What's With Ladies & Religion?

[infamous-online]

This is meant to be a serious thread here, cause this just happened to me recently. Anyways, I've been talking to this chick for the past 3 months, shit was all gravy and whatnot but here's how shit soured.

We got into a discussion about religion, and I told her I don't attend church regularly, and all of a sudden it was like I said I was gonna kill her whole family or something. She literally breaks down and says "I can't be with a guy that doesn't go to church". Now mind you, I know I'm not perfect, so why should I be blacklisted over something minor in my opinion. Here is what gets me, every weekend she would be at someone's club or party drinking and such but has the audacity to criticize me for doing the same shit wtf? We broke up but what the fuck is up with sistas and religion? Now mind you, she knew this from day one and only now its an issue?

Can some of the ladies on the board please give me some insight as to why you would blow a dude off over something such as religion? Fellas, share your experiences about this as well.

 

[followup]

Don't be fooled. A lot of women going to church are fakers and trying to present a certain image to men--but they are really dogs. Same goes for some men only going to church to pick up women. I personally don't have a problem with a man who doesn't subscribe to a specific religion, but a man who doesn't believe in God at all is not acceptable to me. Mainly it's because people who don't believe in God do not have any other explanation for how we all came to be and that's not something I can deal with. Even if he believed in a magic shoe, at least that's something

 

[infamous-online]

Don't be fooled. A lot of women going to church are fakers and trying to present a certain image to men--but they are really dogs. Same goes for some men only going to church to pick up women. I personally don't have a problem with a man who doesn't subscribe to a specific religion, but a man who doesn't believe in God at all is not acceptable to me. Mainly it's because people who don't believe in God do not have any other explanation for how we all came to be and that's not something I can deal with. Even if he believed in a magic shoe, at least that's something

Oh trust me, I wasn't fooled. I know all to well about the fakes and shit in church, that's part of my reasons for not attending that often. They'll lie and backstab worse than unsaved people and then don't even think twice about it.

Now my issue with the girl I was dating was, why did it "become such an issue" when she already knew my stance on it and so forth? Why the double standard when she wasn't exactly living a "saved and holy" existance herself?

 

[Harlem's Angel]

Religion is the opiate of the masses.... With that being said, I do not discuss religion with most people because it can be a major breaking point in many relationships/friendships. My dad told me if you wanna keep your friends dont discuss politics or religion. I say pick and choose which friends you discuss it with.

 

[jucurious]

do i currently practice as much as i should and how i should NO..but i have certain beliefs

i tried to date a person who was an atheist b4...big mistake..he was very judgemental..and i NEVER pushed my beliefs on him


and i have witnessed ppl of 2 religions w/ a lot of varying practices try to be together and it was WAYYYYYYYYYY dramtic and harder than it should have been


i'm not saying we have to share the SAME EXACT beliefs but...i do want us to have a lot of overaching commonalities

this is what I, JUCURIOUS wants

 

[Mo-Better]

Religion is the opiate of the masses.... With that being said, I do not discuss religion with most people because it can be a major breaking point in many relationships/friendships. My dad told me if you wanna keep your friends dont discuss politics or religion. I say pick and choose which friends you discuss it with.

Your father was wise and I agree it can and has distroyed relationships. Having moved to the south I can tell you, the religion thing here is through the roof and you don't want to get into discussions with these people.

My biggest problem with religious people is they are very judgmental of those who are not followers. I feel this way, I'm not going to intentionally do anything wrong to hurt someone. So don't make the assumption I'm the world worse sinner. Hell we all sin everytime we bite into either fish, meat or poultry. Yet there's always that you need to be in church. I'm not going to judge you because your in the church and I feel I shouldn't be judged because of my lifestyle. The question is who are you to judge anyone?

 

[Cleopatra_J]

Spirituality is so much more important than religion. People don't know any better.. she only goes to church because she feels like she has to, like just attending church makes her a better person. She's sadly mistaken. I think organized religion is horrible. but I'm not going to force that issue on someone else.. if someone asked me what religion I was.. I'd say Christian because I believe Jesus is the Messiah.. but I won't pretend that I'm not curious about buddism and Taoism and Islam... As long as the person I'm with has a connection to some higher being, I'm cool with that. And no, it can't be that higher being is themself, bump all that 5 percenter mess... I can't get with that... sorry

 

[Magicdplaya]

I'm a non-practicing protestant (that is to say I know all the rules but don't follow all of them). I can understand someone wanting to know, because it is a good measure of a real persons belief system. Some women aren't just trying to get the dick (some are, though), they want to figure out if that person is right, long term.

 

[absolutvodka]

sluts think going to church will save them "IF" there is a heaven or hell.

 

[Dannyblueyes]

It's been my experience that women like to use religion like a club to gain leverage in a relationship. If a woman can get you to subscribe to her church and its beliefs then she essentially becomes your God. You come home drunk she cusses you out for the good of your soul. If she comes home drunk then everybody sins and God's love is all forgiving. If that doesn't work then she can call for church counseling where the pastor will tell you to honor and respect your wife regardless of whatever foul thing she did. Of course he'll say a prayer first and tell you that God is speaking through him by means of the holy spirit. If you call him on it then it's a sign that you lack faith.

If you walk into any church and talk to any devout couple you'll notice that the husband says very little if anything at all. You can tell who really wears the pants within 5 minutes.

 

[Dannyblueyes]

Don't be fooled. A lot of women going to church are fakers and trying to present a certain image to men--but they are really dogs. Same goes for some men only going to church to pick up women.

The difference is that churches deliberately use women as a lure to draw in more men. That's why the church greeter is always a hot single woman 16-20 years old.

 

[Harlem's Angel]

Your father was wise and I agree it can and has distroyed relationships. Having moved to the south I can tell you, the religion thing here is through the roof and you don't want to get into discussions with these people.

My biggest problem with religious people is they are very judgmental of those who are not followers. I feel this way, I'm not going to intentionally do anything wrong to hurt someone. So don't make the assumption I'm the world worse sinner. Hell we all sin everytime we bite into either fish, meat or poultry. Yet there's always that you need to be in church. I'm not going to judge you because your in the church and I feel I shouldn't be judged because of my lifestyle. The question is who are you to judge anyone?

good fuckin question

 

[geist]

Bruh, that happend to me a couple of years ago. I was dating a chick that was really cool, but she was just getting into the church thing. She could've been wifey, she was really that cool. One day she says, "You're an atheist" out of the blue. It sparked a nice little religion argument that ended with me saying if it bothers you that much we can't date.

Fast forward five years later. She married a dude that's going to be a "pastor", got two kids, and she's the only one with a job carrying the family by herself. Nobody helps her out with the kids, so she has to take off some days because she doesn't have childcare. When I found out all of that I wanted to say Ya wouldn't have had these problems if you stuck with an atheist.

 

[GAMETHEORY]

interesting...