What do I do when HER man wants ME????

[DigitalAngel2007]

I just came from a New Year's party. I left early because I could sense some drama brewing. One of my old nursing classmates threw the party so I had to stop in although my man had to work. Not long after I got there I noticed one of the guys there was really checkin' me out. At first he played it cool and shook my hand, kept it real casual. After he'd had a few drinks I realized he was pretty much following me around hanging on my every word. He then told a story about this mink coat he had on but during the story he pulls out his furry black tassels and refers to them as his balls and of course he asked me to squeeze them. I joked around with him but, I could tell he was with his girl because she was mean-muggin' me the entire time. Although her man was sexy I'm taken. I made sure to bring that up a few times during the night. I didn't know her well otherwise I would've have told her to check her dude.

How many women on here have had this issue??

How did it work out??



How do you keep from having to fight a woman because she can't keep her man in line????

 

[DiamondDeuce]

As a man I will say...I would like for you to handle it like this.

Pull the dude to the side.....or discreetly say...something to the fact of that you would like to tone shit down........out of respect for the other woman.

 

[HoneyDip]

As a man I will say...I would like for you to handle it like this.

Pull the dude to the side.....or discreetly say...something to the fact of that you would like to tone shit down........out of respect for the other woman.

CO SIGN!!! i would have just told him to chill because i didnt think his girl is appreciatin it thats all

 

[ladyscorpio]

I just came from a New Year's party. I left early because I could sense some drama brewing. One of my old nursing classmates threw the party so I had to stop in although my man had to work. Not long after I got there I noticed one of the guys there was really checkin' me out. At first he played it cool and shook my hand, kept it real casual. After he'd had a few drinks I realized he was pretty much following me around hanging on my every word. He then told a story about this mink coat he had on but during the story he pulls out his furry black tassels and refers to them as his balls and of course he asked me to squeeze them. I joked around with him but, I could tell he was with his girl because she was mean-muggin' me the entire time. Although her man was sexy I'm taken. I made sure to bring that up a few times during the night. I didn't know her well otherwise I would've have told her to check her dude.

How many women on here have had this issue??

How did it work out??



How do you keep from having to fight a woman because she can't keep her man in line????

walk away sis...

I had a physical altercation over that ish before All because his girl thought I wanted him She came at me and some of my girls tell me to stay away from her man I was kinda shocked I kept it moving,...I am a normally calm person but do NOT touch me if I havent welcomed it especially when its over small ish like that.


Plus no one should have to keep a partner in line. One should automatically have that respect for said partner.

 

[Chicutie]

A situation like that is always hard. Especially when the woman's anger is automatically directed toward you, when it should be directed at the man if he is the one initiating the whole thing.

I've never thought about pulling a man to the side when that happens. I just try to avoid the situation totally by not being around that person or ignoring them.

 

[sexylegz33]

I would just shut him down. I'd do it as polite as possible. If she is a real woman, her problem would be with her man and not you anyway. But no need to get her involved, just let him know you not wit it and keep it moving. If he is that disrespectful, she probably already knows or will find out some day cause the truth always comes to light. You don't need to tell her.

 

[DigitalAngel2007]

walk away sis...

Plus no one should have to keep a partner in line. One should automatically have that respect for said partner.

Co Fuckin Sign

 

[Legrand]

I Don't Think You Should Have Joked Around With Homeboy.As Soon As He Asked You To Squeeze His Tassles(Hiss Balls)You Should Have Told Him That You Wouldn't Disrespect Your Friend Like That.By You Going Along With His Joke You Gave Her The Right To Be Upset With You And Him.

 

[Mo-Better]

Damn the dude's lady is sitting there at the party and he's trying to get next to you. He has no respect for her and her anger should be directed at him not you.

She needs to dump him as much as you needed to get out of there.

 

[Cinamiss]

Ignore them both for the rest of the night. Remember, that's her problem. Don't make it into yours. If he is that disrespectful, I'M PRETTY SURE this is not the first time something of this nature has occured. She'll get over it.

 

[femmenoire]

My best friend had that happen to her once and she just said out loud, "Isn't that your girlfriend?"

And he tried to shush her. LOL!

And once I went to an engagement party and the fiance made a suggestive comment to me as I was headed out the door. I don't see how he was even paying attention to me or anyone else for that matter since him and his woman were playing host/hostess so well.

I think dudes will just try you just to see your reaction, seeing if they might actually get lucky.

 

[p5ych3]

I think dudes will just try you just to see your reaction, seeing if they might actually get lucky.

The thrill of the chase. The hunter instinct.


Also like someone else said. Its not up to the partner to keep the
other in line. They are not kids and adults.

 

[owl]

I Don't Think You Should Have Joked Around With Homeboy.As Soon As He Asked You To Squeeze His Tassles(Hiss Balls)You Should Have Told Him That You Wouldn't Disrespect Your Friend Like That.By You Going Along With His Joke You Gave Her The Right To Be Upset With You And Him.

I don't understand why you allowed it to get that far either. I mean, I'm a big flirt myself, so I know a man is going to do what he feels he is able to. You basically sent the signal that you were cool with whatever was going on. And men don't believe all that "i gotta man", shit, what does he have to do with me...you know. That just lets me know that you had to through up a guard, so apparently you are feeling me.

 

[onyxfemme]

I agree w/ mostly eveything that has been said. Once you realized he was being flirtatious you should have checked him. Then kept your distance from him or just ignore him. Like someone else said he was trying to see what you would be down for. Any convo you gave him in his mind was like one step closer to seeing if you would give him some play. As for her well, that is her problem. She should have checked her man. She probably has that mentality of "she knows he is my man, why is she playing into him" She really should kick his ass to the curb. If he blatenly(sp) disrespects her in her face, I am scared to see what he will do behind her back!

 

[deezchocnuts4ru]

Yo. The only reason there is a problem is because he's "sexy" and you have an attraction to him. I'm sure you don't have any problem shutting down a muffuka that has no appeal to you. Don't be immature and get his girl in the mix. Either slip him the digits and hook that shit up later... or keep it moving. Don't flirt with the muffuka, that's a recipe for disaster. Peace.

 

[kissmyazz]

all women do is throw pussy at their girls nigga, you can fuck a broads whole family if you play your cards right.

 

[Izayoi]

My best friend had that happen to her once and she just said out loud, "Isn't that your girlfriend?"

And he tried to shush her. LOL!

Yeah!

 

[SinaminDelite]

My best friend had that happen to her once and she just said out loud, "Isn't that your girlfriend?"

And he tried to shush her. LOL!


I think dudes will just try you just to see your reaction, seeing if they might actually get lucky.

I've done that plenty of times. Shut him down quick and let her know to come check her dude.
I like to flirt, but I know when to turn it on and off. SO's of personal acquaintances & friends are a no-no. Even if I'm in an environment like the one the OP was in, I won't go crazy flirting with someone. I went to some club one night and flirted with a dude hard. Come to find out he was my ex's new partner at work. Had me on punishment for a week