What makes a woman s sex drive go down in a relationship?
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Everything. evvvverything. From the realization the honeymoon is over. To settling, to hormones. to just nesting down. Having kids. It could be any NUMBER of reasons. Hell it may have never been there in the first place. She just did it alot to GET you.
I went to work. I got tired. But I ain't afraid to give it up.
Just can't take my penis like I used to.
Just can't take my penis like I used to.
hormone changes at different times of the month can make her hot & cold....even worse at age 40 and after. Sometimes there is nothing you can do about it. but the little things definitely add up. And not just sexual things. I mean like helping around the house, getting a little gift, going out to dinner or the movies. Calling during the day just to say hi. 
at least for me
at least for me
hormone changes at different times of the month can make her hot & cold....even worse at age 40 and after. Sometimes there is nothing you can do about it. but the little things definitely add up. And not just sexual things. I mean like helping around the house, getting a little gift, going out to dinner or the movies. Calling during the day just to say hi.
I'll tell you, if the kids wasn't home, and I got a call or an email that just said i love you - i'd get home, strip him, and take his body. that is really sexy to me, you taking a second out of your day to be like 'thinking of you'.
See this is a major part of it. Meaning we will light the flame then let it almost burn out. But its not necessarily anyone's fault. Life gets in the way of everyone's sex drive. Its not just women its men too.
Working late, kids, preparing dinner, keeping the home straight, laundry, errands and bills need I say more? After dealing with all this the mood just isn't there all the time.
But your right Melon, sometimes a gesture, a few words of appreciation can keep both partners out of that rut.
I love my children but I can't wait till they get to an age where I can spend three days fucking and not worrying about anything.
Problem is you just gotta make time. And sometimes it's not as easy as it seems. But if you can put the effort into making that time you'll be alright.
I love my children but I can't wait till they get to an age where I can spend three days fucking and not worrying about anything.
Problem is you just gotta make time. And sometimes it's not as easy as it seems. But if you can put the effort into making that time you'll be alright.
Exactly! BTW cleanup your in box.
Exactly! BTW cleanup your in box.
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It's more emotional than physical but I also think some of it is physical with the lack of exercise, sleep, and shitty diets that people with busy lives tend to adopt.
I think its actually a combination of all we listed. There's just so many factors.
But then there are those who won't accept no. They must and do get there's. Know what I'm saying?
I think its actually a combination of all we listed. There's just so many factors.
But then there are those who won't accept no. They must and do get there's. Know what I'm saying?
Why yes I've heard of those kind of people.
For real, people have to make sex a priority if it's important. If you don't it's easy to put it to the side until harm is done to your relationship.
Why yes I've heard of those kind of people.
For real, people have to make sex a priority if it's important. If you don't it's easy to put it to the side until harm is done to your relationship.
I knew you would agree. I also think those who make it a priority have the right idea about keeping their relationships hot. I do like hot.
I don't know if I should have made another thread, but I have a question; Why do women feel that their man shouldn't step outside their relationship if their man's needs aren't being met? And I mean in the instance that the man has discussed the situation with his woman and there is no change. I'm not talking about unreasonable requests, I'm referring to situations where there is an obvious lack of sex in the relationship.
Would you condone your lady going out for sexual satisfaction? Your just not in the mood or your sexual energy just isn't the same as it once was? You would be OK with this?
Would you condone your lady going out for sexual satisfaction? Your just not in the mood or your sexual energy just isn't the same as it once was? You would be OK with this?
The answer to that question is obvious. I ask the question from this perspective; a group of guys and I had this discussion and the question arose; If the sex in your relationship dropped to almost zero (if not zero) and you discussed it repeatedly with your wife to no avail (her sex drive is just zero), how would you handle it? If she made no effort to change things and everything else in your relationship was normal, what would you do? Everyone involved in the conversation has been married 5 years minimum. All of them said that they would cheat to satisfy their sexual desires, but wouldn't leave their wives. They stated that they loved their wives and their lives with them, but stated that they felt justified their needs weren't being met. That being said, I asked for a woman's perspective. I'm willing to see if there is something I'm not seeing in this.
First I would do all that I could to determine what the real problem is. That would mean medical even psychiatric help. If there was no physical reason or emotional breakdown, if I myself did nothing to justify a change in her attitude towards me, stepping out would not be my course of action. It would be divorce.
Why would you want to continue coming home to someone who obviously has lost their feelings for you. Her sex drive didn't start out at zero. So if you did nothing to justify a change in attitude. An there's no medical reason for the change, that relationship is over. Its time to move on.
As for those gents you had that conversation with that wouldn't leave, I hope they never have to prove it. Sex is the one element in a relationship that keeps a relationship strong especially if your young. Without sex yeah you will cheat. But you will also grow tired of spending time with someone warm and loving to then get up to return a house void of warmth. Your mind will eventually demand better. Relationships are as mental as they are physical.
This is almost like, what would you do if you're wife was in a tragic accident and couldn't have sex anymore? Would this mean that the man has to be sworn to celibacy for the rest of his married life just because his wife can't do it anymore? I think the wife would actually be selfish to expect that of the guy. Also, I think most guys would not blame their wife for cheating on them if they knew they weren't giving their wife sex. I think guy's are more realistic as far as that stuff goes. For example, most guys will not hire some hot, hunky butler to attend to their house and leave this person all along with the wife. However, some women are actually surprised when they find out their husband is banging the bad ass maid or babysitter. Why even put that in his face?
HYGIENE..... THE FREQUENT USAGE OF PANTIE LINERS....
THAT SHIT KILLED IT FOR ME W/ MY EX.... THAT SHIT GIVES ME THE CREEPS...... WHY YOU NEED PANTIE LINERS IF YOU AINT ON YA CYCLE..... DONT KNOW DONT CARE.... AINT PUTTIN MY DICK IN YOU..... SEX BECAME REAL SPORADIC.... & IT HAD A LOT TO DO WITH HER USING OR NOT USING LINERS..... SHIT WAS JUST NOT COOL / NASTY..... TO ME....
CHANGE OF FEELINGS HEART... DIRECTION OF RELATIONSHIP..... THE REALIZATION THAT AS MUCH AS YOU CARE ABOUT THIS PERSON YOU WONT BE ABOE TO GET OVER THAT HUMP THAT YOU THINK YOU NEED TO BE A HAPPY COUPLE WIT KIDS.... NO MATTER HOW YOU LOOK @ IT... DEEP DOWN YOU KNOW YOU OIL & WATER...... NOT SPIRITUALLY / MENTALLY ON THE SAME PAGE....
THAT SHIT HURTS THE MOST CAUSE YOU LOVE THE PERSON BUT... YOU ALWAYS KNOW THAT NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS... ITS JUST NOT GONNA BE RIGHT.... FEEL RIGHT & BE THE SAME PROBLEMS THAT YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO FIX.....IN-SPITE OF LOVE.... COMFORT....& TRUST....
THAT SHIT KILLED IT FOR ME W/ MY EX.... THAT SHIT GIVES ME THE CREEPS...... WHY YOU NEED PANTIE LINERS IF YOU AINT ON YA CYCLE..... DONT KNOW DONT CARE.... AINT PUTTIN MY DICK IN YOU..... SEX BECAME REAL SPORADIC.... & IT HAD A LOT TO DO WITH HER USING OR NOT USING LINERS..... SHIT WAS JUST NOT COOL / NASTY..... TO ME....CHANGE OF FEELINGS HEART... DIRECTION OF RELATIONSHIP..... THE REALIZATION THAT AS MUCH AS YOU CARE ABOUT THIS PERSON YOU WONT BE ABOE TO GET OVER THAT HUMP THAT YOU THINK YOU NEED TO BE A HAPPY COUPLE WIT KIDS.... NO MATTER HOW YOU LOOK @ IT... DEEP DOWN YOU KNOW YOU OIL & WATER...... NOT SPIRITUALLY / MENTALLY ON THE SAME PAGE....
THAT SHIT HURTS THE MOST CAUSE YOU LOVE THE PERSON BUT... YOU ALWAYS KNOW THAT NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS... ITS JUST NOT GONNA BE RIGHT.... FEEL RIGHT & BE THE SAME PROBLEMS THAT YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO FIX.....IN-SPITE OF LOVE.... COMFORT....& TRUST....
