Homie, don't let these Tariq Nasheed type dudes gas your head up on that bullshit.
Men, women, children ... we all have one thing in common: We are only interested in dealing with people who we feel can do something for us.
SOMETHING. That shit varies from person to person.
If you think you're going to be ugly, broke, and/or w/ a weak sex game and pull good looking women, then you're sadly mistaken.
Why would ANY human being get with someone that can't do anything for them?
Is a dude taking a chick out on a date who told him he has no chance in hell of fucking her?
Sure.
I've seen it. But, guess why they do it? The chick is so fine to them, that they think it's worth it just to be seen with this woman. They like the illusion of being together. Trust me, I've seen a lot of dudes like the dude in the OP break all kinds of break, just so chicks will be around them.
As I said before, children are no different. I have an aunt/uncle who is very generous, and they are also very well off. When they come back home to visit, people in the family take vacations from work, and all the children get so excited. Trust me, I was a child once getting excited when they came home for the holidays.
I have a few other breaded up relatives who are stingy as fuck, and no gives a damn when they come home.
Self-interest, fam'. People ain't fucking with you for nothing.
You have friends, I'm sure. Would you be FRIENDS with someone who didn't share your interest, and who had wack conversation? Even if you would, they aren't going to be your no. 1 friend. Your best friends are the ones who have something to offer you(i.e. convo; a good time; etc).
...and now, women?
In Atlanta, there are a good no. of dudes that trick religiously. There are a good no. of dudes that like to portray a certain lifestyle in order to attract women.
Men have been doing this shit forever. They just go to greater lengths in the ATL.
My brother's father used to keep a new woman when he was younger. I used to say, 'How does this gummy tooth motherfucker get so many good looking women?'
I thought dude had game out of this world.
Well, he did ... but another word for the type of game he had was 'lies'. Dude promised these chicks the world, and as soon as they realized he was full of shit, they were out the door.
So, yeah ...
...oh, and don't believe these dudes out there. I have a lot of female family members, and I've seen a good no. of so-called players turn into simps, especially for my 2nd cousins, who are sisters. Niggas on the phone crying, and begging. But, when you see them out with the fellas, they're the motherfucking Mack. Not only that, but dudes really believe they're the Mack, too.
Simpin' is done on the DL just like faggotry. You'd be surprised the niggas simpin' on the low.
So, homie, if you're pulling 'dimes' - I've never in my life seen an average dude(i.e. in every area) pull a dime. EVER - please believe you have something to offer this woman. You may not know what it is, but you're offering something. Maybe she's very scary, and you're a big ol' swole ass nigga, who could fight off ten niggas at the time. Well, that could have it's appeal to a bitch whose been raped, robbed, or molested, for instance.
Like any human being, you have to have SOMETHING they want. If you won't be with a woman that ain't offering you nothing, why would she?
I'm sure there are exceptions, but they are just that.