When You're in a RELATIONSHIP with Your WOMAN, Is it BETTER for Her to...

[BobbySteelz]

Have More Female or Male "Friends" that she knows more of or associates with ?
Please think about this one VERY CAREFULLY, because I know most of ya'll brothas out there can relate to this situation close to home. However, from your personal experiences in relationships(Past or Present) which situation would be better (Female or Guy Friends) ?

 

[Mentor B]

Nah, it's not better to have [male friends]...but if she does, make sure to keep your cell phone full of female friends as well. And if she doesn't, still make sure to keep your cell phone full of female friends as well.

female/male friends = pussy/dick on lay away

 

[SWATLANTA]

When a girl say "I only have male friends" or "I have more male friends than female friends" a red flags go up in my head. Most girls that I have encountered that only hang around males are usually freaks. The "male friends" that they are around have already hit or they're playing the waiting game.

 

[AgentCreed]

As someone's girl's male friend i can tell u convincingly she has more males than females around so she can get dicked down when u go out of town and she is horny and she can have plausible deniablity such as "did u fuck him? ...what no he's like a brother to me i don't find him attractive at all" soon as u gone for a week she gettin dug out.

Also some keep men around waiting for him to step his game up and go beyond your level b/c she can talk to him about more stuff than with you so she will eventually leave u for him.

but the truth is most women keep extra men as friends just as backups.

 

[alexw]

man when I was out there.....Women would introduce me to their man as their brother, cousin, and younger uncle and shit......

a womans game is 10x that of any man

if she wants to cheat, she will

regardless if her friends are male or female....

peace

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Women only keep male freinds when they are indecisive about who they want to be with...Period. If she want to be with you she will be with YOU. I wouldn't tell her to shake her male freinds though. I'd wait it out a little and see if she starts to shake the other dudes a little. Then you know you got her. Otherwise...you might be getting played.

Now a woman with a lot of female freinds is trouble too. Because female freinds can quickly become HATERS. Most men try to buddy up to the female freinds to try and keep their woman happy (or to get a lead on some new ass ), but I say don't do it if you are feeling her. I would let her know (on the female perspective) that her freinds are her freinds and you don't want to interfere with that. Stay low. Trust me.

Now if you don't give a damn anyway let her keep all the males she wants and slang game to all her female freinds and it will be a good ole Ho-for-all for erybody.

 

[checkcashing]

too much of either one is no good.....everything in moderation

 

[bigirl]

Thats interesting. I have more male friends than women friends for no reason other than there are alot more men that share common interests with me than women. You know like record hunting, beat making, etc. Even science and philosophy and other intelligent discussion. Most women like to get together to go shopping or get hair and nails done. Most of the conversation seems to revolve around clothing, celebrities, gossip and men. I have virually no patience or tolerance for any of this. Yeah you guys are right;most women don't know how to ever shut the fuck up. Me and my boys have the nice quiet moments during the course of whatever we doing. I find I end up drinking alot and getting headaches when I hang out with women. Also a group of women is much worse than one on one. The negative traits multiply exponentially. Now as for male friends and sex, I do not fuck any of my male friends nor do I wish to. First of all, good frindships are far too valuable to potentially fuck up by having sex. Second, perhaps in certain cases there might have been some attraction in the beginning, but once you don't go that way and go the friend way and it goes a long time, theres really no turning back. How the fuck my boys gonna fuck me when they be telling me all their woman shit? I am friends with some of my exes(the ones that didn't do wicked things) but sex is not a factor in that equation anywhere. Exes can make the best friends sometimes because you kn ow each other so well and have trust. Now this is not to say that I don't meet alot of nice men thru my boys which is perfect cause I got a built in reference check/history. Anyway it had happened to me a long time ago I lost a really good male friend because we fucked and it wan't even good and then shit was never the same again. i woun't make that mistake again.

 

[bigirl]

^^^ eh that's one take

well I will admit I am rather unique. From the stuff I hear alot of other women talking, you are probably right in most cases. Sad but true. Me though, if some man tried to tell me to stop hanging out with my boys just because he is fucking me then he wouldn't be fucking me for very much longer unless he got over it. Men come and go, you friends are always there.

 

[SWATLANTA]

Now as for male friends and sex, I do not fuck any of my male friends nor do I wish to. First of all, good frindships are far too valuable to potentially fuck up by having sex. Second, perhaps in certain cases there might have been some attraction in the beginning, but once you don't go that way and go the friend way and it goes a long time, theres really no turning back.

Men don't think that way. If I would of fucked you before, I would still fuck you (waiting game)

How the fuck my boys gonna fuck me when they be telling me all their woman shit ?

That shit gets you more pussy then anything else, playing your emotional support into a chance to hit always works.

 

[XXXplosive]

NO FRIENDS........nah j/k, lol

I'd rather her have more male friends if I had to choose

Female friends will undoubtedly try to throw salt in your relationship and convince her to do some shady shit or convince her that you're no good and a cheater

Male friends are nothing more than just guys that want to fuck her but if she's got her head on right she'll know that and keep them at a little distance all the time
At least most guys (excluding the bitch made niggas) won't try to shit on her relationship with you like a lot of females try to do
Also if you're secure with yourself, male friends won't make you jealous or insecure

 

[Andeyhollawho]

well I will admit I am rather unique. From the stuff I hear alot of other women talking, you are probably right in most cases. Sad but true. Me though, if some man tried to tell me to stop hanging out with my boys just because he is fucking me then he wouldn't be fucking me for very much longer unless he got over it. Men come and go, you friends are always there.

You might be dating the wrong men then. No bad blood intended. I'm just saying if this is your MAN. Hitting it off. Chilling. Let's say that one of your guy friends decide that they are not getting the attention they are used to. You gonna cut him off like that if your man is feeling static? Would you cut him off even before your man found out?

Aight one more would type question. Would you be able to tell if your guy freinds were just waiting in the wings for you to catch feelings for them and give them that shot and how would you handle it? I guess that is my big question.

No disrespect once again. Just wanted a woman's opinion.

 

[a_real_caveman]

For The last couple of years i have chosen only to be "the other man" (pretty shitty, i know, but i saves money and emotions) I would never trust my woman to have male friends unless their EXTREMELY GAY...Just how i am

 

[Andeyhollawho]

At least most guys (excluding the bitch made niggas) won't try to shit on her relationship with you like a lot of females try to do
Also if you're secure with yourself, male friends won't make you jealous or insecure

You not serious are you? If I don't know you and I am feeling a female and she tell me she dating somebody, but she kicking it with me...What you think gonna happen? Not even on no shady type of stuff. I am talking male freind. If she having problems with you and I don't know you. I want her. She come to me and say I'm leaving him tonight and I want to be with me. What you think? I'm gonna vouch for you? Hell to the...

 

[bigirl]

You might be dating the wrong men then. No bad blood intended. I'm just saying if this is your MAN. Hitting it off. Chilling. Let's say that one of your guy friends decide that they are not getting the attention they are used to. You gonna cut him off like that if your man is feeling static? Would you cut him off even before your man found out?

Aight one more would type question. Would you be able to tell if your guy freinds were just waiting in the wings for you to catch feelings for them and give them that shot and how would you handle it? I guess that is my big question.

No disrespect once again. Just wanted a woman's opinion.

No I would not cut any of my friends off for a man. I don't know if I could tell or not but alot of my friends have been my friends for a long time like 10-20 years so I imagine they would have said or done something by now. You know?

 

[Damn Right]

the male friends in your woman's life are either A or B:

(A) dudes who she fuked either recently or distant past and they stayed in contact cause he was 'nice' or 'cool'. (strange how he was so nice and cool yet they never got into a relationship.....hint, he was a sex buddy who treated her cool)

(B) a dude who she hasn't fuked but not entirely opposed to the idea, and he's just waiting around for that one phone call late night when she just needs to 'talk' cause yo azz has gotten into another argument with her and she just needs a 'shoulder'. (funny how that shoulder is so closely attached to his dick)

u can't tell your woman what to do, despite what some dudes will say. can't force her to do anything. so with that in mind, just watch and see what she does on her own. if she's serious about you then almost all of her male friends will go the way of the cross colour jacket. but if she's still on that 'i'ma get mine' bullsheit then she'll keep um. (notice i didn't mention gay friends or males she went to elementary school with)

 

[bigirl]

Men don't think that way. If I would of fucked you before, I would still fuck you (waiting game)

yeah but who says I would fuck you? it takes 2 to fuck you know.

That shit gets you more pussy then anything else, playing your emotional support into a chance to hit always works.

actually when I think they would have tried to hit it if they were going to would have been during my various breakups and the aftermath when I was an emotional disaster. They didn't though.

 

[Andeyhollawho]

No I would not cut any of my friends off for a man. I don't know if I could tell or not but alot of my friends have been my friends for a long time like 10-20 years so I imagine they would have said or done something by now. You know?

Feel that. So I guess my next question if you feel like still answering me is would you invite your boyfreind to kick it with your male freinds? Or is that just too close for comfort. I mean they are your fam so...

 

[bigirl]

Feel that. So I guess my next question if you feel like still answering me is would you invite your boyfreind to kick it with your male freinds? Or is that just too close for comfort. I mean they are your fam so...

Oh ABSOLUTELY!!! I am a very tribal sort, all my peeps are. I am also very suspicious of a man who doesn't introduce me to any of his friends. Thats a red flag for me. Also if my boys don't like him then I gotta look into that. My boys have already hipped me to players and other bad sorts that I just didn't see it. They do because they are men.

 

[SWATLANTA]

yeah but who says I would fuck you? it takes 2 to fuck you know.

They don't know you aren't willing to fuck 'em, that is why it's the waiting game. They may fuck other chicks, have relationships etc., but a lot of brothers are more patient then women give them credit for.

actually when I think they would have tried to hit it if they were going to would have been during my various breakups and the aftermath when I was an emotional disaster. They didn't though.

Women always think me first. That is when we play the supportive friend role (sewing the seed). All a brother would have to say to a female after they have spilled their guts to you about how difficult their relationships have been with other girls is, "I wish I could find somebody that I get along with as well as you." Sprinkle a little more game on top of that and you'll both be regretting that shit in the morning. I'm speaking from experience.

 

[bigirl]

Women always think me first. That is when we play the supportive friend role (sewing the seed). All a brother would have to say to a female after they have spilled their guts to you about how difficult their relationships have been with other girls is, "I wish I could find somebody that I get along with as well as you." Sprinkle a little more game on top of that and you'll both be regretting that shit in the morning. I'm speaking from experience.

Wow. Women must be really dumb for true. That shit would never work with me.

 

[SWATLANTA]

Wow. Women must be really dumb for true. That shit would never work with me.

Not necessarily dumb, you all just think with your hearts. You know you care for the person already and for some reason most women hate to see their friends hurt and will do just about anything to ease the pain. A horny man knows this and will use this to his advantage. You add in alcohol to alter judgment and it gets real after that.

 

[every blue moon]

When in a HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP with a woman, it is best that she has female friends who are ALSO in HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS themselves.

All truths are but half truths, but this comes the closest to being an absolute truth, in a world of illusion.

-fin

 

[oatsuzn]

Thats interesting. I have more male friends than women friends for no reason other than there are alot more men that share common interests with me than women. You know like record hunting, beat making, etc. Even science and philosophy and other intelligent discussion. Most women like to get together to go shopping or get hair and nails done. Most of the conversation seems to revolve around clothing, celebrities, gossip and men. I have virually no patience or tolerance for any of this. Yeah you guys are right;most women don't know how to ever shut the fuck up. Me and my boys have the nice quiet moments during the course of whatever we doing. I find I end up drinking alot and getting headaches when I hang out with women. Also a group of women is much worse than one on one. The negative traits multiply exponentially. Now as for male friends and sex, I do not fuck any of my male friends nor do I wish to. First of all, good frindships are far too valuable to potentially fuck up by having sex. Second, perhaps in certain cases there might have been some attraction in the beginning, but once you don't go that way and go the friend way and it goes a long time, theres really no turning back. How the fuck my boys gonna fuck me when they be telling me all their woman shit? I am friends with some of my exes(the ones that didn't do wicked things) but sex is not a factor in that equation anywhere. Exes can make the best friends sometimes because you kn ow each other so well and have trust. Now this is not to say that I don't meet alot of nice men thru my boys which is perfect cause I got a built in reference check/history. Anyway it had happened to me a long time ago I lost a really good male friend because we fucked and it wan't even good and then shit was never the same again. i woun't make that mistake again.

What many women dont understand is that you may feel that way, but the male plutonic friends may feel totally different inside. They may secretly want to fuck you and just don't know how to do it. I find that girls that claim they are so friendly with their ex's end up getting back with them somewhere down the line (could be months, years later). It's just a way of keeping a backup dick on the side.

I feel a woman should get all the male attention she needs from me. If I cant provide all the male attention she needs, then obviously she's not the one for me. I'm not gonna sit and wonder if the male friend is secretly planning a takeover or some shit.

 

[oatsuzn]

NO FRIENDS........nah j/k, lol

I'd rather her have more male friends if I had to choose

Female friends will undoubtedly try to throw salt in your relationship and convince her to do some shady shit or convince her that you're no good and a cheater

Male friends are nothing more than just guys that want to fuck her but if she's got her head on right she'll know that and keep them at a little distance all the time
At least most guys (excluding the bitch made niggas) won't try to shit on her relationship with you like a lot of females try to do
Also if you're secure with yourself, male friends won't make you jealous or insecure

Wrong attitude to have. I've fucked so many women, by befriending those that I knew were attracted to me and would fuck me if they "didn't have a man". If they showed any interest, or they have an argument with their man then its basically a rap. It's just a matter of time before it happens. What's funny is the guy usually never finds out, I almost feel like telling him after the fact.

 

[bigirl]

Keep in mind that at least from my experience with female friends, they all like to sit around and tell everything about their men and then try to turn each other against their men. You know like "fuck that. girl you don't need him you deserve better than that....blah blah blah". Really quite disgusting. When they do it I feel like they want to get someone to leave their man just so they could feel better because they have one and she doesn't or some dumb shit. The female friends could backfire on you worse than the male friends.

 

[Spectrum]

When in a HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP with a woman, it is best that she has female friends who are ALSO in HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS themselves.

All truths are but half truths, but this comes the closest to being an absolute truth, in a world of illusion.

-fin

truth

 

[cbm_redux]

Who gives a fuck? You can't stop a female from doing whatever she's going to do. If you can't, or won't, trust her, then deal with it or leave.

 

[AristotlesOwn]

...I lost a really good male friend because we fucked and it wasn't even good and then shit was never the same again. i won't make that mistake again.

I had a really good female "lesbian" friend and we eventually had sex... she was one of the best friends I ever had before we had sex. Shit was never the same after the fact, and I hated myself for going through with it. I can tell that she's still uncomfortable around me when she sees me, but what she doesn't realize was it was NEVER about sex with her. I agree that good friendship is hard to come by, and that mistake will never happen again.

Anyway, to address the original topic, if a woman has too many of either gender as friends, it isn't a good thing. I can't really talk though because I have way more female friends/acquaintances than males. However, I always let a potential wifey know up front that I have a lot of female friends and I try to introduce her to some of them over time...most can't handle it. Oh well.

 

[DJCandle]

In a world where alcohol, drugs, attraction, and illusion, (thank you every blue moon) hold so much weight in our daily lives, you have got to be completely myopic to believe that friending the opposite sex is feasible. Whether it be you or the party in question, attraction will be there.

Sexual, physical, mental, emotional, something brings you back to that person, and it only takes a seed to stem into something special. Now mix that in with confusion from the perils of the world and a dab of alcohol, and the rest takes care of itself.

Trust, but don't put anything past anybody. You'll be sorry if you do.

It is what it is.

Peace.

 

[SOLOW]

Not necessarily dumb, you all just think with your hearts. You know you care for the person already and for some reason most women hate to see their friends hurt and will do just about anything to ease the pain. A horny man knows this and will use this to his advantage. You add in alcohol to alter judgment and it gets real after that.

Damn where's that co-sign pic when you need one......oh wait here it is