The Sex Incentive Theory

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(taken from my daily blog)

Okay:

So, as you all know, I am a staunch opponent of Sex Rationing. A woman gets upset with you, withholds the good stuff until you listen to her intently as she explains how whatever you did hurt her, express understanding and regret, make amends, etc., etc.

I think it's silly. You're begging for trouble, ladies. Just begging for it.

Perhaps it has the appearance of working. "It's the only way he'll address the issue," you say. "I turn the cold water on, he shapes up, then everybody's happy."

Of course there's also the make-up sex to consider. Which certainly has its charms. But you should know that eventually your plan will backfire, and he will come to the conclusion that if he wants sex on a regular basis, without conditions, he's gonna have to get him a Side Piece.

The Side Piece doesn't ask for much. She enjoys the cloak and dagger aspect of being the other woman. She giggles when you call, unawares that someone else is getting your man's good stuff. It's a game. You're losing and you don't even know it.

Obviously this sort of thing can't continue indefinitely. Feelings develop and good things must end lest they turn into bad things. And then everyone loses.

Bottom line: if you're in a loving relationship, don't make submission to your will a condition for regular sex. It gets old. Men are weak. Don't tempt them.

"I'm not that kind of girl," you say. "Even when I'm mad the playground stays open."

Bullshit, I say. You will all resort to Sex Rationing eventually.

You can't help yourselves. When you're mad it interferes with your desires and whatnot. We, on the other hand, are animals.

But Sex Rationing is actually not the topic of the blog. No, ma'am. Today I want to talk about a far more effective way to get your man to do what you want him to.

I call it, The Sex Incentive. I've been in the education field for my entire adult life, and I've read my fair share of theories concerning behavior modification. Best practices say that incentives are far more effective than punishments.

That is, if your man comes home late without calling, don't get mad and deny him sex. Instead, every time he comes home on time or calls when he's going to be late, reward him with a sloppy blowjob.

This is the way they train dogs.

Instead of spanking your puppy every time he shits on the rug or rubbing his nose in it, give him a doggie biscuit every time he goes poo-poo outside.

It's science, ladies. Science.

Smart women are already implementing this new theory and enjoying the results. A co-worker of mine was talking to me today about her man. They've been talking marriage, but she's hesitant because he's not a college graduate. She told him that if he goes back to school, she'll give him three blowjobs for every B he earns and anal for each A. This is not say that he won't get sex whether he goes back to school or not. But you've got to admit, she's far more likely to get the desired results with this course of action.

Give it a shot ladies. Let me know how it goes.


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Anal for every A?? :smh:


Idk... I was always told you don't get rewarded for what you are SUPPOSED to do..

"Hey Mom, I did good in school" duh! you're suppose to!!! Now go do your homework!!!

"Baby, I didn't fuck ya friend." well, duh, cuz you're dating me!

since when is it normal to reward people for doing what they should be doing. Do I get a reward for waking up and going to work each day? yes, its called a paycheck, why should I want more? You are not entitled to bonuses, they come at the kindness of someone else...
 
Good point. But relationships are complicated, no? I'm not saying you should get a cookie for taking out the trash. But if you did, I think most people would be more likely to do it without being asked. It's a simple tried and true principle of human behavior.

Thanks for replying, btw. 'Preciate it.
 
Anal for every A?? :smh:


Idk... I was always told you don't get rewarded for what you are SUPPOSED to do..

"Hey Mom, I did good in school" duh! you're suppose to!!! Now go do your homework!!!

"Baby, I didn't fuck ya friend." well, duh, cuz you're dating me!

since when is it normal to reward people for doing what they should be doing. Do I get a reward for waking up and going to work each day? yes, its called a paycheck, why should I want more? You are not entitled to bonuses, they come at the kindness of someone else...


Thank you. I posted in the same thread on BGOL and they were acting like something was wrong with me for not agreeing with this. To me its a form of control and treating sex as if it is a favor.​
 
Good point. But relationships are complicated, no? I'm not saying you should get a cookie for taking out the trash. But if you did, I think most people would be more likely to do it without being asked. It's a simple tried and true principle of human behavior.

Thanks for replying, btw. 'Preciate it.


Yeah, relationships are complicated, which is why you shouldn't get into one if your not willing to do things that might be beyond selfish gratification. I mean seriously!! Is this like some reward system thats established while dating... You opened the door for me, and I want you to always do it, so i should suck your dick?? Where are these lines drawn? Are we really doing behavior modification like Pavlov??? If i wanted to change someone, maybe i shouldn't be with them??? :eek:
 
Incentive Sex yeah I changed it because IMO that's what it amounts to it reduces a relationship to that of the common john and hooker.

Honey if you paint the room I'll give you some tonight. WTF I had some last night and didn't have to paint the room....

Pay to play? So what this all means is if I'm a good lad and do what you want me to do my reward is sex with you. But if I don't do these things then I get nothing. You know what? IT AIN'T WORTH IT! I may as well find a brothel someplace to go have sex. I'm paying either way and there I don't have to paint. :smh:
 
Incentive Sex yeah I changed it because IMO that's what it amounts to it reduces a relationship to that of the common john and hooker.

Honey if you paint the room I'll give you some tonight. WTF I had some last night and didn't have to paint the room....

Pay to play? So what this all means is if I'm a good lad and do what you want me to do my reward is sex with you. But if I don't do these things then I get nothing. You know what? IT AIN'T WORTH IT! I may as well find a brothel someplace to go have sex. I'm paying either way and there I don't have to paint. :smh:
You are completely missing the point. woman tend to take away sex in order to get men to do what they want. The thread starter felt it was not a good idea to do that. Which is correct.
 
The smart women already do this. Most women fail because they don’t know how to pick and choose their battles. Some woman habitually approach men the wrong way causing most men to shut down and everything she is saying from that point on is a blur. For example let’s say woman A wanted a new car. She goes and ask her man if she can have one. He tells her “No babe we don’t need another car” Now what does woman A do? She starts to bitch and complain and throw it in his face every time she gets a chance. When anything goes wrong with the other car she is throwing it in his face. Now will she get a new car probably not? Woman B would take the different route. When her husband/man tells her “No Babe we don’t need another car” she is not going to complain. She will say “Babe you right I can make do with what I have. You work hard for us and I don’t want to seem selfish” Not only that she goes and cooks him his favorite meal…and fucks him good like she has always.

Women don’t realize that one of men greatest joys is being able to provide for his woman. Woman B who still cooked and fucked him good and treated him like a king will cause him to think about the situation. He would begin to think “Damn I got a really good woman and she does a lot for me….she could use a new ride” The woman that is bitching and complaining and with holding sex aint going to receive shit.
 
I think this is a good practice across the board not just in the bedroom. Everyone likes incentives. It's not about rewarding someone for doing what they are supposed to do. It is rewarding someone for a good job whether they were supposed to do it or not. When people are rewarded for doing good it makes them want to do more good.

As far as sex goes it can go both ways. Wife made dinner tonight without me even having to be asked about it. Now let me make you my dessert. :D

It's not that she deserved some special attention just because she made dinner. It is just showing your appreciation for her hard work.
 
Incentive Sex yeah I changed it because IMO that's what it amounts to it reduces a relationship to that of the common john and hooker.

Honey if you paint the room I'll give you some tonight. WTF I had some last night and didn't have to paint the room....

Pay to play? So what this all means is if I'm a good lad and do what you want me to do my reward is sex with you. But if I don't do these things then I get nothing. You know what? IT AIN'T WORTH IT! I may as well find a brothel someplace to go have sex. I'm paying either way and there I don't have to paint. :smh:

You are completely missing the point. woman tend to take away sex in order to get men to do what they want. The thread starter felt it was not a good idea to do that. Which is correct.

Gee Sherlock did you just come upon this revelation? This epiphany? I'm not missing the point. If you allow a woman to control you using sex as her leverage your a beaten man. Your pussy whipped, you've become the pussy.

Your acting like women just learned to use sex in order to get men to do what they want. There's nothing new here and I stand by my statement, "IT AIN'T WORTH IT!" As a couple or husband and wife when a relationship drops to that level there's something lacking within the relationship. Making deals is not the way to correct the problem. Nor is it a way to get what's wanted. A couple that's doing this needs much help with their relationship.
 
Gee Sherlock did you just come upon this revelation? This epiphany? I'm not missing the point. If you allow a woman to control you using sex as her leverage your a beaten man. Your pussy whipped, you've become the pussy.

Your acting like women just learned to use sex in order to get men to do what they want. There's nothing new here and I stand by my statement, "IT AIN'T WORTH IT!" As a couple or husband and wife when a relationship drops to that level there's something lacking within the relationship. Making deals is not the way to correct the problem. Nor is it a way to get what's wanted. A couple that's doing this needs much help with their relationship.

No, you DID miss the point Bizarro. The point is not to request something and use sex as a reward, the point was to instead of withholding sex when he does something you like, use sex as a reward IN ADDITION TO the loving you already give him. You'll find that a man will do things of this nature much more often. Just like a man buying his woman things if she always has his meals ready with no complaints or sucks his dick REALLY good.
 
Cleo. From what I understand you are supposed to be training the dog.

Anal for every A?? :smh:


Idk... I was always told you don't get rewarded for what you are SUPPOSED to do..

"Hey Mom, I did good in school" duh! you're suppose to!!! Now go do your homework!!!

"Baby, I didn't fuck ya friend." well, duh, cuz you're dating me!

since when is it normal to reward people for doing what they should be doing. Do I get a reward for waking up and going to work each day? yes, its called a paycheck, why should I want more? You are not entitled to bonuses, they come at the kindness of someone else...
 
Why would I want someone who I have to train?? If I wanted to wrangle animals, I'd work in a zoo!!! :rolleyes:

Well from what I have heard from the older ladies who have been married for 40 and more years; And I am quoting. "It takes a lot of training" (laugh) "work son". "They don't come this well behaved and compatible" (laugh)
 
Why would I want someone who I have to train?? If I wanted to wrangle animals, I'd work in a zoo!!! :rolleyes:

It's not about training, you can't take it prima facie, you gotta look deeper. It's basic human nature to like rewards for behaviors and that person will strive subconsciously to repeat said behaviors. If you withheld sex for negative shit, THAT is training. Rewarding positive behaviors is not, at least to me.
 
Gee Sherlock did you just come upon this revelation? This epiphany? I'm not missing the point. If you allow a woman to control you using sex as her leverage your a beaten man. Your pussy whipped, you've become the pussy.

Your acting like women just learned to use sex in order to get men to do what they want. There's nothing new here and I stand by my statement, "IT AIN'T WORTH IT!" As a couple or husband and wife when a relationship drops to that level there's something lacking within the relationship. Making deals is not the way to correct the problem. Nor is it a way to get what's wanted. A couple that's doing this needs much help with their relationship.
You are missing the point:lol: The woman is giving you extra pussy and doing extra favors. She is compensating you for compromising with her needs and wants. Even trade if you ask me
 
You are missing the point:lol: The woman is giving you extra pussy and doing extra favors. She is compensating you for compromising with her needs and wants. Even trade if you ask me

Look it's not even a trade. If she's my woman it's not extra pussy. Besides were going to fuck all throughout the week anyway. So where's the extra your talking about?

I never have and never will accept pussy with a price tag attached. Attaching pussy for doing a chore or favor is not what a relationship is about. If that's what it takes for you to get yours, you got no game. BTW there is no such thing as extra pussy.
 
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