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This concept of a real man and a real woman...

jucurious

jucurious

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where did it come from? where are you getting your examples/beliefs/habits from?
what are the qualities of a real man/woman?
what do they do and don't do?


i've been reading a good portion of post with comments like that in them and 2 recently that brought it to my attention again.

i just wanted to see both the similarities and differences (if any)in how think about and act out this concept.
 
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Everybody got their own view of whats a real man and real woman. I do find that most of the people that scream they real the loudest are full of shit tho.​
 
I think it comes from men & women in your life.

Like for some women, a man with a job is a "good man". I'll never understand that because some of the biggest dogs are the "good men" with "good jobs"
 
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thanks for the responses

let's take it a step further and personalize it:


what do you think a good man and a good woman consist of?

what don't they do?

where did you get your beliefs from?
 
you got 2 threads, i think:confused:

http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?p=4787013#post4787013


kayanation said:
1. The label "Strong" is being misused by both men & women

Men's definition of strong is educated, having a good job, making money.

Women's definition of strong is educated, having a good job, making money



Using the above definitions of strong,

strong men + strong women = education + good jobs + money



It does not include the elements necessary for building a strong family.

The key does not lie in the individualistic ambitions of each person.


The whole must be greater than the sum of its parts.



http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=246561
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preach on preeechah!!!

ppl are stupid, so basically... horrible toxic egocentric personalities are acceptable or "celebrated" as long as one meets the "strong" criteria... as man/woman of compassion & high moral value alone is basically worthless! travesty!:smh: sounds like babylon or Sodom and Gomorrah to me!
 
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jucurious said:
thanks for the responses

let's take it a step further and personalize it:


what do you think a good man and a good woman consist of?

what don't they do?

where did you get your beliefs from?
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I've posted it before. If I can find the thread I'll put my reply here too
 
You cannot ask a bunch of effeminate men to define a real man.

Not to mention the role of men and women have been decentralized throughout the years,so your answer will vary.
 
This thread is funny, not the subject matter, but these ninjas having geometry lessons, :lol:


I agree with what some of the other posters said... Strong vs. Real... Definitions vary..

Personally, I could care less about the mans material possesions, yes I want him to have a career/job but that's not how I define him. Does he take care of his? Is he supportive? Is this someone I can express my vulnerability to and not feel crazy later. Where do his values lie, those are things that interest me. What kinda conversations can we have... Things like that define a man in my eyes. I don't think I've ever uttered the words, I need a "real" man... Whenever I think of it, I think of the black girl lost intro, "where the real niggas at?". :confused: weird correlation I know
 
Rudey said:
You cannot ask a bunch of effeminate men to define a real man.

Not to mention the role of men and women have been decentralized throughout the years,so your answer will vary.
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what makes them effeminate?

and I figure that the answers will vary, soooo...what's urs?
 
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Intelligence, kindness, thoughtfulness, social responsibility, family oriented, nice hands, nice smile, nice penis, 100% honest and he's an earner. Yup he's the perfect man :D

Ladies: What Makes a man a Man to You?: http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=231747

Sistas What Do You Really Want From A Man: http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?t=209438
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None of that for me. It's about his confidence, ambition, sense of self, sense of family, spirituality (gotta believe in God, don't have to have a religion), contributions to society, and kind-heartedness. Some good dick doesn't hurt, but it doesn't make him a real man. If you don't have all of these, then you are not a real man in my book
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I feel like we all have seen examples of what we want from other relationships. The only problem with this is that we don't see the other side--the problems that those couples have in their private life. So we may be longing for something that really isn't as it appears.

Also maybe we've had a little bit of what we like in different men and now we're looking for all of the important qualities in one man. :dunno:
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Old post from this thread: http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?p=4398642
 
coming from a man's point of view...a real dude is a guy that lives life on his own terms and is a Leader. Always lookin to progress be it positive or negative in the eyes of others. Thinking about his future generations also makes a real man. Carries himself with respect, dignity, integrity and discipline. Takes no shit.

whats crazy is Im gettin stumped on what a "Real" Female should be.

Female: community oriented, achieving her goals while carrying herself with total respect and kindness. Has strong maternal instincts but does not base her life off emotions. Supportive of her man in every situation even if she does not agree. Able to speak up for herself in times of need.
 
jucurious said:
where did it come from? where are you getting your examples/beliefs/habits from?
what are the qualities of a real man/woman?
what do they do and don't do?
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good questions...they are so broad tho i can only scratch the surface

i think the essence of a "real" person is that they are sincere and treat people with the same level of respect they would expect

that philopshy is the base for everything for me...

my parents never really taught me how to be a "good woman" honestly they focused moreso on what is a "good man"

i have had to base my understanding on what a real woman is by observation and experience...and im still learning

here are some of the qualities of a good woman:
compassionate
mature
honest
nurturing
strong
inteligent
spiritual
well rounded (can cook, clean, sew, balance a check book, and fix a tire of need be)
strategic communicator
confident in her sexuality
positive and realistic idea of beauty and self images

as far as what they do and dont...its pretty easy to figure out what a good woman does...but here are a few things a good woman doesnt do:
manipulate
fails listen
selfish
petty
not have a life outside of her relationship (i.e. cutting off friends and family for her man)
use her "independence" as a weapon
have unrealistic expectations
willing to take but not willing to give

like i said...its such a broad topic....i can only scatch the surface:smh:
 

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