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Check your ego at the bedroom door by Killa Kadafi191
I remember one time after me and my ex-girlfriend had sex this was the second time we had sex. She asked if she could ask me something and I was like sure. She asked me “How did you get that good at eating pussy like that.” I laughed and told her I was taught. She thought I was joking but I told her I was taught and I know I probably discussed this before on here so I won’t go into the details but an older woman basically put me on what I know now. The first thing she told me was “Check your ego at the bedroom door.”
As men, we sometimes tend to think we know everything or feel that nobody can tell us anything in regards to sex. I won’t lie I was like that too. The thing is we don’t know everything. What works for one person may not necessary work with another. We grow up thinking that we gotta “beat it up”, “blow her back out” or “have her screaming our name.” That type of thinking right there is only a perfect example. When you have that type of mind frame you’re only thinking of yourself to be more specific your ego. Some niggas are more interested in feeding their ego than pleasing their partner when it comes to sex. Sex does not just involve one person and with that being said doesn’t it make sense that both individuals enjoy it? Knowing that right there you begin to understand why so many women do experience an orgasm during sex. What’s even worst some niggas will actually place the blame on the woman as to why she didn’t climax during sex. That’s hilarious to me considering that during sex some women actually put on an award winning performance just to spare some nigga’s fragile ego.
As I said before I’m not going to lie I have an ego too. I feel that I’m the fucking best when it comes to eating pussy. I’ve made women burst out in tears, squirt for the first time ever, actually have an orgasm from oral sex and so on. Yes, I feel I’m the best but still, I remember what she told me. “Check your ego at the bedroom door.”
The reason I feel I’m the best I make it about her not me. I go into the situation confident yet not arrogant. There’s a real thin muthafuckin line between confidence and arrogance. Let me explain I’m confident enough in my skills that I can take criticism and use that criticism to make the experience better. Arrogance, on the other hand, doesn’t want to hear criticism, it wants praise, recognition and wants you to tell them how great they already know they are. I’m confident enough where I’m willing to learn because I accept that I don’t know everything. Arrogance doesn’t want to be taught because it doesn’t want to learn. I would never want a woman to fake with me just to spare my ego. Fuck that, I’m a grown ass man I can take criticism constructive or harsh and I will use that to better myself.
In the beginning, I said a woman asked me how did I get so good at eating pussy and my answer was that I was taught by my first. I had to watch her masturbate, no touching at all just watching. She told me if you want to master a skill you have to be willing to learn. I watched the way her fingers moved on her clit. I watch how she would start off slow at first going up and down with her fingers and as she grew near she went faster in a circular motion. I watched all of that and remembered I just did the same thing she did with my tongue. Her rule was we couldn’t have sex until I made her cum at least twice from oral. (I’m not going to go too deep maybe I’ll write it as a book or something to explain that experience.)
The point is that I had to be willing to learn what she liked personally. I applied the same thing to the woman who asked the question. Before we had sex I wanted to know what she likes and didn’t like during sex. I asked her what was her worst sexual experience and what was her best. Also, it’s not just about sex when you’re learning about your partner. For example, she loved hugging and kissing so I made sure to make the experience very intimate for her. I held her hand while I ate her pussy and the harder I sucked her clit the tighter I squeezed it. I told her to look in my eyes as my tongue rolled all over her clit. I knew how much she liked for me to hold her as we slept so when I fucked her from the back I made sure my arms wrapped around her tight. I knew how much she like when I kissed her for no reason so while fucking her from the backI would kiss her neck. While fucking her missionary I would kiss her on the lips. Before eating her pussy, I would kiss on her inner thighs. As I said before I was willing to learn what she perfered.
There’s nothing wrong with having confidence. In fact, something that I say often myself is “Don’t mistake my confidence for arrogance.” I’m very confident in what I do and how I do it. I just make sure that I’m not too confident because that will lead arrogance which leads to selfishness. When it becomes all about you during sex then you’re being egotistical. Who wants to have sex with someone that is only about their self?
That is why you gotta check your ego at the bedroom door
.
I remember one time after me and my ex-girlfriend had sex this was the second time we had sex. She asked if she could ask me something and I was like sure. She asked me “How did you get that good at eating pussy like that.” I laughed and told her I was taught. She thought I was joking but I told her I was taught and I know I probably discussed this before on here so I won’t go into the details but an older woman basically put me on what I know now. The first thing she told me was “Check your ego at the bedroom door.”
As men, we sometimes tend to think we know everything or feel that nobody can tell us anything in regards to sex. I won’t lie I was like that too. The thing is we don’t know everything. What works for one person may not necessary work with another. We grow up thinking that we gotta “beat it up”, “blow her back out” or “have her screaming our name.” That type of thinking right there is only a perfect example. When you have that type of mind frame you’re only thinking of yourself to be more specific your ego. Some niggas are more interested in feeding their ego than pleasing their partner when it comes to sex. Sex does not just involve one person and with that being said doesn’t it make sense that both individuals enjoy it? Knowing that right there you begin to understand why so many women do experience an orgasm during sex. What’s even worst some niggas will actually place the blame on the woman as to why she didn’t climax during sex. That’s hilarious to me considering that during sex some women actually put on an award winning performance just to spare some nigga’s fragile ego.
As I said before I’m not going to lie I have an ego too. I feel that I’m the fucking best when it comes to eating pussy. I’ve made women burst out in tears, squirt for the first time ever, actually have an orgasm from oral sex and so on. Yes, I feel I’m the best but still, I remember what she told me. “Check your ego at the bedroom door.”
The reason I feel I’m the best I make it about her not me. I go into the situation confident yet not arrogant. There’s a real thin muthafuckin line between confidence and arrogance. Let me explain I’m confident enough in my skills that I can take criticism and use that criticism to make the experience better. Arrogance, on the other hand, doesn’t want to hear criticism, it wants praise, recognition and wants you to tell them how great they already know they are. I’m confident enough where I’m willing to learn because I accept that I don’t know everything. Arrogance doesn’t want to be taught because it doesn’t want to learn. I would never want a woman to fake with me just to spare my ego. Fuck that, I’m a grown ass man I can take criticism constructive or harsh and I will use that to better myself.
In the beginning, I said a woman asked me how did I get so good at eating pussy and my answer was that I was taught by my first. I had to watch her masturbate, no touching at all just watching. She told me if you want to master a skill you have to be willing to learn. I watched the way her fingers moved on her clit. I watch how she would start off slow at first going up and down with her fingers and as she grew near she went faster in a circular motion. I watched all of that and remembered I just did the same thing she did with my tongue. Her rule was we couldn’t have sex until I made her cum at least twice from oral. (I’m not going to go too deep maybe I’ll write it as a book or something to explain that experience.)
The point is that I had to be willing to learn what she liked personally. I applied the same thing to the woman who asked the question. Before we had sex I wanted to know what she likes and didn’t like during sex. I asked her what was her worst sexual experience and what was her best. Also, it’s not just about sex when you’re learning about your partner. For example, she loved hugging and kissing so I made sure to make the experience very intimate for her. I held her hand while I ate her pussy and the harder I sucked her clit the tighter I squeezed it. I told her to look in my eyes as my tongue rolled all over her clit. I knew how much she liked for me to hold her as we slept so when I fucked her from the back I made sure my arms wrapped around her tight. I knew how much she like when I kissed her for no reason so while fucking her from the backI would kiss her neck. While fucking her missionary I would kiss her on the lips. Before eating her pussy, I would kiss on her inner thighs. As I said before I was willing to learn what she perfered.
There’s nothing wrong with having confidence. In fact, something that I say often myself is “Don’t mistake my confidence for arrogance.” I’m very confident in what I do and how I do it. I just make sure that I’m not too confident because that will lead arrogance which leads to selfishness. When it becomes all about you during sex then you’re being egotistical. Who wants to have sex with someone that is only about their self?
That is why you gotta check your ego at the bedroom door
.
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