What's really up with this guy?

SweetLikeSuga

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I was talking to this guy for a while. He didn't have time for a girlfriend due to school and other extra-curriculars so we just ended up being friends. I thought he would come around but he never did. Now we're friends but in public he acts hot and cold with me. Even when we were talking I was always the one that brought up the questions about our relationship, like what's going on, what do we do to fix it. So maybe he's scared to speak up or something. At parties sometimes we would talk, joke around, dance etc. Other times he could walk right past me and go dance with other people. I don't really understand this. I thought it was me, but I think it's on him. I would make an effort to call him once in a blue moon and his responses vary from, "Hello, yeah, you called?" to "Hey what's up?" I'm not on his balls when we're out at a party, I don't call him 24/7. I rarely talk to him. I give him his space. In private we're cuddling (that happened a few months ago) but in public I can get two different sides to him. If I'm near his apartment at a friend's house, I would let him know I'm in the area, visit him at work once in a blue moon because I never see him. I still like him as a friend, maybe a little more, but I realized I don't want to be with someone like that. But other times, my feelings come back despite everything.

So now when I see him in public I'm just going to keep it moving because he's so weird around me. I try to ignore my feelings but its hard because we have history. I thought that maybe he still likes me and just doesn't know how to act around me? I have no clue. I see him getting down on the dance floor and even though I'm not dancing with him I'm thinkin, "where is he" etc, etc. Even when we do dance sometimes I'm bring up a convo or we don't talk at all, like last night. I just want him to be cordial with me in public no matter what mood he is in just like he is to other people. Could there be a reason why he acts so weird towards me? It just hurts sometimes to see someone who is your "friend" treat you like that. I just want him to act normal towards me. I'm just going to act non chalant with him in public just like he does me. I just needed to get this out. Sorry for the long read. So what do you think? Thanks in advance!
 
I think he's cofused and he's just an indecisive person.

Leave him alone you're wasting your time.
Don't wait up for him.

Find another. Billions of different people in the world. Trust me you'll find another dude.

Your just making yourself love (lust) sick.

 
Guy sounds like he wants you at his convenience. If you keep going around him, you are asking for whatever behavior he throws at you.

Nothing you have mentioned sounds like he wants a relationship especially if he does not acknowledge u in public.

You need to recognise a lost cause and find someone who will not make you try to make something out of nothing.
 
It takes two very committed people to build a good relationship.

If one persons not into even just a little bit.

It's not gonna work.

Edit:
Yeah what AlexM' just said. He only wants you when it's convenient. :yes:
 
You sound almost desperate for this to become a relationship. Why? He's obviously is not looking at you in the same light your looking at him. He seems to have placed you into friendship mode. (Women usually do that to men.) But he seems to have set goals and he's remaining true to his goals.

You stated. "I thought he would come around but he never did." Duh! You also stated, " I was always the one that brought up the questions about our relationship." Do you need to get slammed with a brick before you wake up? It's time for you to move on. We (men & women) don't always get the ones we want.
 
I gotta be honest with you ... he's not feelin' you ... at all ... all those times he's nice ... it's cuz he's bored ... and when he's mean ... those are his true feelings ... if he was really feelin' you he would show you that all the time not just when noone is around ... straight up ... I'm sorry if I sound rude ... but I wanna keep it real with you ... I was in that exact same situation before ... forget about him ... move on ... you'll thank me later ... you're welcome in advance ... again sorry for sounding rude:cool:
 
I don't think anyone is being rude. I don't want to be with him, just want to understand why he acts the way he does. I have my moments when I think should've, could've, would've's. But other times I'm mostly on "me" mode. When I see him in a social setting, I'm going to be cordial (say hi and thats it) but hit the "ignore" button asap. I'm trying to keep it moving forward not backward. Thanks for keeping it real!!
 
I don't think anyone is being rude. I don't want to be with him, just want to understand why he acts the way he does. I have my moments when I think should've, could've, would've's. But other times I'm mostly on "me" mode. When I see him in a social setting, I'm going to be cordial (say hi and thats it) but hit the "ignore" button asap. I'm trying to keep it moving forward not backward. Thanks for keeping it real!!

There's no need to understand it. He will take the pussy if it's offered, but other than that you ain't shit.

Do yourself a favor, if you want love look somewhere else.
 
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