To the ladies could you love a man if the sex was wack ??!?!?!
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As much as I would want to say it doesn't matter, I know it does. I can just imagine myself getting so frustrated over the lack of bomb ass sex that I start fucking with him over stupid shit, like leaving the toilet seat up or leaving socks all over the place.
If I really and truly loved his ass though, I'd have to get him to agree to get some kind of help...if that means we have to go to one of those Real Sex retreats for him to learn some mojo, then so be it.
If I really and truly loved his ass though, I'd have to get him to agree to get some kind of help...if that means we have to go to one of those Real Sex retreats for him to learn some mojo, then so be it.
Try showing him how to fuck me right. Watch some pornos. Buy some caramel syrup, persoanl lubricants, heat lotions and sex toys, get yourself a vibrator. If you go thru all that, say a couple of months, he will be an expert!
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DigitalAngel2007
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Honestly you love this dude. he is like your dream dude only he cant fuck what do you do ???
What type of dream dude is that?
Must've been a nightmare
You are soooo patient
Are some men THAT incompetent and dense that even if a woman takes time out to teach him what satisfy's her, that he still couldn't satisfy her?
-and/or-
Are some women's sexual expectations so high because she ran into that "ultimate experience" with a man who really put it on her....that any man she deals with afterwards get's compared to that "ultimate experience" she had, and anything less is a failure?
....Just curious
-and/or-
Are some women's sexual expectations so high because she ran into that "ultimate experience" with a man who really put it on her....that any man she deals with afterwards get's compared to that "ultimate experience" she had, and anything less is a failure?
....Just curious
What type of dream dude is that?
Must've been a nightmare
You are soooo patient
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DigitalAngel2007
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I know a girl like that (who will remain nameless because she frequents this board)
She met some Mandingo dude about 5 years ago and now thinks anyone under 10 inches is small. I told her she's in for a lonely life with awhole lot of dildos.
Honestly you love this dude. he is like your dream dude only he cant fuck what do you do ???
off subject... but your AVI cracks me up all the time
It's a bad bad bad situation cuz you don't want to diss a good guy because the dick is wack, but it's rough. Sometimes people are not sexually compatible. If my libido is a 20 and yours is 8, where do we go from there? Nowhere!
I been there before. I really, really liked this dude. And then we had sex.... it was an utter disappointment. But I didn't give up hope just yet. So, we did it again... and it was utterly disappointing. So I began to lose interest.
I'm willing to work with someone if they have potential... there was no potential there.
I'm willing to work with someone if they have potential... there was no potential there.
I've been there and done that.
It doesn't work. But I'm the kind of person that if the love is lost, the sex is definitely lost. If the chemical attraction no longer exists, then you can kiss the sex good bye. So I not only have to love a man but I have to be attracted to him mentally and physically. That is the only way the sexual sparks will continue to ignite for me.
It doesn't work. But I'm the kind of person that if the love is lost, the sex is definitely lost. If the chemical attraction no longer exists, then you can kiss the sex good bye. So I not only have to love a man but I have to be attracted to him mentally and physically. That is the only way the sexual sparks will continue to ignite for me.
Yes I would love him no matter what. I couldn't marry a dude who's size wasn't big enough for me though, but if it's just weak technique we can work on that
Trust me, that may never happen. If I really love him, then we'll have to come up with creative ways for me to get my jollies off. If he's not willing to experiment with toys and such, then we have a problem. Intimacy is a big thing to me and if he can't compromise, then he gotta go. If I have no problem fulfilling all his naughty desires he should do the same.
Hit the nail on the head, Femmy.
I know the answer to this one because many women fuck around on the man they supposedly love.
You should have asked would you cheat on the man you love if the sex was wack.
You should have asked would you cheat on the man you love if the sex was wack.
I am glad there are sisters who still think like you because there are going to be a lot of us brothers who for whatever reason are not going to be able to perform as we did when we were under 40. Seems to me some of the ladies who are answering are thinking that their husbands who ever they marry are going to be super stars all their lives. I think some of them are going to leave them maybe a little too soon. I would hate to marry any of the impatient ladies here. There is nothing wrong with my performance now but over the years of speaking with older people I am being a realist. Sometimes stress messes up the sex life and it's a matter of relieving the stress to get it back on track and that may sometimes take longer than 6 months which seems way too short for most here from what I am reading.
Kj I can understand change and certainly if one is married or committed over a lifetime stress, health challenges, and having children will change a sex life. That's natural, and I'm not expecting super stud from start to finish.
My issue is sometimes FROM THE START there may be difficulty with sexual compatibility that can not be negotiated. 1) Incompatible sex drives like I said before. Yes this may change but at a base level if my sex drive is high (doesn't mean needing to have intercourse, but seeking sexually intimate contact from erotic massage to handjob, whatever) and my partners is very low = problem. Somebody is either going to feel put upon or rejected.
2) Sexual "norms"...So I'm into D&S- if you think D&S is disgusting and for perverts then hey me and you
= problem. I'm going to be frustrated and you are going to be confused and put off. I'm fine if D/S if not a man's thing all the time, but if he can't enjoy it with me sometimes that's something I can't overlook.Everything is not for everybody and that's ok. Naturally some people are just going to be more your speed regardless of time, effort, or intention. Relationships are hard enough- why not make the most compatible choice you possibly can from the start?
I understand your point. Everyone's libido takes a nose dive at some point as you get older or with certain stresses in life. My issue is not with the sex becoming stale after some years together, kids, family life, etc, it's with it being horrible from jump. You can't teach an old dog new tricks, so if your sex life with your S.O. is lacking from jump, and they are unwilling to try things to liven it up, chances are it won't get much better.
AlexandMorgan
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I understand what you are trying to say but they are people with a fucked up mindset as well. I knew a gal who boasted that she had a man for ten years and HE never gave her an orgasm.
When we asked her why she stated it was because she was not training him for any other woman to capitalise on her hard work.
NO! Well wait im think small dick an cant fuck... umm NO! loll I know someone like that... he is as sweet as pie but the dick ain't right he cant kiss, cant eat. NO! and one more time NO! lolll
My issue is sometimes FROM THE START there may be difficulty with sexual compatibility that can not be negotiated. 1) Incompatible sex drives like I said before. Yes this may change but at a base level if my sex drive is high (doesn't mean needing to have intercourse, but seeking sexually intimate contact from erotic massage to handjob, whatever) and my partners is very low = problem. Somebody is either going to feel put upon or rejected.
2) Sexual "norms"...So I'm into D&S- if you think D&S is disgusting and for perverts then hey me and you
Everything is not for everybody and that's ok. Naturally some people are just going to be more your speed regardless of time, effort, or intention. Relationships are hard enough- why not make the most compatible choice you possibly can from the start?
perfectly stated
Follow on question
To all: Seeing how most religions pitch abstinance what if you met a great person who was unwilling to have sex before marriage, Married them, then found out the sex was uncorrectably wack? Is it unrealistic to believe that some people wait until they are married to have sex or does everyone want to sample before they buy.
Incompatible point taken
Kj I can understand change and certainly if one is married or committed over a lifetime stress, health challenges, and having children will change a sex life. That's natural, and I'm not expecting super stud from start to finish.
My issue is sometimes FROM THE START there may be difficulty with sexual compatibility that can not be negotiated. 1) Incompatible sex drives like I said before. Yes this may change but at a base level if my sex drive is high (doesn't mean needing to have intercourse, but seeking sexually intimate contact from erotic massage to handjob, whatever) and my partners is very low = problem. Somebody is either going to feel put upon or rejected.
2) Sexual "norms"...So I'm into D&S- if you think D&S is disgusting and for perverts then hey me and you
Everything is not for everybody and that's ok. Naturally some people are just going to be more your speed regardless of time, effort, or intention. Relationships are hard enough- why not make the most compatible choice you possibly can from the start?
What Size Is Big Enough For You?
What Are Yall Talking About?
The Question On This Thread Isn't "How Would You Feel About The Sex If The Love Is Lost?".
The Question Is "Could You Love A Man If The Sex Was Wack?"
I Don't Think That A Woman Can Truly Be In Love With A Man Before She Has Sex With Him.She May Like His Style,His Personality,His Generousity,And His Physical Apearance,Etc. But That Mean Stroke Is The Icing On The Cake.
Fellas (The Fellas That Are On Top Of There Game Sexually)Just Compare The Way A Women Acts After You Put The Dick On Her Compared To How She Acteded Before You Put It On Her.The Intensity In Her Emotions Definately Change.
Women Don't Front.You Know That Brother,That That Can Make You Experience Sexual Bliss,Will Have You Doing Things For Him And Over Him That You Never Thought You Would Do For And Over A Man.
Fellas (The Fellas That Are On Top Of There Game Sexually)Just Compare The Way A Women Acts After You Put The Dick On Her Compared To How She Acteded Before You Put It On Her.The Intensity In Her Emotions Definately Change.
Women Don't Front.You Know That Brother,That That Can Make You Experience Sexual Bliss,Will Have You Doing Things For Him And Over Him That You Never Thought You Would Do For And Over A Man.
pointing out the obvious i see...lol
honestly sex isn't a big deal in a relationship to me. if dude wanst doin it right i would just control things when we fucked
Wow. I can't even think of anything to say to this. I don't know if this is a good or a bad thing
I always love your candor Miss HoneyDip.
Wow.
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So if a guy is wack in bed, it's probably safe to say he doesn't have much experience.
And if he doesn't have much experience, how the hell is he supposed to learn if women won't give him a chance? I'm not excusing guys and their role in bad sex, but women sometimes perpetuate the cycle.
Sometimes you have to lead a man so he can be a leader in the bedroom.
And if that doesn't work I guess the search for your mandingo continues...
And if he doesn't have much experience, how the hell is he supposed to learn if women won't give him a chance? I'm not excusing guys and their role in bad sex, but women sometimes perpetuate the cycle.
Sometimes you have to lead a man so he can be a leader in the bedroom.
And if that doesn't work I guess the search for your mandingo continues...