Where did you receive your education?

[AristotlesOwn]

It doesn't matter if it's college or higher, the streets, technical school, whatever. Just curious.

Also, are the men you deal with intimidated by your intelligence? Do you feel you have to hide what you know just to keep a man happy? If a man has a similar profession to you, and you know more about the subject than he does, how do you handle that? Do you ego boost or deflate? Just curious

I'm more curious about the ladies, but fellas if you want to boast, do your thing.

 

[Chicutie]

I am currently in pharmacy school and I also work as an intern in a pharmacy. I think all the men that I meet are intimidated that one day I will be making way more than they will. (For those who don't know pharmacist make about $100,000 a year on average). Honestly, it won't bother me if a man makes less.

I don't think I would be able to be with someone in the same profession. At the end of the day I wanna forget about pharmacy and focus on my other interests.

 

[HoneyBerry]

I think I am of average intelligence, but I work really hard for mine (finished grad school). Most men think I'm dumb when they first meet me, but then they react in 2 ways to my education: Either they see me as a big challenge that they want to conquer or they get intimidated/assume I'm an ice princess and I never hear from them again. It's sad really

 

[Chicutie]

Either they see me as a big challenge that they want to conquer or they get intimidated/assume I'm an ice princess and I never hear from them again. It's sad really

Me too! Girl, what is up with that?

 

[Cleopatra_J]

B.A in Journalism & Media Studies from Rutgers University...

Plan on going back to pursue their M.F.A in Creative Writing. Hopefully, I'll be applying next year.

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

Im 4 months away from my Bachelors in Accounting.I will be taking my CPA exam afterwards. I have met some men who have been intimidated,because I make good money now. But I dont feel the need to hide what I know.And I never make a man feel like I am better than him.I dont have a ego at all

 

[HoneyBerry]

Me too! Girl, what is up with that?

Girl I don't know. But I'm happy about it because that's a man who's gonna act up later down the road. So I'd rather take my loss EARLY. I prefer guys who do them, and just like me for who I am. No assupmtions

 

[bigirl]

SOHN and self educated for me. I say this because that is what taught me the most. I attended both public and private school both here and in the West Indies as well as various universities. I found the school system to be the biggest bunch of bullshit I ever saw. I ended up getting my GED as soon as I was allowed and going out on my own and starting college early. It was on my own dime and I did not feel it was worth the amount of $ along with the fact that I couldn't find a university where I could study what I wanted to study. After a few rounds of trying and getting my money back on the last refund day I decided to invest that in supplies for my craft along with alot of books on what I wanted to study. Best decision I ever made.

No I am not a dummy and yes I learned a long time ago that "playing dumb" or at least letting the man feel "smarter" or like he knows more just seems to work out better for everyone. However, if I feel disrespected at any point in public or in private he will then find out exactly who and what he is dealing with.

 

[Chicutie]

Girl I don't know. But I'm happy about it because that's a man who's gonna act up later down the road. So I'd rather take my loss EARLY. I prefer guys who do them, and just like me for who I am. No assupmtions

Yea I learned this. . . the hard way. But hey you live, you learn.

 

[SinaminDelite]

I'm a semester/semester and a half away from graduating with a BS in Biology and a BS in Psychology. My plans are to either go to med school or do the NYC Teaching Fellow program to work on my MS in Biology. Most people I'm interested in get a glazed look on their face when I tell them what I want to do. But when I say med school, they think doctor, and dollar signs flash in their eyes. Talking about "yeah, you'll be my sugar momma" and whatnot. I leave those people where they are. And some watch what they say around me, with the claim that they don't want me to end up psychoanalyzing their words. A few may have been intimidated, but they play it off. I could care less as well, because I'm not going to dumb myself down on something I've worked HARD to accomplish. On the other hand, I don't walk around talking about "sexual dimorphism" and "RNA transcriptase" on a daily basis, so go figure.

 

[kjxxxx]

I am currently in pharmacy school and I also work as an intern in a pharmacy. I think all the men that I meet are intimidated that one day I will be making way more than they will. (For those who don't know pharmacist make about $100,000 a year on average). Honestly, it won't bother me if a man makes less.

I don't think I would be able to be with someone in the same profession. At the end of the day I wanna forget about pharmacy and focus on my other interests.

From a brother perspective. I am not intimidated by any womans intelligence. I don't think any is smarter than me. Ok there were 2 in my Abstract Algibra class that got better grades than me while I failed the class. But I blame that on the fact that my junior year and senior I was more interested in screwing my girl and other girls after we broke up than going to class and opening the buck when I am not in class.

My girlfriend now makes more than I do because I am currently not working and stay home with my son and day trade (have lost a lot of money but love it still. I make money in her account but take risk in mine).

Before I got laid off I made more than her. Oh yeah she knows I am smarter than her also. I do give her much respect because she is truly a hard worker. I got no envy or jealousy for her because I know how hard she works for hers.

I don't know what kind of guys you women deal with but if you are in a serious committed relationship with kids and heading in down the marriage path then you making more money isn't an issue and is seen as a welcoming bonus.
Basically if you and your partner have common dreams and goals. Then that income is something that is taking you both closer to the goals and dreams whether you have them in separate accounts or not.

I think a lot of times you women make it an issue more than it is. Here is an example: You make more money so you have a bigger dream, expectation and also look at making bigger purchases. You also expect the guy with his smaller income to think in the same lines as you. You move in together and chances are he moves into a house/apartment that you picked and its more than what he used to pay at his apartment and you expect him to still pay equally on everything but you forget that you have taken him out of his league. Then you try to make him feal inferior because you keep calling it your place and talk about your achievement and what you do that is awesome and what he does that is pitiful.

You also insist on changing the guy and start thinking he is not ambitious because he may not want to go to school and further his education or he is not moving at that speed that you like. A friend of mine was going to college for like 8 years and was doing accounting but didn't have a degree and only made 40k per year and his wife was making 100k and she would make him feel inferior. She would talk about her friends that make tons of money and the fact that she makes way more than him. To make a long story short. She lost her job. Couldn't find back another one quickly, so she was dependent on him. She got another one and she was making more than him again. She was happy again. She filed for divorce. He finally got his degree and got a job as a comptroller and that payed way more money than her job and he still was doing the books for the old company so he doing ok.

Be careful that its not you that is having a superiority complex. Please remember to stay humble

 

[femmenoire]

Some college, some parenting, some self-education, some SOHN.

 

[MTL]

D.E.C.(professional) in Special Education Vanier College

B.A. in Special Education from Concordia University

want to go back next September

 

[MTL]

I'm a semester/semester and a half away from graduating with a BS in Biology and a BS in Psychology. My plans are to either go to med school or do the NYC Teaching Fellow program to work on my MS in Biology. Most people I'm interested in get a glazed look on their face when I tell them what I want to do. But when I say med school, they think doctor, and dollar signs flash in their eyes. Talking about "yeah, you'll be my sugar momma" and whatnot. I leave those people where they are. And some watch what they say around me, with the claim that they don't want me to end up psychoanalyzing their words. A few may have been intimidated, but they play it off. I could care less as well, because I'm not going to dumb myself down on something I've worked HARD to accomplish. On the other hand, I don't walk around talking about "sexual dimorphism" and "RNA transcriptase" on a daily basis, so go figure.

Great! keep it up

 

[Izayoi]

I have 4 degrees (1 PHD), and 2 professional certificates

I laugh because for me it was never about racking up degrees or status. I just love to learn. I love to read and I've been blessed to be presented with the opportunity to study different subjects at different places. If someone was going to pay me to read, I never passed up the chance. I'm not even 35 and I plan on going back to school 1 more time because learning and teaching are my joys.

The smartest man I ever met was my father and he never graduated high school so no it does not matter to me.

Is it intimidating for some men---- yes. They are cool until they hear somebody call me "Dr." then I get the . It's frustrating but whatever. Unless its a professional situation, I never introduce myself as Dr XYZ. That smacks of arrogance and uppityness to me. I don't ask students to call me Dr. either. That's some classist bullshit imo.

I learned the most from having my own business- that really taught me about uncertainty, money, responsibility, faith, and knowing that when it is all said and done only a handful of people are going to love and support you no matter what.

One more thing: School does not make people smart. Lot of simple people with degrees. I love to be with a man that knows a lot about stuff that I have no clue about. It can be cars, art, plumbing, carpentry, I don't care just be good at something and shine with what you love.

 

[OnSlaught]

I'm a semester/semester and a half away from graduating with a BS in Biology and a BS in Psychology. My plans are to either go to med school or do the NYC Teaching Fellow program to work on my MS in Biology. Most people I'm interested in get a glazed look on their face when I tell them what I want to do. But when I say med school, they think doctor, and dollar signs flash in their eyes. Talking about "yeah, you'll be my sugar momma" and whatnot. I leave those people where they are. And some watch what they say around me, with the claim that they don't want me to end up psychoanalyzing their words. A few may have been intimidated, but they play it off. I could care less as well, because I'm not going to dumb myself down on something I've worked HARD to accomplish. On the other hand, I don't walk around talking about "sexual dimorphism" and "RNA transcriptase" on a daily basis, so go figure.

What you know about recombinant DNA and RNA transcription from a DNA template?? LOL Hey, do you and don't worry about anyone else! I'll just tell you this, if you want to go to grad school and contiue further in bio, it's a lot more respected to go for your PhD than a MS. Don't ask me why, but the scientific community just looks at it that way. I'm in my 1st yr of grad school, it's all paid for and I get a stipend of $23,000 a yr for a free education. Not bad right? I'm just tryin' to get this out the way so I can start makin' big money later in this field. Right now I'm also gettin' a real estate license within the next month, but that's beside the point.

Main point, fuck the haters, do your thing in science baby! Take care...

 

[OnSlaught]

I have 4 degrees (1 PHD), and 2 professional certificates

I laugh because for me it was never about racking up degrees or status. I just love to learn. I love to read and I've been blessed to be presented with the opportunity to study different subjects at different places. If someone was going to pay me to read, I never passed up the chance. I'm not even 35 and I plan on going back to school 1 more time because learning and teaching are my joys.

The smartest man I ever met was my father and he never graduated high school so no it does not matter to me.

Is it intimidating for some men---- yes. They are cool until they hear somebody call me "Dr." then I get the . It's frustrating but whatever. Unless its a professional situation, I never introduce myself as Dr XYZ. That smacks of arrogance and uppityness to me. I don't ask students to call me Dr. either. That's some classist bullshit imo.

I learned the most from having my own business- that really taught me about uncertainty, money, responsibility, faith, and knowing that when it is all said and done only a handful of people are going to love and support you no matter what.

One more thing: School does not make people smart. Lot of simple people with degrees. I love to be with a man that knows a lot about stuff that I have no clue about. It can be cars, art, plumbing, carpentry, I don't care just be good at something and shine with what you love.

WOW, I'll hit you up later on this...that is so true

 

[Cleopatra_J]

One more thing: School does not make people smart. Lot of simple people with degrees. I love to be with a man that knows a lot about stuff that I have no clue about. It can be cars, art, plumbing, carpentry, I don't care just be good at something and shine with what you love.

OMG! that is the truest ish ever spoke! Some people have "book sense" but no GD "common sense!!!!!" But yet you can meet some well rounded people who never stepped foot on a college campus and yet they will blow your mind away on something...

 

[THEBLACKWALLSTREET.COM]

i received my education on the corner of central and alondra in compton cali. the school of hard knocks

 

[Mirrorskillz]

Two semesters from a B.S. in Journalism & a B.A. in Middle Eastern Studies. Currently have minors in African Studies and Arabic language and Literature. Applying to law school next semester with the hopes of later working for the United Nations or some international human rights organization. Most of the men I date joke that I'm such a nerd and when I act shy about my intelligence, they assure me they love that I am so book smart and well-rounded. Never really had to hide my intelligence, but I do try to not come off as a know it all.

 

[dwayne1376]

Electronics and computer technology degree from North Carolina A&T State UNiversity, c/o 2000. Currently a senior engineer at Comcast cable in here in Denver..

 

[Adam Knows]

Im 4 months away from my Bachelors in Accounting.I will be taking my CPA exam afterwards. I have met some men who have been intimidated,because I make good money now. But I dont feel the need to hide what I know.And I never make a man feel like I am better than him.I dont have a ego at all

gotta job for you when your done if you want to to private practice.

 

[Adam Knows]

I have 4 degrees (1 PHD), and 2 professional certificates


Is it intimidating for some men---- yes. They are cool until they hear somebody call me "Dr." then I get the . It's frustrating but whatever. Unless its a professional situation, I never introduce myself as Dr XYZ. That smacks of arrogance and uppityness to me. I don't ask students to call me Dr. either. That's some classist bullshit imo.

never understood that fully. if anything that(being intelligent) means we have something to talk about.

 

[IntelligentDyme]

B.A. in Psychology with a minor in Biology and Sociology, currently pursuing a Ph.D in clinical neuropsychology... and Yes some men (and women) are thrown off by the pursuit of education....but as I told a friend of mine, all you you have to do in undergrad is maintain a C average in your major coursework to obtain a degree---that doesnt make you smart, that makes you average....the most intelligent man is one who pursues knowledge on his own accord...all i know from school is what someone else told me....but what ive learned in life is what i've figured out on my own....a person's educational level doesn't matter to me, what a man does has nothing to do with how he will treat you....and some of the biggest idiots i know have degrees.

 

[mc2]

Im 4 months away from my Bachelors in Accounting.I will be taking my CPA exam afterwards. I have met some men who have been intimidated,because I make good money now. But I dont feel the need to hide what I know.And I never make a man feel like I am better than him.I dont have a ego at all

Its good to see black women are going to school and getting degrees. Dont be afraid to hide your intelect and money, as it took you 4+ years of late nights, long hours in the library, and hundreds of written reports to get it.

Do the damn thing black women..

 

[gonzo8402]

B.A in Journalism & Media Studies from Rutgers University...

Plan on going back to pursue their M.F.A in Creative Writing. Hopefully, I'll be applying next year.

what are you doing with it? Are you working in the field?

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

gotta job for you when your done if you want to to private practice.

Private practic is my goal.And Don thanks sweetie.I will keep in contact with you

 

[AristotlesOwn]

B.A. in Psychology with a minor in Biology and Sociology, currently pursuing a Ph.D in clinical neuropsychology... and Yes some men (and women) are thrown off by the pursuit of education....but as I told a friend of mine, all you you have to do in undergrad is maintain a C average in your major coursework to obtain a degree---that doesnt make you smart, that makes you average....the most intelligent man is one who pursues knowledge on his own accord...all i know from school is what someone else told me....but what ive learned in life is what i've figured out on my own....a person's educational level doesn't matter to me, what a man does has nothing to do with how he will treat you....and some of the biggest idiots i know have degrees.

This is pretty profound IntelligentDyme. We have a president who clearly affirms the former part of that marked statement. As far as the latter piece, I'm always impressed with those who are self taught; it takes an insane amount of discipline that not everyone possess.

Izayoi, wow! That's all I can say. It's like where do you go from that point?

Sin, don't let ignorant ni**as get to you; seriously. I was a Psych major too, and women give me the same line about analyzing them.

HoneyBerry, give yourself more credit, intellect is relative and intangible, hard work and discipline are what count for everything in life...unless you're white.

Chicutie, I know exactly how hard Pharmacists in training work (I've seen the books ) you'll deserve every nickel you get. I need some Wellbutrin by the way.

Cleopatra_J You looking to be the next Terry McMillan or J.K. Rowling? I like a good novel

MTL, it takes a lot of patience and understanding to work with special ed. kids. That in itself is impressive.

Sexy_Scorp, Can you do my taxes while I feed at the Y

I have an additional observation and question. I notice that when some of us black men reach a certain level of education we seem to start ignoring sistas and going after white devils or other races for relationships. I know at least 2 sistas (lawyer, med school student) who have been dumped by brothas for women of other races. What are your thoughts on this?

 

[bigirl]

why do people make such a big deal over a piece of fucking paper?

 

[Chicutie]

From a brother perspective. I am not intimidated by any womans intelligence. I don't think any is smarter than me. Ok there were 2 in my Abstract Algibra class that got better grades than me while I failed the class. But I blame that on the fact that my junior year and senior I was more interested in screwing my girl and other girls after we broke up than going to class and opening the buck when I am not in class.

My girlfriend now makes more than I do because I am currently not working and stay home with my son and day trade (have lost a lot of money but love it still. I make money in her account but take risk in mine).

Before I got laid off I made more than her. Oh yeah she knows I am smarter than her also. I do give her much respect because she is truly a hard worker. I got no envy or jealousy for her because I know how hard she works for hers.

I don't know what kind of guys you women deal with but if you are in a serious committed relationship with kids and heading in down the marriage path then you making more money isn't an issue and is seen as a welcoming bonus.
Basically if you and your partner have common dreams and goals. Then that income is something that is taking you both closer to the goals and dreams whether you have them in separate accounts or not.

I think a lot of times you women make it an issue more than it is. Here is an example: You make more money so you have a bigger dream, expectation and also look at making bigger purchases. You also expect the guy with his smaller income to think in the same lines as you. You move in together and chances are he moves into a house/apartment that you picked and its more than what he used to pay at his apartment and you expect him to still pay equally on everything but you forget that you have taken him out of his league. Then you try to make him feal inferior because you keep calling it your place and talk about your achievement and what you do that is awesome and what he does that is pitiful.

You also insist on changing the guy and start thinking he is not ambitious because he may not want to go to school and further his education or he is not moving at that speed that you like. A friend of mine was going to college for like 8 years and was doing accounting but didn't have a degree and only made 40k per year and his wife was making 100k and she would make him feel inferior. She would talk about her friends that make tons of money and the fact that she makes way more than him. To make a long story short. She lost her job. Couldn't find back another one quickly, so she was dependent on him. She got another one and she was making more than him again. She was happy again. She filed for divorce. He finally got his degree and got a job as a comptroller and that payed way more money than her job and he still was doing the books for the old company so he doing ok.

Be careful that its not you that is having a superiority complex. Please remember to stay humble

A lot of what you said was true. But it's like a lot of men make you feel like you can't be proud of your accomplishments. And that's a problem. Then not just men. . women also have all these preconceived notions because you tell them you have a degree. With me. . I'm intelligent. But I'm a real person. You wouldn't know I had a degree unless I told you.

Chicutie, I know exactly how hard Pharmacists in training work (I've seen the books ) you'll deserve every nickel you get. I need some Wellbutrin by the way.

@ Wellbutrin! You crazy! And thanks

 

[JofromthaNO]

why do people make such a big deal over a piece of fucking paper?

I was going to stay out of this conversation, but I gotta weigh in after this comment...I know this comment may not be your personal opinion, but it may be the opinion of others...

Bigirl, it's not the "piece of fucking paper" or level of education that I believe matters to most parties when it comes to finding a mate. What matters is that many associate an advanced degree with higher intellect. Whereas MOST people understand that is not the case, it does speak to the drive and ambition of a person if they have worked for so long, so hard to attain a degree (or two or three!) in their field. That being said, just because a person doesn't have a "piece of paper" doesn't mean that they don't have ambition. Everyone doesn't need it, but, in this day and age, it can make a huge contribution to how much your yearly income will be.

The guy that I currently date finished high school, period; on the other hand, I'm a psychologist, which took years of training after my undergrad degree. However, he has personally taught me so much about life and about the daily hustle and bustle of things that graduate school could NEVER teach me. And for that, I consider him to be one of the smartest people I know...

 

[IntelligentDyme]

I was going to stay out of this conversation, but I gotta weigh in after this comment...I know this comment may not be your personal opinion, but it may be the opinion of others...

Bigirl, it's not the "piece of fucking paper" or level of education that I believe matters to most parties when it comes to finding a mate. What matters is that many associate an advanced degree with higher intellect. Whereas MOST people understand that is not the case, it does speak to the drive and ambition of a person if they have worked for so long, so hard to attain a degree (or two or three!) in their field. That being said, just because a person doesn't have a "piece of paper" doesn't mean that they don't have ambition. Everyone doesn't need it, but, in this day and age, it can make a huge contribution to how much your yearly income will be.

The guy that I currently date finished high school, period; on the other hand, I'm a psychologist, which took years of training after my undergrad degree. However, he has personally taught me so much about life and about the daily hustle and bustle of things that graduate school could NEVER teach me. And for that, I consider him to be one of the smartest people I know...

Just curious Jo, what type of psychologist are you? Im preparing for grad school in clinical psychology and was wondering how it is for women of color (I'm assuming you're a woman of color) and what is the job market like? Alot of questions I know, but I haven't ran into many women of color who are pursuing it. Thanks feel free to pm i know it may be a long answer

 

[Izayoi]

never understood that fully. if anything that(being intelligent) means we have something to talk about.

It's just misconceptions and stereotypes I think. I'm not looking for or impressed by degrees because obtaining them is primarily a function of persistence not necessarily intelligence, but I think some men feel unless they have the same I won't want to rap with them. I'm more impressed these days with a man that still knows how to change a tire or hang a shelf. Metro-sexualism is making brothas soft!

Izayoi, wow! That's all I can say. It's like where do you go from that point?

I asked myself that everyday for about a year. Luckily I'm flighty and there's always something new around the corner I might want to try. The good thing- and I think this is more a product of going through the process of being broke, having little support from your "friends" and constantly having to defend your position, intellect, and self esteem under brutal, daily criticism from snobby devils,is that I don't have anything to prove to myself or anybody. I'm done with that.

What are your thoughts on this?

I think SOME of those people are just expressing their self-esteem issues. The idea that no matter what titles you have, you'll still be a nigga without some white acceptance. I try not to generalize though, because I have dated "other" and it wasn't to diss black men. I have always and still do prefer black men, but I'm not going to sit home lonely waiting for one either.

I
The guy that I currently date finished high school, period; on the other hand, I'm a psychologist, which took years of training after my undergrad degree. However, he has personally taught me so much about life and about the daily hustle and bustle of things that graduate school could NEVER teach me. And for that, I consider him to be one of the smartest people I know...

That's beautiful Jo.

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

Sexy_Scorp, Can you do my taxes while I feed at the Y [/B]

Oh hell yea

 

[demere]

I went to USC (Go Trojans!!!) from 1998-2002. School of Engineering.