emotional stability ect...) ...Value yourself as a man..
I hate to sound too much like Tariq Nasheed but its true
You can turn down sex...its nothing wrong with it...
Dont chase it so much or so hard it'll be there fellas
bottom line men and woman have to hold eatch other to higher standanrds...
Do you know how many times I hear girls say shit like "He aint working now but its just so had out there"
This is my fav "Damn I love him but i just get tired of driving an hour to pick him up"
Oh how about "He beats me , damn he must really luv me"
You can be a nice guy and not finish last, just be stern and tactful with you ish
Nice guys may finish last but they usually finish better
Most of the self proclaimed bad boys I know end up as miserable old men
In an effort to try to not sound angry I just want to say yea it is shortage of black men so men we are at the advantage and really get to be pickier than our female counterparts..So we can basically call the shots..if women dont like it well they have three choices -they have either be single , be lesbians or date white men...
we need to stop putting these females on a pedistal cupcaking and shit..if a woman get out of pocket give her the boot...
There are too many below average sisters that think they got it goin on..and they don't( by below average I dont just mean looks but just intelligence emotional stability ect...) ...Value yourself as a man..
I hate to sound too much like Tariq Nasheed but its true
You can turn down sex...its nothing wrong with it...
Dont chase it so much or so hard it'll be there fellas
bottom line men and woman have to hold eatch other to higher standanrds...
Do you know how many times I hear girls say shit like "He aint working now but its just so had out there"
This is my fav "Damn I love him but i just get tired of driving an hour to pick him up"
Oh how about "He beats me , damn he must really luv me"
You can be a nice guy and not finish last, just be stern and tactful with you ish
Nice guys may finish last but they usually finish better
Most of the self proclaimed bad boys I know end up as miserable old men
In an effort to try to not sound angry I just want to say yea it is shortage of black men so men we are at the advantage and really get to be pickier than our female counterparts..So we can basically call the shots..if women dont like it well they have three choices -they have either be single , be lesbians or date white men...
co-sign...it's real tricky sometimes because some girls 18-21 do look for that bad dude or whateva, but in that age you can find some of them girls that are really mature and know what they want and just need a good man beside them...also what i've noticed w/ women older than the age group, if you are independent man, living in your own crib, paying your own bills,
you've pretty much paved the road for a good woman to scoop ya up....just a matter of time.... when i was 18, 19. i chased the nice bodies, bad attitudes, life of parties and all that.....and i used to always complain to my dad about how these girls were giving me hell....he sat me down and said, you giving yourself hell by looking for girls and not women...remember ya'll sometimes it's not the girls.....it's probably yourself....
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OMG!!! I would suck the skin off ur dick for this comment!
Applause Applause!!
Finally someone who understood what I meant! Looks ain't all, not that i'm ugly or am I miserable as some women are, but good women are out there just like good men.
Sometimes it's NOT the women, it's you MEN! You pick those women who don't have dry shit in their asses. Im not no doormat nor am I push over, but if I'm talking to man who's into making moves in terms of uplifting each other and better ourselves so we can live comfortably then heck YES i'll be down with the program ASAP, but the game playing some of you men are on is ridiculous, i can't stand it shit
Sometimes it's NOT the women, it's you MEN! You pick those women who don't have dry shit in their asses. Im not no doormat nor am I push over, but if I'm talking to man who's into making moves in terms of uplifting each other and better ourselves so we can live comfortably then heck YES i'll be down with the program ASAP, but the game playing some of you men are on is ridiculous, i can't stand it shit
not all of the time its us.
EXACTLY I have met so many women that were "In Love" with some knuckleheaded dude that treated them like shit
NOW they want some knight in shining armor to come in and make things better
ladies gotta make better choices - listen to their head not their G-Spot
I agree with everything expect your last paragraph dude
other than that you're on point IMO
I dont know if there is a shortage of black men or not, but thats all i hear women say 24/7..
I personally don't feel its a shortage..I do feel its hard to meet a good woman, just speaking from personal experience
I do feel its harder for good men and women to sustain a successful relationship
Due to the media -Oprah and all that other ish telling women they dont need a man, telling women to get a divorce for every little thing - like if he forget to take out the garbage..
But thats another issue in itself and I dont wanna open up that can of worms...
If there is some truth to there being a shortage of black men then logically its the women who suffer the most from it not the men
(That is if a woman wants a potential mate) There are those woman who choose to be alone and fine with it
Shit..If there was shortage of black women I'd be in the gym every day, working two jobs, and trying to finishing up my masters degree..trying to be the most eligible candidate for a potential mate
Women..if you want the best potential mate it you yourselves that have to make yourself the most desirable..its sad, I feel bad that its like that, but I am just speaking from logic
So if there is, infact, a shortage than why are these women playing games..It seems to me they would be happy to be with an available guy who has something positive going for themselves..even if he is nice
There's a double standard too:
If you are a single guy over thirty your considered a player "When you gonna settle down"
If you are single woman over thirty your considered a old maid(thats what i grandma used to call em) or career woman
"How come you can't catch a man"
OK ladies you can hate me for this one but its true I didnt make the rules
I personally don't feel its a shortage..I do feel its hard to meet a good woman, just speaking from personal experience
I do feel its harder for good men and women to sustain a successful relationship
Due to the media -Oprah and all that other ish telling women they dont need a man, telling women to get a divorce for every little thing - like if he forget to take out the garbage..
But thats another issue in itself and I dont wanna open up that can of worms...
If there is some truth to there being a shortage of black men then logically its the women who suffer the most from it not the men
(That is if a woman wants a potential mate) There are those woman who choose to be alone and fine with it
Shit..If there was shortage of black women I'd be in the gym every day, working two jobs, and trying to finishing up my masters degree..trying to be the most eligible candidate for a potential mate
Women..if you want the best potential mate it you yourselves that have to make yourself the most desirable..its sad, I feel bad that its like that, but I am just speaking from logic
So if there is, infact, a shortage than why are these women playing games..It seems to me they would be happy to be with an available guy who has something positive going for themselves..even if he is nice
There's a double standard too:
If you are a single guy over thirty your considered a player "When you gonna settle down"
If you are single woman over thirty your considered a old maid(thats what i grandma used to call em) or career woman
"How come you can't catch a man"
OK ladies you can hate me for this one but its true I didnt make the rules
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