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What if your fiancee wanted to keep her last name?

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Jabajaw

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I'm talkin' with her last name then hyphen(-) then your last name... Would you be like no big deal, we gotta talk 'bout that or chill, not gonna happen?
 
I'd leave her ass and go to the next one. She can keep her name and every gott-damn thang else. Bitch allready makin trouble and ain't even married yet.
 
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I can't stand that hyphenated SHIT... now you seeing kids with baby-fuckin-daddy's hyphenated bullshit names...

I get mad when I see a hyphen on my fuckin keyboard!

Maurice Jones-Drew! GTFOH!

Run yo...
 
i'd discuss that with her long before i'd ever think about proposing. That hyphen shit doesn't work with me. :smh: If your chick wants a hyphenated name, tell her you want a prenup
 
I wouldn't give a fuck. Think about it. For years they have made women give up their ancestry. Women, even still in many Middle East and Asian countries are thought of as property...without rights. What's more important is having a woman who loves you regardless of how much money you have and ll the other flaky bullshit. A name is a name.

Most of you dudes who are so staunchly against it, probably don't like independant women, and/or couldn't take it if your woman made more money than you (even though if you are pulling $40K and she is pulling $50, then as a household you are making $90K). It is her choice, because it is her name. Now if she didn't want to wear a wedding ring or acknowledge we were married as one thing, but a name is simply that...a name.

Try doing some Roots-like geneology thing trying to trace your lines. After 35 years of being Mrs. Emma Phillips, who the hell even remembers what her maiden name was? Maybe women, or some women, feel as strongly as men do when they don't have a son to pass on their family name. Some men are so self absorbed that they don't think about things like that.

I wonder how many of the people who reply to this are "stunters", talking tough to go with the popular opinion. BGOL has a lot of "FOLLOWERS". I am not pointing fingers at any of you. But BGOL represents real life in a sense. So many people are scared to go on their own. To go against what the popular opinion is and say, "I think like this. If you don't like it...TOUGH" I am strong enough to stand against the grain...are you?
 
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Depends, if she's keeping it for professional reasons, cool. If she's keeping it on some bull shit women's lib tip, I'll be pissed. I'd prefer her to hyphenate it just to compromise. But the kids will have my name, no damn doubt about that.
 
Fuck That No
If You Want To Eventually Take My Bread Bitch You Take My Name To
And Give It Back When You Are Done
Dudes Is Givin Up Way To Much Nowadays
 
Who cares. Marriage in its basic form is possesive. You owning another person thats why she takes your name. If you think of her as your property then your going to have a issue with it.
 
There are plenty of divorced women who took their husbands' names and plenty of married women who didn't. It's not a big deal these days, I don't see why you guys are so up in arms about it.
 
DjMorpheus said:
I'd leave her ass and go to the next one. She can keep her name and every gott-damn thang else. Bitch allready makin trouble and ain't even married yet.
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:yes: gospel...my ex-wife pulled that shit on me...3 years later we were divorced..:smh: this shit aint nothin' but a womans way of sayin'..."Nigga I'm not gonna be who you want me to be, I'm still gonna be I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T".
 
m10_v said:
Depends, if she's keeping it for professional reasons, cool. If she's keeping it on some bull shit women's lib tip, I'll be pissed. I'd prefer her to hyphenate it just to compromise. But the kids will have my name, no damn doubt about that.
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godofwine said:
I wouldn't give a fuck. Think about it. For years they have made women give up their ancestry. Women, even still in many Middle East and Asian countries are thought of as property...without rights.
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Agreed with everything you said except the bold. Don't let western media and propaganda skew your perception on the Middle East when it comes to women. I live here (Saudi) so I see what the western media doesn't promote. Some of it is true, but not the way you think.

But despite your perception of Arab women not having any "rights", according to your own view of the topic, Arab women HAVE THE RIGHT to NOT take their husband's last name and the OBLIGATION to keep their last name...It's references are mainly from religious doctrine (Islamic Law), which preserves the woman's lineage as well as inheritance, and Arab tribalism.

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This sometimes happen with Asian couples dude takes his wifes last name!
Not for me!
We don't need to get married if she does not want my last name!
 
Jabajaw said:
I'm talkin' with her last name then hyphen(-) then your last name... Would you be like no big deal, we gotta talk 'bout that or chill, not gonna happen?
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I swear, you niggas are on some turn of the century (the 20th century) bullshit. What the fuck would I care if she wants to keep her name? I'm keeping mine.
 
DjMorpheus said:
I'd leave her ass and go to the next one. She can keep her name and every gott-damn thang else. Bitch allready makin trouble and ain't even married yet.
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Yeah what he said. I told my wife that it was not an option if she wanted to be married to me.
 
godofwine said:
I wouldn't give a fuck. Think about it. For years they have made women give up their ancestry. Women, even still in many Middle East and Asian countries are thought of as property...without rights. What's more important is having a woman who loves you regardless of how much money you have and ll the other flaky bullshit. A name is a name.

(Every man is every country thinks of his woman, as his woman. Thus - ownership. If women were not considered property than a divorce wouldn't include spousal support. Why? Because an independent woman would have to be responsible for themselves at the end of a marriage. Please stop sharing your myth on how middle eastern marriages function. Life is not harsher from those women. They wouldn't trade their lifestyle for the lifestyle of the american wife.)

Most of you dudes who are so staunchly against it, probably don't like independant women,

(Why would a woman that is getting married still hold on to her independence?)

and/or couldn't take it if your woman made more money than you (even though if you are pulling $40K and she is pulling $50, then as a household you are making $90K). It is her choice, because it is her name. Now if she didn't want to wear a wedding ring or acknowledge we were married as one thing, but a name is simply that...a name.

Try doing some Roots-like geneology thing trying to trace your lines. After 35 years of being Mrs. Emma Phillips, who the hell even remembers what her maiden name was? Maybe women, or some women, feel as strongly as men do when they don't have a son to pass on their family name. Some men are so self absorbed that they don't think about things like that.

I am not your adversary on this issue, but I do see that redefining the terms of traditional marriage is problematic. So, if they have 2 children each child should take a name from either parent? Should the male carry one of those pregnancies? Should he wear a white dress on their wedding day? Can she have a best man too since most of her friends are guys?

Marriage is not about independence. It's about forming a union.

Lastly, and most important, most societies have learned over the course of several generations that it is important for males to take ownership of the family unit to ensure a healthier family unit. The black woman has been the primary owner of the black family unit for the last few generations and we can look at how fucked up we are as a people. We all know that we need a healthy black man invested in the family unit. Independent women are a myth.



I wonder how many of the people who reply to this are "stunters", talking tough to go with the popular opinion. BGOL has a lot of "FOLLOWERS". I am not pointing fingers at any of you. But BGOL represents real life in a sense. So many people are scared to go on their own. To go against what the popular opinion is and say, "I think like this. If you don't like it...TOUGH" I am strong enough to stand against the grain...are you?
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I think it is simple. If you have a reason to use the hyphen then cool. Otherwise, get with the program. Most folks on here recognize that the refusal to submit to the name change is a red flag that must be taken seriously.
 
Jabajaw said:
I'm talkin' with her last name then hyphen(-) then your last name... Would you be like no big deal, we gotta talk 'bout that or chill, not gonna happen?
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The fact that you took the time to post this.....means that this is an issue for you.

If the chick has a good reason for the hyphen, which means she makes MONEY based off the use of her last name. For example she owns a business that her name is attached to...........or she is remotely famous.........like a tv anchor....writer..........or even star attorney. Then fine I understand.

But if that is not the case...the chick is telling you that she does not fully submit to you. I guarantee that if you were a multi-millionaire...or some famous NFL player.......your fiance would not be talking about hyphenating shit!

So think about that.
 
DiamondDeuce said:
The fact that you took the time to post this.....means that this is an issue for you.

If the chick has a good reason for the hyphen, which means she makes MONEY based off the use of her last name. For example she owns a business that her name is attached to...........or she is remotely famous.........like a tv anchor....writer..........or even star attorney. Then fine I understand.

But if that is not the case...the chick is telling you that she does not fully submit to you. I guarantee that if you were a multi-millionaire...or some famous NFL player.......your fiance would not be talking about hyphenating shit!

So think about that.
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I remember a girl once told me she wanted a hyphenated name, and Im like "why didnt ur mom hypenate her shit?", the bitch never answered the question till this day. I think it has a lot to do with the woman not submitting to her man, and if she's not willing to take on ur name, just imagine all the other shit she is not willing to submit to. Not to get biblical, but it says in the bible that a woman is supposed to obey her man...
 

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